 And that from the moment we are born, life and circumstances and culture and environment and parents and nurture gets busy painting us their idea of what color they think we should be and the bare oak version of us gets lost. Then you get to a point in life where you want to step into a sense of interest or calling or vocation in our case as a communicator and you start to put your voice out there not aware that so much of the struggle you have is because you don't know who you are when I say to you speak from your heart and you look for your heart you just see yellow and green and blue and purple which are other colors people have chosen for you and you think it's your color so you try to be purple and it's clunky and clumsy and it's not authentic and you don't connect because you are not purple or you try to be orange and you don't connect because you think orange is who you are because you loved the people that painted you orange they had your best interests at heart when they painted you orange but because you think they had your best interests at heart and orange works for them and they thought orange would be good for you to keep that metaphor alive you try to but the orange representative version of you and it doesn't connect and until I think we have the courage and I think this comes with age I think one of the reasons people are midlife crises is because they realize I have been someone else's version of me all my life I have been orange all my life and I was never supposed to be they go on this kind of discovery journey in the life Hollywood's making movies all the time about this stuff and a self-discovery journey to get down to the bear oak version of them to do the work to put in the work this is behind the scenes this is nothing to do really with the presentation you got coming up next week in your mind you might think well this isn't helping me you know for my role next week when I got to speak to a hundred corporate leaders and I'm terrified that's okay forget about that this is about a long game this is about this is about raising your game in turn this is about you becoming the best version of you you can be