 بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم والصلاة والسلام وعلى أشرف المرسلين سيدنا ونبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه وسندن يا ربنا لك الحمد كما ينبغي لجلال وجهك وعظيم سلطانك اللهم افتح علينا فتوحل عارفين اللهم معلمنا ما ينفعنا وانفعنا بما علمتنا يا الرحمن الرحيمين اليوم شاء الله سوف نتحدث عن one of the unique pearls in Islam one of the mothers of the believers أسيدا رملة بنت أبي سوفيان رملة رأيت في النوم كأنها آتي أن يقول يا أم المؤمنين ففزيعت فأولتها أن رسول الله يتزوجني فما هو إلا أن قدت عدة فما شعرت إلا برسول النجاشي على باب يستأذن حاملا خدر طلب رسول الله بالزباج رملة رضي الله عنها أخبرتها أن في حياتي أخبرت يا أم المؤمنين أم المؤمنين فأخبرتها وانتظرت هذا حياتي أن سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم فهذا كان only at the last day of her idol when the widow waits before marriage there was a messenger at her door and that messenger was the messenger of the Najashi of Negus and he was asking for my hand to get married to the messenger of Allah who is أم محبيبة who is Ramla بن تو أبي سوفيان so Ramla is a strong character she is a woman who has a strong character and who endured a lot she was so patient for what happened to her after she became a Muslim so أم المؤمنين أم محبيبة رضي الله عنها هي رملة بن تو أبي سوفيان she is the daughter of the chief of the Umayyad clan and أم سوفيان was also the leader of the whole Quraysh tribe so her story represents the best record story between the prophet, the messenger of Allah and the Muslims أم محبيبة رضي الله عنها was married to عبيد الله بن جهشني الأسدي and he was the brother of Zainab بن تو جهش who is another mother of believers so both the two spouses أم محبيبة and her husband عبيد الله they became Muslims they followed the religion of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and they faced a lot of pressure they faced the torture they faced the tyranny they faced everything that Quraysh was doing to the Muslims so they migrated from Mecca to Abasid and the reason for that his rather reason for that migration was to run away with their religion they left everything behind just for the sake of their new faith of their new religion that they followed and especially the one who was giving them the hardest time or giving the whole Muslims the hardest time was her father Abu Sufyan the chief and the leader of Quraysh tribe he was about to get mad when he heard that his daughter his daughter and her husband run away and migrated so in Abasinia رملة رضي الله عنها gave birth to her daughter her daughter حبيبة and that's why رملة is called أم حبيبة so it was not a long time that عبيد الله أباستو تايت he left the Islam religion again and he was introduced to Christianity which he liked and not only that he tried to get his wife أم حبيبة away also from Islam and he wanted her to be a Christian but أم حبيبة had a very strong faith and she was so patient that she was strongly refusing his continuous attempts that she would go back away from the Islam religion and she would become a Christian but no رملة did not listen to him she was strong she was a very strong willed character and she was not weak at all for any second towards what her husband was doing and she refused and he was always drinking wine and was doing trying to get her to be away from Islam but she would never do it she was feeling ashamed of his actions she was feeling bad because of what he is doing so she tried to be away from people just enough to hear what they were saying so أم حبيبة narrates what happened and she said I saw in my dream as if my husband away from war became in a very bad shape and in a very bad look so she was scared and she woke up and she realizing that he he was not the same character so he told her when she woke up أم حبيبة I looked into the religion into Islam and I found out that there is no religion that is better than Christianity and I became Christian so she was shocked and she said to him I swear by Allah that this is not good to you this is not something good to you and she told him about the dream that she just had but he did not care and he continued to drink wine and he continued to be Christian until he died so أم حبيبة رملة رضي الله عنها lived in the land where she where she suffered actually but it was a big test for her and she said I was in isolation I was worshipping الله سبحانه وتعالى and I was very satisfied I was very happy with whatever he decreed on me when she would look at her daughter that her mom is Muslim her grandfather has no religion he just worships the idols and her father is Christian and she is very she doesn't know what to do so her husband left her and there was no one to take care of her so if she would think to go back to Mecca there will be so much trouble over there so much torture over there so what would she do she would just keep depending on Allah her strong faith will make her endure all those all the all the hardship that she is passing by so she would get closer to Allah سبحانه وتعالى and this gives us a very important lesson الله سبحانه وتعالى did not make this life easy he made it full of tests because this life is not the life for just joy and it's not the life of taking fun it's not the life of relaxing no, it is the life where we have to work we have to prove we have to do everything just to make sure that we are depending on Allah سبحانه وتعالى this is how we should we should be in this life we should be relying on Allah سبحانه وتعالى we should be happy with everything that he has that he has decreed on us we should practice patience we should show Allah سبحانه وتعالى that whatever situation he puts us in we accept it so even hardship we just thank Allah سبحانه وتعالى for everything for all the hardship that we have for one reason that this hardship is not a test in our face and when we make the dua we ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى to make our faith stronger سبحانه وتعالى so this was she was very patient she accepted what Allah سبحانه وتعالى has decreed on her and she was just a strong faith woman when my husband passed away it was the last day of my time when there was a messenger of the of the she was a slave and she told me she was sent with a message she said إن الملك يقول لك the king is saying to you زوجك من نبي العرب just choose someone who would be your garden who will be the one who would get you married to the prophet of the Arabs فقد أرسل إليه ليخطبك إله because he the messenger of Allah was sent to the king a letter that he is asking him to get married to you so she said to her may Allah give you a glad tidings good news so the days of hardship is passing away and with patience with love of Allah these were the two important factors that made her stronger that made her strong to stand and to face these tribulations that she passed by so whenever we have any problem we just depend on Allah we believe that whenever Allah سبحانه وتعالى decreed for us is the khayr and this is what Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in the Holy Quran وما يطق الله يجعل له مخرجة anyone who fears Allah he will make for him a way out just fear Allah سبحانه وتعالى be with Allah سبحانه وتعالى during the time of ease he will be with you during the time of hardship ويرزقه من حيث لا يحتسب and Allah سبحانه وتعالى will provide for him from where from where he does not expect وما يتوكل على الله فهو حسبه whoever relies upon Allah سبحانه وتعالى then Allah is sufficient for him إن الله بالقومر Allah has set for everything a decreed extent so nothing in this dunya will happen except by the decree by what Allah سبحانه وتعالى has decreed so no matter what we have with a good or bad we have to accept and it's always said that the good things we have are the blessings of Allah سبحانه وتعالى it's not something that we are good we are powerful we are lucky we are no it is Allah سبحانه وتعالى who decreed these good things for us so we have to thank him we have to thank Allah سبحانه وتعالى for everything for all the good that he has given us and as I just mentioned we also have to thank him for any bad thing that we face because this is what Allah سبحانه وتعالى is testing us for life is not easy we have to show Allah سبحانه وتعالى that we are happy we are content even with the with tribulations if someone has a car accident and he broke his his his arm he would say الحمد لله I did not break two arms الحمد لله I did not break my back الحمد لله I have my sight الحمد لله so just out of all the relations we say الحمد لله and this was she was so patient and she endured a lot and Allah سبحانه وتعالى is the most merciful he will have mercy on us and he had mercy on her and he rewarded her for her patience and he would reward her in دنيا before her big reward in أخرة so one day when she was just making this دعاء and getting closer to Allah سبحانه وتعالى ya Allah just asking ya Allah Allah answered her prayers Allah promised us he said make دعاء and I will answer and the best time to make دعاء Allah سبحانه وتعالى is the short time before Fajr prayer before Fajr أذان Allah سبحانه وتعالى descends down to the lowest sky and he would say هل من مستغفره فأغفر على is there anyone who is asking me for forgiveness and I will forgive him is there someone who is making توبة and I will accept his توبة is there someone who is asking for anything and I will answer their call just wake up before then Fajr and just make your wudu pray to rakhaz and talk to Allah سبحانه وتعالى tell him what you want he is close to us فإني قريب أجيب دعاء وتدعاء إذا دعاء I am close to you I am close to those who are begging me who are making dua make lots of dua and Allah is there to answer you some people would say oh we made lots of dua but Allah did not reply Allah did not answer our prayers and for those people I say two things Allah سبحانه وتعالى is either keeping your dua to the akhirah to the day after and he will highly reward you for that or Allah سبحانه وتعالى has pushed away so much hardship that was directed to you but because of your dua Allah سبحانه وتعالى has saved you you might not have noticed that but be sure that when you make dua keep the good faith that Allah سبحانه وتعالى is going to answer you he will answer your calls he will answer your dua and Allah سبحانه وتعالى if there is someone who is asking Allah سبحانه وتعالى for anything if Allah سبحانه وتعالى loves that person he will tell the angel he will tell the angels just delay giving him what he wishes because he is my beloved servant and I like to hear his voice and if someone is bad of the hellfire people if he is asking Allah for something he will tell the angel Allah will tell the angel for what he wants I don't want to hear his voice so Umm Habiba did not believe what she heard so she asked the slave just to say it again and he was very happy she was very happy that Allah سبحانه وتعالى has accepted and has fulfilled her wishes she sent to a message to Khalid and she made him her guardian he made him the one who is responsible to get her married and she looked at the slave servant and she gave her some bungles and rings and as a gift for the good Bushra for the good news that he gave him so at night Al-Najjashi gathered the people all the Muslims and he gave a ceremony so the marriage ceremony took place for Umm Habiba for Ramlah it took place in Abassinia so the king said إن رسول الله محمدا كتب إلي أن أزوجه أم حبيبة بنت أبي سوفيان so the messenger of Allah has sent me a request that I would get him married to أم حبيبة بنت أبي سوفيان here I am answering his call and he sent a dowry of 400 دينار and he gave the money to Khalid the one who was responsible for this marriage and it is said that محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم did not give a dowry higher than this a dowry higher than this to any of his other wives so Khalid رضي الله عنه said I am accepting the proposal of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and I am getting him married to أم حبيبة بنت أبي سوفيان so سبحانه وتعالى accept and bless this marriage Khalid رضي الله عنه prepared a feast for the Muslims and he would not allow anyone to leave before having food and he said لسوء فإن من سنة الأنبياء إذا تزوجوا أن يؤكل طعام على التزوج so stay back no one is leaving it's a sunnah it's something that the messengers do the prophets would do if they get married they would feed people so النجاشي ordered his wives to send the perfumes to أم حبيبة and she kept them and she saved them until it was the day where she met Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم so her wish which أم حبيبة was living for was fulfilled and it was the day when she migrated to المدينة المنورة and above all she's going to be the wife of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم so it was the time when Sayyidina Muhammad was coming back from the battle of خيبر from من غزوتي خيبر was so victorious over there and he there was a surprise for him two big ships ships arrived from أبسينيا bringing back whoever Muslims were there and they arrived in مدينة sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم was very happy to see his cousin جعفر وبن أبي طالب he was someone whom he loved a lot and it is a well known saying by sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم بأيه ما أفرح بفتح خيبر بعودة جعفر so who I am going to be happy more with was it the victory of خيبر or the coming or the coming back of جعفر all the Muslims and sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم was welcoming all the Muslims and suddenly he saw أم حبيبة who was waiting for him who was waiting to to meet him he was happy to see her and he ordered بلال رضي الله عن to take her the the rope of her camel and to get her into the house that sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم ordered to be ready for his new wife so sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم got in to to أم حبيبة and when he got in he smelled the perfumes which was given to her by the wife of النجاشي of the king so he did not say anything to that and and he he was happy with أم حبيبة رضي الله عنها so the marriage was consumed in the seventh year of hijra after and أم المؤمنين رملة was in the house of sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم at that time she was about 40 years old and she was still living the hardship of her father who was not a Muslim and she was making dua lots of dua that Allah سبحانه وتعالى would guide her father to Islam so one day after there was after some of the non Muslims broke the the the agreement with the Muslims sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم refused to to see the leader of quraish who came who rushed and came to to see sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم to have an execution of what those non believers have done but sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم refused to see him and her father أبو صفية the father of رملة رضي الله و عنه he wanted to visit his daughter and she hasn't seen him for a long time since her first migration to أبسينيا so when he came into her room into her house she was يجب أن تكون أسرعاً أنها ترى أنها أردتها يردت أن تكون على ماترس سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم يجب أن تكون على ماترس ولكن أنها قامت بإمكانها to be immediately rushed and put the mattress away from him صلى الله عليه وسلم was so so sad he said يا بنيا والله ما أدري أرغبتي بي عن هذا الفراش أمرغبتي به عني oh my daughter I don't know if you don't want me to use this mattress or you don't want the mattress to have me on it he was still a non-muslim and he thought that it might be just a very simple mattress that is not good for the leader of Quraish to sit on but he did not know that his daughter would not allow a non-muslim to sit on the mattress of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and she told him that very honestly and very openly so she said بل هو فراش ورسول الله it's the mattress of سيدنا محمد it's the mattress of the messenger of Allah وانت رجل مشركة النجس and you are a non-believer you are someone who is against Islam you are not pure I cannot فلم أحب أن تجلس عليه I cannot let you sit on it أبو سوفيا was so upset and after all those years his daughter would not let him sit on the mattress so he said to her لقد أصابك إيبعدي يا بنية شر there is something wrong there is something bad that happened to you my daughter she said هداني الله للإسلام Allah has guided me to Islam Allah has enlightened my heart وانت يا أبه سيد قريشا وكبيرها and you my father you are the leader of Quraysh the highest ranked person in Quraysh كيف يسقط عنك دخول الإسلام وانت تعبدوا حجرة وانت تعبدوا حجرا لا يسمع ولا يبصر how can you resist Islam how can you still worship a stone that does not hear that does not see anything so he said to her أنت أيضا أنت تريدني أن تبقى رلشن من my fathers من my four fathers and follow the religion of Muhammad he said these words and he left her very upset very very angry and he came he went back to his people like someone who was outcasted for nearly a few days that the army of the Muslims was going towards Mecca and to conquer Mecca so Ramla رضي الله عنها at that time she was in a position that was so hard to her her husband and her father she knows that her husband is 100% on the right way but she also knows that her father is still opposing him her husband's religion would take people from darkness into light but her father's whatever he is worshipping is taking people from light to darkness so the only power that she would be having was to make dua making dua that her father would become a Muslim that was her main concern and الله سبحانه وتعالى revealed عسف الله أن يجعل بينكم وبين الذين عاديتم منهم مودة والله قدير والله وفمور رحيم ربما الله سبحانه وتعالى سوف تأخذ بينكم ومن الذين الذين حينكوا أنتين بينهم الله سبحانه وتعالى الله سبحانه وتعالى انه يسعر وانه يسعر فهي 10.000 مسلمين المسلمين 10.000 who were going directly to مكة before they reached مكة very newly to مكة they سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم asked them to stop and to spend the night there so سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم asked the Muslims to to ignite fire in front of their tents and when Quraysh when the when the messengers of Quraysh who came just to see what's going on they saw that much fire they knew that there is a huge army that they cannot fight so they came back to their to their leaders they came back to Quraysh scared and they were just telling them there will be something horrible so Abu Sufyan came to the place where the Muslims were camping and he wanted to know what's going on so سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم stopped him and he said he told him that the messenger of Allah is going to conquer مكة and he will be victorious he will get into Kaaba and he will destroy all the all the idols over there he will destroy all the the gods that they were they were worshipping and he said to him سكي لتك أموق أسلم may your mom just miss you you would die just be a Muslim isn't it time yet isn't it time so he took him to to the tent of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم ordered that العباس keep him in his tent until the morning and when he was going with him سيدنا عمر بن الخطاب saw him and he wanted to just kill him but العباس said is under my protection you cannot touch him so أبو سوفيان was scared and in the tent he was just thinking what is going to happen in the morning what is the hard punishment that سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم is going to put upon him and those who were torturing the Muslims so in the morning the long night has passed and in the morning أبو سوفيان and the العباس came to see the محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم looked at him and he said ويحكيها أبو سوفيان أما أنا أن تعلم أن لا إله إلا الله وأن محمد الرسول الله ووهو to you أبو سوفيان is the time for you to know to realize that there is no God except Allah and that محمد is his messenger at that time الله سبحانه وتعالى إلقائه and he acknowledged Islam and he embraced Islam and became Muslim and he said أشهد أن إله إلا الله وأنك يا محمد رسول الله I bear witness there is no God except Allah and that you محمد is the messenger of Allah so when سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم wanted to lead the army العباس رضي الله came to him and he asked him that to to give something special to أبو سوفيان he is the leader of Quraish and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم he said من دخل دار أبي سوفيان فهو آمن whoever enters the house of أبو سوفيان then he is safe that was an honor for أبو سوفيان ومن أغل قبابه فهو آمن whoever stays in his home is safe ومن دخل المسجد الحرام فهو آمن and whoever gets into the masjid then into the mosque then he is safe so أبو سوفيان was sent to the people and سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم ordered him to to send the those people who call who call the people there were special that was a special position that if they wanted to announce something someone would call people and he would tell them what's going on so أبو سوفيان was ordered to send someone to tell them that سيدنا محمد is coming in and there is no need for any fighting no need for blood to be if blood shedding and the everybody knew at that time that the leader of قريش became a Muslim so أم حبيبة could not believe what she heard she was so happy and she said أسلم أبي my father became a Muslim ومن دخل داره فهو آمن and whoever enters his house my father's house then he is safe and she was very happy and she immediately did شكر لله سعالة she did this سجود to Allah سبحانه و تعالى thanking him that her father that her father did not die as a non Muslim so this was how her prayers were answered she was making a lot of prayers that her father would become a Muslim before he dies and there he is so later on there was سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and he passed away and أم حبيبة was very patient for this big loss the loss of the husband the loss of the lover of Allah the loss of her lover her beloved husband and she was also into her عبادة into her worship of Allah سبحانه و تعالى so she lived during the caliph time of سيدنا أبو بكر سيدنا عمر رضي الله عنهم and when there was the big problem the big fitna between the Muslims at the time of وان she used to come to his house and to get him some water and some sustenance so this was the wife of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and she felt that it's her death time she felt later that she is going to die so she asked for أم المؤمنين أم مسلم رضي الله عنهم she called them and she said to her she asked them for forgiveness if there is something bad that happened between them as the wives of سيدنا محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم and they forgave her and she said سرر تماني سرركوه الله you made me happy may Allah make you happy and she she went to Allah سبحانه و تعالى with a sound heart أتتي الله بقلب سليم it's so important to meet Allah سبحانه و تعالى with a sound heart and this is our دعاء يا الله keep our heart sound on the day make our heart sound make us sound heart when they come back to you and this is very important because of Allah سبحانه و تعالى mentioned in the Quran يوم لا ينفع مال ولا بنون إلا من أت الله بقلب سليم on the day of judgment nothing would benefit anyone no money no children no wealth nothing will benefit someone anyone unless he who comes back to Allah سبحانه و تعالى with a good heart so أم حبيبة رضي الله عنها died at the time of the caliphate of her her brother معاوية and she was buried in البقيع she was one of the people who narrated Hadith of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and it was said that she narrated 65 of the Hadith of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and one of the Hadith that she narrated was the saying of Sayyidina Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم من صلى الله عليه وسلم في يوم ثلاثة عشرة سجدة تطب عن بونية له بهن بيتهم في الجنة whoever prays 12 rakhaz of extra prayer other than the fard prayers and this would be the sunnah then Allah سبحانه و تعالى would reward him with a palace in paradise and فما تركته فما تركتهن منذ سمعتهن so I never I never left the praying these 12 rakhaz since the time I heard the messenger of Allah saying that and these 12 rakhaz came two rakhaz before a fajr prayer two rakhaz after the huar before two rakhaz after مغرب and two rakhaz after عشاء and these would be 12 12 rakhaz so may Allah make us of those who listen and would follow the best of the word may Allah unite us with the mother of the believers may Allah unite us with and and this was just something about the life of رملة رضي الله عنها and until next week I will leave you by sending a special سلام to our beloved محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم صلى الله عليه وسلم و بارك على حبيبك المصطفى صلى الله عليه وسلم و السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته