 Hello everyone Welcome again to another Narc Survival Live video and in this one I'm going to be talking about the worst thing that you can do to a narcissist because as we know narcissists are very sensitive There's so many Ways to get under their skin. It's like no matter what you do. They're always upset They're like loose cannons It's very easy to set them off, but there is one thing you can do That is worse than anything else And this really is the worst thing That you can do to a narcissist But before I get into it I'd like to remind you to please hit that thumbs up button down below as It will help the YouTube algorithm And it will help to get this message out there. So please hit that thumbs up button It will only take you a second But yes, let's get into this video this topic The worst thing that you can do To a narcissist the worst thing you can do Is to go no contact To just move on and forget about them and just live your life In a way where you are independent of them You're not dependent on them for anything You don't need them all you need is Yourself and you're able to support yourself financially So you don't need them for anything That is definitely the worst thing that you can do to a narcissist and The reason why is because they view you as an extension of themselves And they see it as though Once they're with you that is it for life They see you as this object that exists to serve them in their minds That is your only purpose in life And you should have no interest or activities of your own Other than serving them and Submitting to their will so of course With all of this in mind When you go no contact And you cut off all forms of a communication with them And you just move on with your life That is the worst thing that you can possibly do to the narcissist And that's why if you do Follow on this course of action You should be very cautious Because there's really no telling what they might do It will really irritate them if you understand how the disorder works Their sense of self their identity comes from Manipulating, abusing and controlling you because they view you as an extension of themselves And that's why they're often so Suffocating and overbearing They've always got to be involved They've always got to be in the know As though you are the most important thing in their lives Because they get their sense of self From controlling you and they're so possessive and controlling Because they're very insecure about who they are which is why the worst punishment for a narcissist Is just for them to be left to their own devices But they're not around any people and this is a dead giveaway of what you're dealing with Because I don't know about you But the most peaceful thing imaginable in the world for me It's just when I take some time to myself Maybe I go for a hike somewhere in the mountains or whatever I do Just being away from other people As an empath that is what allows me to recharge But it's not the same for the narcissist The opposite is true They recharge when they are around other people Especially when they're around their source of supply Which is you so when you go no contact you are cutting off the supply you're leaving them without their life support Their emotional regulator because remember all of those times that they were abusing you Maybe they were manipulating lying and future faking Or maybe they were insulting you and putting you down All of these things are supply to a narcissist and this is what provides them with this false identity This sense of self Whether it's that they are Attractive or desirable or that they are powerful and important when they're manipulating you the future faking That translates to them that they are Desirable and impressive They're a good person but when they are devaluing you That then tells them that they are powerful and significant And superior to you so of course Knowing all of us it should be clear about the worst thing you can do It's to go no contact with them if you really want to show them You want to punish them you want to make them miserable You want to put them through hell That's all you've got to do Just got a contact and move on with your life Independent of them, but when you do that you need to be very cautious Because remember you are providing them with a sense of self You're regulating their emotions So when you cut off the supply they're gonna feel like they're in a fight for their lives It's gonna feel like life or death to them and they are going to do everything They possibly can to hold on to you to where they may Try to get you fired from your job They may try to target you financially they may talk about you behind your back They may say that you try to abandon them They may start a smear campaign against you They may do all of these things to try to prevent you from moving on And establishing a position where you no longer need them because by doing that you were no longer Acting as an extension of them and that's what they need When they first targeted you you were a positive extension of them So they were projecting all of these Imagined positive things about themselves on to you and that's how they then Idealized you and then when it goes to the devaluation phase That is when they are projecting everything they hate about themselves on to you They disown these negative traits and assign them to you, which is why during this stage you may notice That they are accusing you or blaming you for things that they have done to you Which may seem very peculiar But this is just what narcissists do is how the disorder functions Because for a narcissist to genuinely accept That they're wrong or that they're bad Then the disorder cannot function They need someone who they can unload all of this on to So that they can see themselves as being perfect and free from fault If you've just joined, please give the video a thumbs up down below. It's very important As it will help the YouTube algorithm And it will help to get this message out there So that other survivors of narcissistic abuse will see it. I could just see now there's 68 live viewers But only 25 thumbs ups So please hit that thumbs up button down below It will only take you a second But yes, this is it. This is the worst thing that you can do to a narcissist And it will drive them insane When you go into contact you cut off their supply and you can see it the way that they have to behave around you I mean, it's clear When someone treats you in this way as though You're the most important thing in their lives They're overly concerned about you They're suffocating and overbearing They're always on your case. They're always over your shoulder It should be clear when they are so dependent on your presence It should be clear what your absence will do to them and The effect that it will have on them because they derive a sense of self From keeping you dependent on them Whether it's financially or emotionally It's providing them with a sense of purpose if you take all of that away They don't even know who they are. If one day they just woke up and they had to accept That they can no longer control you they wouldn't know what to do with their lives They wouldn't know where to start Because their entire self-identity It revolves around Controlling you which is why when you're around them You feel so constricted and constrained Like you can't even be yourself You can't even live your own life You can't even make your own choices and decisions You can't even feel the way that you want to feel Whenever you're around them You have to feel the emotions that they want you to feel You have to do whatever it is that they want you to do And if you don't then they will intimidate you They will blame and accuse you They will coerce you they will force you Or they will start a smear campaign against you Because their entire identity It revolves around Controlling you which is why of course if you go no contact That is the worst thing that you can do to a narcissist Let me know down below in the live chat what you think of this message Maybe some of you have gone no contact already Let me know what happened How did the narcissist respond or maybe you've experienced something else with the narcissist Where you recognized how important control is to them and how It's how they source their identity their false identity High flyer G123 asks do nox hate us What is more like love hate? Yeah, that's true in a way. I mean I saw a quote before that says there is a fine line between love and hate And that is very true because either way whether you love or hate something It's a similar feeling It involves a lot of passion But then at the same time Narcissist can't really see us At least not in the way that you might think Yes, they do notice our qualities and Abilities They notice certain characteristics about us Of course, that is how they mirror us and reflect it back to us But then they don't really know us Because you've got to think that If you look back, can you remember even one occasion where they sat down and had a conversation with you? And asked you anything about Who you are or what you like what you value in life That's just something a narcissist is never going to do As soon as they meet you In their minds, they've got you all figured out. They know exactly who you are They don't need to listen to you. They don't need to know anything So they don't really know us I mean it can take months even years to really get to know someone So of course when they're studying us, they are making a lot of assumptions Which means they don't really know who we are So how can they really hate us? All it is is just a projection of their own self-hatred As I've said before you can't get blood from a stone How a person treats you is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves So I hope that helps to answer your question Jasmine says I haven't talked to the knock since 1023 Since he verbally abused and discarded me after I found out he was cheating on me Being with him for three and a half years and was engaged to him. I'm sorry to hear that Jasmine But know that there is a possibility That he may come back and who would you as you said, it's been since 10 23 That's only about a few weeks a month Maybe in a few months he may try to come back once he gets bored of the new supply Because that's typically what they do Sometimes they find new supply But then other times they hoover old sources so keep that in mind and Educate and protect yourself Narcissist can be very unpredictable Druid VW says they hate God And that's enough, you know, I actually believe that Narcissist do not even believe in God. I mean you've got to think How can they believe in a higher power if they're able to do the things that they do? I mean if they really believe that there were consequences for their actions For the years that they have spent inflicting harm on other people if they really believe that there were consequences for that Then they probably wouldn't engage in that behavior to begin with which is why I believe that actually They don't even believe in God because that would Impact their choices and decisions. I mean that's what I do I always think before I act And I think about how would this impact my relationship with God as a believer Of course, there's no way that Narcissist do that They're often very impulsive They act in the moment They don't think before they commit certain actions and behaviors So there is no room for God in a Narcissist life Yes, they will present an image Many of them go to churches, mosques, temples But that's just an image It doesn't mean that they actually believe Just as they presented a false image to us that they could never live up to Pete don't repeat says have you seen how they laugh at us? I experienced this at a deeper level than their sarcasm Will laugh at you when they minimize you. Yeah, they will laugh. They will often mock and ridicule us Especially doing the devaluation Remember Narcissists have to believe that they're superior Because they have a fragile ego And their sense of identity Comes from establishing an authoritative role over their victims So that's why they will often mock and ridicule us even though They never even took the time to get to know us They're just projecting their own shame and self-hatred just looking through the comments here a lot of Comments around religion. I know I haven't talked too much about religion on the channel. I've done a few videos and Spirituality as well, but I am hoping to do more in the future I do believe that it is a very important topic Because I have been studying this now for over five years and I didn't really want to accept it It's only maybe the last few months that I came to the conclusion that yes In my opinion at least and based on my research Narcissism is demonic and if you look back through any religion any spiritual teaching The basis of it always comes back to have an empathy for other people Which of course is the opposite of Narcissistic behavior being empathic that is what is righteous and good while being indifferent and Just being oppositional and not caring about other people These things are bad evil wrong and I know many of us. We've only got to look back How many times we tried to help the narcissist How many chances we gave them but if the shoe is any other foot they wouldn't give us another chance they would never forgive us They can hold grudges for life While they engage in such evil behaviors, and I do think sometimes How could God not enter their lives and prevent them from engaging in These behaviors, but then I realized As I've done myself in my own life a person must choose God We must invite God into our lives and of course God is Very powerful. It's not that he can't just come into our lives on his own He gives us a choice Whether or not we choose him he has given us free will and through their actions of behaviors Narcissists have chosen to reject God So, yes, I do believe that it is demonic and it's like if you're around them long enough. I felt this on many occasions throughout my life Even in my childhood as well. I felt like I was possessed By some type of demonic spirit temporarily while being around narcissists and Being subjected to certain things. I just didn't feel like myself at all and it just made me feel like Yes, there must be demonic spirits in these people So that's just a bit of my personal experience concerning narcissism and Religion and spirituality Pete don't repeat says how can they sleep at night? I Will never be able to wrap my mind around it. I've often thought about that myself a few times I mean, I know it myself that If I do something that I know is wrong as I have in the past It does keep me awake at night and I can't sleep. It makes me feel bad guilty It makes me just want to go and make things right Narcissist however They experience shame as Anyone does Even a psychopath will experience shame, but they do everything they can to avoid reflecting on it and believe it or not but abusive and manipulative behaviors Are actually just another way for them to dodge their shame. It's not just to dodge accountability When they gas like you it's also to dodge their shame So that is how they may sleep at night, but in every awakened moment Every action every behavior it is Influenced by their negative emotions Such as shame their entire lives are ruled by shame and That's why they're always so miserable So given the choice. I'm quite happy to lose a bit of sleep here and there Rather than to have my entire life ruled by shame in The case of the narcissist, but that's just how it is a lot of it is unconscious They're not consciously thinking about it But sometimes you just got to take a step back and look at what they're doing How they create these false narratives their pathological liars They start spear campaigns They create false realities All as a means to dodge their shame But the shame is still there It's what's making them do what they do Thank you for the donation Pete. 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