 All right. Question from EM. Question, what do I do if a guy you dated four months ghost but then comes back nine months later blaming his ghosting on anxiety medication and why would he reach back out? Oh, that's a great question. So it's not uncommon that human beings can only handle so much emotional responsibility in relationship. So I repeat that. And in particular, let's say, okay, we men have a predisposition to believe that we're capable of giving this much emotional responsibility, but we kind of assume you want this much. And that gap in between oftentimes is called drama. I'm serious, but I'm joking at the same time. So what most likely happened, I'm sad to hear that he completely ghosted. In other words, without any word and he completely cut you off. So if he did come back nine months later, my hope is he came back with a very sincere apology for his behavior. Now his reasoning for it, we could look at it as an excuse. However, I'm gonna tell you something. A lot of people are feeling a tremendous amount of anxiety right now in general in their lives. I mean, we just come back. We just come off this pandemic and we're literally at least here in the United States us against them, the Vax and the not Vax, the Democrats and the Republicans, the this person or that person. I mean, it is such, there is a ton of anxiety out there, just already in general, not to mention your own individual life. So here's the one thing. Why did he come back? He liked you. He liked you. There was something there. What was missing in your relationship most likely was true intentionality. This is why I highly recommend reading this book called Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. Eight Dates by Doctors John and Julie Gottman. And my invitation for you is to buy two copies of this book. And but if you do decide to explore getting back together with them before the penis ever gets to go back inside the vagina, you purchase two copies of this book. The reason why it's called Eight Dates is there's eight critical conversations to have to determine true compatibility and understanding the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship. Now, there's one section in here about children that doesn't relate to many of my clients in midlife. However, it might not be about having children, but it might be how to incorporate children into your lives. But there's eight great conversations. And again, before the penis ever gets to go back inside the vagina ladies, make sure you vet him if you do decide to let him back into your life and say you're gonna have to jump through a lot of fucking hoops, dude, if you wanna get this woman back. But why? Because he likes you. That's why he came back. All right, great question. Thank you so much. I really appreciate that one. All right, bum, bum, bum, bum, bum.