 Ladies and gentlemen, get this here chair set up, hopefully. I'm going to hear the right way. Lord willing, let me see. Now I said I was going to try to start doing my lives on my weekdays. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, being that. Let me see, make sure I got this thing set up. Being that Friday and Saturday, I'd just be born to chill. So I'm going to try to come on here. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday night, I almost called out sick the night. But just figure I'll stop being soft, get on in here and help the people. First question, we're stuck in the house and haven't spoken in days. Is that an awful sign? Yes, that is. That's an awful sign. That probably means he preoccupied with something or somebody else. But that's definitely not a good sign. Okay, thank you for watching that video from last night. Now remember to put the hashtag Q on here. When can she re-come back? She's so beautiful and smart. You know what? She supposed to be coming back on here this month. We were talking about it yesterday or the day before. She told me to give her a heads up because, you know, we still haven't opened all the way back up to go for her to go get her hair done and her nails done. So she told me to give her a heads up. Gianna, God bless you. I see you right there in the chat. How to deal with a baby daddy that runs to Facebook to dog baby mama. I will block him. I will block him. He's making himself look foolish. Everybody know that the person, the dog that's carrying the bone, you know, bringing the bone also carry a bone. So people looking at him like he's crazy. He's making himself look bad. So I wouldn't even worry about it. We are currently reading a book together as a date idea during quarantine. Is that a grown boy tactic? Don't want to get too excited. If it is a grown boy tactic, it's going to cost them anyways. You see what I mean? It's kind of like what I mean by that is if you go to the if I go to the gym and I'm going to the gym to make to impress somebody. When I'm lifting weights, I'm still getting to work out. If I go to church to impress somebody when I'm sitting in church, I'm still getting hit with that word. So it's like, even if it's a grown boy tactic, and that's why I try to tell you all that when you make a man work for you. If he trying to play you, he end up playing itself because when he reading that book, some some might hit him. If a man asks sexual questions, is that a red flag? Yes and no, you know, yes. Especially if it's early because he just kind of he being disrespectful and then no on the side of. Men just freaky leaky, you know, so it's kind of like, depending on what the question is, you know, how graphic it is and what he trying to get at. You know, so you got to look at it. Do you offer discount codes on coaching sessions? No, I'm off of discount codes on coaching session. But what you got to realize my coaching session is already discounted. You see what I mean? Because market value, I'm not supposed to be coaching for less than $500 an hour, just because of my time, my income level and my experience level. So coaches who have a brand, the size of mind, you got to realize I'm the founder of my mentor dot life. So you're not just going there to book me. I found the site. So that's kind of like you going to Facebook and you in the DM with Martin Zuckerberg. You see what I mean? So me coaching is my service to Christ being humble. I'm not even supposed to be doing one on one coaching. Anybody I talk to in the industry, they're like, Tony, you stupid, you still coach, you still one on one access with people. So what you got to realize is 275 hour. When I get on that phone, I'm losing money. I could be writing another book. You see what I mean? So that's what and then what you got to realize I could give a coupon code for a course because that don't take any more of my time. I shot the course. So that's just live there. But when I get on the phone one on one, that's my time that I can't get back. That's time I'm giving away from my family. So I need to make sure that I'm feeding them while I'm taking time away. So hopefully that makes sense to y'all. But it might not everybody. Ah, sin quit. God bless you. God bless you. That's a unique name. How to get over pride when breaking up or moving on from a person. I don't see why I want to get back with the person but feel like I can't let go of the fact of someone getting one up on me or feeling played. Yeah. That's a hard one. That's a hard one. So you really going to have to. You got to change the way you're looking at it because as you've heard not every loss is a loss. So you looking at it like he won up on you when you really should be seeing it as good riddance. I dodged the bullet. So you got to realize that you're not losing anything when you lose a grown boy. You're not losing love. You're not losing a man. You friend yourself up to attract real love. So it's better to be happy that he getting gone than to be worried about it. Olivia God bless you now. I finally got my book. Thanks for everything Tony. Hey bless you. I'm glad you got that book now. T Buckley bless you now. Been kicking it with a guy for two years. I constantly keep telling him he's wasting my time because he's taking too long to make a decision about if he wants a relationship. Do you agree he's playing games. Yeah he playing games but you playing yourself. So that's your time that you're giving. So you know if you can't hand me a hundred dollars and now you can't pay your rent. I don't know you can't pay your rent but if you just handed me a hundred dollars I'm gonna say thank you. But that's you just giving away your rent money. So what you got to realize if you giving him your time and all you keep doing is saying look you wasting my time. But you giving him your time and now you didn't held on for two years. So now you don't want to let go because you didn't gave two years you like what's another 12 months. What's another 12 months before you know it you're gonna be four or five months in and then you're gonna be pregnant with a man who don't want you. So if a man have been with you two years and he still ain't made a move system system. He don't want you. He don't want you. He's not ready for a relationship. So you got to love yourself enough to have your own timeline to move on with your life because he don't care about your time. Cocoa God bless you now. What should a boyfriend be doing in a relationship. I feel like I'm not being courted the way I would like. It's like the relationship isn't going anywhere. You're right. He should be courting you. He should be courting you and dating you. Everything that you know is the opposite of what you're feeling. That's what he should be doing. That's a whole book for me to go through everything but you know what you're supposed to be getting and that ain't what you're getting. Devante God bless you now. Hey Tony I'm supporting you all the way. Is there a difference between a woman being broken and hurt and should a man heal a woman in a relationship. I oftentimes say a man should help heal a woman's heart to have her heart but it's not the man's sole responsibility. And what I mean by helping a woman heal that may mean just not exacerbating the pain meaning not lying to her not deceiving her not cheating on her by being a constant in her life and being reliable and trustworthy and loving you're helping her heal. Now there is a difference between broken and hurt. So a woman who is broken a lot of times she's broken to the place to where she don't want to be fixed. She don't want to be better and she's accepted that as her lifestyle that she's going to be better broken broke busted and disgusted going forward. Men are trash men are dolls and ain't nothing nobody could say you or I that could change her mind. She don't want to hear what the Lord got to say about his raggedy son. She don't want to hear nothing a woman who is hurt. She's hurting but she still has hope. She still wants to heal. It just gonna take time and work. So there is a difference. Miss Diatra God bless you now hello Tony is the coaching certification acceptable in all states. Is there a process for getting started such as background checks or anything. Yes it's accepted in all states because it's not required by states. So coaching is not regulated by the state or by the government. A long time ago I had one client who she opened her office in Dallas after finishing the course and she told her that the business the local business people told her she need to put a certificate on the wall. But that was just because that business person who come in there that's just a layman like you or I and don't realize that coaching is not counseling and that anybody could be a coach or a counselor. No there's no background checks because there's no governing body. So a lot of time people Google and they'll see this company or that company that say hey we are credit courses hey we are credit coaches and it doesn't hold any weight because nobody governs them. So coaching is literally for a passionate people who just want to serve and it's a person's choice if they want to pay you to be a support system and accountability partner because you're not diagnosing them and you're not prescribing medicine. You cannot receive insurance as payments like a therapist so coaching is totally different. What are your thoughts on the effects this 19 situation will have on men and dating. Possible we see more guys growing up and getting serious about marriage after this. No. No. You know a lot of people don't take this serious unless one of their family members than passed away or unless they didn't call it themselves. For a lot of people this just this is a break from work. You know for a lot of people this thing on change men because men out here sleeping around unprotected and they ain't think about HIV and AIDS. So something that have not knocked on their door like the 1980 thing knocked on their door. That's not going. It ain't going to change them unfortunately. What's going to change is when the people get the knowledge when the people change is just like we could go make a law that say a slavery illegal a discrimination segregation illegal. But if the heart of man don't change you still going you still could get killed in the streets. May God rest they soul who lost their life in the streets because of a hateful individual. The laws change but the heart of people didn't change. So see with relationships nothing going to change until the heart of people change when we learn how to love and what love is. That's when it changed situations and circumstances around us not going to change our love relationship. They could change the law that say it's illegal to sleep with somebody before marriage. People still going to be doing it just like they still smoking smoking weed and it's illegal in a lot of places. You said I mean the heart of people got to change. That's why I say I'm a talk to anybody who got ears and willing to listen. And then if you got the knowledge you going to be able to protect yourself and everybody else could be failing. Tiffany God bless you now this guy I'm dating asked me for $40. I said no then he said never mind and sent me a pic of a $50 bill he found in his wallet. I think he's playing games. Should I take this too seriously thoughts. Me personally I'll be gone with that right now. I'll be gone and you grown and if you in high school but even then I'll be gone you know. Hey y'all it's okay for y'all to say hey and how y'all doing and commenting stuff but just understand. If it get deleted it ain't against you they just clearing the chat out so when I go in I can see just the question. So y'all understand that don't get in your feelings I see a couple people got in their feelings. You know when they delete in the thing but they trying to keep the chat clear. So shout out to the moderators who help me because I without the moderators I wouldn't be able to do this. You hear me that's all my why I call back called out tonight because I'm like man this thing is stressful. Trying to do all this reading and then people get mad when I miss somebody question like I'm supposed to be able to see a thousand questions and answer a thousand questions. So I say boy look here is there a code going to come out for the love and relationship group of classes. It might be a cold out for it. It might be a cold out. Send an email to support at TonyGaskins.com. Let me make you a cold right now while I'm on here for Tony Gaskins Academy now this just for the people that's on there. That's on here right now. Okay I'm gonna go on here here and make this here cold for you. Now this cold here. I'm only gonna be able to do 20% off now. Okay. I ain't gonna be able to do. All right. Y'all getting out of hand. He's the one who wants to sleep with me. Beautiful Lena you're gonna have to ask a full question in one box because I ain't gonna be able to do run on questions now. It's not official. Consistent voice frustrations with him not keeping his word on calling me back. Said if it's a burden to communicate then we don't need to be together wrong or right. Whoever said if it's a burden we don't need to be together you right. You right. Now I'm gonna make this coupon cold it's gonna be blessed. Now let me tell you this right here. Ain't no refunds on the coupon code. So take your time get on your computer or your laptop because y'all y'all be costing me too much administrative time not knowing how to put a coupon code in. Or rushing through it if you rush through it and you don't use the coupon code that mean you blessed. Because somebody who is tight on their finances they finna be looking everywhere. You hear me I'm looking at the top bottom left corner up down I'm looking everywhere for where I could hit coupon code. Every drop down arrow I'm clicking it. So account summary you got to click it it'll drop down. Our culture client that's in her 70s. Do you know when she was 30 they didn't have a computer. Probably she in her 70s and she said Tony I use the coupon code for the life code certification. I don't understand how people don't know how to use coupon code. She in her 70s. I say God bless your soul. I say these people they just be trying to cause me. That calls me time money everything. Oh I forgot I'm gonna make the coupon code. I do 30% off. And the code name is let me see if I got this one already taken. Now this only available for one week. So on the 19 this code going to inspire this code name blessed B L E S S E D. Let me see if that's taken. Nope that's taken. Let me find a code and since it's taken. Y'all give a break because see if I don't do it right now ain't gonna get to do it. So I'm gonna go and make this right now. Cartel I think sometimes the church is confused about dating and relationship. God bless you now Cartel for that blessing because my church doesn't know that women are different. They don't want a man who is the gay male girlfriend. Women desire the alpha male. Cartel let me see what you're getting at. I guess that's a statement. Okay. I guess hey you can have it. Hey you got it. I'm not a woman. So I really don't know what that's all about. Okay. So this coupon code is blessed. All right. And it just for one. What is money may just for one week. The code is blessed. Okay. So when you go to get that love and relationship course that you want. It's gonna get you 30% off. All right. Now it's blessed. Now listen if you don't put the code in then thank you. That's a blessing. All right. Don't write me. Oh Tessie God bless you. Now I asked my boyfriend of one year why he never posts a picture of us on Facebook. He said he has to be sure he takes me to church and I am around his family. Is he hiding me from someone on Facebook? Yes he is Tessie. Yes he is. Because Facebook is the world wide web. So with the world wide web what your boyfriend able to do. If you in Louisiana he able to talk to somebody in Florida. He able to talk to somebody in New York. See his high school mates his college mates they the mood of different states. One of them in politics. One of them in medicine. One of them in tech. So he able to connect with them. Hey girl how you doing miss you. Hey man we took that chemistry class together. So he in the DM creating chemistry. And so he trying to see if it's another woman out there for him. And that's why he told you I have to be sure. Now that's one thing that he was honest about when he told you I got to be sure. Now it's been a year. If you don't know at a year. If the woman could be your wife you wasting people time. So me personally if I was you I'd be in the month 13. I'm ready to get on up out of there. Husband cheated a year ago. And I stayed and I stayed together 14 years and says it was because I can't communicate. He come and goes as he pleases and I'm still faithful. He doesn't stay the night at home. I'm lost. You're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching. It's gonna be about time to go. It's gonna be about time to go because it's been 14 years. He cheated a year ago. That means you just caught him a year ago. And then he cheated and then he blamed on you. He could have left. And now he don't stay the night at home. So he done the relationship over. So you might well get half now. You might well put your voice and get the paperwork. And sell that house and put your cash in your bank account. Get on you some spouse support if he make more money than you. But you're gonna need coaching though. Before you make your final decision you're gonna need coaching. If you're redoing coaching I want to become a better mother. She's the gold in my eyes. I admire you both. God bless you now. She probably gonna be doing coaching here soon. But she can't right now because they're doing the at home school. So she be with our six year old all day while he doing his work. And then she really I can't have her coaching at night. I'm already be coaching at night like right now. I can't have a wife coaching at night. Cause you know both of us going like this and like this. You know how when the couples get together and they do the same exact thing. It's two pastors and one on got to preach in New York. One on got to preach in Denver and the kids at home like what's up devil. You know what they say. I don't mind is my mama preaching over here. My dad preaching over there. Hey, let's turn up. And so that's the one thing I always said me and my wife we like a puzzle. So when she doing some I need to be stable. When I'm doing some she need to be stable cause we got kids. And when you have kids and they bought you is by them. So after they get off this home school, she probably start doing sessions. She just might do one a week though. Cause she really ain't she really ain't crazy about it. I do this cause it's my purpose. She really ain't on it like that. Dominique God bless you. I run adult toy business that is just getting off his feet. Will this run off good men? Should I wait to tell them? Okay. Just getting off the ground and getting on his feet. So, okay. Don't talk business. Okay. So you selling dildos cause you adult toys. So you selling dildos. Me personally I really don't know how to feel about that sister. Okay. That what you selling dildos. Oh, I mean, I don't know it gets to depend on the man. You know, if he got like a Jamie Foxx spirit, you know, one of them R and B spirits then he might be into it. If he got a Southern gospel spirit. Well, they being saying to I really don't think that's as big of a deal. I really don't think that's as big of a deal. You know, I don't think that's as big of a deal. Yeah, that's that's that's a deep window. That's a deep one. Now y'all a I see the moderate time and people out now y'all be careful with y'all comments now y'all keep the comments section clean now. Cause somebody give y'all don't don't get in your feelings about this. They just trying to keep this clean so the video don't get taken down by YouTube. So if y'all get out of hand. Okay. And then we have new people that's not part of the family yet, but they done been invited to the cookout. So they in here trying to see if the family ghetto. So y'all be all right. But your sister went with you selling them dildos. I really that's gonna have to be trial and error on you because me personally I never dated a woman that's into that business. Now I do remember one of the housewives was selling dildos and I was talking to her and she was talking about pastors wives buying her toys. And somebody in that organization asked because they bring them to my love and relationships seminars. And I said no, I don't condone that. I don't condone that because they, you know, all that plan with self and all that. I really don't condone that because you change in your body chemistry and you getting used to this artificial. So then when you get the real, you might not even appreciate the real cause the real not going to be as focused and centered and got no battery in it. They're gonna vibrate like that. So you could be messing up yourself. And then you also what you thinking about. You ain't thinking about a cloud. So if you picture in a man or you thinking about a man, now you in lust. And if you get in a relationship and you still dealing with lust, then you mess up your relationship and then you get into it. Then the man get into it. It's Pandora's box. So I really don't condone all that but to each their own. I ain't judging. Actually, God bless you now talking to a guy for two weeks. A lot of texting good combo. No phone calls after meeting in person less combo. I feel like I'm initiating text and combo says he's excited for our future lack of communication says different. You're right. You're right. If a man ain't communicating, he don't want it. He he's juggling multiple women or multiple things. He could be he's he's not into you enough if he's not communicating. See, when a man into you, he gonna be calling you often as he can. Literally, when a man is into you, you getting you getting hit up two, three times a day by phone and he want to FaceTime because he want to look in your face. Anything less than that kind of overly overt energy. That just show you where his interest level is at. AC God bless you now. Hello, I have a question. What if your boyfriend breaks up with you but do stay in the same household as he follows you where you go places, but he doesn't want you where you supposedly act like he doesn't want you. Okay. Yeah, you type in that. Okay. I get what you're saying. I actually don't get what you're saying. Now I'm going to tell you this though. One thing I see right here. If your boyfriend break up with you, y'all need to get out the house. Y'all got to get out the house. Okay. You'll never stay with no man that I'm broke up with you. And then he break up with you, but then he following you where you going and he still want to act like y'all together and how I say so in your life. No, if you break up with me, go on about your business. Don't tell me nothing. Don't say nothing to me. I'm going over here a day and I'm doing what I got to do till I get out there ragged at least. As soon as I can get out there ragged at least, you don't have to worry about seeing me. But if I'm stuck in here under ragged at least and we ain't together, don't worry about what I'm doing. Playboy. So you can't give a man or a woman no say so in your life if y'all not together. Point blank period. Ling God bless you. Now I married six years in June and husband is emotionally unavailable. He isn't pursuing learning how to communicate and I'm tired. I've recommended people for him still no moves on his end. What to do? Husband, you're going to have to do coaching, but it's sounding like you're going to have to leave. And what I say, what I mean by leave. And this is why I was trying to tell y'all about the post I posted yesterday. That some people didn't understand when I say you got to be willing to lose them in order to keep them. So if he's not growing and he's not doing nothing, but you still talking to him, you still trying to build with him, you still trying to pry and press. You reinforcing that behavior. But if he's not trying to grow and he's not getting better, if you get up and you remove yourself. Now he say like, let's say you go stay with your mama house at your mama house. Now wear your mask because we still in the midst of the 19 and if your mama above age or whoever house, you know, let's say you go over there and you stay. He think you gone for good because you didn't tell him I'm taking a three day break, 14 day break, seven day break. So now he start to process what maybe has ran you off. And then he realized he complacent and he's not growing. Then he may come back and try to do everything to get it right. And that's when you can entertain it one last time to see if you needed that little shake up that little wake up call. But when you stay, your presence sanctions the environment, you reinforce the behavior. So at least one time in every relationship, somebody may have to somebody may have to when I say step out. Now I ain't talking about cheap meaning you may have to get some distance so that you can think and process so that they can think of process. But this is the key. This is not a pattern. You don't break up the makeup multiple times. This really something that you trying to do one time and this when you on your last leg and this last ditch effort before the divorce proceedings to where you step out, you create this distance, you go stay somewhere else. The CF is going to get the brain to turn to say, okay, do we really want this thing? Ashley, God bless you. Now what does it mean if you are in a if you are in strong light for a guy, but he doesn't approach. Okay, strong like you really like him, but he doesn't approach. I'm afraid to approach him because I don't want to come off as thirsty. What you think Tony? Oh, you're right. You can't approach him. You can't approach him. And what you got to realize if a man don't approach you, it means one or two things. He don't want you or he's taken. That's all. That's it. He don't want you or he's taken. Now, he don't want you could mean he like men's or you not his his fees. The other one is he's taken. He's taken because he this what you got to realize. I'm married. Okay. Some men got fat fingers. So they don't where they rain. Now, see if I take my ring off, you're going to see a little light skin up under there. So, but we ain't got light no more. So, but I wear my ring all the time all day. I guess I'm thinking of lost a little weight because it's a little loose on me. So, if I ain't got no rain on or you don't see the rain, you don't know that I'm taking. I could be seeing you looking at you. Lusting. You're looking at me. Lusting. And you wonder, well, why he ain't approaching. He could be married. He could be in a whole relationship. And you just don't know that because he don't have on rain. But he could be dating a woman engaged to a woman just don't have on rain. So understand that if a man want you, he going to approach you. Marcel God bless you now. Narciss the ex-boyfriend trying to ruin my life when he's the one who did me wrong and cheated three times keeps texting off random numbers after blocking. Now what? He's ruining my reputation. What you got to realize is a person can't really ruin your reputation because nobody don't respect the rat. Nobody don't respect the person who's spreading bad news. Anytime somebody come spreading bad news, everybody got enough sense to say and what you did because everybody know how people do, how the guilty person does. The guilty purge want to spread spread all the bad news. So then they looking at him like, bro, I know you. I know you. I know you ain't innocent. You see what I mean? So they already know. So you just have to go beyond live your life. Move on. Don't give him that power. Does a male having no say so in your life still stand if you have a child in common? Baby daddy is still worried about my life and what I'm doing with my body slash time. I'm moving on to be better regardless. You're right. He don't have no say so in your life. It don't matter if y'all got 10 kids. He can talk about kids because they his kids, but you're not his child. So he'll get to tell you what you can and can't do. And he don't need to know what you're doing. Starfish got that she can't spoil mama's boy. X player change anything is possible with God. But when all that right there is going to be hard. So yeah, he could change if he want to change. But if he don't want to change, then no. Should I be understanding to a man who tells me, hold on, let me get somebody else here. I haven't seen her face in a two time. Tony, I completed the course and completed my profile on the site. I don't see my profile listed with the site with the other coaches. What am I doing wrong? It's not visible on the site. Kathy, email info at my mentor dot life. Unlike you was told in the email, I responded to your email today. Check email, email info at my mentor dot life. And then the tech support could walk you through it. Because what it probably is, is you didn't hit publish or you didn't finish it or you didn't finish it in one go. So I saw your email today and responded to you and said email info. I will work in the support email today. Yeah, I do customer service because I like to see how people are writing in with their little attitudes. So yeah, email info at my mentor dot life and one of the support members will help you with that right there. Melissa, God bless you now. I joined the bless tribe tonight. I've been watching your videos and live streams for about two months. The wisdom and advice you give raised my self-esteem and gave me the strength to leave an abusive relationship and not return. God bless you. Melissa bless you. Bless you. Thank you right there for that support. Thank you. And I'm glad you joined the bless tribe and I hope the members, you know, make you feel welcome. God bless you now. Even though when they put welcome, they're going to get deleted out of the chat, but just know that they meant it. God bless you now. Annie K bless you. What if you're the number you're the one who acted crazy a bit? Should you put forth effort and call him or let it go? He used to call me a lot, but I think I might have ran him away. I did apologize. We are in friendship stages, but like each other, let it go. Let it go. If you push a man away, let him go on by the business. You don't want to bring back no resentful man that hurt that you didn't hurt and all of that. So, so let him go. Amanda bless you now. Relationship almost a year. I feel like he uses me. When I need someone to talk to he communicate now. Amanda, God bless you now. I just seen that love of that blessing that you sent in them Amanda bless you now. Relationship almost a year. I feel like he uses me when I need someone to talk to he communicates one or two words and is back to his issues. I give and give and he doesn't. He says on his wife yet loves yet likes other women's pics all the time. I'm tired. I'm fed up. Relationship almost a year. That means it's time to go. If this only been a year and you already tired and you already fed up and you don't feel appreciated, respected. You don't feel that the love is reciprocated. It's time to go. Go on by your business. Move on with your life. That year is that trial period where you could see what the pace is like. Do you got the pace at that year point to finish that marathon? If you already tired and broke down in mile one, how you going to get through 26? So that lets you know if the relationship is there and it's almost a year, it's already done. Like that year should be so much bliss and fun and happiness. It should feel like a honeymoon stage. If it don't feel like that, it's already done. Marcel, God bless you. Well, how do I get him to leave me alone completely? He's reaching out to my friends, DMs that he knows are my friends to hurt me because I'm ignoring him. Marcel, you're going to need a coaching session. You're going to need a coaching session. When you got to ask two questions, you need a coaching session. And I also don't fully remember your first question. Y'all got to remember I'm answering so many questions. I don't get to register people exact name. I remember pictures, but I don't remember names. And I saw the sister say I saw her picture. I thought I already answered her question earlier. So if I answer your question, put it back in there. If I already answered a question from you, you get one question. Let other people ask a question. Don't keep asking questions because it's not a one on one session. Y'all see, it's a lot of people trying to get a question in here. So be mindful of other people and don't make this your one on one session. And I really appreciate that now. So we could be fair to everybody. LT, God bless you. Thank you for your videos. You helped me a lot. God bless you and keep up the good work. Much aloha to you and your family. God bless you now. Asia, bless you. Notice when you call a man and call a man out and hold him accountable, it turns them off and they act like you don't have a right to voice when something is a deal breaker for you. That just mean, but you still got to hold him accountable. And if he get mad, let him scratch your booty and get glad. But don't bite your tongue for nobody. Anytime you see something, you speak up, you call it out. But it just mean, just butt hurt. It just like when you catch a kid in the wrong and they start crying. They just butt hurt. That's all it is. Anderson, God bless you now. I've been divorced for six years. I chose not to date to get myself together. My first relationship only lasted five month relationship. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, where the guy changed on me. It's not something that you did wrong. You actually married. So you know, I really did it right. You know, I really got married. It just didn't work out. Now you've been divorced six years and you chose to get yourself right. You got in a relationship. It lasts five months. Honestly, that's the reality of the world. It's just new to you, but that's the reality of the world. So, so the key is in the future, get it over within three months. Recognize the sign. Know what you're looking for. Know what's out there to get it out the way in three months. So you don't have to waste five months every clip. You'll be done with a guy in a month, two months, three months, because you got to go through them toes before you get to Prince Charming. Keyondra, God bless you now. I hate Tony. I have a mean soul tie with my ex-boyfriend. I sit around all day long daydreaming about him. Do you have any advice for helping me move on? The best thing for you is take the soul ties course. I made it only $5. It's a $5 course. I made it $5 during this situation we in since everybody at home, and I feel like the number one thing people need to be doing is breaking soul ties. So make sure you visit TonyGasenacademy.com just because it's deep and it goes into all the different steps. And I don't want to teach you right here and I don't want to be talking on something that deep for that long. But it's a deep course that you can watch over and over. Starfish, God bless you now. It's your second and third time in here now. If you catch boyfriend flirting in the DMs within the first six months and he has also been disrespectful in front of other small lives, should it be done 100%? Absolutely. Absolutely. Faith first, bless you now. Tony, for your single female subscribers, you spoke about how to attract the man. But for those of us in a relationship, can you talk a little bit about how to keep that attraction with a man? You can't really keep a man attracted. The man has to want to be attracted. All you can do as a woman is just do your best, do what you know how to do. So I can't tell a woman in a relationship, hey, slide down a pole, nah, hey, you need to learn how to twerk. Nah, take a twerking class, hey, you need to take that pole dancing class. It ain't all of that. Most women, you're going to come in a relationship and you're going to put on 40, 50 pounds. Especially if you have a child, you might put on 40, 50 pounds from the time you met him to 10 years into that relationship. So what's going to keep them? It got to be love. You might go through adult acne. You might have a breakout. You might have some type of reaction. I don't see any at all living with my wife, what women go through and the changes of the body, the hormone changes. If a man based on your acrobatics or your looks, he going to fall out of love. So it has to be him wanting to be in love. And so here's the thing, you just can't do the toxic thing like cursing him out, yelling at him, belittling him, talking down to him, all of those things. You can't do all of that. But if you loving and you caring and you trying to do right by him, then that's all you could do. True Jazz, bless you. Now thank you so much Tony for your services. I almost missed that one. That was in the chat. I don't know what that kind of is that you put in there. I don't know if that's called a sticker or a super chat. I don't know. Jennifer Rose almost missed yours too. Thank you for feeding our faith. Hey God bless you now. Okay, I see I have to go through this chat and scroll. Let's try. Hey Tony, how can I effectively raise my daughters when their father doesn't have the same Christian moral slash values I have. I teach them one thing, but he's more worldly minded. It's not about what you teaching them. It ain't just about what you saying. It's about what you doing. So if the way you believe, you believe that it's the way, guess what? They ought to be able to see it in you. So if I'm teaching my sons about Christ and somebody teaching them about another belief system or a worldly way, they're going to look at what I do. If they see me with a peace, if they see me with a joy, if they see me with a happiness, if they see me abundant and grateful, then they're going to say whatever you got, that's what I want. So you could be talking, talking, talking, but a child going to do what you do, not what you say do. So understand that. As long as you the example, they'll be all right. W-O-F-A-F. Hello Tony, I've listened to you and trying to change my dating perspective. Day date. If the guy drives and pays for breakfast and the woman offers to pay for lunch and he allows her red flag, no that's not a red flag. They're just a man who's comfortable with his masculinity and he paid, then you paid. That's a relationship. You know it goes both ways. Now if he didn't offer to pay at all and he expected you to pay or he didn't offer to pay and you offered to pay and he let you pay for breakfast and then he let you pay for lunch, now you got a red flag. But he paid, then you paid. What men looking for today in this day and age because this not 1950, women are educated, women making more money, women have rights. Back in the day, a lot of people always talk about the chivalry that was back in the day. That wasn't really chivalry because women didn't have no rights. Women couldn't vote, women couldn't stand up in the church and talk, women couldn't be a pastor. So it's like the least he could do to pay all the bill. But today women being empowered, being uplifted. So what men are saying, hey, since you're empowered, since you uplifted, I want to court you, I want to be a blessing to you. But if you want to offer to do something, I don't want to shove it down your throat and push it away because this could be a part of you feeling like you're contributing to the relationship. If you love that, he just won't allow it all the time. He'll let it be an equal reciprocation. And he'll say like, oh no, breakfast was only $10, this right here is $30. I got this. Or let me pay the bulk of this and then if you want to throw in the tip, okay, cool. Now he's not just going to lay down and let you do everything, but he also going to allow you mind game to look like you want to help. But really, you don't want to help and then you get offended if he let you help because your car about to get overdrive fee because you just were faking the phone. So do it from a genuine place because if you're going to be offended and see it as a red flag, if he let you pay, then you shouldn't ask in the first place. So understand that. Oh, God bless you now. I've been talking to a guy online every day and he hasn't asked for my number yet. It's been almost three months of DM. Seems like he's just bored and vice. He got a woman. He got a woman. He don't want you. You wasting your time. You're a social media wife. You wasting your time. Move on with your life, sister. Melanie Butterfly. God bless you now. Dating for seven months, he is now acting distant. I did seven day no contact then checked him on how he's acting. I asked him, should I continue to put my energy into you and I? His response was, it's whatever I want to do. Thoughts, he don't want you. And you're doing too much, sister. You're doing too much. So y'all dating seven months, you hit him with a seven day no contact. That's seven days. That's for marriage. Dating seven months a one day no contact. Three days at the max. But when you already got to pull that out of the bag in seven months of dating, it's already done. And then when you ask a man, you don't ask a man what he want. You don't ask a man, do you want me to keep putting my energy? No, you read his actions. His actions tell you what he want. His actions tell you if he want you to put his energy in there. When you put that out there, now you coming off desperate. See, listen. When you go in on a relationship, you got to be like Helen Keller. You feeling any about what you hear, what he telling you, any about what he showing you because he could be faking the phone. It's what your heart feels, your discretion, your wisdom, your woman's intuition. That's going to let you know what's real on KMG God Bless. I'm 55 years old. Does the same timeframe apply for dating, sleeping together and marriage? Yes, because you don't need to take no longer, but that don't mean you need to speed it up. Just because you 55. Just because you 55 don't mean okay, the young girl got to wait until this amount of time a year. So I could jump in there in three months because I'm 55. No. If it ain't happen, it ain't happen, but you can't be efficient and effective with humans. That's what you do with cattle. That's what you do with robots and machines. With humans, fast is slow. So you still got to take your time, regardless if you're 70 years old. You still got to take your time because you rush in there, boom. Boom, you're on your bike, boom. HIV still could be called at 55. The same way HIV could be at 20, it could be called at 55. Air STD. You see what I mean? So you still got to do the same due diligence because this is your heart on the line. This is your life on the line. You still got to get bunded nephew trying to follow in Uncle Footsteps. You see what I mean? Michelle, God bless you now. Felling in love with a preacher. Sure he was the one. Salt God missed all the red flags, broke my heart, ghosted. God healed me by writing a book. Did I miss hearing God or was this part of the plan? Yeah, you miss heard God because God is not so God already know he won't work for nothing. So God ain't going to tell you to go because the Bible say God tempts no man. So what that mean? God ain't going to set you up for failure. God gives gifts and adds no sorrow. So says the Bible. So what you got to realize is a lot of time we put words in God's mouth. We pray and we answer our own prayer with what we want with our desperation, with our frustration, with our anxiety. We answer the prayer for God and say, yeah, my spirit told me God told me this is my heaven. And God looking at you like I didn't say that. That's what you said because what God say going to be backed up in the word. So God do things decent and in order. So if the word don't back up what you thought you heard if it ain't decent and in order if it's got confusion in it that ain't God doing. You see what I'm saying? That's why you got to know the word in order to know if you really hearing God. Lovely. God bless you. Now Tony, prevention is better than the cure. What are your top tips for newlyweds? It's a whole lot of tips though. So what you're going to have to do is read make it work. I don't be trying to sell y'all nothing but what I'm saying is some stuff just so deep that I just don't have the time on here to go into it. So this right here ain't going to hurt you. It ain't going to cost you like that. This right here what y'all need to go through as newlyweds make it work because this right here based on a happy, healthy, successful, what I call perfect relationship. If y'all can read this and get this in your spirit y'all going to be alright because it's going to take you through communication it's going to take you through having friends or the opposite sex it's going to take you through keeping your business out the streets. It's going to walk you through everything. I think it's 22 chapters in there try to keep it hot all that in there. Okay, I saw this one that disappeared. NHB Beauty Zone our friends zone guys a lot and act like the friend or the sis. How can I change my energy and stop seeing them as friends when they may see it differently? Since I really don't I really don't know. I really don't know because you a woman. So what I really specialize in is answering questions about men because a woman all the hormones and stuff that y'all deal with and a monthly visiting every month your little friend I really don't know what it does to the mind to the body. So since I really what I believe about a woman though is if you friends on a man that just means something in your spirit ain't sitting right that's what I would call a woman's intuition trying to protect you and every man going to see it differently because every man will sleep with a so-called friend. So that don't mean nothing you know for a man. So you know understand that. Melissa bless you now. Michelle Wild God bless you now God bless you Michelle poor and unliked now bless you bless you let me see let me make sure I ain't miss nothing I hope now Amanda okay I see Amanda Michelle okay shout out to the moderator they trying to keep the chat clear for me now so when y'all see them deletions what a man and a K God bless you what a man answer your call if he didn't want to talk yeah he might he might just to let you know he didn't want to talk Brie a guy like cut him off inconsistent now he says he asked to hang out after 19 and wants to show me he cares about me because he says he really wants to get to know me is he lying um yeah he lying because you had to cut him off already and he lying uh your call be Blake bless you now send a message a long time ago how to work this appreciate all of your feedback and info shared a lot maybe another time God bless you now the message you send a long time ago you could have put right there and because I've seen that one now let me make sure met a guy three months ago been talking one hour daily since we live six hours drive apart says fallen in love with me and is planning on making me his wife how soon is too soon for it to be a red flag uh it's been three months and y'all talk an hour a day it's a bit it's a bit early for him to be saying that but it's either he knows that he knows that he your husband or he crazy it's one it's one of the other but it could be on one end of the spectrum of the other so you gonna have to take your time and you gonna have to look at the other factors does he have a place to stay does he have a car does he have citizenship does he have a job does he bring a table to your table or is he coming to your table with a fork and an appetite that's that's how you determine if it's game or not have y'all slept together if y'all um haven't slept together okay don't sleep together now here's the thing a man who hollered by being your husband at three months in that six hour drive shouldn't be too much for him to make cause a man will fly six hours you hear me to for his wife a man a man a six hour he'll eat that six hour drive up if he really feel like you his wife um crystal god blessing now crystal nine now you might want to update that profile picture cause from where I'm looking at there's a lot of some booty cheats but I know it's probably like one of them reflection things but we're only looking at pretty black when booking a session how do you know if they have the same time as your state it shows you in your time zone so you know just whatever time it show you that's your time zone when a man says he doesn't believe in love and always replies I love you with love yourself love yourself what does that really mean that you need to run that you need to run that man stop crazy give me you get in relation with that man you need to run ooh what are the signs a man settled on marrying a certain woman when he go to cheating when he go to cheating and he he wasn't really ready to be married getting in all kind of affairs ay y'all I'm getting ready to go I'm getting ready to go my body a little tired I did an hour and a half last night my wife bought me a new TV it was on sale so it was my father's day guilt but I got it early cause it was on sale had to catch that sale so I'm trying to get out there and sit in front of that TV I got to go shower first so I got to get ready to go crystal god I'm 40 and single I never had a man to myself ever I'm so tired of being alone never thought my life would be this empty what do I do from here I don't want to spend the rest of my life lonely now you need to start your journal that sound like a journal entry I'll just read for one but crystal at 40 it's time to kick it in high gear it's time for you to get on my mentor dot life and start working with you a love relationship coach or a coach for singles because it's some tweaks and some things some changes you can make it's just like if you looking for a job what do you do you hire career consultant they tell you this how you dress on your interview this how you answer these certain questions at this point if you never had a man and you 40 that mean that it's some knowledge that you could gain it's some knowledge that you could be getting it could be one or two things that you need to change just like with a golf swing you hit that ball just this much in a different place and it could change the trajectory 30 meters and so you got to understand just one little change that somebody on the outside looking in because we don't have to gift to see ourselves through the eyes of others so understand that is it okay to keep gifts from an ex such as clothes shoes bags and being a new relationship and wear it with the new guy or is it not a big deal if he doesn't make it what's he just the thing if those clothes are a soul tie and it keep you attached and when you wear them clothes you think about your ex and you miss your ex or you get a stomach ache or you get a headache or you you could feel your ex in those clothes then you need to get rid of that stuff if you absolutely feel nothing which I doubt because you gonna think about it I did that for a while where I take him I'm putting on a shirt that an ex bought me and I'm in a new relationship and when I put that shirt on it make me think about that ex and I'm looking at a new relationship and I'm like this person don't even know that I'm wearing this shirt and somebody else bought this and so you ought to get rid of that stuff just because you want to break everything let go of everything that keep you tied to that person so you know getting a hoarder you know you got to have an abundant mindset you let that little bit of stuff go so you can receive a whole lot more but you holding on to that little stuff you holding on to that person you holding on to that relationship so understand that doesn't matter better days God bless you Tony how does a man truly fall in love since most men don't even operate on love but rather respect and the need for intimacy well see respect is love to a man fall in respect he falling in love so you got to understand a man see that the same respect is love and a man going to fall in love once he start loving himself and he understand his creator and his purpose that's when he started tapping to his love hey now y'all I'm getting ready to go now y'all y'all I don't want nobody to waste a blessing now so I'm trying to get through these here and y'all keep hitting me across the head with him now let me see queen v v God bless you now I've been dating my boyfriend for one year okay that means decision time he's 28 and lives with grandma and is spoiled is he too old he is really into me but I'm afraid he's not a provider I believe in him because he's a man of God he is getting too old he is getting too old so you got to see it now you say he's spoiled you so that's not good if you 28 living off somebody else and you spoil that's not a good combination if you say he's 28 living with a grandma but he works 40 to 60 hours a week very ambitious great with his money saving his money stacking it up because he getting ready to get his own place when he get in a committed relationship now that's totally different but when you say living with a grandma and he's spoiled and he's 28 now you running into some issues so you got to look at the other factors in his thing um crystal God bless you love what you do a lot of women truly have stopped focusing on finding a man truly have to stop okay she telling y'all what y'all need to do a lot of women truly have to stop focusing on finding a man and focus on finding themselves some of these questions are from broken women who need to heal speak on it well that's all we doing is speaking on it and hopefully in the midst of answering these questions people gonna realize where they need to work at but what it sound like crystal is you tired of hearing these questions and the reason why you tired of hearing these questions I hope this help everybody else understand what I got what I go through what I'm called to you tired of hearing this you tired of hearing these women because you not called to this so I'm called to this so that's why I answer the same question over and over and over because it could be my answer or my reasoning that help that broken woman heal but I can't just say hey you broken go heal by yourself so it's either get coaching read a book ask you a question on heal and then start that healing Andrea God bless you not you give game I haven't received from my brothers I truly appreciate you your videos are helping me avoid and ignore grown boy I recently dealt with thanks Andrea God bless you now Andrea forgive me if I'm saying it wrong now but God bless you LaShawn with all the serious 19 going on would you suggest face to face dating working on self not ready but curious you know I wouldn't suggest face to face dating at all this is a good time to FaceTime date not online dating but somebody you dating get on FaceTime with them because that way if they cough they giving a phone COVID not you but you go to dating somebody and you going y'all go to hug and they go cough on you and you are asthmatic so no nothing in person how should a woman respond after not showing initial interest in a man when he approached but later change your mind you can address this in another video I'm here for it you kind of out of luck on that one sister you turn a man down you ignore a man and then later you want to change your mind you can give you something to change your mind 9 times out of 10 he coming with a vengeance how do you differentiate between a grown boy and a guy and a guy you have to teach how to treat you I know Mr. Wright won't be ready made upon meeting him well see a grown boy don't want to grow a grown boy could hear you say hey don't talk to me like that and he going to keep talking to you like that a grown man just may not know how to treat you just may not know everything that you need because he was not raised to be a husband but he got a good heart and he could learn how to do right so you got to understand it's a difference between a grown boy and a man that you teach how to love you because you teach women how to be your friend you had a friend who didn't call you back when you called her or you was there for her whenever she needed you but then she wasn't there for you and you had to check her and say you know it's really not fair that when you need me you expect me to answer in a heartbeat but when I need you you have to start to be found so you got to your dog how to treat you you teach your girlfriend how to treat you you teach her boyfriend how to treat you you teach your school teacher how to treat you you teach your boss how to treat you you teach people how to treat you by what you stop what you allow and what you reinforce and nobody in any capacity of your life is going to come in your life and be perfect everybody going to do something that humans are selfish by nature and a lady wanting to get loud in the comments today is talking about the fact that she's saying that this is human nature is making an excuse for people and I respond to her everybody human and everybody gonna make mistakes in the story. So it don't matter what you say you're gonna have to teach somebody something. Point blank period let me see jlc God bless you here you go answer 500 times if you want to shoot and I need it a God bless you jlc God bless you send me that bless you say keep answering the e-question. Wild flavors and essence okay hold on to that name ain't you talk to you about like about that name last night. Thank you for all your wisdom and knowledge this is for you and your family you give us wisdom here's some for you peppermint tea will help you lift your spirit and you can lift these leaves will help relax God bless be black a bless you now bless you now wild flavors and essence so that's what that name mean wild flavors and essence peppermint tea and you can lift this leave hey I'm out of hit me some of that peppermint tea Terra King read my picture I can't really read your picture on here sister cuz it's real small but you know from what I could see right here it looked like you have on a weed or a lace front and so I don't know if that's your real hair on there now so that's what I'm saying about these small pictures it could give it could send the wrong message and so if that's a wig or lace front and I could tell it that ain't a good thing now if that's your just that's your how then that could be a compliment but the way the picture angle it looked like the wig sitting up too high on on the braids on the tracks up on it but it's cuz your head tilted you see what I mean so it's hard with these little pictures to get them right and that's why most men they can't read a picture anyways so what y'all get from me another man might look at it and he just sees a set of legs you see what I mean so it really don't matter that much miss lowkey God bless you now I feel like the more knowledge and wisdom I get the longer I'm going to be single true I'm such a fan can I get a code for the entrepreneurship course the entrepreneurship course if you on the mailing list or you got to do a click the link or you got to do a click the link and I think the code for that is May 2020 May 2020 now hold on now somebody sent a moderator's y'all could take a break moderator y'all ain't got delete no more message of moderators y'all y'all could take a break thank y'all so much for your help we didn't come down to the end of the wire you ain't got delete now Annie K not in it gonna keep on and it gonna to all of me to do and he hit with it and it say you know what somebody gave fifth at all I'm fitting hit them with two dollars and get me 25 questions in there and over there tan me up right and are you okay are you okay and he I'm like my good and how many questions you got in here and and it say do men get offended if you don't call them often no men do not get offended not a real man because he called in you he expect to initiate so not real man ain't gonna be offended by that because he calling you he know you the woman he know he got a court you pursue you some of God bless you now Tony you said a man who loves you will love you through thin and thick but you also said most men don't fall in love until two to five years into marriage so if hardship happens early on what would make a man even stay ain't nothing gonna make him stay till he fall in love but you when he fall in love not to thin and thick mean through broken broker then and thick don't mean you cheating on him okay so understand what then and thick mean I didn't think don't mean you cheat on him okay so yeah if stuff happened and see hardship don't mean finances and all that when a man leave you it's because you cheat you disrespect for you a masculine him it's things of that nature things of that nature that's what gonna make him leave but yeah and see if man might not fall in love for two years but he know he got the potential to love you so he may love you but not be in love and that'll give him the strength to keep going on Bridget manual God bless you now y'all see how the moderators they love and support I told them a y'all ain't got to delete no more messages they start to leave y'all so they just do that to help me you know when I need to keep the chat clear but we coming on down to the wire so I told them they could relax and enjoy cuz y'all got to realize with these moderators they don't even get to enjoy the the live because they got to be reading everybody comment to see who going off to see who got to get blocked see who got to get put in time out so to all the moderator God bless y'all thank y'all so much for your support these people do this for free they don't work in my company in my organization they supporters that just decided that they want to support and they be there and I keep seeing them all the time so I made a moderator's on the chat so God bless y'all moderator Bridget manual God bless you now thank you for that bless I don't know if you meant to put a question with that now hold on I got to get this Canadian five all of cuz they'll they'll throw that right on out of YouTube kick that fire right on out of there I'm from Canada and only want to be coached by you Tony when converted it's about $400 a session is there any way to I can get a discount well I tell you this Jay uh no you probably was late on here when I answered this earlier the rate that I charge for coaching it's already a discount my income is far beyond that so I'm discount my rate to connect with some people a week but I can't discount it anymore cuz it's already discounted the other thing is that sometimes it just mean that you got to keep on working to get the way you want to be you see what I mean so it might be another coach that they charge less but they just as good as me but they just starting in a coaching they have more time they have more freedom they don't have a wife and two kids so start there get some help they might help you you start to say you start to work then you get to the place to where okay now you can afford this session or that session it's culture that charge twice what I charge and only been coaching half the time and the other thing what we got to realize is we never walk in the Louis Vuitton and say hey can y'all give me a discount on the hill Louis Vuitton Louis Vuitton say no this our price come on in here when you ready but we can't get no discount cuz this the brand you should I mean so I'm already discounted as much as I could discount cuz I'm supposed to be by market industry charge a 500 an hour and there's some people who hire me and they say whoa I didn't realize it will be so cheap I thought it was gonna be more so I remember hearing a pastor say to me one time he said it ain't expensive you just can't afford it I said oh well excuse me all right okay so it just mean that take some time keep going keep you know keep working and then eventually we'll be able to meet but that just mean that we're not in the same spirit right yet and that don't mean nothing negative it just mean that you know it steps before that cuz I don't been out here you know doing this 13 years Michelle God bless you now I'm currently going through a divorce my husband wants us to try again after the divorce how do you feel about this I be gone I be gone Michelle I'd be like listen listen playboy you had all this time to get this right you know you had all this time to get this right this whole marriage so now you want me to divorce you when I could be free and then want me to come back to try it again no playboy you should have got this right the first time around I be gone a special vibration God bless the cousin gets married next month she wants to know if she should tell him she got breast implants before marriage or not at all he doesn't know your cousin don't know he might know more than she think he know and he might not care but listen it now that don't mean nothing it a man ain't gonna leave her for breast implants now if she want to go tell him oh yes I meant to tell you I was a man now I got a vajay but I used to have a D now if she went in there like that like Caitlyn Jenner then the marriage could be off but breast implants that he don't care about that okay that's your body all right do what you want to do with your body I hope you don't get no cysts in there I hope it on capsulize and you pass out God bless you you got to deal with whatever come with it but it's different if she had a transition in her Jenna tell you but just breasting implants he did a man ain't worried about that long he had to pay for it too he could he could not care less faithful servant God bless you what makes a man go from loving their wife to being in love with their wife is there a switch that occurs as a woman I'm trying to understand since we experienced love earlier on in marriage faithful servant God bless you now that might be the eighth wonder of the world or it might be the ninth wonder of the world meaning wondering not that it's a wonder to behold but wondering about it now what you got to understand is as women y'all ask very deep questions and it's certain things that to be honest with you only God gonna be able to answer to be honest with you so you know to be on for me personally when I went from when I went from love to in love it was when I fell in love with God and I fell in love with my purpose that's what it was for me I don't really feel like it's something that time does because just like a lady said earlier her husband cheated and they've been married 14 years been together 14 years and he cheated last year I don't think it's something that time does I don't think it's something that a woman can do I don't I don't think it's that I think that what it comes down to is when it is on that man when he says you know what I'm ready to grow and to love I'm ready when he feels empty just chasing waterfalls now I really don't know what chasing waterfalls mean but it sound good and they said don't go chasing waterfalls but I really don't know what that mean but when he's done chasing waterfalls then that's when he's ready to fall in love and I'm guessing you know just chasing legs and I see okay I see I'm shy and introverted and I think that holds me back in dating hey y'all I got nine more minutes I got to go for for real now and nine minutes I got to go I'm shy introverted and I think that holds me back in dating can you please give me some advice I don't know if you're a man or a woman so the advice will be different if you're a man or a woman I will assume you're a woman because that's 94% of my YouTube audience um so it's nothing wrong with being shy and introverted male or female but it's actually a good thing and it don't hold you back because it makes a person dig deeper it makes a person get to know you more a man is pursuing the woman and it's better for you to be quiet then for you to be loud because the more quiet you are the more you pick up on the more you learn the more you gather you're observing the louder you are more talkative you are that actually works against you because the loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room because you tell all your business so the women who like to talk too much they tell all their business so not a man have her whole script and he know what role to play you see what I mean so understand that right there so it's nothing wrong with being introverted it don't hold you back that's your mind is holding you back because you think being introverted holds you back that's that's your mind um serita god bless you now bless you just wanted to give no question hey thank you when I get to read something like that it did give me a little moment to breathe bridge it god bless you Tony I need counseling because my story is too deep to text but I'm generally please help well sign up for counseling sign up for counseling says you know you can start with coaching on my mentor dot life the the link should be in the description of this video on my mentor dot life we actually got therapists on there who are coaches now they call so now see if y'all talk about me we got a coach on the home page her rate is five hundred dollars an hour okay she's not necessarily more accomplished or more experienced than me but she say I'm five hundred dollars an hour and I ain't gonna tell her to change it I'm like hey you got to charge what what your value that you're giving right now I'm 275 that's what I feel like I'm at I'm very comfortable being single I want a relationship one day but can't really see it because I'm content being single haven't liked anyone in years and haven't dated since my divorce four years ago advice stay single stay single both ladies asked to bella and mama tish what's the cash out stay single because when a relationship ready for you is gonna come to you I got six more minutes now my body breaking down why do men try to create a scarcity mindset of good men to you after you leave them exactly what you thinking because he wants you to come back he wants you to come back he is called coercion by fear about the gear attack and say what do men think about quiet women the quieter the better everybody love quiet people because you don't have to deal with as many personality issues so when a person quiet ain't really much wrong they could do when the person talk too much that's when there's a whole lot of wrong they could do because when a person talk too much y'all ain't tell them old light bulb was in the video and when a person talk too much that's when they offend you that's when they you know could be offensive that's when they could be annoying that's when they get on your nerves but a quiet person ain't nobody really got no issues with a quiet person Veronica God bless you how do you deal with racism I had a bad experience today um I really don't deal with racism in a like a real way but if I feel it I address it I address it straight up you know right there to him man came to my house today and gave me a price for some 750 dollars I said do you have that price listed somewhere where I could look at it and that you just ain't coming in here and just because you see my house and you see the neighborhood and you just gonna jack up the price because you think I play sports a man come to my house he think I play sports I'm an author hey what you do play ball so you so a black man got to play ball to live out here I say I'm an author I could barely say author the right way I am an author so what you do play sports sir he don't get out my house ask me do I play sports just because just because you see somebody living in a decent house and and not long ago I was in segregation and you wanted to hide and got out here that's what I I call it out to be honest with you I don't shrink from it I don't run from it I call it right out and when I was working the job I felt like there was some racism I went to EEOC equal employment opportunity council and I filed a suit and right there in the office no lawyer no nothing they call they sent a letter to your job they call somebody from the job in there you got to sit there and mediate and guess what I got me a payment got me a settlement yes sir we bought so a I address it you hit me rose petal god bless you now I got I got three more minutes y'all I got to get going now my ex-husband wants to talk to me 24 seven but he was the one who left me he bought me dinner over the weekend but he doesn't want to come back to me should I keep talking to him or block him to move forward block him and move forward block him to move forward it's so tight strangling him and what I mean by that hold on now I lose my what what I mean by that when I say it's so tight strangling I mean that that that arousal that feeling that interaction that he had with you now that he gone it's it's bothering him it's hurting him and so that's why he keep coming back trying to be around you to get his little fix but they don't want to be with you because he's not man enough to be with you he can't be faithful he can't do what he need to do but he want to come and keep you stuck so that you can't move on to another man because if he don't keep you stuck he know another man gonna come in and then that other man gonna sweep you off the feet then he can't pop up and bring food he can't pop up and bring food because you got another man sitting on your couch watching ESPN so he trying to keep you stuck and focus on him but if he left you and y'all done going by your business cut them off and going by your business wild flavors why do men dislike women who strong-minded working on the name LOL that's why eucalyptus helps when shower hang it up okay all right wildflower here give me health and wellness coaching um only grown boys offended by a woman with a strong mind and it's because when somebody trying to oppress you they don't want you to have knowledge think about that in every aspect of life race relations job relations friend relations when somebody trying to oppress you they don't want you to have knowledge that's why a grown boy get offended by a strong-minded woman bridge it god bless you now hey y'all i got about one more minute i tried my mentor dot life paid for a coach she got an attitude and claimed i need to give her three days notice and i requested my refund i got it back but money is an issue well bridge it what it was is you dealing with human beings on there on my mentor dot like you dealing with human beings and so what y'all so what happened was is the system was set up to where you could come in at 6 p.m today and book a session for eight and they done ended their day and so they missed the email and the system not set up for three days notice so that's what it just it just it caught off guard it offended she a human you got to understand that we didn't change the system now that where you can't book a coach within a 24 hour window now the reason why she say she need three days is because she probably work on somebody's job now what you can email her and tell her that tonic gas can say she need to fix her calendar so that she could put the time that she available on there see a lot of people also not tech savvy so they go in there and they don't even know how to set up their calendar they don't know how to put a picture up you'd be surprised at some of the question we get on my end on customer service and my wife just look at me and she'd be like why god did you like this why did god give you some of these people that's in your audience i said i don't know i said i guess he want to keep me humble i guess he want to keep me humble just keep me humble and just because you just you got to understand a human and they might not know how to set up their schedule some people don't check their email regular i check my email all day because i got 26 email addresses so i know i got to be in there some people they just became a coach and they don't realize that it's real they think that they just spent because they so used to spending money on courses and signing up for stuff and nothing happened so they're paying for my course and realize it's the real deal then they get on my mentor dot life and get in book and they weren't even expecting the blessing to come see what i mean authentic latrice god bless you now and authentic latrice god bless you now see authentic latrice what she do she use the same headshot across her her networks so i see that same headshot so thank you sister for blessing me on the cash out i recognize your hair and your colors that you got on i saw your god bless you i hope your cousin ain't watching this that you told you he can't borrow no money and i ain't mean to out you like that but a lot of people who send me a blessing it just it ain't got no picture on there so i never get to thank them so hey god bless you now thank you thank you for all that you do i've learned so much from watching your videos and reading your books and look at that you sent me another blessing i think you're asking a question god bless you now uh-oh i got the go tears faith bless you thank you and god bless you all right y'all i went over time i see my wife put my boys down the bed she let them stay up a little later 90 days hell cuz uh you know school situation a little different my boys usually be in bed by 8 p.m but i'm finna go in here and get in this hill good tv my wife bought my wife bought my tv now bought my tv probably want me to be able to relax a little bit more so i'm finna get the tv in now i see lord willing i'm gonna go lie tomorrow by 8 30 p.m eastern the lord willer okay and so but it's just a pen on how i'm feeling because i have a tendency to call sick on working on my job but i've been praying the lord for strength so god bless you thank you to all my moderators forgive me when i get off here and i forget to thank y'all it's nothing against y'all i know women are very thoughtful and sometimes men we could be less thoughtful and sentimental and it hit me last night that i feel like i maybe forgot to thank the moderators but i thank y'all for what y'all doing on here helping me keep this chat organized when i get off here and i don't thank you blame it on my head not my heart i really just be drain from reading all these questions answering all these questions i'll be forgetting but um thank you and god bless and thank you to all the members of the blessed tribe and for the new members that joined the night god bless i really appreciate that i'm not gonna tell you all how many members we got in the blessed tribe just because i come from crowds in a barrel and so if you know what i know coming from where i come from a lot of people ain't happy for you so you just have to count the names that you see on here with the green if you want to know how many members we got in the blessed tribe but we got some great members in the blessed tribe who be supporting and i really thank y'all for being a part because what that means is even if youtube demonetized my videos or whatever the blessed tribe members they paying $199 a month so what that means is youtube take 30% of that but i still get a blessing i get the other 70% so regardless if they block my videos the blessed tribe still saying here tony thank you for showing up doing these videos here on my you know blessing every month so that's what the blessed tribe is it's just genuine supporters hey god bless you we'll talk soon