 Thank you for staying with us. You're still watching The Breakfast on Plus TV Africa and right now it's time for a hot topic We'll be talking about mapping your success in 2024 now mapping your success is the bedrock to achieving all that you've said for yourself all the goals dreams Aspirations, how do you get to achieve them in this year? Well, we have a guest joining us is Emmanuel Wange Dobe. He's a human development and personal growth expert And he will be talking to us and how to map your success in 2024. Hello. Good morning Emmanuel. Thank you for joining us Good morning. Thank you remains. So good to be here. Yeah You were supposed to be here on Monday because this was later for Monday, but Lagos happened to you and you couldn't make it But we're glad that we're here now and we can you know start taking notes on you know, what to do for this year Someone said that we should stop saying Lagos happened to you on Nigeria What do we do about it? Welcome when we think map we think geography right, you know So it's interesting to know that there's a They say map for your success and the other day we were talking about How to make your money growing trees, right? So it is it's like, okay We're going to farming farming money. So to speak. So it's we're glad that you are here So just explain to us the concept of Mapping your success. Okay. Thank you so much for having me one more time Yes, so yeah from the word map for me. It's pointing us to the fact that every destination has a pathway and So you do not become unintentional about your journey. I I didn't get here by mistake. I knew exactly where I was going to and not every road will lead to this place So I was intentional about going through the right roads that lead that will lead me to this place, right? So if I If I do not have a first-hand knowledge of the direction which a map gives to us Now that's the idea Yeah, the compacts that leads us to a good destination So if I do not have a first-hand information about that direction that mapping I won't get here I won't get here. And so interestingly every human has a Destination that's what we call destiny And so unfortunately not everyone gets there Oh Fortune it not everyone gets there. Okay. So if in the sense of you know mapping out your success We've established the fact that you need a pathway to get there So, how do you start that journey of mapping your success? For instance, you know, you need to prioritize some certain things You need to you know, plan certain actions in 2024. You've just said you have to be intentional about your journey So, how do I start to map out my success? How do I start on that journey of ensuring that all all I've set out to do for this year is being achieved at the end of 2024? At the end of 2024, I'm looking back and I'm saying yes I made these goals I made these plans and I'm able to say here right now that I you know surpassed even sometimes I surpass everything that I set out to do So, how do we start to plan and prioritize those actions? All right First there is a slogan that we began to thought leaders began to use in 2023 So while we're ending 2022 we began to say 2023 was a great year. Yes, right So December last year we also began to say 2024 was a great year. The idea is Finish living 2024 in your mind even before you start living it in reality So what does that do? What it does is it keeps you on track when to begin the year because you for instance if you see You know a building construction a building site the finished building It's only you and me that don't know the outcome of that building, but the architect knows already All right. So the idea is to finish living 2024 in your head and then you start, you know in reality So now for me the first step now people be confused. How do I start? So the first step is to first realize that success is relative So you do not define your success by general standards now Success must not be material That's important. Got to a lot of persons when they look back at 2024 They want to say oh I was able to build a house. I was able to buy a car I was able to travel out I was able to do this and that sometimes your plans your success The definition of your success in 2024 may be that you were able to use 2024 to set a foundation for 2025 And that is that is actually success not because if you judge your success by someone else's standards You'll be running on someone else timeline and you'll miss out on your own journey, right? So I tell my mentees for instance one of the things I marked out for this year. I Said I want to break into higher cycles. There's certain international bodies I'm trying to look at so I want to break into higher cycles Now I told them I said if you decide you like the goal break into higher cycles And then you decide to want to pick that goal. You may miss out now What if you are the type who has who still have a problem with low self-esteem? She have a problem with lack of self-confidence. She have a problem with poor people skills She have a problem with social skill and all of that if you break into higher cycles You may end up trying to look for a second opportunity to make the first impression. You'll make a lot of mistakes What if you channeled your own success for the year to self-development? That's also success. That's success because it's more than the material So the the first step to start is for everyone to ask himself. Where am I in my journey of life? And where do I want to and where do I want to go? That's the first step So know where you are and define where you want to go. That's the first step. I like that I like that. So let's talk about vision board a little bit Because there's been a thing over the years now that when you decide you want to do something As long as you have it in your mind's eye, you can definitely achieve it So you see a painter for instance a painter does it we don't know what the outcome of that painting is going to be But it starts with a brush stroke and that brush strokes with another one and different colors and now turns into a beautiful masterpiece So now we're talking about, you know mapping your success. I want to know what the importance of vision board is Does it keep you in track? Does it, you know, just help you solidify and crystallize all that you're saying I want to do in 2024 I mean I have had a vision board before and I'm sure a lot of people maybe might not might not think it's so important But I want you to just highlight is it's super important for you to have a vision board Even if you're not, you know putting the pictures together and having it like a scrapbook. Yes But is there something maybe you're just writing it down and saying these are my goals for 2024 And then you start to take them when you achieve them But just walk us through the importance and why it's essential to have a vision board All right One of the things that has always been proven even with children is that children learn by visuals and so teachers have tried to use visuals to show them things Because sticks the ice is the I think the I'll call the ice the most the most effective route to the mind Okay, you hear things like women are moved by what they hear men are moved by what they sing That's the same thing that happens in our personal lives that's vision You have to see through your eyes because it sticks to your head Right now you may not be so You wasn't bring a whole lot of expertise into it now. Okay. Let me let me try. Let me bring stuff from the point of expertise The most accurate way to do a vision board is to use graphics. Yes Graphics if you at some point because I want this to do one other do physical events I do events online events webiness and all of that so because I have the vision to physical events and I had a vision of the number of persons I wanted to I Want to come to the event I had to go have a graphics that showed a Big a very big event large event the kind of hall because all of these things the ambience I need the picture to be in my head and then I had it pasted on my wall So every time I look at it I remind myself. This is exactly what I'm looking for. This is exactly what I want Now if you find yourself losing passion Losing zeal for that thing the moment your eyes go back to that thing It puts you back on track. It it reenergizes you eat. Let me let me go back in it a bit I tell people while I was in school I'm doing a bootcamp and they told you about that. So yeah when I was in school, I was sharing with them how Things will not to Rosie with me Yeah In fact some point let me say this as a point I see myself. I can still like two days. I've not eaten Three days of not eating right and so I did something I put a paper and I wrote there. I'm a world leader I like that. I'm a world leader. I was telling my mind and opposite of what the present reality was showing Hmm Because we naturally our minds are very dear. They are magnetic to the environment So we must intentionally hack into our mental system To give it a different picture from the present environment. So I wrote there. I'm a world leader I put it directly opposite my bed So that moment I wake up. That's what you're saying. Now this world leader will wake up without food This world leader will wake up to me. I was telling them in my bootcamp. I said then I don't drink water I see water. Wow You know, there's a different between drinking and seeping so I can manage won't be a water for three days Why because if it finishes, I cannot afford to buy another one It was that bad Right. So both this same proposed world leader will wake up without food But we look at that thing on the wall and remind myself. I am a world leader. So I think it does something to your psyche Yes, it does. It does. It's yeah before we get it. We get it wrong There's one thing Nigerians say and I don't know if it's the same thing as you're saying now Whatever is going to happen to them. They tell you not my portion and they do not do what they're supposed to Right. Just say not my portion. It's not the same thing you're talking about. Is it not my portion? It is. Go and kill that Malay. We are not my portion As long as you've said it So let's know so that we know that if they are doing the right thing or that is slightly different from what you're talking about Okay The idea behind this is that actions are sponsored by thought buttons I like that. Actions There is nothing we do that is not sponsored by how we think At the end of the day I say man think it in his heart so easy Right, so it is not a vague Statement I'm a world leader Because if you lose energy from within you will not step out to do anything If you lose hope from within your faith will die So what that vision both does is to renew your hope Hopeful people will always step out. I'm sorry when you say renew your hope I'm wondering whether it's Nigeria's type of renewed hope in fact Because we're still here now Now this is it I like that I Tell people everybody's a leader over his own life If you look up now if Nigeria is having a problem we look up to the leader if your life is not moving right We look up to you It's your it's your responsibility So we must rise up to leadership because leadership is not actually a position It's actually you being in that place where you influence and out come So you've less outcome of your life Okay, imagine 200 million people look up to Timbo and you yourself can't even look up to yourself You can't even lead you Right. So if you know what is promising Nigeria renewed hope you as a leader over your own life She promised yourself. We need hope. Okay, right. So vision what helps you do that helps you Renew your hope renew your joy when I was in school. I had a roommate So one morning I woke up and the guy was just down. He's out of the country now He was just down. He was just down. I'm like, what's wrong with you? I'm just tired. I'm just tired So I said, you know Before I'm up to my bed when I'm covered if I come back go through your vision nodes Go through your diary. Just go through it. I won't take my baby. I came back. You know, it was playing music You know, it was in my goal because His hope has been renewed that whatever is happening now is Not my reality forever. So he has seen the future coming. So that's what vision what does Reminds you the future. It restores your joy. It restores your hope and the long run All of this will influence your action trying to answer what he said not just to have hope that it will happen Wait in place that hope strengthens your faith that sponsors your action to make it happen. Okay So don't go into that bush. This is it is snake infested. Don't say not my portion You have to do something that is stay away from that bush. Okay. Now one of the key loss of success Is procrastination? How do you deal with it? Okay, this has been everyone's problem so I'm going to Talk about procrastination from the place of indiscipline first I Was I was talking to My bootcamp How that it I remember one particular year my friends and I we said this new year no carbonated drink A lot of people say that because people make new year resolutions and by the first week you're probably they don't we so and Now acts him. He said since that time till now He has not afforded. Wow. I defaulted along the way Right. So there's a place of discipline right Because the first way to overcome procrastination is to be disciplined Hmm When I was in school I like going back to schools actually a defining moment for me Right, so it's changed two minutes about me when I was in school for instance. I remember I talk a lot I it's not even maybe vague or profane talks, but Talk like what I do, but sometimes I tend to learn how to even not say everything just calm down We say silly today. That's for more, right? So What I did then was I wrote something down from today I will listen twice as much as I speak. I put it at the wall just Near the door so when I'm going out, that's what I see So when I go out, I see it I read it from today from today So I go out and then when an opportunity does what I mean to talk comes You think about my go I think about it now because I have not overcome that this is discipline from inside I see myself talking again and something reminds me from today And I'll be like I just want to enjoy this talk It took me over time to be disciplined So that's a key strategy. Is there any other strategy? So we're they're already telling us that we have to wrap up So I think just give us like a few strategies that you think would be helpful for anyone who's trying to map out their success in 2024 right number one. I think what I would tell people is build accountability partners It's very important Like this issue of not thinking coming to drink I remember those people who are very close to me Sometimes when they see me wants to take it easy. No, you said Sometimes I see them I say no now because you've stopped me. I was talking to you. All right, and those things we're helping us, right? So build accountability partners then build reminder systems It's important. It could be The what I did right in the wall Yeah, even vision board can be a reminder put it everywhere write it in a paper put it Even be on your phone screen saver, right? If you're a student watching this on every note Put it there when you go to class you open your notes That's the first thing you see and you remind so reminder system works accountability partners work Then doing things immediately No procrastinating does when you have the idea to do it do it immediately But by eventually something urgent comes in There's a tendency you forget. That's where reminder systems So when you go to the toilet you have seen where you wrote I'm gonna do this You'd know I said this then you see yourself going back to today So for me these things will be discipline remind yourself quit mother system are yourself. They learn to do that immediately I believe it's Will be better remedy. Yeah, it's a good thing. Your name is Emmanuel God is with us Discipline and to remember things and then to build have the right company right around you I know that that's basically what it is if you want to excel. So thank you very much. Thank you so much I mean we've learned a lot and I'm sure of yours. I've learned a lot. We've talked about Having your vision board using it to motivate yourself. It being a reminder system as well building discipline Because I think that the problem, you know, we all can say things with our mouths We can all say yes, we want to do this You say I want to do this I want to do this this year and most times will always see the year as a fresh start which it is what It's just a crossover from one year to another. So it's another day. So you can actually start today It doesn't have to be this is the first yes or first of January So you can start to make those plans and even when you default have that reminder system that puts you right back on The motivational talk It's fun having a manual join us and it's fun having you be there to watch us We'll do it again at the same time next week Let's have this small weekend to rest a little bit. I would like to say thank you to you like to say Thank you to Emmanuel for coming on the show Remember that Emmanuel is a human development and personal growth expert So outside here you can contact him to give you some tips on how to be a success story to yourself You can never reach the apex everywhere. You are you are still going to be able to improve on your life So take that opportunity but for me until we meet again on Monday. My name is Nyamgul Agadje. Thank you for being there My name is Rumeh Olsin. Thank you so much. Have a good weekend