 When the narcissist makes you their caretaker when you are involved with a narcissist It's only a matter of time until you become their caretaker They make their needs more important than your needs They hold you responsible for their lives If you don't do everything they want you to do They will get very angry or they will give you the silent treatment But no matter what you do for them they will always want more They will always make you feel like what you're doing isn't enough They will cause you to feel inadequate They will guilt-trip you because they want you to keep attending to their needs They want you to keep feeling like you have to do more They're manipulating you to be their caretaker Where you're doing things for them that they should be doing for themselves While they're not doing anything for you in return If anything they're just making you feel miserable. They're making you feel small While you're doing all of these things for them You're the one who is always given and it's having an effect on you It's running you down You're not getting your needs met But that hasn't even been your concern Because the narcissist has trained you to focus on them They've trained you to put their needs first Where everything has to be exactly the way they want it to be And you have to make it happen for them You have to make their life better while your life gets worse Because you're not getting anything in return You've become the narcissist caretaker And you're enabling them to do what they do Because you're allowing it to continue You're doing things that you don't want to do Because you're trying to make them happy You're changing your plans You're letting go of your goals and dreams to please the narcissist So that they can get what they want And while they may value what you're doing for them They don't respect you They're just using you Because you're putting their needs first You're not focusing on your own needs Which is why you may find that you're no longer taking care of yourself in the way that you used to Maybe your diet has changed Maybe you've gained weight or lost weight Maybe you no longer exercise Maybe you don't get much sleep anymore You're missing out on things that you need Because the narcissist needs something You're constantly having to deal with their issues and problems When they should be dealing with it on their own When you realize that you have become the narcissist caretaker You need to stop Recognize where you have done more than you should be doing for them Take your power back Set boundaries Recognize where your priorities should be Your goals and dreams should be important to you You should be focused on your future You should be doing things that make you happy You need to draw a line There needs to be a limit to what you're willing to do for them And they should not be the ones who set that limit You need to set the limit You know what is too much for you They might get angry They might have a lower opinion of you Let them think what they want If they're not willing to support you on your goals and dreams They're no good for you They're not going to help you grow They're not going to help you to be better Because they only care about what you can do for them They want you to live for them They want you to ignore your own feelings and needs They want you to pretend like everything is okay Even though you may be developing health issues You may be having difficulties with your finances You don't like focusing on them all the time You may feel guilty when you do things for yourself And the narcissist may try to make you feel bad They may call you selfish Because they're not supportive They're not going to help you better yourself But it is important for you to focus on your own needs To focus on your own life Or one day you're going to look back And realize that life has passed you by You're going to regret wasting all of your time Focusing on the narcissist Because you're going to realize they're full of it They gave you empty promises They promised you a future while they never took any action to create it Because they were only focused on their own needs So take action now Take care of yourself Let them think what they want to think You need to focus on your future And being their caretaker Is not going to create the future you want It's just going to give you health problems It's going to cause you to experience financial difficulties And if they're not there to support you now Why would they suddenly support you in the future? They use future faking to get what they want from you in the present But they have no intention of following it up with action Normally relationships are supposed to have an equal exchange They're supposed to be reciprocal But this relationship isn't benefiting you in any way People who become the narcissist caretaker Think that if they keep giving and giving Eventually it will get better But it never does Take the focus off the narcissist Take a leaf out of their book and focus on yourself But don't depend on anyone else for your happiness You have the power to create it for yourself Which is why the narcissist made you their caretaker Because they wanted you to hand that power over to them But now you can take it back And use it to benefit yourself When you give something to someone who doesn't deserve it It will always be misused It will always be mistreated But you can take it back and respect it You can use it for something good You can use it to create the life that you deserve Thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My paypal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narc-survivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon