 When you do this The Narcissist will return The Narcissist may have discarded you or maybe you got rid of them and then it seemed like they moved on It seemed like they forgot about you It seemed like they no longer decided to return to you as though they have found someone else as Though they're happy without you Or at least that's what they want you to believe Because when you do this The Narcissist will return They will come back to you They will love bomb you again when you start focusing on your own life When you become comfortable with their absence With that unavailability When you begin to attend to your own wants and needs again When you do things that you like to do When you do things that you are passionate about The Narcissist will begin to sense that your energy is slipping away They will sense that you are beginning to heal and move on from them and they may not have taken any notice of you Up until this time But when you make the choice to better yourself and improve your life That is something they can't ignore So when you do that The Narcissist will return but it's not because they love you or miss you It's not because they want to spend the rest of their lives with you It's not because they think you're their soulmate Although that is what they might say Although that is what they might want you to believe The Narcissist will return only for their own self-interest and needs because they want something from you They want more of the benefits and conveniences that you were once providing to them They see that you have picked yourself up off the floor They see that you are starting to deal with and emerge from the pain that they put you through and it makes them feel like they are losing control It makes them feel like they no longer have any influence over you Because now you are making your own decisions You are living your life the way that you want to live And they don't like that because they see you as an extension of them In their minds you are an object that exists to serve them That is your purpose in life They don't want you to go off on your own They don't want you to do the things that you want to do They just want you to lay in the pit of misery that they have created for you Because that's the only way that they can feel comfortable It's the only way that they can move on without thinking about you But when you pick yourself up off the floor And you start trying to clean up the mess that they have left behind It distracts them They get jealous Because they see it as though you're their property They think you belong to them So they will re-idealize you They will love bomb you again They will come back to re-secure you as their source of supply Because they see that you have potential They see that you could be better without them But they don't want to have to witness that They want to keep you down At a level that is easier for them to control They want to make you easier to manage Which is why they have to keep you in a state of trauma and distress And they will come back to punish you For thinking that you can move on without them For thinking that you can do better without them They think you're arrogant for trying to do that without their help Because in their minds they know everything In their minds they're always right So when you try to do anything on your own They see it as an insult even if they just stumped you in a ditch and walked away They expect you to beg them to return They expect you to beg for their help and their assistance But when you get back on your feet And you do everything you can to beg yourself and improve your life They will notice and they will try to come back Because they're jealous and insecure They feel like they're paired to escape in And they may also feel like there's more they can seek out of you So they will come back to leech off you again But it's not about love It's not because they miss you It's not because they care about you If they did they wouldn't have done all of those things to you They would have cared for you when they had the chance So don't entertain any hoover attempts from the narcissist Keep it moving Focus on becoming the best version of yourself And live your best life Thank you for watching I hope this video resonate with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching Inquires You can email me at coaching.nagster5.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon