 Hi, she was seven I'm back. Okay, so I got a video request again to do a video on dating. Should you date a married man? Okay This lady wrote a question and I gotta say her name, but I don't know if she want me to or not But she's saying she met this guy. He's married. He's really nice He asked her out, but he is married and she's she keeps turning him down turning him down But I think she wants to date him and she likes him and should she go out with him and you know, blah blah blah blah blah and Will he ever leave his wife should you date a married man? Is this going anywhere? Okay, this happens to many women. They meet this nice guy. They like him they fall for him, but he's married like He's like would be the perfect being except he's married, right? So when a man comes on to you and he's married First of all that says he doesn't respect his marriage isn't He thinks he can get away with cheating He's not he doesn't believe in a monogamy so if a man approaches you like that and And you are interested But you say no because he's married and you explained to him that and he still comes after you well That means he's ready to Have what's coming to him. Okay y'all and when I mean when I say that and that's an open invitation To steal him from his wife and I'm not trying to be rude. I know a lot of women are gonna be mad at me but if your husband goes out looking for other women and She turns him down and he still goes after her He does not respect you and he's giving her an invitation to get him to leave you. Okay, so let me tell you So ladies don't be mad cuz I'm gonna give two parts of the story Okay, one is not gonna be moral and one is gonna be like you shouldn't do this you shouldn't do that But I'm gonna tell y'all Women do steal husband and I'm gonna tell y'all how they do it And if you're one of those women who want to steal a husband. Well, just keep listening. Okay So first of all if you're if you're gonna be a Person that's dating a married man. You have to get it in your mind right now No, hoping no wishing that he's gonna leave his wife You have to you have to take control of the situation There's you don't leave anything up to him Okay, if you want to be his wife his next wife or you want him to leave his wife You have to take control of this the whole situation. You don't leave it in his hands. Okay, because now this is your boyfriend Your future your destiny And if you're leaving it in his hands, he's not gonna do anything. He's not gonna leave his wife He's gonna have both of you. So if you want this man You have to take him You gotta take what you want in this world and you have to Be adamant about it. Okay? Not married ladies don't get mad. I'm just answering the question. Okay So so you did a guy who's married for the first few dates or whatever and he's like He starts talking bad about his wife and why he don't want to be with her and why he needs to date outside of his marriage And you just listen and what's else in the asking what's so special about me? Would you marry someone like me if you hadn't married your wife? And if he says yes That's another green light that he wants out of his marriage. Okay, and he's he's he's too chicken to do it himself So basically he wants you to do it for him. Okay, and And then you know ask about the kids. Do you have kids? Are they young? How would they feel if you left? Listen to a story. Okay, and he's probably gonna be telling a bunch of lies but listen to the story and if he says well, I don't want to leave because this isn't that and I said well, then you would be like well What would your wife do if she caught you cheating would she take your son away from you? Would y'all get divorced? Would you be on child support? Could you afford that? Put all that in his brain, you know get up get up if he can afford it if he can afford the child support If he can afford to divorce if he can afford all that would he lose out what he has to like Downsides could he still spend money will he be broke get all that out on the table like discuss it Don't be afraid because he's there guilty already. Okay, so he should be able to discuss it He's like oh, I don't want to talk about that sequel. Well, you brought it up, you know I'm sitting here dating them dating a married man. I need to know these things. Okay, so Get all that out on the table And if he doesn't feel like talking about it just like well, you know Then I really can't see you anymore because I'm not gonna sit here blind in the dark I don't know what your plans are. You could be straying me along. I'm just I don't want to do it So if he says okay fine, you know, and then y'all talk about it So you have all this information now, you know, if he left his wife, he would be broke or not It wouldn't break him or it would break him So then you go from there you say, okay, is it really worth me dating this guy? And he gets divorced and he can't afford nothing. I end up taking care of him He ain't got no place to live If he's broke without his wife, don't even bother with him. Okay Say y'all you go back to your wife. Okay, you can't afford to leave her. Okay, make her feel stupid Okay, make her feel dumb for trying to cheat and can't even afford To cheat or lose his wife, you know, because he could get caught any second She can divorce him and then he's out on the street. Okay, so don't even mess with broke guys who can't afford to cheat Okay, now if you get a man with money and he's got a man and he's got a wife and he can't afford to divorce and All that kind of stuff then that's when you take it more seriously. You're like, uh-huh interesting. Okay Listen to all his excuses and then, you know If you want this person take it upon yourself to get them Because sometimes people are married when you meet them and they could be the one for you And only a piece of paper and some and some broken vows are in the way, you know I don't know people are gonna say, well, what about the kids? People leave their kids every day. People still have families. People still see their children some Joint custody. Da-da-da-da. We know all that Especially if they're older kids, it's not that big of a deal if they're older now younger kids Yeah, I can see that's pretty sad and I as a as a woman You shouldn't want to break up a family with young children. Okay, so if you're if you're focused on That then don't if it's gonna make you feel guilty. Don't even do it. Okay But if this guy's older his children are grown or has, you know in high school about to graduate and all that kind of stuff Then I don't see that big of a problem with it. So What I'm saying is You have to take it upon yourself. You have to go the extra mile You have to make him uncomfortable to stay there with her. You got to let her know what's going on. You got a car Hey, um, I hate to be the one to bring you some bad news, but You know, your husband I have been dating since He tells me just tell everything Tell everything He you know, he says um this this and that and I just want to know if you knew about all of this And I don't I'm not trying to bring any, you know drama into your life I just wanted you to know because if I was married, I would want to know be cool You know, and if she gets mad at you and cusses you out and I say well, you know, um You know, we were making plans for the future tell her all that we're making plans for the future And I just didn't want you to be surprised at when, you know, something happens When he gets home or when she sees him again, she's gonna be mad She's gonna be the one to divorce him He's not gonna have to do anything as long as she knows what's going on You were, you know, you told her now if she's one of those women who are like, well, he's not gonna get my man Fights for him. She's not gonna be giving him sex. She's not gonna be doing any of that thing She's going to be treating them like trash. So at this point you can you can also convince him to start leaving because she's given him the worst treatment ever and He already she already knows it's not going to improve If he can afford to leave he's not going to stay there and You know, that's truly how easy it is, you know but There are there are a lot of people who Will fight for their man even if they don't even want them anymore just to keep them and treat them like trash They will keep him and treat him like trash because he cheated on her So this is going to make Him want to leave even more So as long as you keep, you know being with him and say, you know what? Let's just go. Let's just go You need to move out. We can get a nice apartment. You know, blah, blah, blah We can get a nice town home. You don't have to deal with that, you know, because you know Blah blah blah blah and if he still is not gonna budge if he's still stuck You need to give him the ultimate. I'm gonna be like, you know what? I will still date you. We can still go out. We can hang out But I'm going to start dating other guys too because I do want to you know, eventually Get married and have kids of my own and you're still stuck in yours and you're not going anywhere anytime soon But you know, we can still be friends. We can hang out, but I'm going to start dating other people Okay, so when you're with your wife, um And family and stuff like that I'm going to be out dating because I can't sit here and wait on you forever. Okay so and His wife's treating him like trash already because she knows he's cheating If he can afford to leave he's going to be thinking about it the whole time that he's there being mistreated Then he's going to be thinking about you dating other people and if you're the one that he's supposed to be with really and blah blah blah So this is all going to be in his head Okay and Make sure you go out somewhere where his friends hang out and so they can see you with another man And call him and tell you because a lot of the friends are in on man cheating on their wife They already know so make sure like if you meet any of his friends know where they hang out Go out be seen out. Let his friend call him and tell him. Okay. Do all of that. Do everything you can do and then When it comes down to it when he says, okay, I'm finally like I'm gonna leave my wife But I have to go through this divorce and blah blah blah blah blah blah Then be like, okay, that's nice, you know Um, I'm so glad that you left and you know, I'm glad that you see That we should be together and blah blah blah blah and a lot of women are going to be like And a lot of men are going to be like, well, if you cheated on this wife, he's going to cheat on you and Okay, well and when it comes down to that if you think he's trying to cheat on you because you cheated on his wife All you got to do is say one thing I'm not your wife And if you cheat on me, I will cheat on you back And if I cheat on you back, I will I'll end up leaving you for another man I'll do what you did to her. So don't even try it here. Okay. It's not going to work And I will take half your money and I will do this and I will do that and I will do everything that You know, this wife didn't do you don't know You know, you don't know crazy, you know, and then you have to kind of scare them into not cheating on you. So It's like I stayed with you right you were married. I waited. I did this I did that if you cheated on me Don't sleep with your eyes closed. Okay. It's like scare the hell out of them. Okay And they people men like crazy for some reason they think it's attractive. I don't know But anyway So make a long story short Yes, you have to take the initiative if you start dating a married man And you really want him and he's like seriously thinking about leaving his wife Or he says he is that's invitation for you to go call his wife. Okay, and I don't care what what people say If he's telling you if he's talking trash about his wife to you And you like him and he's spilling his feelings out to you and you're supposed to care for him Then you're gonna try to help him get out of that situation, right? And when he if he comes to you and like, why did you call my wife? Why did you do this blah blah blah? Well, I thought you were crying out for help. I'm trying to help you You said you want to leave. I'm trying to help you leave like play play his own words against him Be like you said you want to leave you said you weren't happy. I'm trying to get I'm trying to get you To be free. I'm trying to free you Well, you're not supposed to do that. Don't get into my business What don't get into my business if you come to me crying about your unhappy married life What do you expect me to do? I mean, I like you we're dating. I'm trying to help you You know play the stupid role and then and he'll be like, well, I don't want to see you anymore I said, well, you shouldn't have been trying to ask me out in the first place. You're married Okay, if you're happily married then stay happily married. Don't come to me talking trash about your wife I'm gonna go call her and I'm gonna try to help you. Okay. That's just the kind of person I am I'm trying to help you be happy and they're gonna be like, oh man, this lady's crazy. Okay, so Basically the whole point of the story is if you want your married man Go tell his wife make his life a living hell at home so that he is forced to leave Okay, and if she's the kind of woman that doesn't want to let him go She's gonna still be treating like trash and he's gonna leave on his own So you got to step in you have to step in all the way all the way you got to get up in there You got to be the other family member You got to be crazy, you know in this world you got to break rules You got to step outside of the box to get what you want in life and Like I said, I don't recommend this for people with young children trying to break up families and stuff I don't recommend this. No, I don't You know Because I'm a mother and I wouldn't want that to happen to me, you know, but If the woman finds out and leaves anyway, there is nothing you can do about it. And obviously he's financially Uh stable enough to take care of that as well. So, you know, don't go for a man who could be broke without his wife Okay, and most men don't want to leave a wife who depends on them So if if his wife has a job a career is financially independent without him It would be easier But if she doesn't work and she stays home and she takes care of kids he ain't going nowhere Like he's not So you've got you got to pick and choose carefully who you're dating now If you just want to date a married man for fun to see how it is Fine, whatever But no, that's not gonna lead you anywhere unless you take the initiative to take what you want in life So I'm just I'm just putting it out there. I'm probably gonna do like a part two to this and talk about You know other things like why married men date outside their marriage and Why They don't leave their wives. Okay. I'm that's gonna be part two. Okay. This is part one This is the the ones this is the video for the women who are gonna do what they're gonna do regardless And I can't tell you not to okay, so married ladies. Don't be mad at me. Oh, please. Okay, because I'm married too Okay, I'll see y'all on part two coming up soon. All right. Bye