 Hey guys, this is Mary Lee Johnson here with Steve Mayeda for the 21 Report and the 21 Convention 2014 and you just gave your talk. Now you are a veteran of the 21 Convention. You have seen things change and I think the thing that's happened a lot is that the audience has gotten, they expect more. They don't just want the pickup stuff. They want a lot of stuff and your speech covered a lot of stuff. It wasn't just its usual stuff. And one of the things you said was that happiness is an external or were you referring to it as an internal? So I was referring to it basically meaning that happiness we see in our culture and this is part of our flaw within our inability to find fulfillment in many things whether that's like fitness or sex or relationships is we see it as an external rather than to depend on what it actually is within us. That was not the answer that I was expecting. I mean that's exactly but I have written in my notes here just to let you guys know just let them talk because I could just usually I can just ask you what's your favorite color and then 30 minutes later we'll get into a discussion. Well if I could just say like what you said the expectation of the 21 Convention man that is like what's so important to all of this is that it is you know it was this thing like let's go back to 2008 that I just showed up for. You know and I gave a talk and Anthony had seen it and you know he was friends with somebody that had an against me shirt on and I had like played with that band and before Tom became a transsexual and a true story. Which doesn't matter good for him but anyway the thing was is that you know I just showed up. You know I was like okay you know let's do this and man where it evolved couldn't be better is a teacher for me is a teacher for everybody else and to set a standard of the potential that what we could do you know as coaches is just so awesome and also really you know it's tough you know I've taught in the social dynamic scene for a long time and so I like talking about that but I wanted to actually integrate something that I had always believed but that I'd seen the paleo guys doing for years. It's like how do we communicate and how do we live as we were really born to be you know and so I've always kind of taught that we were born to be social born to be sexual but the interesting thing is when we live outside of that we get into you know some chaos and confusion and whether that's with health and getting too fat you know not eating the foods that we were meant to eat or with you know how we're social and making it about superficialities or buying into a culture which is you know we search for the answers and I think what I was talking about there is our culture says you know and it's just one example of culture not all cultures but our culture says that happiness is something outside of ourselves and it's not within us. Something to be purchased? Something to be purchased, consumed but even if you take it out of economics it's like happiness is something that we chase because we're in deficit and so when kind of the crux of the speech was that if we are to you know not be in fulfillment or not doing what we're born to live you know and that could be with eating or socializing or sex or mentality or just using our bodies the way they were meant to use be used even if we are healthy by society standards we still may be unfulfilled so even though let's say like you know CrossFit is big or if we get into bodybuilding right there's great things that I've learned about being healthy from that but I'm not actually in the natural expression of my body and there's a little bit of an insecurity propelling that so yeah. And then you talked about somebody might not be happy because they see something and it really worked great for somebody else and they tried it and it didn't work for them and then they're unhappy. Yeah and you know I mean I'm the biggest the reason why I say that is because I have to tell myself that every day you know I mean geez there's always somebody doing something more there's so much stimuli how I can do something better and you know that you really see it when you get hungry I always say if you can find out what how you react when you're rejected how you fail and when you're around things that you don't like what comes up and what makes you mad or pissed off or upset or insecure is really the window of what you need to work on and feed in your natural born to be state like what your body and evolution was made to do so that uh you won't be hungry you won't be speaking from deficit and desperation. That's it's really good not to feel like you're speaking from that when you can just speak from a place of security instead of always just a reaction that's slightly insecure. Yeah. Well this is uh Steve Maeda everyone knows him it's not like if you watched our videos you don't know him by now he's a veteran of the 21 convention and they can find you at the sexual life. Yeah there's a couple places so uh depends what you're looking for but the sexual life is a company and the the really the philosophy what I spoke about you know how we're born to be social born to be sexual and we kind of break down some evolution and and then also if you're really into just wanting to know some free stuff about seduction that I really modeled off of the 21 convention I started a bang radio which is a podcast that's just five to ten episodes a week all about anything you could imagine with uh sex and dating interesting stuff it's pure content it's awesome stuff it is I've I've seen it I've seen I especially like the one with recently of you and Greg uh Greg swan so check that one out and you can see uh Steve stalk later on this week I think and uh that's all for now from the 21 report bye guys bye