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Trust me if I had a video like that when I was in high school My life probably would have taken a different path So that is why this video is part 2 and I know it's going to help you guys a lot So the first lesson that I wish I knew before I was 20 was that social media was deceiving as FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU See when I was younger I didn't know any better Instagram was only 3 to 5 years old And this is the point when things really shifted from actually posting things about your life to flexing on their followers for validation because more than likely they need to overcompensate for something. And then me being young and dumb and experiencing firsthand the Tai Lopez area of marketing and being the target market for a ton of digital marketers. In my eyes all of these influencers made it. I basically wanted to be them. I was buying courses and only posting the best pictures of myself living in New York City making it look like I made it and flexing on everyone. I basically made it look like I was as happy as I can be. Nah man I'll be real with you. I haven't suffered from depression depression per se but I've hit a countless number of lows in my life. Back when I started this channel and a lot of you guys don't know this I couldn't really pay my rent when I was living in Brooklyn which was around six hundred sixty seven dollars. I was in a ton of student debt and basically I couldn't do this for a few months straight and you know what I did? I was editing videos for my boy Richie Lee just so I can be able to afford rent and groceries for the rest of that month and he probably doesn't even know that. But hey I look like I made it based on the post I was uploading online. I mean fuck I was copying the bread ones just so I can be able to impress other people on the gram. I mean how stupid is that? And a lot of influencers are like this not in debt and can't afford rent per se but they are only posting the best pictures of their physique or they're manipulating the shit out of them. They probably don't own that Lambo and there are a ton of influencers out there that actually pay for likes subscribers and comments. So the next time you open up the gram you start scrolling. Just don't feel discouraged man don't compare yourself to anyone. Nobody is perfect online and it's the people that seem the most perfect that probably have the most flaws and have a deeper void to fill. So number two and a lesson I've learned recently and that is to just not take things so seriously and learn to laugh at yourself. Man I used to be around a ton of dudes that wanted to be the alpha male of the room. Always trying to be the man acting tough, taking up space. Man it's funny when I look back at it but you guys all know this you become like the people you're around and I was becoming just like them. I then took things way too seriously either for my friends or in the YouTube comments section. And bro life is meant to be enjoyed. Laugh a little. People out here acting like robots hustling 24-7-3-6-5 look we get it man you're on your hustle. You don't always need to flex I in fact I like to make fun of it so what I've been doing recently is just turning things around and making fun of myself. I am a short dude I don't really know how to dress this shirt is from a museum and yes I was stuck in 2017 this year wearing flannels, distressed zipper pants and Chelsea boots. I also used to want to be the most alpha in the room because I was overcompensating for something else. I can admit that that's why I'm making this video for you guys and that's what I mean by being able to laugh at yourself. Laugh at your mistakes and it's fine because overreacting to any joke made at you just shows that they probably told the truth and that you're probably insecure about that. 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Back when I was in high school and in college all I cared about was Black Ops 2 my shitty Honda Civic and just having as much fun as I can. All of these are fine little hobbies and moderation but I can tell you firsthand as soon as I got out of school I would go straight to home turn on my ps3 and play Black Ops 2 all the way till I went to sleep and man I just wasted my time away when in reality I could have used that time a lot more wisely maybe study some finance or try new things figuring out what I really like instead of wasting thousands of thousands of dollars on college. Now yes if you guys have seen my videos from earlier I was I was anti-gamer but you know nowadays in recreation it's it's pretty fun but there is this concept called opportunity cost and I'm sure you guys already know about this but if you guys don't here's a short summary. Let's just say you spent two hours watching Doug DeMiro talk about the quirks and features of all these new cars. This cool cool I still respect that it's a great channel but there is an opportunity cost of two hours that could have just been spent let's say fixing your car or cleaning your room so you can be more productive or learning a new editing style or skill whatever it is there is an opportunity cost to everything and the best ways I like to utilize my time is to hit the gym watching some Graham Stephan educating myself about finance and honestly I really like keeping up with the news and politics because it helps me gain some more perspective and it helps to have something to talk about with my homies. So value your time spend it wisely if you sleep around eight hours a day you have roughly around a thousand minutes per day and we're always spending those minutes running it empty and then the next day you get paid with a glorious amount of another thousand minutes so what are you gonna do with your time fourth lesson I wish I knew before was the whole concept of being animosity free so if you guys didn't know already I've been saying this on my channel for a while now and so let me tell you what it actually means to me back even last year I was in this weird phase of negativity and hate probably because I was around people like that but nevertheless I was an asshole I was rude in some comments I despise people that were ahead of me and I even made a video on why you should hate more people nah I am off that but I've chosen to leave it up so you guys can actually see how I've changed as a person hate takes you nowhere it honestly does lead to suffering as good old Yoda would say not not baby Yoda he's just cute anyways having so much hate in your heart sure yes it can be an effective motivator and honestly for a lot of young guys it's probably the only motivator but here's what happens when you remain in a negative hateful state one you're not fun to be around two you will go about your life walking around with a huge chip on your shoulder all because you want revenge or you're just jealous of another person and then eventually you turn into an asshole it's not fun and let me tell you what's actually not an alpha male trait dominating people those are hateful people where their hate will take them to a certain point not very far alpha males I hate using that term because guys become so obsessed with that term but anyways they lift people up they respect everyone and they're open-minded to every person and they don't look down on others I've experienced both hands of being hateful and being animosity free and lifting people up helping others as resulted in either me meeting the coolest people in my life or motivating the friends I grew up with to pursue what they want and honestly I think it's helped this channel a ton versus I'm not gonna be friends with you if you're not a hustler and this has done wonders to my mental health and happiness and I must say now currently I've been the most happy and most fulfilled that I've ever been in my life and what matters more than that all right fellas I hope this video helps you guys out I just made fun of myself but yeah guys this isn't just a fashion channel this is a channel about building confidence of course you can build a ton of confidence with having great style but yeah these lessons really would have helped me back then and I hope it really does help you out if you guys enjoyed it smash that like button follow me on instagram at flabberjohnytai subscribe to the channel if you haven't already and until then stay fly stay animosity free and I'm out bro peace