 We're going to be tackling what makes this particular individual tick, what makes her stand out, what inspires her, what motivates her. To keep you inspired of course, motivated and knowledgeable in terms of what other people are doing. Maybe you may think that your situation is worse, you may think that you're going through something and we believe that through this discussion strength of a woman you are going to be empowered even to do more than what you are doing. Of course welcome to this particular broadcast right here on Y254. I am with Beatrice Gondi. Beatrice is the founder of Nyabeko Offence and Elderly CBO. Kabusana Beatrice. Thank you. Or as some people say, Beatrice. Yeah. How are you feeling? I'm fine. Thank you. Thanks so much for coming. I appreciate it. I'm so honoured to be here. And of course I welcome you from home to be part of this conversation. Join us as we discuss these issues that we are about to talk about. The ashtag as always is why in the morning tag me at Ram Aguko, the official station handle. Is that why? Y254 channel that is on all social media platforms. Now let's talk about the strength of a woman right here on Y254. Of course Beatrice, let me start with your foundation first. What is this CBO all about? Thank you so much. Our CBO is about transforming lives. Our main aim is to provide long term care to the elderly and they are often grandchildren and extend it to vulnerable widows and the youth because as the name suggests they are orphans and we do not discriminate the age of an orphan. So we have to extend it to the youth as well. So basically our aim is to provide long term care to the vulnerable elderly persons and they are often grandkids with a vision to have a self reliant and optimistic innovations and initiatives and programs towards aging and promoting nicer ways to have people live better lives. So how do you end up picking those who you are going to be working with because you are talking about the elderly and the orphans. Which criteria do you use to pick out this particular group of people? We have an age cut of 70 plus. This is because... That's for the elderly? Ya, for the elderly. So there must be 70? 70 plus. 70 plus? Ya, it should be 65 plus but because of the resources that we have had so far we do 70 plus but we are hoping in the near future we are going to have even 60 plus. So for now it is 70? Ya, for now it is 70 plus just because of the resources. But how do you pick them out? We do sensitization we have sensitization programs and we also do baseline service and we also work closely with the area administration that is the chief and then we also have the community leaders that we approach and tell them this is what we are doing and these are the kind of people that we find are legible for the program. So yes. And anyone vulnerable within that age cut is always picked to be a member but of course we don't force on them. Or it's voluntary? Ya. Because there are people who are 70 but they are well off. Okay. They have their kin who takes good care of them and all that. So the co-word is vulnerable. And the orphans also? The orphans, when we were doing our baseline survey and need assessment we realized that most elderly persons 90 plus percent have orphaned grandkids with them. Because we also realized that most of these heroes and heroines of our society tend to lose their kids and now are left to take care of their orphaned grandkids. So we realized that most households that we visited we get an orphan living with them. So we said we will give support to the elderly persons and extend it to the orphans. I love what you are doing because it must take a lot of energy. Because you are dealing with a group that is so vulnerable and is in need of help in one way or the other. People that the society have left out. Ya. So how is your experience when it comes to dealing with this group there are some challenges that you are facing. Ya. And there are those days when you I'm sure there are those days that you feel like giving up. You're like, ah, amani wachi tu manenu. Ya. So many occasions you feel like oh this is getting too much on me because it's been there the organization has been there it was initiated in 2016 but now legally registered as a CBO in 2018 to make it now legal. So there are several occasions when you called and it all so and so is sick we need medical attention, urgent and there you are sometimes you don't have up money because you see before winning hearts of the people or before attracting people of like minded people and before getting resources from well wishes and possible funders and donors you have to do it yourself. Ya. So it has been a real, real hard, hard course but I am there from 2016 and we are doing it. So the initial stages it was purely part of my salary every month. You are taking, you are funding it Ya. through your own salary. Yes, yes. That's 2016. Yes, 2016, 2017 until now 2018 when now we had to now legalize it and now bring in board members so the board members they can help out and all that then now through talks with our people my close family members my friends from all sorts of places and well wishes. So it has been, it has not been easy. But you must be working with the budget you must have been working with a lot of activities that were draining you financially it would not have been sustainable with the salary. How do you manage to beat those challenges and get it running? Ya, in a nutshell like the first year in 2016 we did keeping a grandma grandpawam at night so the campaign was about getting blankets for them So I said I'm setting 20,000 to this course and I'm talking to my family members and I'm talking to my close friends and any other well-wisher and I'm telling them I feel I want to do this I want to keep up a grandma warm at night I want to keep a grandpawam at night What do you think about it? It was very successful People came People came through, yes and we bought around around 56 to 60 pieces So that is 2016 So when we came to 2017 the campaign was still there and we raised now we bought more about 80 plus So from that time there is also food You can keep them warm at night but if they are hungry they will not even catch a sleep We put a program on how we get food items on every three months basis So after every three months we mobilized resources we buy food items no matter how little but in charity work there is nothing like little So you are working with donors and volunteers We are working with volunteers and well-wishers The only very first time we got help support from a donor is at the onset of COVID-19 This is when a well-wisher just saw our post Facebook handle and she was like Hey this is a good thing you are doing in the community How can we help and all that and then we engaged and explained on how COVID and messed people around You can remember how people were laid off and this was a possible negative impact because now we are talking about people who are taking good care of them I mean I am my mother's daughter if I get laid off it means my mother won't have food So we had people being laid off and at this time at this time were you still funding it with your own salary? Yes Setting part of my salary on a monthly basis and then adding with whatever little they get from And it's COVID? Yes it's COVID It's COVID, things are down and then this lovely person comes through and we get donations from her of about 1.2 million it was actually 1.032 million and this was now our breakthrough It was so nice because we fed over 150 families and it was food enough for about 3 months or so So that has been our biggest donation ever and right now we still contribute the board members do and of course I do as a director and well wishers do I have a very supportive family Now even as you talk about the support system earlier on you're mentioning that there is nothing that is either too little or too much How do you gauge between all these things that you've been acquiring and to be able to to know in terms of the distribution rates in terms of ensuring that there is equity and equality among all these people I'm sure that must be a very difficult task also That I would say is not so hard because each and every person beneficiary within our program we know their background We know this is for example that's my mother she is 82 she has two grandkids of one So we go to mama maybe Rose she has this dependence So when we are doing contribution of distribution I mean we look at a family setup somebody who's got like we have one of our beneficiaries is a blind grandma she's called Respa Andiro she has seven grandkids under her watch So this is a person that I give much like a more amount than somebody who has one grandkids getting my point So that's like we ration we look and even as you you do the rationing I don't know if there is this biblical principle that you also apply there You see in the Babu there is one that says whatever the left hand does the right hand should not know whatever the right hand is receiving the left hand should not know Do you have that kind of principle where each one doesn't know or is it an open book No, this is an open book and we talk to them they know each other they know each other this person knows that Respa is there and the other person knows that Roslida is there and the other person knows that we know each other they know each other because the project is still within a community this principle of love Ya our motto is spreading kindness it's all about love and we actually teach them and sensitize them on the need to be neatly close together through love we tell them that this is all about love we are just here to support you we just want to see you beautifully living in your later days because you know they are close to Ya so we are taking good care of them towards their end of life Ya because we feel they are blessed some of us are just dying prematurely God forbid but by default or by God's glory they are there to ensure that some of these principles because they do come from an individual perspective Ya what are those pillars that you feel are very important that most youths need to be having growing up whether you are an orphan or whether you are facing a particular challenge here or there those pillars that you believe are essential for somebody Ya I would say that kids are emulating more than learning Ya the person who brought me up who stands as my dad because my dad passed on when I was 11 I have emulated a lot from him that's my brother like he would tell you be kind he would explain that father I tell you if you are kind you cannot harm another person and by humming I mean or he meant be it a physical harm be it emotional harm Ya be it mental harm if you kind I'll look at you Ram and before I do something bad to you I'll ask what if it was being done to me you know the principle of kindness Ya so if you kind in life every other thing becomes beautiful because if I want to harm you even in an office setup if I come pick you byro I'll ask myself if what if it was me who left my byro here and missed it the next time I'm coming so that is the spirit of kindness a very important pillar everybody needs to have that pillar a very important pillar once you are kind everything flows and once you kind no matter kind of disagreement you have with any other person you'll be reminded again what if this was me because we are prone to disagreement and all that but we can always handle them with kindness and love you getting me I would quote do many kusia yes but pia mimi na izaku kusia na nikikusia na izapenda vipi uni handle you know what I mean I should hand to you how I ought to want to be handled and you are teaching these principles and they are caregivers they are too often the elderly and caregivers caregivers too because like anything you do and extra thing you do to another person you find it as a body and that is why most parents suffer, neglect because my mom gives back to me Masiveto kwa kuha percentage na kiwisa, kwa hwa kuha kuha kumisit frakwa kwa lafisha iku meşa Kwa matumichu? Ma mometisha kwa kwa lakini uziwんだ Herwa nga kwa, kwa hwa kaka neko mahmu Kwa kaka nga nga uziwanda ngeka, kwa mwye na kwa mwye na mahmu But right now, if I didn't learn the pillar of kindness and love, I might not even return it to her. I'll see myself or with my personal family as the first priority and I might even forget about her. Do you believe that principles that are in a woman are the ones that bring up the society? One particular individual, one woman, for example, the mother in the family, the principles she has can establish the whole family. For example, you being the head there at your CBO, the principles you have as a woman, the ones that are establishing the whole CBO. Do you believe that it is upon a woman to know that her principles can affect everybody around her in a very long term way? Yes, true, true. Because most of the time, if I would say leadership, what I have on my principles, my values as a person reflects out. I mean, if you are somewhere working and you are a head or you are a leader, how you treat people around you with either make you organization or maybe you department or a particular thing that you are doing. It makes or breaks. It makes or breaks and it brings that positive picture or the negative picture of it. Because if I am not kind as the director of Nyabeko, if I don't have values that have hold humanity as the director of Nyabeko, then I am bound to fail. It's me who will sit them down and tell them, you know what, we have to check, like we have to have a constant check on each other. Today it is in the morning. Have I checked on this person? Because if you may agree with me, the elderly person have their age onset related illnesses. Exactly. So we know this person maybe has arthritis or maybe has high blood pressure and all that. Diabetes and all those. Yes. These are lifestyle diseases that live with us. And if I don't check on if she had Uji to help her with her medication, then I am not doing the right thing. And for you to check you must have that heart, the heart of actually thinking about someone else even as you are eating your own food has someone else eaten. Charity work is above the heart. Philanthropy is above the heart. Awezi amuka subui na wanzi. Because it's something that just tells you, just do it. But there are those days that you felt like giving up. Yes. When there are no fans. No fans, no researchers, you've been called, somebody sick. And then especially, let me tell you something, there are times that you break, you break down. You break down. You know what? We've lost so and so. Have you ever gotten to that point where you've broken down and cried? Yes, I've cried so many times. Because you know when there's a say that says, if you share a meal with somebody, you share part of yourself with them. You bond. Yeah. And remember, they see me as their only hope. Because when you give somebody food, when they are in dire need of food, or maybe due to medical, because we usually have medical comes for them, free medical comes for them. So if you make somebody know that they are there for you, then they'll cling on you. Yeah. So whether you have or not, their first and number one person will be you. Will be you. My goodness. Yeah. You're strong man. You're strong. You're a strong woman. And you have to show them that yes, you value them. And what makes them happy the most is letting them know that they are valued. What are some of those notable achievements that you've managed to have over the years since you started? Yeah. Those things that you remember and just put a smile on your face and you're like, wow. Yeah. Ina eh? Ili kwa sawa. Ili kwa sawa. All glory to God. Yeah. The food distribution bait is, I find it just normal. It's like me giving my babies food or something. Yeah. Or whether it's adopted baby or whether it's my own baby. It's like just giving maybe my sibling food. Yeah. Just like giving my mother food. Yeah. Because I cannot eat and my mum hasn't. And now it has extended to Yabeko. Like a month goes and I'm like, okay. What is next? A second month, a third month and I'm like they have to eat. You know? Yeah. So the food bait is, people find it an achievement. But I find it as something, to me it's something normal because yeah. There is this particular time that we built a better decent house for a blind grandma. So when we went for a consent, at least her consent, because yes, they are elderly. Yes. But you ought to like get consent from them. So that you can build the house. Yes. You don't go to somebody's compound. It doesn't surprise them. No. You cannot go to somebody's compound and just start doing things. You have to go and talk to them. Yeah. Ask them. Are you okay with this house? Or would you love a better one? So we are here to help you set up one. And that woman told me she's been waiting for God. Wow. And she's seen God walk. Those were her exact. I think we have a video on that. She said I have been waiting for God for such a long time. And today it is. Because this elderly grandma has been blind all her life ever since she was in class. Not class, I mean two years old. She's been blind. Of course she was blessed with kids but right now she's left with one son who is also struggling. So when we went there and told her and what she does she sings in the village market for help, for support. And let me tell you something Ram. It is not every day that you go to a village market to sing and get help. So have you imagined when or maybe it rains that day. People have gone to the market yes but it rains. We are usual place where usual spot has been rained on. This is a blind grandma who for a long time has been working closely with her grand kid to help her walk through the village. Wow. So we went for her consent and she told me I've waited for God for a long time. And I've seen God come. And then she told me if only God would give me eyes to see you. But of course she knows my voice and she knows my mother, she knows my family. But you see she is blind she cannot see me. But I said now that is why Nyabeko is there. We are there to be eyes for the eyes like the blind. That must have been a touching moment. Everyone cried. I am touching myself here. People cried and she started singing. She sang there? Yes. And you built the house? Yes we did. Right now is it Sunday? Yes we did. That was now part of my leave allowance. I dedicate my leave allowance every year for a better decent house for the elderly. Wow. Yes. And right now in October because I usually am always on leave in October. Right now we are going to build another one. You are going to build another one? Yes. Where? Have you found a place? I will join you. God is good. Thank you. Have you found a place? To do what? To build. The project is in Huma Bay. Huma Bay? Yes. So we are building them in their houses. In their homesteads. In their homesteads. So we go, you know, low community, mostly we believe in people living in their homesteads. Exactly. Boma. Boma yamutu. So you go there, see a bad house, request them if you can upgrade it or build a new one. So you build it. So you find a place that haina boma because the low community, then it will be that mean house. These elderly persons have their homesteads. So if you find one who's got a bad house. You upgrade it. You either upgrade it if it is upgradeable. We either upgrade it or build a new one. So an example of the elderly one, the blind one, we built a new one. Wow. I'm touched by what you're doing. It's so inspiring and it makes me feel like, we need to appreciate the stages that God puts us through and we need to appreciate who we are because I'm looking at that blind lady making a prayer, I wish I could see you. I wish I could just see your face. It was exciting and sad. You know that. You can lack what she even described. And she cried. I saw her cry. I'd never seen a blind person cry. I didn't even know whether the tears can fall to us. It was such beautiful. When you interact with people and you go to the society you go to some of these organizations. I'm sure you approach, you must approach someone and say, you know, I have the CBO, come join me. What is the reception from the society on this kind of work? Ram, let me tell you. Charity needs, just like I've said, it's from the heart. You will approach a million people. I've approached, if I give you, I can even lose count. If I give you a list of people I've sat with, the way I've sat with you and giving me appointments, I have to deplete like my off days. You know we are entitled to 30 days leave days. And if you want to go on off duty, you have to sign somewhere that you're leaving and now your days are deducted from your main leave days. So you sign an off day, go meet somebody who had promised you heaven. To deliver nothing. I'm telling you. But now, it's never catching up like una kachkach. Doesn't discourage you. Doesn't piss you off. I will come. If you tell me today to come again, I will come. And what if they don't deliver? This is when you feel now, you know you have to also know how to read body language. Or maybe if you're a consistent person, if you know how to shikanisha things, they like Ram told me this today. Tomorrow or yesterday me. Today he told me this. And then I'll come tomorrow. I closely knit them. So I look at yesterday. You observe the patterns. Yeah. And then na chana tunayo sasa. So I just go mute. I have presented proposals. Somebody you meet and tells you this is a good cause. I want to help. Do a proposal. I have done. I have done quite a lot. But let me tell you something. What I know is this Ram. If God almighty knows that whatever I'm doing is from my heart. And I also believe that a cause, if it is a white wild cause, then it is written in heaven. And one very day, it will be successful. Because you're not doing it as unto man, but as unto God. If this thing was just about doing it, then I don't really think I would be doing it because I'm there for my mother. So the reception that you get from people is neither here nor there. It's neither yes nor no. It's just something that is not. Iko apokatikati. Like bring this, bring this, bring this. I have a friend that I have written proposals. I have made reminders. But you have to keep going. I have gone there even when I don't have fair together. I'll talk to somebody on his ID. You know, there is also this bit of charity work that people think you have money. Charity is not about you having money. People have money. What you are going to pay, Ram. And it doesn't even bother them. And you cannot blame them because it is not something that has been put in them. They have money, but they are not giving. They have money, but they don't help. Even to the immediate families. Even to the immediate families. You've never seen people have big bungalows, big machinets, big palest houses. Even the next neighbor, even your real brother or sister is dying next. He isn't suffering. Even your own mother. You've never seen people neglect their own parents. Wow. I've seen them, so many people. Yes. And they shut the door on you. Yes. You ask for a job. They can provide, but they don't. Yes. So charity is like that. So this theory of charity begins at home. Yeah. What if there is no home? Charity is just like that. Like, now when you force mutu, you cannot, yeah, no. How will you force somebody? See, just like, you know, over the years I've been learning a lot. Yeah. I'm learning a lot. If something happens negative and I'm like, okay, probably I'm trying to give this person rise. No. Probably I'm giving this person omena and they disguise omena. And that doesn't mean that I will not take omena. Mimi naipenda. You know. Yes. I am made aware that you have different activities. Yeah. Yeah. Maybe you can just mention a few that maybe we are, because during this discussion, we might have mentioned some of the activities that you do. Are there those activities that we have not mentioned during this discussion that you would like to put across? That we offer? Yes. Yeah, we do. Last year we launched something called Nyabeko Sani Krampi Days for the Girl Child. Valerable Girls and Young Widows. That is sanitary towels to the vulnerable girls. Because you see we have often sure aid. So we support them as well. Wow. So we went to a girl school and took sanitary towels. So it's also part of us. We distribute sanitary towels to vulnerable girls. And now you have a big project coming up? Yeah, not even coming up. It has started? No. How? Let me say something as we speak. We have zero budget for our biggest project. Zero? Zero shillings. Let me say something. There's an elderly woman who happens to be my friend. I don't know why I'm missing the name. One day she told me, you know what, show God what you have. And let him work with that. Beatrice, you are a believer. Na akaniyambia. Most is had a road. And that is what God said, use that road. God asked him, what do you have in your hand? Ram. I told one of our board members, an engineer Fredo Gino. I told him, Fred, you know what? I feel like we need to have a support center. That is the biggest project. We should be having a support center where we can harmonize our things. Having caregivers in every homestead might be very difficult for us even to sustain because they also need to be appreciated. They want reimbursement. They need to be paid salary if we have money. But if we have a support center, we are strictly because the low community or many communities because we are not restricting ourselves within Huma Bay County alone, we have started a process of now becoming an NGO from a CBO because a CBO serves within a county. So we want to be an NGO so that we go outside Huma Bay. Right now you are located at Huma Bay. What is the location? It's called Kagan. You are from Kagan? Yes. I have friends from Kagan. So that's where you are? Yes. And you want a big center? Yes, support center. We have land that has been donated to us. 1.1 acres for Nyabeko to build a support center there. And your budget is zero? Yes, we have zero. And you know I sat down with one of the board members who is an engineer from Kisumu. And I told friend, can we design one? And we designed. It's a three story building. I know you'll ask me why it's a story building and it's meant for the elderly. It's because we have young widows. We have the youth. And we want an old land center which can also be a resource center for the students who can come and get trained. We have the... Like a school? No, not a school. But a resource center where we can do hands on work. The skills work. So are you going to change from orphans and the elderly to deal with others? No, we are not. How are you going to expand this? We are not changing. What I mean is this. The elderly persons got no strength to do hands on work. So we want them... We want to have them at the base and the ground floor. Where the hospital will be. Where the recreational rooms will be. Where they'll have their dining area. Where they'll have their rooms there. Those who are abandoned. Those who are neglected. And probably those who are sickly. When you want to need... You know there are people who are suffering from stroke. I want to know if there is a stroke or if there is a problem. The neighbors will not give me 100% surety that they are going to take care of that elderly person. So we want a place where we will incorporate this neglected, they are abandoned, they are most sickly and those who don't have kin at all. So we will have them there. And then now the widows that are also under our project we want to now give them something to do. Is it a sewing class? Sewing classes. Can they do basketry? Can they do pottery? Can we have chicken raring there? So that we slaughter some for the elderly, they eat. And some we can even sell for them. Yes, because if we sell kuku we get breakfast, we get milk for the elderly. Exactly. This is a big project. You managed to talk to the engineer. And he designed it. We have the design, we have the architectural build, we have the structural beat, we have the BQs. Everything is set. And this was done, this was done even before we got that donation, the land donation. See, I am telling God. Are you working by faith? Yes. How did you manage to do all this before you acquired the land? I am telling God. Even before trust you may ram this has been my course. This is my calling, this is my purpose in life. Because even before we had a website, I had written notes on how the website would look like and what I would want to have there. So even the person who did our website was like, hey Beatriz, I just sent him. So he was just kupipesti. I told God this is what I want. So no matter how many years it will take, the support center will be there. You must have a vision. Many people lack that. Yes. A vision. Even if you do not have the resources and the facilities, have a vision. Have an idea and write them down and pray. What you want tomorrow, Rami, you start today. If you want to be somebody in five years, I got employed when I had my diploma from KIMC. The very first year I went back to the university because I said one day I will be in a level where responsibilities will be bestowed to me and one of the qualification would be a degree. Beatriz. Yes. What? Yes. You get employed as an assistant and then you like okay, I am seeing my bosses and I admire them. I am really inspired. But how can I be like them in the near future? I have to go for that. So I got employed in March by may I was in class for my degree University of Nairobi. So now, I don't know if it will be fair to even ask this. What are you going to do now that you have zero? With a big project, what is the plan now? God will provide. Yunga sayapo, don't add anything else. God will provide. I know there are people coming and God will send them. Every time I pray, I tell God, go to the offices that I cannot be able to go to. Go and talk to somebody there, just like you now. Did you know that you'll ever meet Beatriz Ngondi somewhere? No. You were told at 9pm and you said okay. Why? Because God came to you. You would have said, oh, let me think about it. Yes. Because 9pm, I'm very sure you had some, you had your program set. But you said, all right, let her come. Don't you see that is God. Because 9pm and you need me for an interview at 7 in the morning, you're supposed to start sleeping to prepare yourself for the following day. But what did you say? Let her come. So you believe you have strong faith in God? Yes. You know God will provide the resources and this big project will no longer even be called big. You know it's not my project. It's for humanity and humanity is from God. So let him work things out. Let him use me as a vessel to transform lives. I want us to for somebody who wants to get a hold of you. Maybe there is somebody. And I know you've had what Beatriz is doing. A very strong woman. Maybe you want to support her. If someone wants to reach out to you in a way or the other, how can they do so? We have our website that has all the information. We have our official lines. We have our official email address. We have the lines are also connected to WhatsApp. So it's just www.nyabeko.org If you go on Facebook you'll find us Nyabeko Eldali and Offence Compassion CBO. Once you just press Nyabeko you'll get hold on me. Say the website again www.nyabeko.org Yes. And that's their website? Yes. Check it out. Check it out. Facebook is Nyabeko. Yeah Nyabeko Eldali and Offence Compassion CBO. If you download Nyabeko you'll just definitely get us. You're a strong woman. We are ready to we are ready to serve and then we don't discriminate. Right now I'm so I would say that this is why I'm saying all this is about God because recently my niece calls me and tells me I want to be part of Nyabeko the youth session and I'm like okay what would you want to do? And then is like I want mentorship I want to mentor girls I want to go for I want to rally for funds for sanitary towels for inner garments for the girls and boys and then I'm like okay wow so how would you want to do it? This baby tells me I'm designing a tisha to that I'm doing this I'm talking to my dad and then she's like I want to meet you and then she shedles a meeting in town and she's there with 12 girls from different colleges from University of Nairobi from Strathmore from different colleges and I'm there and they're like you know what we want to talk to girls we want to tell them the need of education and they did it and now we are in the she designed a logo for themselves so they call themselves Nyabeko Youth Department and I'm like okay this is I was like okay I'm looking at the elderly I'm looking at the orphans I'm looking at this so okay God has brought a department a department that will take care of the youth and I'm like okay God you're working things and I can't be proud enough and happy you know that is why I'm saying our support center ay kila kitu imewekwa vilata inaka yes I'll show you the way it looks very beautiful but we don't have even a single cent even fencing our parcel of land from the time we we legally had now the processing bit having it that is something we started last year in January or something even fencing it because one Ram am I going to give this elderly person's food or am I going to fence that parcel of land right now which one comes first my God gani takuja kwanza okay we've been we even did we planted trees over 2000 all round but now zime kuluwa nangombe unko kote because I just fence you but I say okay we'll plant again but it's a very large parcel 1.1 hekers some like okay am I going to fence this parcel or am I going to buy food or am I going to give the elderly am going to keep them am going to buy them net mosquito net so that we prevent them from malaria so which one comes first I know prioritizing can be a problem here so the land is there to stay I have to take care of maybe an elderly person who is sick she needs medical attention we don't have an HIV cover for them you balance all these things you prioritize all these things and still find time for your own family and find time for your own job but now the beautiful thing is that I have committee members I don't go home often but given a chance I go every time I'm on leave I'm there fully like now I'm starting my leave soon I would be there fully that is where we are going to build another decent house for an elderly person and now as we plan for Nyabeku day in December Nyabeku day what is that all about Nyabeku day we come all of us all the beneficiaries, all the board members all the friends of Nyabeku come together we have meals together we have food for them, they carry homes like a celebration Nyabeku day the first weekend of every December last year we didn't have it because somebody called us wakenya piyam kaya wakenya piyam somebody called you somebody calls imagine somebody who knows me physically mutwa nani kwa nana nani ambe Beatrice nao kwa nani kwa na vai wuka usyago kagaan not kagaan we don't mention the no I cannot I'm just sharing this with you to show you the diversity of of all these calls so this guy calls you he calls me and tells me Betty you know what I have a lot of things to donate to Nyabeku I have food bags of unga yangano sasa ina elekia people usually know so we always rally for some funds for now our Nyabeku day so he tells me how many bags of rice how many bags of packets of milk and he tells me and he tells me he also have two water tanks kubwa kubwa kabisa anataka kutuletia and then he tells me all he needs is transportation asu matupesa transport eh so from Nyabeku and even mentioned a very a very prominent person that donate is of it that I will not mention so they are coming from kisumo transport how much years? transport is 45 so I am like 4500 4500 I pick up moja and he tells me so anasema to try to pick up moja so I tell the person in charge because I am not the treasurer of the organization so I tell the treasurer to send that money then after 30 minutes it tells me where he was thinking he would get another pick up kwa kwa ni tumetena ni tumengine so he came and said sasa su nadyo tu tumengine so that is 9000 so after some time towards noon now he kitu alianza I even have voice record my phone records so alianza subui in the morning at 7 so he me fikasa tumengine he calls again he wants another money then I am like no kuna sheda na tumesha tumetisa so and even before I gave an order I gave a directive not an order per se a directive had called our project manager our project manager is in Arusha he works there so I called just as and tells him this is the information because I never I don't make decisions without the managers over you so I call just as and tell him somebody calls and telling me this what do you think and I use I have another phone so I use that phone I call a person and I put just as on voice call so that the guy talks he listens and ask him who you who you are just as you can ask you so just as he says because we know this person let us give a benefit of doubt so and they he called us three days to the function so and this part of this money was for our food because we we eat we we cook and eat and we eat and whatever it is that we have mobilized for the year but now you must have now contingency plans or not just contingency you also need to be having plans as an organization that protects you need to have those modernities that protect you from those who mean you harm we didn't there is something really bad sometimes about charity work because you have a clear conscience you tend to believe everyone has a clear conscience because you are kind so because you are kind and you have met somebody on several occasions and you have seen this is somebody I saw maybe I saw giving a particular church things you saw them I was even there in that function I was there I want to finish to finish this discussion polisana baby and now we are laughing it's good see these are the challenges the challenges I want to give time to have a final word and maybe talk to Kenyans watching it today want to be your parting shot that is your camera say just one word within 30 seconds and then you wrap it up thank you we are here to serve the community we are here to transform lives it doesn't matter where you are from we are hoping that Yabeko Sibiyo is transforming to be an NGO very soon it's in the process and what I can share with the world is that it doesn't have to be Yabeko coming to transform lives within your community just take it as an initiative on your own within your area within your community there must be somebody who is in need could you kindly share part of yourself with them we are here we ever felt like they think we are doing what we can always come through we have our website www.yabeko.com www.yabeko.org www.yabeko.org and then our Facebook is Yabeko Yandali and Offence Compassion Sibiyo we are here to spread kindness alright thank you so much thank you so much for the work you are doing and I wish you the best keep doing what you are doing keep touching lives keep changing destinies and one thing that I know is God is not a liar thank you so much keep doing what you are doing thank you I appreciate it I want to encourage and welcome you all to follow her and get in touch with her if you feel like doing something there is no money I have received to tell people this this is out of hearing something good the strength of a woman thanks so much for coming and that was us to the end of this morning discussion on strength of a woman right here on why in the morning but remember we still have more coming up your way my name is Ram Maguko keep it Y254 we are taking a short break we will be back with more in a bit