 Since I got such great feedback on that video, I'm excited to do another one. So thank y'all for all of you guys who commented, even if you didn't comment. Thank you for watching. Seems like y'all just as petty and nosy as I am. My hair. Let me tell you what I'm doing to my hair. Yesterday I washed my hair. I'm in the middle of the Urban Hydration review. So I washed my hair yesterday and that official review, I don't know what I'm going to post is. Unlikely I will be posting this chit chat video after that. But I washed my hair the day before and to be quite honest my hair is feeling a little funky. And look at my ends. I need to dust my ends but I kind of don't want to be quite honest. What I did yesterday is I put my hair in twist and I banded it. What I'm going to do today is to take this down, look over my hair and then reband it okay because I'm going to actually set my hair using their styling products tomorrow. I'm going to be doing a two strand, you will see that but by now you will have seen that tutorial. I'm doing laundry too. Two strand band two knots. I can't do regular traditional band two knots so let me push up y'all and start taking this down. Oh yeah my hair feels dry. So there's a young man who commented, how do I get more subscribers? So this is the thing, the longer you're on, this is what I think. The longer that you're on YouTube and that you are engaging with your current subscribers and with other content creators, sorry y'all, that's how you will get more volume and more traffic on your channel. One of the suggestions I would have, and this is actually a suggestion too from B Loves is to go on other content creators like my channel and other YouTubers and comment, say great video or not even that because that's really basic. Engage with that other YouTuber and other people will look at your comment and be like okay I want to see what he's about and they'll click on your profile and they will subscribe to you. What you want to avoid is going on to other content creators. I find this a little annoying. If I see someone that says hey I just watched your video, can you subscribe to me or sub for a sub. That gets a little old but instead do a little manipulation, I'm just being honest. Not necessarily manipulation but you don't want to come off as overbearing. Go to another YouTuber and be like hey I saw your video, great and just write a comment. I would more than likely look at someone's profile who just left a comment than someone who says sub for a sub, sub to my channel. I ignore that because everyone says say, you see what I'm saying? I've been on YouTube for a while. I started making videos, it's been about six years, so to be making videos for six years and have roughly 16,000 subscribers that's not a lot. I know people who've been on less than I have and they're well over 50,000 subscribers. But I think people get caught up on the subscribers and not your views. Well, first of all I would ask what are you doing this for? What are your intentions? If you're doing this to make money, baby, no. If you're doing this for views, your subscribers are not going to matter because, I'll give you an example, Donna's Journey is a smaller YouTuber. She does mukbangs and I can't remember her last count. She has less than 10,000 subscribers. However, her views, she gets over 1,000 views on her channel. I don't get up that over 1,000 views. I'm talking about every video she uploads is up to 1,000 or over 1,000. She's a small YouTuber. There are people who have 20, 30,000 subscribers. That was someone I had saw, this is a good example, Morgan, Butterripple. She has a high subscriber count, right? I don't know who Morgan is. She used to live out here and then she moved back to Baltimore. Hey, Morgan. Her username is Butterripple. She has 50,000 subscribers. However, she'll have 400, 500 views because that's what I would suggest that you do. Be original, yet creative, and be consistent. By now, you guys can see by now I have a lot of random videos coming on here. The main focus is still hair. However, I'm vlogging, I'm doing cooking, I'm doing these chit chats, I'm doing product reviews, and I'm doing styles. It's a lot of random stuff. I personally like channels that are like that, as long as it's not too chaotic. I have always been, and not to say you're not, I've always taken my approach to being a YouTube creator, very humble. I will be okay if 500 people were subscribed to me because that's 500 people watching my videos, y'all. I looked back at some of my older videos and when I hit 1,000 subscribers because that's a big deal, right? Y'all, I think I am going to cut my ends. Hold on. Let me go get some scissors. Yeah, no. These ends need to be delivered. You see how ready that's looking? You can see through that. That needs to be cut. You see that? I'm not going to cut all of that, but some of this needs to be let go. Let go and let God do those ends because that's what I would recommend, but I want to ask y'all, who are some of your favorite vloggers besides me? Because I don't watch a lot, to be honest, I don't watch a lot of natural hair YouTubers because it's not, we've already talked about this, but it's not what it used to be. If I get recommendations, then yeah. Overall, I watch a lot of vloggers. I do look at makeup tutorials when I'm inspired, but I guess what I'm trying to say, I look at more lifestyle videos than hair. Yeah, so I definitely don't feel like there's a natural hair community anymore on YouTube. That's just not. Girl, it was canceled when Shea Monster was canceled. No, it's not due to Shea Monster, but yeah, no, there's not a natural hair community anymore. So I was just talking to my best friend a couple of days ago. She asked me had I caught the last episode of the Real Housewives of Potomac, and I'm not really watching that show. I feel like some of these reality series, it used to be that a show would have eight or ten episodes for a series. I feel like some of these shows have damn near twenty episodes. So I get bored. After the eighth one, I get bored. So no, I didn't watch it. I told her, I said, no, I didn't watch it, and I probably wouldn't catch it. But one thing that we were talking about is one of the young ladies who is getting married. She's engaged. Her name is Candice, and she's engaged to a man who has three children by two different women. And she eventually wants to have children, too. And we were talking about that, and she's like, and I've seen a lot of other comments on other people's channel that are basically like, why would you, I understand she's in love with him and you can't control to a certain point who you fall in love with. But out of all the people you choose to get was someone who has all this baggage. That's not me saying that. That's what I'm seeing from other people. And my best friend and I were talking about that, and she has a child, and she ended up marrying someone who didn't have one. So he accepted her daughter, and they had a child together. That's different. So I can see it happening several ways, you guys. I feel like the person who already has kids and they are marrying someone who doesn't often time, they're from the point of, I don't want any more kids, especially if their kids are older, but like I've already had kids, I don't want any kids. Well you need to take that in consideration when you're marrying someone who doesn't have kids. Sorry y'all, my camera can't cut up. You know, that's something you need to take into consideration with someone who doesn't have kids. You know, you're getting with someone who clearly loves you and wants to marry you. And I feel like these are discussions that should be had before you even get married. And that you should ask yourself, are you willing to date someone who has children? If you're willing to date someone who has children, there's a big difference of, are you willing to date someone who has small children versus adult children? If you are a young lady, 35 and under, with no kids, are you willing to date someone who has young children? Then, nowadays, it's like a lot of people have multiple kids. Are you willing to date someone who has multiple kids with multiple baby mamas? Um, girl, it is what it is. It happens y'all. Very very rarely will you find someone who is 30 plus years old and don't have any kids. It's out there. I was there. You know, I didn't have JB till I was, what, 34? And you know, see I'm glad, let's see, I'm glad that I'm looking at this now because my hair is very frizzy. All right y'all, so my hair is all down. So now all I'm gonna do is re-twist and re-band. I know y'all think you're like, why did you do that? There's a reason. There's a reason. There's a reason. So yeah, I don't know. I think that it can work but it's not gonna be a fairy tale. I think that those are conversations, like I said, that you should be having someone before you get married and yet you can't control certain things but while you're on the first date and you ask someone about, hopefully they will tell you by the second or third date that they have kids. I don't see too many people letting them know, you know, all their credentials are first date. By the second or third date you should know and if that's a problem you shouldn't continue the relationship. Now I'm sorry. That's how I feel like if you have a problem with that. But it can happen. I mean I know someone, she had three kids and her husband had three kids and they ended up getting married. Now they didn't have any kids together but that worked for them. I know someone else who already had a child and her husband ended up wanting kids and she didn't want any. She didn't want any. And oftentimes I've heard from some of my other friends, you know, and these are friends who are 50 plus years old in the dating game and the men that they're dating, they're paying child support or not necessarily child support. They have financial obligations to multiple children. So oftentimes these women are at a better advantage financially than the men that they're interested in. So those are things you've got to consider, you know? Girl. Oh, Lord. Let's just stay single. Let me see. So yeah, nothing else going on. It's stormed like crazy. You don't know I live in Phoenix, Arizona and it stormed so bad last night. It was so funny. The neighbor's tree fell over. Literally it uprooted and fell over. What happens is that it rained and the soil gets wet, of course there's moisture, and then it's windy. It was very windy and it just blew the tree all the way over into the road. It didn't blow over on the house. Thank God. So when we were always dropping JB off at school, JB is my son. Those of you who don't know is my five-year-old. When I was taking him to school, he was like, oh my Lord, he is so animated. I'm not sure where he gets all that from. He's like, oh my God, mama. Look at that. He's like, oh, we got to move. We got to move. We got to move to Texas. And then he's like, oh no, Texas is worse, mama. And I'm just listening to him. I'm not saying anything. He's like, oh no, I think Texas is worse because they have tornadoes. We got to move to Africa, mama. Can we move to East Africa? All right, baby, whatever you say. Okay. And now I need to do something, y'all. You know, thank you to one of you commented on my last video that, and it was a couple of thumbs up on her comment that, you know, you would watch my channel even if I didn't do new product reviews, just so I could get to that waist length. Thank you, girl. You know, the problem is not just, you know, that I have an itch to want to try new products sometimes, but I think I can let go of that. So I may, because you know that I'm taking a break in October. I may just stop for a whole entire year reviewing new products or I probably won't do as much. Does that make sense? Like this past few, I focused on one line the entire month. I did that for like three or four months, right? And now I'm getting back into the habit into reviewing multiple products in like one week by different people, different lines, I should say. So what I'm thinking about, look, that looks an absolute mess. What I'm thinking about is starting my growth again this winter and limit the reviews to like, seriously, like one line every three or four months, yeah. Because it takes a couple of months, y'all, to see some real growth and if you're changing up products, like literally every other week, yeah, no, you ain't gonna see anything. And I'm literally, I'm using cleansing products from different people. I'm using styling products from different people, you know. So I think I may do that and I need to brainstorm as why I risked my name back that I want to brainstorm about it. Basically just focus on growing my hair and I won't be doing any challenges. You wouldn't, right now, disclaimer, right now I could say I would never do stuff like onion rinses, tea rinses, I did that video never again. I won't do stuff like, what is that, rice rinses and I know some of you guys do that. What has worked for me in growing my hair, three things, simplicity, low maintenance that goes hand in hand and ensuring my hair is moisturized. Low maintenance and protective styling being the key, leave my hair alone. That has really helped me with hair growth. So what is that? What is that? So yeah, I may start that in the fall and extend that for an entire year, like, seriously. But I'll have to think about it because I still want to do hair videos, you know. Because I just haven't been consistent, you know. Yeah, someone else had asked me why I didn't use a natural hair, why I didn't use a nephi-headed jojoba's pre-poo, and yes, I respond, I do like that pre-poo still, but I don't use the same products. I literally use different products with every wash day. One, I have so many of them and two, sometimes I'm just grabbing stuff just to do my hair. All right, once I'm done flattening all this, I'm going to take the goody stretchy bands to help stretch out my hair. And then tomorrow we will do a 24-hour fast and pray that these Bantu knots, when I set them, come out good. I may want to cut a little bit of this a little bit, yeah, I see. I want to ask Antoinette, I don't know if I pronounced her name right, Busby. She's at all concerned about shedding because I know she had experienced shedding with this last baby and, you know, she's going to be doing anything in advance to, that's really nothing you could do. It's all hormonal, so that's different, oh, y'all, this is tight, holy hell, oh, hold on, hold on, girl, girl, get it together. Yeah, I want to ask her, I don't know if that's appropriate or not, maybe I'll wait until the baby comes. So let me see y'all. Real quick shout out to Jim Trensetter, she's another YouTuber. She hasn't made videos in like a year though, she's from Louisiana. I like her, I liked her videos and she stopped making videos. So funny, one of her videos that got a lot of traffic was about the natural hair community. I agree with everything you say, girl. I agree with everything. Some of those comments were a bit much from other people. What do y'all think about that, when people make, when YouTubers make certain videos about, you know, controversial stuff, it doesn't have to be hair. Who do you think is the problem once that video is up? Who do you think is the problem? Do you think it's the YouTuber themselves or do you think it's the subscribers who are making all the comments, going to other people who are making reaction videos? Who do you think is more of a problem? Let me tell you who I think it is. At first, I was going to say, you help us, but after thinking about it this morning, it's not the subscribers, y'all can't help what y'all see, it's us, the YouTubers. We're the ones that put it out there and you're just responding to what you see. So yeah, some of y'all could be a little extra, but overall, it's not y'all. You are not the problem. You should be familiar with the bending method. I'm not doing it correctly. Let me show you how you should really do it. This is one example. I'm taking this one and I'm going down and then I take another one and I just stretch it over and I go down. Some people do threading, bless your heart if you do that and then you may take another one. You continue to go down. That is technically how you're supposed to do the bending method. Look at that. Look at that. And then with this, what I normally do is stretch it back. So, all right y'all, that is it for this video. I'm going to continue bending my hair, I got a headache, I need to drink some more water. That is it. If y'all have some topics you want to talk about as long as it's rated PG, well, it could be a little, I don't want, okay, so this is some things I really am not going to talk about on my channel because I have children watching my channel. I won't be talking about sex. If you use on some freaking nicks, you can take that somewhere else. So we won't be talking about sex on my channel. Bless your heart. But any other topics I'm open to, communion is coming up so I'll pray for y'all. So let me know. And most of the time I know what I want to talk about though, so, all right y'all, y'all take care. Bye.