 Good morning, my name is Salantine or at Kalamiga all of the meeting. Can I just give you a very very big, very big thank you for staying with us from 7 to 10 years of money. About that time, we'll wrap this up for the conversation with Mike King and today in light of Easter, you know, Easter holiday, ni huapi, nanda twa kabriki ni hui bima twa bima da wiza comu ma menda kogyi leitu, nanda api but either way, you've taken a break from, you know, Routines of life so in the same thread on the same thing we are talking about taking a break from love Ya memali melelewa ni sanasana made mwede shama break but apparently it's a it's debatable because piyama jali uleza so talk to us at WhiteFive on Facebook at WhiteFive channel on Twitter hashtag is why in the morning I really put up a question and a poll and can I read a comment from Byron Oko uh I would initiate I asked kings if they would rather ask for a breakup no ask for a break or initiate a breakup so I would initiate a breakup asking needs some permission and consideration breakups are healthy for the purpose it serves best people must grow and develop you can't invest in zero returns wow again when either side has become too lazy irresponsible and reckless don't even ask for it she would give convincing reason for more tolerance in this dreams good person uh extremely life is a plenty don't even have to say to break it up see the next big thing wow all right I can see already have some opinions going around but before we get into any further ado let's introduce our panel hi guys hi hi oh i'm so happy i like it he trained last night for every reason to be happy finally finally and finally he's at this dream moment of silence for the rain tanks man okay you like to introduce yourself if i'm raila opanyi uh i'm a finalist of course ni me maliza shule na goji aggregation so we congratulate congratulation thank you thank you on facebook twitter and try my opanyi i'm happy to be here today once more and uh every time i'm seated here it's a valentine day thank god you know it can i finish with you so tell me your name oh i'm matoke yeah thank you i'm matoke patrick or sebe i come from the one county yamira county happened to be the new digavan yamira county the founder of combustion at heart of humanity kenya the graduate chuka university finalizing ah facebook onarabu matoke don't ask me why twitter onarabu patrick matoke instagram onarabu matoke i'm onarabu everywhere yes all right i will honorably move on hi queens hi this is your first time on set yes my very first time and i'm very excited to be here my name is kikulu tresi and i am a student again yes kikulu tresi yes i know i know i get cut a lot by the way but as time goes by you get used to it and yeah okay my name continue kikulu wow yes um and i am a student at the university of Nairobi and yeah the university of Nairobi oh how did you guys spend your Easter apart from sacrificing a time to come on set thank you thank you how did you spend your mona wuna in fact thank you for saying that it looks so special we were told we're giving statistics apart from the three three common things kenyas like to do over Easter the first one is it and in particular jamachoma i love for your feeling you could drink and then the third one is cheating apparently cheating happens the most on Easter yeah i know i was also quite confused because even as and na christmas because christmas we've destroyed the whole of jim zamba but without question my Easter was fine i was praying in fact i finished praying yesterday at 10 and uh i'm here now wow what did you pray for when i was praying for myself for my ambitions for the nation i also prayed for the program yes i pray for mania mania i am not a fan that is a problem uh you know i like giving back to this rati but this time i go with the kana i had a lot of things to do but um i helped jesus carry the cross on friday from crem to oh that's why my card uh you must definitely I took a break at some time back in November. In square 8 December, I would leave Shabrek naba the tone of it for a month later. No, I told you I would do that. I would do that, but now, yeah. Let us leave. I did not help Jesus Christ with the cross. He was just putting it out there. He was just putting it out there for everyone to see. I did not help Jesus Christ with the cross. Neither did I go to church. I just spent Easter indoors with my family, and it was fantastic. It's fantastic. As I can see by now, so yeah. You're glowing. So family is special. Yeah, family is everything to me. Wow. You're familiar. Wait, wait. That's a woman's name. After the show. Why 254? Please, 254. The hashtag is hashtag. Let's get into taking a break. Why two people? Who is most motorist in a relationship to ask for a break? Need a break? Obviously need a break. I just need a break. I don't know what. I need space to reflect myself. I need to retrieve my ladies. I have nothing to do with them, but I'm saying ladies. What do you think? It's ladies. I have a reason. As far as we just look at it from a very large point of view, men, most of the time like to have their own space. A man would not like his space be interfered. Sometimes a woman can be very clingy in a relationship, wants to be there all the time, wants to give you a lot of affection and just invest a lot of their feelings. So basically sometimes this man just gets tired of that at some point and he is the one who asks for the break. So according to me, break comes from the male side and not from the female side. Yes, the man can do so. Yes, everything actually. No, no, no, no. It helps me. This short break is brought about by women and that is the truth. No more, no less. Why? I am poor man. The other time I said that a poor man's way of having a pan is only through sex. So this happens basically to the youth. And this poor man who is also not creative is one who is told to take a break. Why? Because you cannot do anything. You cannot be creative enough to do whatever you want. You can get mad, you can do whatever you want. You can do whatever you want. So in a relationship, if you are poor, be creative. Every weekend you can let a kid go because if your girl is only there to provide you with sex, sex, sex, nothing more. You can do anything you want. I want to chalk up. But no man has a chalk up. No man has a chalk up. Like there is nothing else. No, apart from that. I love that. Let me ask you. If you are dating a poor woman, can you give her a break? Can you give her a break? Break your break first. Break first. I love that. Do you have the same sentiments? Any time you feel like jumping in just a second? One thing that we should be realistic here ladies and the people who ask for a break, I want to be genuine and realistic. The reason is a lady mostly doesn't want a crush on me. She's like, this man dress like him. This man doesn't have what he has. So let me ask for a break so that I do one, two, three and then That one aside. If a man is not responsible, most of the ladies when they admire you or when they come into a relationship, target with a goal, with something to achieve, that is the truth. Yes, including you or not you. Let me finish my statement kindly. Kindly. There is no relationship with that a goal, without an aim and when you meet, there is something that pushes a man to that lady and there is something in you or in a man that that lady admires. But if the expectations of this lady she doesn't meet them in you. That's when something like I need a break comes. Sometimes it's not always about the expectations from time to time, expectations, expectations. Sometimes it's just someone gets there is something we call dald by self it, where you get used to something so much that it becomes tiring. You used to find it interesting in the beginning but when time goes by the interest just goes away and that is what causes the break sometimes because maybe what this guy was offering or whatever your partner was offering at the beginning of the relationship is not what he's giving you right now because most of the times you'll find that people change as time goes by which is natural so you will give me this version of you in the beginning of a relationship but as time goes by you begin to change what am I here for if the person I fell in love with in the beginning is not there anymore and most of the time it's the man who changes maybe he changes his interest or something like that close to that. In a snapshot what she means is this she has said that that thing that she was getting at the beginning is now not there. Now in short, when you are asked for a break it means that this is a short way of training because when you are asked for a crush I love that. So when you are asked for a crush when you are asked for a break you are asked for a test so this is the king and this is the baby king so that is what you are asking for. Let us look at it from a point of view whereby it's not about last it's not about crushes it's about two people who are in love and looking forward to making this thing work but... so listen to me so when you get to that point there is just sometimes when there is too much noise and inside the relationship there is clutter it's like putting garbage in your house you just keep piling and piling over time it just smells bad so all these words that are left unsaid actions that are not done unsaid and all that just pile up and pile up and as time goes by you find that it's causing a lot of chaos in the relationship so people just take breaks from that people want to take a break from that but you know if you look at it from a realistic point of view you'll be gone and when you come back if you are meant to be you find that the same problems are still there so breaks are actually never an option even though they are still there Madam Kiku you are the one speaking are you still in the sleep that is an idea you are the one speaking but let us come into our questions and speak the reality there is a relationship before you were married and there is a relationship when you were in that marriage now you are at home mukupamodza let us be specific we ask for a break when we are married or when we are in a relationship or dating that's a legit question but none of us here are married thank you now if we are talking about this relationship when we are dating taking a break is one of the things I may not advocate personally I may not advocate why this is the time you want to test two ways but none of us take a friend zone no no no no as much as we are saying it is fair let us be I love saying ukweli not in quotes one this lady or this man may ask for a break he has already considered where he is now and where he wants to be you may find that she is asking for a break because she has remembered oh my ex was well done or I saw somebody else that's why let me have this break let me compare the two guys because I have been approached by somebody else yes so that I don't lose both of them no no but I cannot advocate that we should ask for a break yes most of them they ask for a break reason I may say that they may ask most ladies may ask out may ask where they are some may say no they may ask out may ask where they are may ask but now what's at the end their friends are enjoying somewhere they are giving everything that the ladies need she is there she is there watching you are not even close to and then quarrel quarrel quarrel quarrel where they are are you seeing that is when that is when let me finish personally I will say you have a call to make to me you don't call that's when I may decide to take a break but I will not ask for a break I ask for a break break up how are you you may ask when you're in bed not in bed nona you may ask when you're completely extraordinary New and old past zikwendi ya ka Kwa Beshia ka lakupata Beshia, tansi wa kama hini maene poha rewa nanguolti umi ya kwa niwa poha, huanae na una rallo na muka muka nisupyuna kai, kwa ni miibi yoHaha lakuma nga ya, Kwan ni miibi yo No, no, no na, naa maeni ni wajima So kata, naa, naa, naa, naa, naa, naa, naa? Mani is not the only motivating factor This girl wants time, this girl wants attention, this girl wants you to just be there even if you don't have to go out Let us look at couples that maybe don't like to go clubbing or don't go out with friends that much They just like some alone time together That is a whole different story where money is not a motivating factor When a lady asks you for a breakup, most of the time Most of the time, if not all the time, it is always like a wake up call for the man Because sometimes the man comes into a relationship and gets used too much to the fact that this lady is there When you wake up in the morning she is always there So he almost treats you like you are just there Like a photo that is always there in the house all the time When you wake up it will be there, I don't have to even look at it, it will be there When this lady asks you for a break, it is like a wake up call Hello? I will not be there one day or one morning when you wake up And I want to know how you are going to react about that Sometimes it is not just always about things that you say Sometimes it is just a wake up call Hey you, I can live your life anytime I want It is not that you are the pillar of my life I just want you to treat me better Because one day I will live and I will not be there And I want to see how you are going to take it You have to treat me like I am not there for ornamental purposes Can you allow me to allow? Let's just take it from there Say she is giving you that talk and then you are now on a break How then are you supposed to talk to each other Like do you still call her so they be in love with you? Yes, that is it Val, you are now coming to what I wanted to speak When you are telling that we go for a break It means all everything that I offer you break My phone calls break My finances break Break that ticket No, that is serious You are asking for a break That means whatever I offer you by that time It is all break Everything is at the break So we have to suspend it until the time We keep you I love your name We know how you love Kwa Kwa Why should you opt for a break and a break? When you opt for a break, it's like a wake-up call. It's like when you're used to giving someone something that they just get used to even not trying any hard to appreciate that it's there. So you take it away from them just to show them you need this to be there and so you have to treat it with all the importance that it deserves. Thank you Mr. Rila. You speak English. Yeah, during this time we'll break. Yes, during this time we'll break what will be happening at your point and what will be happening at my point. I want to take it now, it is me and you but it is not the reality. And just add another question. What happens if, for example, let's take the 12 years you are asking for a break. You were trying to teach him a lesson you are important and valuable in your life but during that break he finds someone else. Then you've gotten the answer that you want to be in the first place. So Matoke, if the speaker lady let's assume you are the only queen here. Okay, okay, okay. Just be gentle. Now, during that time and you sent me to umeni patia break do you think you'll be faithful to wait for me because man in the same way switch on switch off so do you want to leave your man outside there just for a break because for you to call for this break which means in a way you are tired with this man so do you think when you come back you'll find this man sober now. Okay, that is a very wonderful statement that you just made right there because you have messes of you to fix. If you look at it this way, what happens during the break is that yes everything is on a break, everything is on a stand still this man is making assumptions at his end and everyone is hearting the relationship is just in chaos. When a break ends all depends on the ego of the two sides. Nowadays it's never about until death do us part if you ask me it's all about until ego do us part that's how it is until ego do us part until ego do us part not death do us part because if by any chance someone asks you for a break and you try and communicate to them try and know what is going on at the other end because it's all about information and if there is communication at all communication has steps then communication is made but if there is no communication during this time of the break everyone is like helping up their heads I don't want to call her she asked me for a break she on the other hand I don't feel like calling him until he realizes how important I am so please it is all about the ego the ego will always set the pace for a relationship until it's just not there anymore can you I have spoken a break on love and get back together is it possible that now that we've called for a break can I one side kill him to make a box come back to me for these people to get a break which means they have not been stable for a very long time oh there is something that has been happening what you do is simple this is the shortest way of living your partner to me so what I think is that kishindikana we should not force things kishindikana we should not force things because the women are there we should not force things when is that Shadoe I would strike him down because at this moment where you just say that it almost feels like women are jewelry where you can just sit you enter jewelry at this point it feels shiny you almost make it seem like it's a buffet you have to know what you want and if by any chance in your life you have happened to take a lot of breaks it is because you think women are all the same women are not the same you have to have a particular type that you want I want an intellectual woman not every woman is like that she is like that they cannot even cook for themselves because the woman's purpose in life is to make sure she knows how to wash dishes I am saying this that a woman should be all round when she is out when she is out she should not be in the kitchen she should not be in the kitchen she should not be in the kitchen so how flower women but a real woman I want to tell you something I read something I said we are not married so when your vision looked at your fingers in the eyes of the girl I want my future wife to be like this I want my future husband to be like this make sure you are that list so when you are out you should be the last time you are married you have to be what you aspire and on that note if you allow me to read a message this is a live on real men don't do breaks this is a live on real men don't do breaks this is a live on real men don't do breaks this is a live on real men don't do breaks this is a live on real men but we have a recording system things from 2015 June 21st at 5pm when a man does the exact same thing this is true kwa jui. Ati manoma kujesumewe 3 months ago atiata, huli sa ukusi magdaf, manziata skuwe kwa gali yosiku, nambia pukidogo isi usika kwa. Is that the same case with asking for break, lega pumedshia to break kwa umenda, isi half time yohua? Yohu naitisha ukenda aga, manoma yohu kiskemi kwa meiibo, kuna kipua meona ama, kuna msi anamugini uko, aneza chora vizuri, naiza chora, chora, naiwa yohu nambia unaiza chora, yohu vii, yohu vii. So, it's mostly about last and what you want to know? Not all about last and what you want to know? Not all about last and what you want to know? Man of aim, these were creatures. Last me yule, tap tap tap. Like you can remember the guy who was telling us the other time that he seduces even three ladies in Advaitu to appreciate that. That is called last. But apa, we are talking about you have one man. Na ameku, ameku, ameku kaliya, kaliya, kaliya, paka ukaona. Mugini mubremu maali, kama ku. Kutafdambini ya kwa chahu yohu. Nambia, let's go for a break. Akepeti yule mugini. And the vice versa flies. So, kisha yubaisa it uhu taru ditu. Break in nature, let's get back together. That in nature is not a real man. That in nature is a bad man. I would have so many things to say. A real man cannot quit on one woman just because it is not working for a short period of time. If you want to ask me, it is love. I will sit there. Let us argue, let us have every single argument that we can ever have in this world. I would rather that we sit there and just stare at each other and not go anywhere. But no one is taking a break. Let me tell you something. Someone once, there is a book that I once read and it is written in there. Have a life that, okay, we keep thinking about vacations. But have you ever thought about having a life that you don't have to demand a break from? I will not that someone until it is worth it. So, for me to date you, it has to be worth it and I don't have to lose time during that time. We are in it and we are in it. You are either in it fully or there is no way that you can be in and out. As you speak, madam kekuyo. Ma'am, let me ask you directly. Yes, let me ask you directly. Personally, where were you? What would make you to ask for a break? Only two things, three. Three things that would make me ask for a break. One. Half. Wow, that is quite a question. Asking and answering for you. As I said before, I would never take a break. Oh, so we are in the same lane. I would never take a break. I want to hear the three things. Which will make her? I don't know what will make her. First, I would like to see her crash. In fact, she will crash with her test. No. 2. Wow, that is quite a question. No. 2. You would never be creative as a man. You would never be so happy. You would never be able to take a break. You would never take a break, you would never be in a good mood, Kwa kwa wajana kwa wajana kwa wajana. She's used to you. Kwa wajana kwa wajana kwa wajana. Kwa kwa wajana kwa wajana. Mikiwa wajana, Wajana kwa wajana. Kwa wajana, That can make a lady ask for a break. Ask for a break? Number 1. She said 60% of them come into a relationship because of money. The first impression that you gave, no, let me explain myself. The first impression that you gave, first time we met Hilton Hotel, second time Stanley Hotel, third time Weston. Now it has reached a point Weston, Hilton, Stanley, it is not there. The first impression that you gave her is not the real thing that is happening now. Second thing, she may ask for, I want to go and reflect about my life, I want to go and I want to just relax my mind and think about something that, because when a lady, I want to be sincere, musta na kukupenda, na kukupenda well, na akunakito na penda kenye unafanya. For example, if a lady loves you, she may. She loves me because I want to talk to her. This guy knows how to hustle. If you don't have much, you want to hustle. But if you have a point, he will hustle, what I used to tell her, what I used to show her, she may decide for a break, but I am not advocating for that. When there is a problem, ladies, and I want to tell the truth, when there is a challenging relationship, come on to the table, discuss, ask me, Matoke, when we came into this relationship, we said, number one, this one. Number two, this one. No, this one. Number one, you love me. Number two, you take care of me. Number three, you take me to school for example, but I am not paying school fees for somebody. You know, I will not. Number three, I will not pull it back. Number four, you told me that you take me for outings, but now outings are not there. Where you can see the way it is. Oh, Paul, if this is the case, let us do this. One, it has retrieved where we went from. It has retrieved our love. It has resources now, they are reducing because you see, you are there, we are trying to learn in it. Now, how can we work together to make it happen? You see, but if she is there, oh, you are a man diving. See, we are going to go and dress her up and give her money to come and pay. Pesa, pesa, pesa, pesa. Namatoke, skuja na vangu muwaja. Ha? Na vangu pay. We are going to judge your money. All right kids, we are wrapping this up. I will say your last words. Now, make it very short. Okay, you do like this. You should date a potential husband now, especially at your age now. And to make it short, you should date a potential lady, a lady who can take you to the next level. A lady who can make history together with you. You see, and now when he reaches a point where you found a man, you truly love him and he is not the way you want. You are the one to mould that person so that at least even the society can see in you. And then from this point, we are going to do a break. Break, break, break. Umanomira kupenda wan, because he really invested in this relationship and I pay him a invest. Umanomira tawana. Ni keatoan irudi vene, ni kwa na wakati. Nasa eveni niko, I cannot make it in life. Umanonira pata, umtara na kwa na kwa na kwa na kwa na kwa na kwa na kwa na kwa na. You can't do without this man. Maka huwimadem, wana trafta kwa ba, wana trafta dunia. One worker is fully packed. O, not six cars. Six cars. Six cars, bla bla bla. Six cars, bla bla bla. No. And I read another book called The Rival and the fall of African traditional societies where after black women going to school now they are too far away, they cannot live together. You have to, you earn 100,000 per month. I earn 100,000 per month. Ni kujakani, kustebo, kustebo. So unera ni ambienti. So to me I asked they used to begin from somewhere and move somewhere. Oh. There is only so much that I can say but if you were to ask me I would say find someone whom you will build something with. There is no perfect relationship. Build something from the ground that by the time you get up there you would have every right to own what you have because if I find a man with all that he has and then by the time we are, yes, we are progressing but by the time we get there what right do I have to claim this as mine? I have no right. Let us just not have too much ego. It is the one thing that can eat up a relationship right from the roots to complete destruction and when you find love, love. Don't invest in loves that are not worth it. This is where you find people dating up. So many people, they even run out of fingers just dating people that they have in one lifetime. How wild can you go in just one lifetime? Let us just invest in things that are worth it. When something is not worth it no it's not worth it and just do what you know is right. I'm sorry, you started with the potential so now I really have to finish. Give me one sentence. You can date all, dine them all turn 360 degrees in bed but if he decides to dump you, he'll dump you. That's true. Yes. So as we finalize allow me speak out of the topic. One second. Yes, on 1st May I'm inviting you as Charity Ambassador Kenya to Horek Chubes Home. Meeting point it is just here. Pumplast. Yes, there. That is what I do. Charity. Charity and our Epo coordinator Mwangi Magnet. So where do you do that in the festival? Meanwhile, don't be around people who make you feel humiliated don't be around people who make you want to cry all the time. Don't make you, don't be around people who make you second guess your sanity. Like I, I now don't do it. I know some other news I was, I feel like taking a break as a Manu fan but I'm sour. I am not ready to take a break. I am going to pass a via, not ready to end communication is clear. So please Manu, please. We need to talk. Okay, we need to be kind of reacting. We need to be kind of reacting. Anyway, you guys, it is well with my soul. Call me at white5office with the hashtag It's my good morning. Let's wait. Bye.