 My one piece of advice particularly to young guys Is don't get married and have kids really early because It takes a long time for a man to figure out who the fuck he is. I Had no idea really until I was in my late 20s, and if I'd gotten involved in a very serious deeply committed Relationship that resolved in children earlier on in my life I would have fucked my life up, and I probably and I would have had a whole bunch of mess and Of course people do this all the time and they make the best of it, you know, okay? So it happens and they're like well, I still love my kids, and I've had you know, okay, so that was that happened but if you guys want to You know live extraordinary lives where you get to truly explore your own personal masculinity before you you know settle on anything Then take a lot of time for yourself and don't listen to the pressures of your parents or your grandmother or of You know the woman that you're with or whatever else it is Allow yourself to grow and to change and experience relationships Because becoming good at relationships is something you have to practice just as you need to a practice approaching girls It took me five long-term relationships to have one where I'm like yeah This is really good, and when and we're not gonna it's not gonna cause massive trauma and damage afterwards It's a really good experience But allow yourself because you have this luxury in this time Well, you don't have to just settle down get married and fit into that box of what you're supposed to do You can choose not to and lots of people around you not the feminists But the status quo the old-school thinking will often try to pressure you into those boxes, but don't let it Allow yourself that time to experience Truly what you are as a man and then in relationship to to women and Created situation where equal rights is something that is negotiated between partners and Then the ideas of submission and dominance are things you get to play out in the bedroom That they're not things that the state dictates to you Yeah, it's true women do like to be dominated in the bedroom often a very intelligent and powerful woman once said to me Yes, of course every woman wants to be possessed by one man if he deserves it Yeah That if you are a man who is strong not tough Who is powerful, but not domineering Then of course a woman wants to be with you and she wants to submit herself to you She wants to devote herself to you Because the old-school thinking is scared of that because it the men know that they don't really have that power they need it dictated to women they need to suppress them and use violence and and Ideology to hold them down a Real man Holds woman down with his own presence. She wants to be held down by him. She wants to be possessed by him She's not forced to be and then you can have a functional amazing relationship to be a certain way because it's perceived Patriot bitterness recrimination my one piece of advice particularly to young guys that where you're bleeding time and energy Because it's all and just do it the guys like Successful and you're powerful and you know you're at a point of that being in a monogamous or a long-term relationship Will destroy your masculinity or your your path in life, but the timing of it can definitely Awesome James great speech bad