 Hello, okay, can you hear me? I can now. Hi. How are you? I'm doing pretty good Kevin. What do you got for me? Well, first of all, there are a few things that I do not agree with Now I am 45 years old. Okay, and And you mentioned and we're talking about divas Queens and boss First of all, I I grew up listening to Beyonce and Mariah Carey that's what I consider divas and I Just think it's just a term of endearment. You know, it's something for a woman to feel empowered Power to do what so? Power to do what? Just, you know, just at a point where they where they're very confident in themselves and okay, where's your husband ever said about it? Where's my husband? I'm the board. All right, so Name me name me though. Name me the white women that run around calling themselves divas Or let me that name me any other race of women to call themselves these things Divas queens and bosses. Tell me how Asian women empower themselves. Tell me how white women empower themselves Show me how Asian mean Middle Eastern and Hispanic women empower themselves Okay, but why do we have to be like them though? I mean, well, I'm asking because we're humans Okay, you asked a question that you can over talk me. Oh I'm not I apologize. I apologize. I'm not trying to my thing is I Empower first up. Can you turn off the YouTube channel in the background? Yeah, all right, it's not a problem about this empowerment, man It's pedestalizing That's what it's not empowerment. It's pedestalizing. Did you hear the previous comment who called herself a boss? I wish your business for 10 years, but she had no employees. What is she a boss of? well, I mean That's you know Being a boss you can it's the term of you know running things running your own business and No, that's not true. Let's look up the definition of boss. Go ahead It doesn't necessarily you don't necessarily have to have employees to consider yourself Boss noun a person in charge of a worker or organization union bosses Or verb giving orders or domineering manner that sounds more like it The ball the verb boss makes a lot of sense especially when black women use it because they're certainly not in charge of workers well, I Can I'm in charge of my own schedule? Okay, you're you have any kids you have any children? Yes, I do. How many? to Boys or girls? What injured up 23 and 24? Okay, but when when they were five or eight years old Remember those years They could have been in charge of making up their bed does that make them bosses? Yeah, bosses of their own don't are you trying to be damn. Are you really trying to be serious? Yeah, I mean, I honestly remember if that's how we're gonna go with it in this conversation really is kind of pointless You're gonna tell me a five and eight year old is a boss of something then That goes into the delusion factor Okay See too many black women want to be right man And you just want even do you know when something's wrong you'll still try to find a way to be right? Hey, but I am compromised. You know, we're meeting in the middle, but I just Okay, well meeting the middle meet me in the middle How does calling yourself a diva a queen or a boss? facilitate healthy relationships with men well the men that I encounter they they actually You know like well, you know, I don't know too many women that call themselves divas And how does this facilitate? How does it facilitate? Healthy interactions with the men by calling yourself somebody in charge Okay, okay, you're divorced right Yes, come on And one of the big problems in a lot of marriages in particular black Americans who leads who's supposed to lead The male hmm So if I were your husband, how can I leave if I were if I were your husband How can I lead you if you were if you're a boss? Boss of my schedule a boss of my work. Okay. So again, that's Pedestalizing and over inflating importance. Why? Why is it so important to to make things sound so grand that are just Common That's why I use the kids example. That's why use the kids making up a bed. Yeah, they feel good about it But in the grand scheme of things It ain't nothing and the damn show you be in the boss But far too many black women one you want to pat on the back for just average stuff Well, that's well making the bed. I mean that's part You know, well This say this say ma'am you see she's struggling to sit back and say damn you got me check Well, I mean we're talking about in rooms, you know, I yeah, and that's what we're talking about We're talking about how many black women who call themselves bosses are in charge of anything I feel like it's a woman on runs her own business and do not go into a nine-to-five Is Consider a boss All right, so you know what else you know what else you know what I mean But see man that makes sense because so many black women won't call themselves fat or morbidly obese. They'll say their BBW See a lot of you black women love to make up your own definitions fuck forget the dictionary We're gonna make up our own words. We're gonna make up. We're gonna. It's gonna have our own meanings But here's the thing the world doesn't work that way Your arteries still say you're morbidly obese one of the biggest pushbacks I get miss from black women talking about weight well, I don't have a weight problem and You know beauty is in the eye of it behold. No beauty. Beauty is beauty is pretty well Beauty is pretty well universal. There are some subjective things. How tall are you? 57 What is the average weight of an American man the average weight? I would say maybe 185 90 was okay And what's the weight of an average nice and what's that? What's the weight of an American an average American female? The weight of an average American man is a hundred and sixty eight pounds the weight of an average American woman 55 years ago who were the same height used to be a hundred and twenty pounds and it's shot up to a hundred and sixty six Pounds the average American black female is one hundred eighty seven pounds average black woman weighs more than the average black man at her height Is that normal? Is that normal? Normal Normal comparing no, no, no, I got you. No, no, no see you by trying to pull this white shit on me No, no normal compared a man to a damn woman. Is it just should a woman who's five foot five way more than a man Who's five foot five? Well, but they do but they do but they do no ideally it's called they do you know, hey Go ahead make us use this for it My I'm not making a big excuse. I'm just saying that you know the options are very low for black women What do you mean? Hold on? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? Whoa? Stop right there? You're gonna have to you have to justify that What do you mean? I'm just fine in terms of there's a lot of good things that are locked up Let me stop you right there. Let me stop you right there, man. I need to stop you right there. I Need to stop you right there. I need you to pay attention 51% of black men are single and childless 64% are in the middle class So you can go ahead and take that 1980s talking point back over the color purple land because that shit is factually inaccurate and Untrue according to black people statistics go to black demographics calm sinners Are you wondering all those are white folk then go to black demographics calm black statistics for black people about black people They'll show you So so 51% so no ma'am. See what you did you just try to skip see every time I make a point you Instead of saying damn, I didn't know that you're gonna still try to be right Instead of saying bro, I didn't know that I didn't know ma'am instead of saying, you know a bra I didn't know that 51% of single and childless. That means they got unmarried no kids and 64% in the middle class Damn, I didn't know that see what that says is there plenty of black men out here who are available to marry and have kids Why can't black women seem to get them? What age group is that no ma'am? Why no no what marrying a those of the marrying a they don't keep statistics on on on teenagers What ma'am it's marrying age. It's they don't keep statistics on children They're adults See how you see this is what I mean And this is the so so so so so to the bridge so to the previous caller who wondered what all the Acrimony is between black men and black women caller. This is it right here. You got a black woman here I'm trying to educate her on why she's wrong on the facts She's and every even when I made point she'll keep moving the goalpost Well, give me the give me the facts today the statistics will give me the who calculate them Well, I didn't write look at the end of the day This is why so many y'all are by yourself Disagreeable The conversation but it has to be but it has to be the conversation has to be in truth though, ma'am I don't mind having a conversation, but if we just gonna have opinions. That's not really a conversation Okay, do you believe about this? How about this? Let's start over. Let's do you believe the 51% of black men or single and childless? Do you believe that? No, okay There you go What percentage of black men do you believe are single and childless? Maybe 20% Okay, so by your own death by your own headspace You reduce the effective level of black men by roughly 60% So now you can go and make the argument of scarcity Mm-hmm. It is. No, it's not it really is No, it's not it really is not see the facts see facts are stubborn things ma'am You can believe whatever you want, but facts are stubborn just because you don't believe 2 plus 2 is 4 Doesn't change the fact that 2 plus 2 is indeed 4 Well, I do believe that 2 plus 2 is indeed 4 Well, then then then then then tell me then tell me why you don't believe the 51% of black men are single and childless. Tell me why you don't believe that fact Okay, I live in Atlanta, Georgia, and I've been in Atlanta for about 20 years and there are not a lot of Black I say black men in Atlanta either I say black men in Atlanta, ma'am. Oh No, I'm saying no, no, no, but the stat that I said did I say Atlanta? You did not say it left. I know you did. Okay, so do you believe it? Based on Atlanta or not see No, ma'am. So ma'am. So what you need to do is what you need to do because I live in Atlanta, too So what you're gonna need to do is tell me where you getting that 20% from But it from every day. No, ma'am your anecdotal eyeball experience No, man, your anecdotal your anecdotal eyeball experience does not change the Department Bureau Labor Statistics and the CDC See facts are stubborn things, man. You can have your opinion. You can be No, it's not reality. It's your twisted reality It's your twisted reality, but don't matter it twisted. It's twisted because you you talking about bosses And being a charge of stuff and that implies a business mind and you can't even accept a fact No, you cannot ma'am because I just gave you I just gave you a fact and I and I will and I've cited my sources But you still won't stop well Those numbers are not helping my everyday day-to-day interaction You know in real life. I'm at the grocery stores. I'm well, how about oh you talking about you now Now we talking about you. Well, well if I asked your husband, why are y'all divorced? What would he tell me? domestic violence Okay, how did you beat his ass? No, I'm the victim. Hmm. And I'm okay with that. You know, it was a growing pain I think God I got out alive and how long you've been divorced For two years two years, how long were y'all married? For about seven months Seven months and I hold on by my mom. I know I got a new calculator But you got kids of the like in their 20s Right About two different guys about one About wine. Why don't you marry him the last one? No, the one that impregnated you once or twice He he went to jail. Oh So you pick ass whippers and felons and then you gonna complain about what other I need you to stop right here, ma'am I need you to slow the whole I need you. I need you to slow the whole French toast down I'm not gonna let you get on here and talk about what black men are not when you pick and what do the whoop your ass and Felons see I'm not gonna sit around and let you black women just sit around talk about black men ain't here and ain't this they ain't that When in your own life you pick shit Yeah, take a nice strong drink sip it all Because you're talking about black men to share my reflection and I'm tired of sisters like you Running our reputation in the ground because you pick poorly a black man No, no, you had 20 million to pick from but you picked the felon once to have two babies buying it and then I turn up All these black people in Atlanta, why are you picking these scrubs? You don't get off my god Get out of get off my phone. I don't want to keep it. That's what's left, huh? That's what's left The black mecca and all your whop seems to attract is felons and abusers then you need to put that shit in a Get some maintenance done Then why don't you date them? No, it's not a needle in a haystack I live here I live here and I date good black women. No, why can't you see I'll be back down ma'am Relationships are reflective We attract what we are when I was broken. I attracted broken And see what I'm having a problem with is you are trying to make black men the problem and you are definitely problematic Everything I presented to you that is a fact that you can verify yourself You've said no no no no no and who the hell wants to deal with a woman like that Persian Persians Yes, and they're okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. They're okay. Then where's your so you you got a Persian fiance He's not a fiancee, but I am dating one. Okay again just because someone would dust it off does not mean he wants to marry you I've talked about this too. I don't have to be married Exactly. Let me go ahead and have you get this is oh black young black women Pay attention These these are your mamas and your aunties and they telling you black men don't exist because they can't get their shit right That's not true. Of course not of course not of course now You could get you could get your shit right so much that you picked them by those whooping your ass after you picked a fella That's right That's right, ma'am. Yeah, and then you see the problem is here's where you run the problem because you keep Because you keep no get off my phone Keep telling me that I'm wrong