 This video you are about to watch was shot over a year ago while I was still very pregnant with my second daughter Ziya. Now I never ran this video after shooting it because it was done in partnership with Byheart, an infinite formula company that I worked with before their launch and continue to work with to this day. And at the time, you might recall, there was a mass shortage of formula and I didn't want to add any more stress to the conversation so we decided to put a pause on sharing it. Now that times I'm more plentiful, I really wanted to bring this back because when I shot this video I was really in it and I know so many of you, which congratulations if this is you, are really in it right now and it's very helpful to talk with people who can see it from your vantage. And I have a very different perspective now, a very single-bodied perspective. So pregnant me is going to walk you through breasts and breast milk and feeding babies as it pertains to sex because obviously it's Shambudi as it pertains to supply and supplements. I hope you enjoy. This video is sponsored by Byheart, the first and only new vertically integrated FDA registered brand in the U.S. Meaning they own their company, their recipe, their promise to you, all of it. And when you own things, you can change things. Find out what big changes they have made to the formula world and how you can bring this goodness to your baby by going to the link in the info box or watch to the end of the video because I have so much more to say about Byheart. Hi there lovers and friends. I just need my community right now. I need your prayers and your support and your encouragement because I am feeling very overwhelmed. I am on one hand obviously getting more and more nervous as I get closer to birth because you want to make sure that everything goes well and the baby of course is healthy. Also nervous because I don't know what I'm going to do. I genuinely don't. I don't know what I'm going to do, but we'll figure it out. And I'm so grateful that with my first pregnancy, I got to be open and learn so much from all of you. And in this video, I'm going to be sharing about feeding your baby specifically how I plan to feed my baby based on how I fed the first one. And your information, your tips, your tricks of course are always welcome in the comment section as well as any helpful hints you might have on what to do with two children under two. Because yeah, it's a little nerve-wracking for me. Speaking of which, let me just say in full disclosure, I am reporting live from the new baby's room which you might recognize as Ryu's room because I'm not going to change anything. I know that you technically should because this is like a different baby, different personality. You should like try to change stuff up, but I don't have the energy, right? I can't really justify why I would put myself through that work. So really, we're just moving Ryu into our old room. We moved our old room into the living room. And then now we're moving this baby into Ryu's old room. And a lot of changes have to happen everywhere else. I just like, this one gets to stay the same, right? Is that bad? I still think it's cute. It applies. Anyhow, back on track. In this video, I want to talk about feeding your baby, specifically again how I am planning on feeding mine. And that is mainly with breastfeeding. So I want to talk about breastfeeding as it pertains to sex. Obviously, you know, I have to talk about sex. Supply. And then I want to talk about supplements. And when I say supplements, I don't mean it in a pharmaceutical way. I mean it in the dictionary way. A supplement is something that completes or enhances something else when added to it. So lastly, we'll talk about supplementing my breast milk supply. First up, let's talk about breastfeeding as it pertains to sex, which you might not think that those two things have to combine together. And based on your experience, maybe they won't, but for me, they definitely did. I found interestingly through experience and then of course through reading online about it, that during sex, specifically during orgasm, you just naturally start to lactate. And there was actually a scene from a Netflix movie in which, you know, her and her husband were trying to keep that spontaneity and fire alive and they were having car sex and then her boob turned on. And I've talked about this before in other videos. When your supply turns on, especially in the beginning, it's not a dribble dribble. It's like a circus sprinkler. So I definitely resonated with that scene. So we had to sometimes I would wear a bra, you know, to avoid that. And especially in the beginning, breast pads were my best friend. You know, it was essentially like a panty liner that I had to wear my bra all the time just because of the leakage. I breastfed for a year so towards the end, I didn't necessarily have as much spontaneity around when my breasts would start to expel milk. But in the beginning, it was pretty funny and fun to navigate. And whether my husband wanted to try it or not, yeah, he definitely got caught up. But as long as you can be communicative about it and clear, and then of course, if you are having sex with new partners, breast milk is a bodily fluid. So you do want to make sure to get yourself tested and checked because somebody might accidentally consume a bodily fluid and you want to make sure that your health is in a good place for that to be okay. That's all I'll say about that. Next up, let's talk about supply. Now, my personal experience with supply, I did not realize was privileged until after I'd had a baby and started having discussions with other breast and chest feeders and realized that this can be a major burden and a major heartache for a lot of people. I was fortunate to just have a lot of breast milk and I say fortunate kind of with a grain of salt because in the beginning it was wonderful and I was able to freeze a lot and I really did produce a lot of milk. But as Ryu got older and her needs increased and naturally my supply decreased, that's where I think the pride that I felt or maybe the reputation that I felt I built up in my family of having this robust amount of breast milk got in the way of me feeding my baby. And as I mentioned, you know, a lot of parents feel a shame for going to formula and because my breast milk supply was so strong, times where I did have to supplement with formula felt like a failure and I don't want that to happen this time around, especially given the fact that I don't know what my supply is going to be like this time around. It might not have the exact same experience and so rather than trying to prove something, whether that be to myself or to everyone else, by taking on the burden of feeding 100% on my own, I hope that I have, you know, a bit more graciousness with my body and then just saying, again, if I get to that place, if I'm able to do it wonderful and I'm happy to provide, but if it gets to a place where my body is not able to produce as much as the baby needs to consume, then that's where I hope, again, I have an easier time opening my heart and opening the baby's mouth to supplemental feeding, which is what I want to talk about next. So I'm going to be very honest here. I think given that I am an older mom, mixed in with some other things, I was really adamant that my body could do it and so embracing formula took a lot longer than I am proud to admit and especially towards the end of my breastfeeding journey, which happened at exactly a year old, a year and one month when I found out that I was pregnant with a second baby, I was like, I'm not feeding three people, I'm out of the game and that's when I was able to just let myself let go of that, but prior to that, I definitely struggled because I felt the pride from doing it all and my body doing it all, but the real truth is you're doing a lot and you don't have to prove that you're a good mother or that your body is capable to the point that you're putting yourself and your mental health at harm or possibly even depriving your child of the nutrition that they could benefit from and that is why, again, I want to talk about By Heart being a formula brand that I just adore and I'm glad that again towards the end when it got to that place where it just really wasn't enough, I was more open and I really hope and believe that with this next baby because I don't know what my story is going to be that I've gotten over hopefully that ego hump and that I will be even more open to inviting help from incredible places into my life because yeah, help is definitely a word that I've become a lot more comfortable with since having kids like right now, for example, help. However you'd like, I'll take it. This is now my second video I've dedicated to boobs and babies in that combination because it's a very fascinating process to see how your body changes and adapts to this new change in your life and I hope to continue talking about it because I know that so many people who go through it are like, I didn't know or I would love to have known so if you want more boobs and baby content please check out this other video but also before you go please leave some comments in the comment section below talking about your experience if you have or if you haven't had some of the questions you might have around boobs and breastfeeding as it pertains specifically to sex, supply and supplements two parents out there who are afraid or conditioned to be ashamed of inviting aides and assistants and supplements into their life I just want to say to you it is powerful and it is beautiful to reach out and ask for help and in this area in particular where it is unknown this is a new thing that your body is doing that you may have never done before so asking for a lactation expert's help is logical asking and researching to find out what the best formulas are to supplement your own supply or to replace if you don't want to supply in that way is beautiful and I wish that I embraced that as normal a lot sooner and I'm really really glad that I'm embracing it now ahead of the journey that I'm about to embark on yes I'm so glad that you guys today because I want to tell you more about By Heart this is the first new formula brand built entirely from the ground up they rewrote the formula recipe completely own their ingredients sourcing, manufacturing, research and development facilities and clinically prove their closeness to breast milk claim in nationwide clinical trials parents you might be stressed about feeding your baby because you felt like you have to lose if you choose formula but By Heart is offering no compromise nutrition meaning all in one benefits like easy digestion immune support, gut health, less spit up, less gas and softer poops it's the first U.S. infant formula to be clean label project certified with no corn syrup, maltodextrin, soy or palm oil because in By Heart's recipe every ingredient is considered so consider checking them out I am so glad that I found out about By Heart I was one of the first people to know about By Heart when I had Raiyou and now that I am having baby too I'm even more thrilled to have this in my cupboard and if you are interested in learning more go down to the info box, click the link and see what's possible for you and your lil