 My name is Sam Vaknin and I am the author of Malignan self-love, Narcissism Revisited. New Year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ethereal, but victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude. Their mental and too often physical well-being and health depend on strictly observing the following promises they make to themselves. 1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me. 2. I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds. 3. I will not tolerate abuse and aggression in any form or guise. I will seek to terminate such misconduct instantly and unequivocally. 4. I will be assertive and unambiguous about my needs, wishes and expectations from others and about my emotions. I will not be arrogant, but I will be confident. I will not be selfish and narcissistic, but I will love and care for myself. 5. I will get to know myself better. Shortcomings, limitations, as well as advantages and strong points. 6. I will treat others as I want them to treat me. I will try to lead by way of self-example. 7. If I am habitually disrespected, abused, or if my boundaries are ignored and breached, I will terminate the relationship with the abuser forthwith. Zero tolerance and no second chance will be my maxims of self-preservation. You owe it to yourself. To promise yourself these things. You owe these promises to yourself. Happy holidays and happy or happy year, new year. If you wish, if you want me to tackle specific topics next year, please send me an email and I will respond. The email appears on the annotation on the left side of the screen. Write to me with special requests, special issues you want me to deal with and I promise to include them and incorporate them in my next videos. Again, happy new year.