 That's right our good buddy Drew Monson aka MyToeCold is back in a video discussing why he hates men and there's a lot a lot that we can all learn from this. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do is take a look at what's going on in the YouTube community try to see what lessons we can learn from them. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and if you're on social media so my baby go follow me over on Instagram and Twitter at the Rewired Soul because I love engaging with all of you tweeting back and forth my DMs are open so if you have any questions or video suggestions feel free to hit me up. All right but yeah it's been a little while since Drew Monson has posted a video and he just came back with a video titled Why I Hate Men. First off first and foremost I don't think I'm the only one who noticed this but Drew you lost some weight baby you looking good like did anybody else notice that let me know down in the comments below all right but anyways uh yeah there's a few topics that I wanted to dive into and kind of unpack um from his video but the first one the first one is and it's kind of ridiculous during Pride Month but anyways here's a clip of Drew explaining it. I beers my women beers that are so big you forget who you even are anyway I'm walking down the street the other day and this car drives by me and it's a group of guys and of course the first thought I have is oh my god it's a bunch of bros maybe I can go to the brewery with them and get a giant beer but no turns out they wanted to be enemies because one of the guys stuck his head out the window yelled at me literally this is exactly what he said learn how to walk straight you I'm not gonna say the word but it's the one people use against gay people so yeah like there is just no room for hate speech I just do not understand it like rule number one ladies and gentlemen don't be a dick all right like I am just I'm trying to figure out like I I'm reading a book on empathy and I'm always trying to be empathetic I'm always trying to put myself in another person's shoes and understand I'm trying to understand what kind of mindset a person could get into where the way somebody like Drew was walking angered them so much that they felt like they had to scream this out at him like who hurt this man what happened to this man that made him want to scream such a ridiculous terrible thing at another human being I don't get it I might never get it but I think it's important to realize like this kind of stuff is not okay and it almost it almost feels like and like I I just I can't even imagine being LGBTQ during Pride month because it feels like during Pride month there's even more homophobia you know what I mean and that is just insane and it's awful what else is crazy about what these people screamed at Drew is obviously there's the whole situation going on with Stephen Crowder and Carlos Mazza right and Stephen Crowder's defense of his shirt is that it says socialism is for figs right like I just want you guys to play this game real quick because this is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard anybody say so when people are defending Stephen Crowder and his shirt like imagine if these these guys screamed at Drew Monson walking a straight line you fig like the connotation is there they're they're trying to say your thing without saying that thing you know what I mean like we know what you're trying to say like it's almost like as somebody who's half black there's some there's some weirdness around like when somebody says like in word like if somebody's came up to me as a half black man and called me an in word not the word but the in word right I'd still be offended you know so I just think that whole argument about the figs thing is absolutely ridiculous my beers my women beers that are so big you forget who you even are anyway I'm walking down the street the other day and this car drives by me and it's a group of guys and of course the first thought I have is oh my god it's a bunch of bros maybe I can go to brewery with them and get a giant beer but no turns out they want it to be enemies because one of the guys stuck his head out the window yelled at me literally this is exactly what he said learn how to walk straight you I'm not gonna say the word but it's the one people use against gay people it's no I think this is something great that we can all learn from Drew Monson now as somebody who has a lot of emotions and I have a fixed skin like I get it like turning this into a joke and like I get that it's it's good to laugh about these situations like sometimes when somebody says something so hateful like there's nothing else to do but just laugh at it trust me like when I'm going through my comment section sometimes I am just loling all day long right and we have to be able to joke about it we have to be able to like make fun of it because it is so ridiculous but at the end of the day like I don't know like I don't know Drew Monson obviously but there is some pain that comes with it like people say all sorts of things to me in my comments a lot of it has to do with my weight and things like that and like yeah it somewhat hurts but it's something that I I acknowledge is going to happen especially because I'm on a public platform so if there's anything you take away from Drew Monson making this video is learn that it's okay to laugh about it and joke about it like for some people some people like myself some people like Drew like this is a coping skill that we use and it's something that I've talked to my therapist about like we all have coping skills right then there's healthy and unhealthy coping skills and this like I've talked to like with my therapist like do you think that's unhealthy to laugh about these things and she's like no that's how you deal with it just as long as you're processing like through it if it is like affecting your day to day life you know what I mean besides that it's also just that weird like masculine thing I'm not comfortable with because it always feels like they're putting it on like it's like that's not a real personality when like a guy never shows any real feelings and all they say is like yeah and they like have that walk and they're like okay cool yeah right there right there that is one of the main reasons I decided to make this video because it's true like it's very true and this is something that is getting better in some ways and not which is men being able to open up about their feelings open up about their emotions like I can tell you this I was raised not talking about my emotions so when I got to high school and depression was hitting me anxiety was hitting later on with it led to my drug addiction and alcoholism like I just didn't talk about my emotions because we didn't do that in my house because it's not the way my father was raised so it's not the way that he raised me right and the other thing was I was like a jock in high school as well I was on the football team the wrestling team the track team and like a locker room talk isn't like yo bro I'm feeling super sad today like we just didn't do that so the thing is and something I try to do with my channel is advocate for like people being able to open up and discuss their feelings what's interesting is like throughout my life as I got older too I mainly had female friends and it might be because it was easier to open up to them or even like my gay friends like it was easier to open up to them about my feelings about my emotions because there is sort of still a stigma around men opening up about their feelings and emotions because you're not manly enough you know what I mean like you shouldn't be talking about this just man up just deal with it and if any guys out there are watching this video like just know you can open up about this stuff like something that's just amazing is when I see like groups of men like in support groups or they talk about this like I looked at a drug and alcohol treatment center and seeing like the most badass dudes I've ever met in my life being able to open up about their feelings like I'm talking about ex-navy seals firefighters policemen other veterans EMTs like some badass dudes being able to open up and discuss these things because you know what they say baby girl in order to heal you gotta feel so in this last section of the video I just want to talk about a few things that drew months and touched on I love drew I absolutely adore drew but I'm trying to take what you guys are already watching and try to teach you some lessons that I've learned in my life and sometimes I've had to help others with these lessons as well so one of them is when drew says this it's kind of been all over the place I hope you liked it I haven't made one for a little I don't even I can't just keep giving excuses like I guess this is just how I make videos I really want to get consistent with it but it's hard because I really feel a lot of pressure like sometimes I wish I was like an alcoholic because I think drinking I've never done it before but I think it would make me like more comfortable because I can't make a video without thinking like oh my god even like 10 people seeing this it freaks me out what if one of them doesn't like trust me I get it I get it he was joking I get it but as somebody who is a recovering alcoholic I would be remiss in my responsibilities if I did not just talk about it real quick this is one of the main reasons why people drink or use drugs I'm somebody who used to have crippling social anxiety like a lot of people who meet me now have no idea how bad my social anxiety used to be but when I found alcohol it got rid of all that stuff so when Drew is talking about like why he doesn't upload that much and get on camera and everything and you know hey you know maybe if I drink and everything like that like that can be dangerous the reason being just the way dependents work is that we start to train our brain to whenever we're going into a social setting because a lot of you out there are not youtubers but what that could be for you is every time you're going out to a bar or you're going to like a work party or a regular party or whatever it is you might train yourself to drink in order to talk to people and for somebody like me somebody who has addiction that runs in my family like this can be dangerous because the way my addiction began to progress was I needed it to function in any setting I started needing to drink at work right I needed to start drinking just to go to the grocery store and interact with like the cashier and all of those things so I know Drew was joking but just to like put that out there it can be dangerous if you start to use alcohol for your social anxiety I'm sorry I'm trying to sell you stuff I'm just I just need money I'm trying to get rich again I used to have like tens of thousands of dollars now I have like a few hundreds sometimes a thousand dollars but honestly I act rich when I'm not even rich like I think I've said this before but if I have over like four hundred dollars I just stop looking at price tags like I just turn into Kanye West now the last thing I want to touch on real quick is I think a lot of you might be able to relate to what Drew was talking about just in regards to money so something that I do as a youtube creator as somebody who just looks at you know society and human behavior and everything like that I see people like Drew Monson or even Garrett Watts obviously their friends and everything and like these these guys they have like a ton a ton of fans huge fans right and when I hear them talk about money problems I'm like bam like you just got to get up and go to work and I know it's not that simple but this is where like therapy helps me this is where my antidepressants help me they get me to that baseline where I can get up and support myself and you know I also have a son so I got to support him as well but I think a lot of you might be able to relate to that as well and this is why taking care of your mental health is so so so important like there are instances where people get like disability for their depression or their trauma but we are not at a place in the American healthcare system where this is something that happens to a lot of people where a lot of people get benefits when they're not working for example when I first got sober seven years ago I was pending disability for almost a year and then I got denied because during that year I started to get better all right so if you realize that your mental health is affecting your work if it's affecting your ability to get work if it's affecting your ability to make money to support yourself like because this all just progresses the illness even more and it will make you even more depressed by not being productive by not being able to provide with yourself which then leads to anxiety like how am I going to pay my bills how am I going to put food on the table and all these other things like please please please go out there and get help like as of right now if you're 26 years old or younger you can still be covered under your parents medical insurance so you could probably get therapy all right but if you're somebody who does have insurance just talk with a doctor talk to your insurance company see if they can recommend a therapist for you if you would like to use some affordable online therapy I personally use better help online therapy and I'm an affiliate of them so if you would like there's a link down in the description below what that does is you get cheap online affordable therapy and a little bit goes back to help the channel as well but if your depression your anxiety is affecting your life and your ability to function and provide yourself like there's no no no shame in asking for help all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon you're all amazing and if you would like to help support what I'm doing 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