 Welcome to The Advocate, where thought-provoking topics are discussed with no-holds-bed. Here on Plus TV Africa, we basically call a spade by its name. The issues of child brutality are what I'll be focusing on today. There are better ways to train a child. Juliet advocates for the need for professional workers to have a side hustle. And speaks on single parenthood. Felix talks about the need for women inclusion in all aspects. And Victor talks about the expectations for the new year. Sit back, and after this break, we'll be here to dissect it all. Please stay with us. Spoil the road, spare the child. Yes, you heard that right. Spoil the road, spare the child. I just came back from a 3-hour interstate drive from a relative secondary school where my close relative was hit by the school bus driver. I know the nerve, right? A non-academic staff of a secondary school had the temerity to hit a student. But this is not an isolated incident. You know, Father Pro revealed that a student in the same school was flogged 24 strokes of the cane for touching another student inappropriately. Now, am I in support of inappropriate physical contact? Of course not. But also, is the punishment for such behaviour physical abuse? The answer is a father resounding no. I travelled that long distance to pass a simple message to the management of the school. A forward message, very simple yet very strong. Stop beating people's children. It is rather unfortunate that this conversation even has to be heard in the year 2021. Or, as even more heart-wrenching, was the information gotten that the children around the incident laughed and chalked when this dastardly behaviour took place, which goes to reveal sadly that not only had the staff crossed his boundaries, but the children had been indoctrinated to believe that it was okay for a child to be physically abused in their presence. So instead of reporting it, they laughed. The road ricks to high heavens. Did you have a student who lost his life recently due to physical abuse by other students? At what point do we actually draw the line? At what point is it okay for students to report physical abuse? But the children are not really the problem. The problem didn't even start from the school. Physical abuse is a social, spiritual, mental and global threat, a pandemic that must be stopped in its tracks immediately. More often than not, the origin of physical abuse can be traced to the home where some parents turn their children into punching bags and toys of prey. There are homes with different weapons of choice, brandished by parents to meet our discipline on their airing wards at the slightest provocation. More often than not, when you physically abuse your children, you're unconsciously telling them it's okay to be hit by someone who is angry with them. And I speak as a parent. I know firsthand what it feels like to want to punish our children for bad behaviour. I personally believe the road of instruction achieves better results than the physical road of destruction. Child psychology actually posits that when you beat your children, it not only caused them bodily harm, there is also a psychological and mental trauma that is attached. It's even more endemic in Africa. We're being beaten by our parents. It's more or less, you know, bragging rights. You know, the one whose parents had the best beating skills was the most disciplined and non-nonsense parents. Many of us, even trade banter, are growing up beating experiences. You know, the question is, where did that actually... All that beating, where did it actually leave us? Physical abuse is a social pandemic. It must be addressed by governments and societies everywhere. Physical abuse is a spiritual pandemic. Religious bodies and leaders must address it immediately. Physical abuse is a mental pandemic. It must be dealt with by everyone who has a functioning brain. Stop beating people's children. Whether they're your children, whether they're your staff, your spouses, your students, your words, or anyone at all. Just stop it. I totally agree with you. We should actually stop doing it, especially to other people's children. And I think it's coming from our own upbringing, where some of us were beaten to obedience. Beaten to obedience. But what we had then was we knew obedience. You could say it was submission, because we were afraid. So we had this in our mind, we were rebelling in our spirit. But because we would lose inheritance, we would be disowned, we would starve and die, we complied. But that thing wasn't obedience. So there are other ways to get children to comply, to obey. I mean, there's the retriever system where you take something that is important and there's the nutty corner for very young children. And you can even do the positive side whereby you come up and say, you reward them for good behavior. So they can now see what it is like to do the right thing. But whatever you do, you should not force a child to obey you. You end your respect and your ways to do this. I mean, that's my own take. What do you think, Felix? Well, Victor, even when he was saying this, I was just reminiscing about this in a secondary school. We both went to military school at some point. I did it at some point. I did it at some point. I did it at ground punishment. Subjected to corporate punishment. You ran away. But I stayed anyway. And actually, they subjected us to some level of corporate punishment. I remember when I crawled for coming to school, it's from when we came down from the bus. I crawled on the third route into the school. There were soldiers. We were shouting at the back. Move, move, move. Towards us, it was normal. But over time, I think I agree with your ideology. It's not wrong to punish children. But the punishment should not be, should not cause the emotional and physical harm. The other way is you can punish a child so that the child can have some level of recourse to think, OK, I reflect what I did was wrong. And I need to apologize for my wrongdoing. At the other hand too, most African parents, most Nigerian parents, they don't upload their children when they do good. You only hear them interacting with their children when they do something wrong. And the interaction is, they wouldn't even want to listen to what the child has to say. Sometimes you have to listen to the child. He may have done something wrong. But look at the intent. What was the intent behind what he did? If he did something wrong, but he had a good intention, maybe you need to just ex-review the child, be patient with your children. And then when he does something good, when you or she does something good, upload it. So I think I agree with your sentiment. Absolutely. I mean, I call it the thinking corner in my home. I don't call it a naughty corner. Because other than that corner, you feel like, oh, I mean naughty. I call it the thinking corner. The reason is simple. Every child has the ability to think, to process information. So when they've done something wrong, I explain this to them. When I say, go to the corner and think about it. So it's the thinking corner. So when you get that, because again, language communication is very important with this child. You pick up things very fast. You do? So when you explain in detail what it is, and you say go to the corner and think about it, then come back and let's have a conversation. I find this works for me. And I feel like conversations, dialogue, would actually work better than physical, just being physical all the time. Exactly. And shortly before Victor will respond to that, because I think you want to say something. This also transcends beyond parent-child relationship. If you look at government enforcement agency as a citizen, somebody is doing something wrong on the road and a soldier or a policeman will come, rather than cautioning him using the appropriate level of force that is allowed within the ambit of the law. You see them coming. Mistakes with Kovoto. Kovoto attacking the government. He's wrong. He's wrong. You don't challenge. I remember when I was in secondary school, I had the opportunity of challenging a soldier, because then I was in secondary school and I went to a military school. I felt they were harassing drivers on the road. And then I said something, why are these soldiers doing this thing? The man standing beside me was a soldier. He didn't listen to me. He hit me. I said, because I was a student, he would let me go. And I looked at him and said, they can actually allow these people, he was like, you won't understand, but he actually hit me for saying that. I just let it go. But you see, this is wrong. If you want to correct somebody, you don't have to cause bodily harm to that person. You can actually correct the person and maintain your discipline as a soldier without causing bodily harm. So Victor, you want to chip in something? Yeah, all we know is all we've learnt. And all we've learnt is not all there is to know. So I come from a business angle. So if I want to get Juliet's money, I just need to know what to sell to Juliet to get out the money. And if you think about it, so if I don't know how to get to sell something to Juliet, I would use a weapon to get money out of Juliet. So either way, we're all taking money from people. Now some are doing it legally by selling a solution. Intelligently. Intelligently. Now some are doing it by willpower. So I don't have what to sell. I don't have anything to sell. But I learnt what this was. So either way, Juliet is paying money to different types of people. So if you bring it back to, you know, the issue that we have here, right? So it's what people will not do beyond what they know. It's what we were introduced to. It's what we grew up knowing, right? So it's not like you say, oh, don't do that. It's hurting your child. It's just like telling someone that he's drinking. Do not drink. It's hurting your lungs. I mean, the phenomenons of it ones are supposed to like to die young, right? They see that on the sick, but they see smoke. So they can't hear that. Their ears can hear, but their mind cannot hear it. So let's go back to the basis, which is how do we begin to re-engineer a new thinking system whereby people begin to see, you know, different other methods of correction. You know, there's things that we did in psychology around positive reinforcement. Somebody does what I reward my child. You know, they don't, they do badly. I take away the reward. You're not going to play PS2. You're not going to play game. That's punishment. Yeah, that's what I said. I mean, we start with someone actually making them. I mean, for instance, when I was driving today, I was like, you're going to go. I said yes. Because it starts with somebody saying this is wrong. There was a time when owning slaves was okay. It was actually legal. It was capital punishment. It was okay. It was okay. And I'm sure you have something to say. She's still there. Oh, yes. I grew up without being beaten. Personally, I can count the amount of times I was beaten by my parents, both of them. And they like to think I turned out quite alright without the beating. But in Kenya today, we have a lot of high school students burning down schools. So schools are getting closed. And now they are going back to the conversation of it's because parents are not beating their children. So I think this is a very sensitive topic. In Kenya today, they're saying we have stopped beating our children and that's why they are burning down schools and that's why they're not being as respectful as they should. So this is definitely a very, very sensitive topic to be discussing. But I personally don't beat my daughter. I like to think that I can actually talk to her and she actually understands. But most of the parents are going to want to beat their children because that's how they think they have power over their children. So this is a very sensitive topic and thank you for bringing it up. We don't have to raise kids by beating them for us to feel listened to or for us to feel like we're instilling discipline in our kids. Thank you very much, Anne. And the truth is we actually can exhaust. So we had said that we're going to have a big topic. And just to speak with Anne sometimes just in patience. A parent just feels if I strike I can get quicker results than sitting down and having a conversation and dialogue. But thank you very much, Anne. Thanks, everyone. Up next is Anne. Please stay with us. This opportunity. And today I want to talk about a very controversial topic on single parent food. It's a topic that many share away from and it's mostly because it's surrounded by stigma especially in our African society. And especially single motherhood has more stigma as compared to single fatherhood. But today more and more it's a reality that more and more people are finding themselves in single-led households including teenagers who experience early teenage pregnancies. And today I would like to look at the bright side by examining some of the advantages of single parenthood. Yes, I am actually looking at advantages of single parenthood. I know, very controversial. I like to think that when children are in single parenthood or in single-led households they get undivided attention because one parent is giving each child attention as opposed to when parents are in in a traditional family setup where sometimes a parent feels like they don't have to put in their best because that parent will definitely jump in for them. Another one is the freedom to make decisions. We know families where people have grown up and parents are fighting about decisions concerning the child and when you're a single parent you tend to make decisions by yourself so you want so you anything concerning your child you are the sole decision maker for them. Then in some cases single parents can actually be very good role models. We have seen cases where children are growing up in very very harsh environments where parents keep fighting where there's a lot of abuse but because you're in a single-led household children don't necessarily have to look at parents a lot of arguments. This brings about a lot of peace and a stress-free environment for the kids. There's also the aspect of independence and responsibility where children become team members as a parent in a single-led household because you can't do everything you tend to assign responsibilities to your children and this brings about an aspect of independence and responsibility in their lives. There's also a sense of belonging whereby you see a lot of single parents depending on the society to help raise their kids. You know you're depending on your friends or your family members you're depending on uncles and aunties to be mother figures to be father figures and I think this brings about children brought about in a single-led household societies wanting to surround themselves with people. There's also the aspect of being close to your child. You want to know everything that is happening in your child's life and this draws you closer to your children. Like I said this is a very controversial topic but today I just wanted to say that single-led household don't have to be stigmatized they're actually advantages to be a single parent and it's okay to be a single parent. Any thoughts? I agree with you Anne and by the way I don't think you're advocating for single parents I think you're advocating for making the best of your single parents I'm sure you're not advocating for people getting married and then going away to be a single parent because that's the better idea no just kidding I just want to agree with you make lemon is of your lemons and we've had stories of loads of people, motivational speakers business leaders that grew up with just their mothers more often than not their mothers and they got very good training so I agree that if that's what you have you can make the best of it and there's always silver lining in every situation that you are on the flip side of it I actually believe very strongly that it's better to be a single parent than to be in an abusive relationship what has been stigmatized is you're going to go and raise your child by yourself in the meantime discouraging the woman more often than not from walking away from abuse I think that the man in some cases walking away from abuse but I believe very strongly that people should be encouraged to walk away from abuse and try and raise it to remember themselves absolutely agree with you so it was controversial because she was defending single parents but you have clarified and I think that's what she actually meant but the thing is about parenting we should always be intentional about parenting whether you're single or you're double but the thing is two good heads are always better than one so it's not about staying married it's better for the two good heads to take care of a child than one good head but if you not find yourself being the one good head whether the male or the female because sometimes it happens the other way around where it's the guy who is a single parent just make the best of it because ultimately at the end of time you're going to be held responsible for your child whether it turns out right or not you're going to be the one losing sleep going to church everybody you're going to be the most scared to pray for the child to be fine so you have to be intentional about your parenting and you're trying to say also that there's hope for parents who are single and taking care of children so I think that was a good one and thank you so much for that actually in our society the pressure is more on the single girls let me use the language because if a girl becomes pregnant and she is not yet married it's natural in our society they will put pressure on her family will say how come you are pregnant where's the man and all those things even if she knows that she's in a toxic relationship with the man or the boy wherever in the name of saving her face and the shame of the family she would prefer to go into that marriage and she would suffer so it's okay if you are sure and you know in your hearts of hearts that relationship is toxic it's better you count your losses and then take care of your child and keep it safe and be responsible as your parents whether you are married or married if you are married and you have children you should be intentional about parenting if you are single and you are not married and you have a child you should also be intentional about being responsible parents to your children life coach wants to say thank you it's really about just removing that stigmatization even just about single parenting like Anne has said there are a lot of things that the Nigerian culture the way we process things we put a lot of stigma and a lot of things and this whole stigma drives you to make the wrong decisions or like Gila said should I go and look for a man to attach myself with so I don't appear stigmatized so I think let's begin to talk more if you have any single person in your corner support them I have one in my corner and I'm always supporting going checking I'm always supporting because I know that they can feel they've left me they will not support my baby to just marry her you know even religiously speaking like Tolu said in the previous banter you know even church leaders we all have a role to play and not saying because you're now you're going to paint all manner of scriptures and all those things support people, love people and it's very important to remove that stigma that helps that person to really deal with that process I think it's a stigma that kills them not the single parenting exactly so is that thing where in closing once a foundation is shaken there's a problem a man is because you pregnant for him or you have a child for him the premise is already wrong there's a strong possibility that you might struggle with with the marriage itself alright so Juliet is coming up next with a very interesting topic please stay tuned side business for career professionals most career professionals think that it is impossible to combine a side hustle with their day jobs because of time this belief system is validated by the fact that people's work day typically starts at 8am and ends at 5pm for my fans in Lagos and in some parts of the world work day actually starts at 5am and ends at about 9pm on the average on weekends you have to do stuff you can't do during the week right your laundry, your social hangout your self care, recreation and of course more work I am on this table notwithstanding this reality the truth is that you can have both a great career and a profitable business they are not mutually exclusive over the next few minutes I'm going to tell you how this is possible a few years ago I felt stuck in my career it felt like no matter what I did I just couldn't advance this doesn't mean that I didn't move at all I just didn't grow at a pace commensurate with my effort and potential it was really frustrating especially when other employees generally believed to be less competent they had rosy careers we call them high flyers so here was I ready to do more for my organization with my strength and my talent but unable to because of organizational no-enders I decided to put my energy my talent into monetizing my passion I didn't make much money initially in fact I was doing it for free most of the time what I did observe was that I was less frustrated the distraction of running a business helped me eliminate all the negative emotions that I had been carrying inside of me I found fulfillment because adding value to others helps you increase your self-worth fast forward to today I have two successful businesses and guess what I didn't quit my nine to five if anything I am better at my job skills in my job I am innovative visionary, strategic result and people oriented these are all entrepreneurial skillset that I bring to my nine to five there are many tricks you can employ to help you combine your day job and your side hustle I would just highlight three today firstly effective time management time is of utmost importance in the life of an entrepreneur if you must succeed in life what you do with your time must be of paramount importance so learn to use your time wisely two outsourcing if you must work and run your business you need to delegate some tax to other people there is a reason why people who can drive they have drivers and those who can cook they have chefs three align your business with your lifestyle and your availability it will be stressful for an health test for example to be a real tool who is always in the air who is going to take her clients to see the properties that are offered guys what do you think about combining side hustle with a day job I am having to go first I think they are called entrepreneurs these days I personally believe having worked in I-5 and now being an employer of label one of the things I actually look out for in my team I would never recruit you if you are coming with an employee mindset as a matter of fact 21st century there is no room for employees anymore you must come into the business as a business owner as a solution provider a problem solver not as a role filler so you will find in many roles in the 21st century that roles are now morphed into each other roles are now evolving I was in my daughter's school I think a year or two years ago and they were saying in Christmas party that in 10, 15 years most of the roles that exist today will not exist most of the jobs that the children of today would do they don't even exist yesterday so the workplace is evolving would never evolve you must always be a problem solver there are skills for instance so they say the robots are here to take our jobs but there are some skills that robots will never have they will never have empathy there are so many skills as a person that you must have that makes you add value to an organization beyond just feeling the role so I totally agree with you that one of the strongest points as a professional is you have to solve problems and as an entrepreneur you have to solve them add value thank you so much well side business or side hosu let me use your language side hosu some people always think that I must have a real physical business in quotes for me to have side hosu not necessary you can actually have a skill and consult for people you don't necessarily realize according to your plan, your business your style if you know you are that too busy person to sit down because of the demands of your current job you can actually hone that your skill that you have who needs consult for people who generate a strong income it's not until you have a physical location of the business that's when you are having your side hosu beyond that so life could change I hate the word hosu because I don't hosu I work and I believe that my set of employers thinking that you employed my entire being you employed my time I am here to give you value if I am here to grow your business from 10 million dollars to 100 million dollars in 3 months I will deliver that it doesn't matter what else I am doing with my time so I don't say I work for XYZ company and then my side hosu is XYZ company I work for 2 companies and I deliver in all 3 companies I saw someone made something that was really interesting he works for 2 companies he put everything on LinkedIn to present I was so proud of that that's the new future of work when you start embracing so you don't hire me and think that you hired my 6 to 6 no I deliver someone made a joke on Twitter if I deliver my work by 12 p.m and I can go home my work is on you boss I have done my job for the day and we start thinking in terms of productivity and not clocking time span so the world 9 to 5 should erase from our dictionary what does that even mean what is 9 to 5 really we don't take history of 9 to 5 if we want to go there that's the industrial revolution thank you this is a very interesting conversation and the truth is since COVID side businesses are now becoming the main hustles for many people if not in Kenya in Africa because you find that when people were previously employed by their employers they have either deducted half their salary or 3 quarter of their salary to survive so many people have time through their side hustles to become their main mode of food or their main mode of earning so having a side business is very very important and it said don't it's like don't neglect the money that you see is too little for your side business because this particular money can be your serving you can use this money for a lot of things it can be your serving it can be your hospital bill it can be your chance to travel so side businesses are very very important but I think a lot of you do not know where to start because sometimes the thought of side hustles need, require money so I think they also need to be a conversation around how to start a side hustle or a side business and make it your main business absolutely agree and in concluding I think very strongly not of one in though which is something that is very important to draw is that if you've committed to a particular business for a particular number of hours or you've committed to deliver a certain result it's important that you deliver on those that and only then can you say that you have time until you have delivered what you promised it's important that we mention this until you have delivered that which you promised you actually do not have the right to now say that you want to do a side hustle which is why the thing to mention time management who is the fear of a lot of employers the one we gave you excellent so life is about giving value and side business full-time employment is about getting paid for the value you have given so you can achieve business success while in paid employment you only need to apply the right strategies when we come back Feliz is going to thrill us on women in power don't go away women inclusion the need for gender equality in national leadership just early this week for the first time in the history of the world a woman became the first president of a new republic I am talking about Dim Sandra Prunile Menci who served previously as the head governor-general of Barbados under the British monarch and head of state Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II on the 30th of November 2021 Barbados became a republic of its own and Dim Sandra Menci became her first president looking at the big picture critically we can see that a woman passed on authority to another woman who in turn is saddled with the responsibility of leading her country and nation into the future how lovely and encouraging this is to imagine women leaders around the globe it is imperative that women and men should be given equal opportunities in the key decision making rules in national affairs the world as it is has gone beyond the constraints of parochial sentiments of patriarchy where one gender is seen as superior and more efficient than the other studies and experiences have debunked the erroneous ideologies of one gender being more intellectually capable than the other the more progressive, functional political and leadership environment gender equality mainstreaming should be implemented despite the propaganda for the need of gender equality in key leadership position African countries are still at the corridors of gender equality mainstreaming since traditional beliefs and unprogressively minds are still at the hems of affairs these misogynistic practices do not check we continue the atrocities of recycled leadership and the value the need for progressive approach to sustainability in order to curb discriminatory policies and promote through leadership over biased and patriarchal ideologies women and men should be given a fair share on issues that has to do with state leadership which could play an important role in projecting meaningful national and foreign policies also we can't talk about women participating in leadership and decision making without addressing issues like quality education for girl child countries or territories that have been forced by violent religious extremism from majorly insurgent groups like Boko Haram Icewap, Taliban tend to have regular occurrences of girls being abducted and prevented from schools and mostly forced into marriages but unfortunately domestic violence against women should be addressed legally not necessarily domestically effective policies should be put in place to encourage women effective participation in leadership and governance in conclusion an educated woman can make quality decision and express leadership both in an household her nation and even the world at large so Juliet, let me the floor is open to the little ladies Juliet we would like to see you to run for president of Nigeria, why Ann? I was actually trying to wait to see what you guys would say if I speak but I mean it's so enthralling it's so interesting to see that a man has this belief because we think so as well as women we think we are as good sometimes better than you guys absolutely but from what you have said some organizations and some countries have actually implemented this structure of including women in leadership in governance and all of that but what I see most of the time is like is more lip service than really actual positive intention and I will explain so we look for a woman that is very submissive that we can control that is like a figure head and just put her on the board if it's a company or put her in government as VP vice president, vice governor and just say we have a woman there and the woman has no clue as to the governance of what is going on in that organization or in that country so that's what we have seen and that is one of the reasons you now come up and still say women are not effective because you also did not put the best woman in that position in the first place so it's fine that we have this awareness some companies actually have it as policies like my organization to have women in management so we have women in our executive committee in our directorship however what we need to do further is to ensure that the best fit what a male or female is put up for the job and that's where the efficiencies will come out I'll tell you why we all have different skill sets but our gender now makes it easier for one gender to have a particular skill set that you that doesn't normally have like we have we are naturally, we have this maternal in see that comes natural to us exactly we are patients exactly and it comes to do we have women we almost can be positive and negative on that issue but if we can bring those things to governance in a positive way it will bring about growth it will bring about progress it will bring a lot prosperity and it will be good for both the male and the female so that's my and the world at large absolutely I agree I'll just say two things very quickly the first thing is I have a wife and two girls so I'm already outnumbered so I have no choice and to ensure that my daughter becomes president someday but jokes aside one of the things that actually people think working against women that they actually have going on for them the hormones talked about emotions now you hear a lot of talk about emotional intelligence and women naturally carry those traits of emotions it's just been able to channel it properly right that's on one hand on the other hand you know I have friends that work in banks and they said that when women are head of operations more often than not they thrive better than men in those roles so you saw that women naturally are better managers because they are home, they are managing their money, they are managing their children, they are managing you these women are the mothers of the home so a lot of times women have this nurturing abilities management abilities emotional strength more than not that we think is a weakness can be channeled into a strength because emotional intelligence is everything that everybody is talking about EQ versus IQ so I feel that women have all the strengths that need to be channeled we should definitely be given a chance a lot of times we are thinking about emotions Victor before you come in I want to just tip in something that looks more like a joke remember just this at the military secondary school we had the commandant usually Lieutenant Konea that's my hand in the row so there is this particular female teacher that is also a Zoom leadership so we refer to her as maman dance the commandant for the man she was maman dance so people want to see what emotional intelligence is so until we fix until we fix it's a man's world and until we fix politics is not for the weak hearted and that women are weak now it would be hard for us to you know correct the disempowered beliefs they have so to us but it would be easier for us to begin to build a new a new generation of people both men and women who can begin to accord equal or right equity I said that you know sometimes give the best man the job by man I mean with a male or female give the best person the job give the best woman the job let him mean male or female so that's the person give the best woman this is a program I just think that lots of things are just programmed and we cannot really we can't intercept the program with this old chaps what I mean old chaps you know what I'm talking about we can't intercept it but we can go back to say guys let's sell you a new program once we can sell new programs then we can create a new outcome new results and all of that I think let's begin doing the work with the way you are speaking I don't know whether I will call you a software engineer or a live kitchen we need to reprogram the societal mindset to ensure and respect everyone women and men should have equal opportunity equal access to opportunities governments position management position business whatever so up next is Victor after the break 2022 new year falls one of the regular pattern I've seen with people towards the end of the year is making so much misguided noise about the incoming year people just are running us to believe that the new year will bring new results to them simply because it's a new year this is even what has kept us constantly where we are as an ancient we're getting closer to where Nigeria would decide on their set of leaders we must lessen the noise and begin to re-engineer our mindsets thoughts create behaviors and behaviors create outcomes our fundamental problem lies in our thought pattern most people have lofty wishes for 2022 with no actual well thought out plan I believe with no utter doubt in my mind that our present leaders who may seem primitive really understand how this thinking game works if you can keep the people caged in the same limited thinking pattern then you can keep them external caged we need a paradigm shift in our way of thinking and average Nigerian has already been defeated in their mind due to a faulty thinking pattern we are now 27 days away into 2022 what will you do differently what adjustments do you need to make you must drop old limiting beliefs and pick up new ones you must now detach yourself from disempowering thoughts and embracing your way of thinking this is how I strongly believe that we can all create the results that we seek and ultimately build a better 2022 there is this thing that says if you do what you always do you get what you always get as an engineering scholar or graduate we studied something called control engineering feedback mechanism you take the outputs analyze the outputs take the correction which is an error desired output that's the way your remote control sense will work for cars and high systems now you know the desired output you want and you got something evaluate what you outcome and then if it is not what you want come back and address it don't just assume that things will get better in the new year we must not wait for 2022 to do the writing start now absolutely agree so it's not about the environment it's not about the tick of the calendar it's just another day going to another day 1st of December 2021 1st of January 2022 is just another day unless you determine by yourself to change your habits to change your behaviors to change what you've always done different results it's not just about the year it's just another day in the year there is something Victor said about thoughts influencing behavior and behavior determine your outcome I mean that was really really deep I know it came up very fast and people can easily miss it but everything starts from your mind what you think what you believe and I always tell people when you have a belief system when you believe something that is not favoring you so you have to change that belief to something that will favor you because your belief system like he said has a lot of affinity influences the outcomes you get so if you think it's not possible to be wealthy it's a waste of time desiring wealth because you will never get wealthy because you don't even think it's possible so you have to first of all believe it first think it, believe it first then your outcome is now more feasible I thought that was very very deep in all of what you said Victor and thanks for sharing that pattern alright what kind of results are you going to get so here's what I want you to do as the year comes to an end sit quietly evaluate recalibrate and of course begin to execute we have now come to the end of this week's episodes of the advocate however the advocate continues on our social media platforms on facebook plus tv africa hashtag the advocate ng and on instagram at plus tv africa with the hashtag the advocate ng to catch up with previous broadcast go to plus tv africa dot com for slash 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