 When the narcissist doesn't Hoover you I often talk about the Hoover on My channel many of you Maybe expecting a Hoover a Hoover, but You never receive it from the narcissist and you wonder why it leaves you feeling very confused It makes you think Maybe you didn't mean anything to the narcissist Maybe they didn't really care about you maybe you're not that important and Start this video off. I just want to say it's actually a very good thing If you're not being Hoovered by the narcissist Because that means they know they can't play with you They can't mess with you anymore You should see it as a compliment actually If the narcissist Does Hoover you You should be offended by that You should see it as an insult and You should then reflect on yourself To see what you need to work on to keep them away If they're Hoovering you it's never a good thing. It's not something to be proud of It's not something to be flattered by When they leave you alone for good That is when you know that you have won, but yes on average Narcissists tend to Hoover their victims about seven times Before it's finally over for good, but in this video I am talking about when they don't Hoover you and Of course one of the main reasons is because they found another source of supply. They found someone else to be Everything that you were to them whether it's a place to stay Money or sexual purposes An emotional punching bag they've found someone else to be that and Another main reason Why the narcissist isn't Hoovering you Is because as I said They know they can't play with you anymore you no longer believe In their lies and the illusion You're no longer susceptible to their manipulation So they see no purpose in Hoovering you they see it as a waste of time and energy Because they see you as a lost cause It's too much work for them to Get you under their thumb again as long as a narcissist believes that they can manipulate you Trust and believe that they will come back, but when they know that it's over and You trust your intuition more than you trust anything that they say to you That's when they will just leave you alone another reason Why the narcissist isn't Hoovering you is because they're too busy plot and revenge whether it's a smear campaign or They're trying to Affect you in some area of your life They're too busy doing that So they don't have The time or they don't see any purpose in Hoovering you while they're doing that They'd rather come back where they plan of attack So they're going to stay hidden Until they do that but then Another part of the revenge This is Amusingly meant to be a punishment from the narcissist is That They're not Hoovering you Narcissists see that as a punishment and yes, many of you may be heartbroken You may you may feel lonely without the narcissist in your life anymore and that is understandable especially if You are experiencing the trauma bond But if you see them for what they are And you're no longer worried about them It really is quite amusing That they would think That they'm not Hoovering you is a punishment. You may even laugh at that But that is actually how they see it. It is designed to hurt you. These are the reasons why The narcissist isn't Hoovering you and it is supposed to affect you But in many cases It's actually a blessing. I think many of you All you really want is for the narcissist to just go away, but the way it normally works is That they will do the opposite of Whatever they think you want from them. So if you do want them to go away They will keep coming back But if they think that it's going to hurt you by them leaving Then they will leave whatever they think you want They will do the opposite. So often when the narcissist doesn't Hoover you It's because they think that you want them to Whether or not that's true That's what they think and When the narcissist keeps coming back it's because they know You just want to get rid of them So then Coming back all the time that's supposed to be The punishment and many times it is but yeah, these are the reasons why they don't Hoover you and I Hope it helps To know this Anyway, that's all I've got to say for this topic. You can also Check out my TikTok Where I posted another video on this topic on there It's not survivor YouTube. Thank you all for joining me on this live video