 Why didn't the narcissists stick it out with you? Why didn't they try to continue to the end of the difficult or unpleasant situation with you? Why did they just leave you like you never existed? Narcissists are not team players They have an it's all about me mentality They will do whatever they think is in their best interest Regardless of how it may affect you Regardless of how many years you invested into being with them They lack empathy They cannot put themselves in your shoes Which is why it was so easy for them to regard your thoughts feelings or desires They are constantly in survival mode Doing whatever they can to survive They lack the capacity to consider anyone else but themselves and they can also be very stubborn They may think that it is in their best interest to leave you They are resistant, difficult and persistent in opinion But they can be easily persuaded by someone they don't know Which really is a recipe for disaster They were predestined to fail They were predestined to experience unpleasant consequences Because they lack empathy and what's good for someone else can sometimes be good for you too But they lack the ability to be able to see things that way They have a black and white mentality Where something is either all good or all bad Where someone is either the winner or the loser and they are doing everything they can to not lose The Narcissists didn't stick it out with you Because they're very arrogant and audacious They have an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance They think that they are superior to everyone They think that they are more intelligent and that they make better decisions Even if they lack the required knowledge or experience They have to think that they always know the correct path to take Because they're very insecure They can't admit when they are wrong or when they don't know something They can't be vulnerable with you But they would rather hold on to their own opinions and beliefs Because they have difficulty trusting people They think everyone is out to get them Which is why they always seek to gain control over you or the situation At any time that they feel like they're losing control That is when they are going to leave If they can no longer influence and direct your behavior over the course of events They're not going to stick around Narcissists are paranoid and hyper-vigilant They feel like they're always at risk of danger or harm So they have to be in control of everything They have to know how the situation is going to pan out And if they don't They will make some rash decisions They will act without careful consideration of the possible consequences Because they feel like they're lacking security and stability When those are two of the main qualities a narcissist looks for Or they target a source of supply The narcissist didn't stick out with you Because deep down they knew that they wouldn't be able to keep you under their control They saw you as someone who was too strong Someone who is not going to be their doormat Someone who is not going to be their emotional tampon They knew that you were not going to put up with their BS They knew that at some point you would probably get fed up and discard them And they want everything to pan out on their terms They have to be in control of everything They also knew that they didn't belong with you They cheated their way into your life There was no authenticity They weren't being real with you They mirrored you They reflected back to you what they thought you want to see While knowing that it wasn't what they were really about They know there's no future in something that started out as a game Because it was built on lies and manipulation It lacked substance It wasn't built on anything that really mattered It lacked any intrinsic value Because there wasn't any purpose to it They were just there to use you Once they've got what they wanted There's no reason for them to stick around And they know that once you figure out what they're really about You're not going to stick around Because most people would not want to be around someone who lacks empathy It's a miserable experience And anyone who values themselves Would want someone who cares about them They would want someone who is able to understand and share their experience Narcissists want convenience They want to be able to proceed with something without difficulty They want an easy and effortless way of life But they need someone who is susceptible to their manipulation to accomplish this They need someone to be their fool They need someone to be their doormat They need someone who is going to submit to them And if you are willing to be that fool They will stick around But when you start questioning and confronting them It makes life difficult for them They can't get away with things anymore So they no longer feel like they have a constant source of supply They feel like it could be liable to change at any moment They're also paranoid and hyper-vigilant They have difficulty trusting people They feel like even if they did stick it out with you You would eventually leave them You would eventually find someone else They believe that you would eventually leave them Once you realize they're not the character they portray themselves to be Because they know that they've manipulated you into seeing them in a certain way And they fear that one day you're not going to be under their spell One day you're going to wake up They're not going to remain in a situation But they feel like they might be rejected Or whether they're not being admired or validated If the narcissist doesn't feel desirable or powerful when they're around you They're not going to stick it out with you They're going to leave They don't care about you All they care about is supply They will find someone who is more susceptible to their manipulation Someone who is willing to be their doormat Someone else to be their fool They cannot remain around someone who sees through them They need someone to reflect back to them how they want to be seen Even though they know it's not real As long as it feels real That's good enough for them But if you're not willing to pretend If you're not willing to play make-believe The narcissist is not going to stick around They want the fantasy They don't want to deal with reality But that's what you are to them And once you become that They're not going to want anything to do with you They need someone to validate their false self And the illusion that they are trying to portray And as soon as you stop supporting that They will disappear They won't want to be around you anymore Because it's like you're constantly holding a mirror in front of them You're constantly showing them who they really are And nothing will make a narcissist run away faster Than them seeing a reflection of themselves Thank you for watching I hope this video wears in it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coachingatnarksurvivor.co.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon