 Absolutely no one wants to feel as though they were nothing but a launching pad for someone else's greatness. What does it really mean to win your breakup? The real win is realizing that you won by losing someone who was toxic to your mental health. You know, you can never lose a toxic person. You can only win everything that comes with their absence. That's just what it is. And as far as winning goes, I always found that no matter who you are, no matter what you're struggling with, absolutely no one wants to feel as though they were nothing but a launching pad for someone else's greatness. The linchpin of the ideology for the book is to get a detailed, like think of everything your partner did. Think of how that made you feel and use the recognition of their toxicity to skyrocket you out of your own. That is winning. That's what I call winning.