 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan Asley of Jonathan Asley.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic When is the right time to sleep with a guy now before we get into this if you're seeking some if you're a woman who's Seeking some help when it comes to understanding men and you'd like to get the male perspective in other words Get inside a guy's head then check out the link below to schedule a one-on-one call with me to see if coaching is Right for you. Okay. Let's talk about when is the right time to have sex with a guy? So I'm often asked does a man lose respect for a woman if they have sex on the first date in other words does a man lose respect for a woman and My question would be would you lose respect for a man if he slept with you on the first date? And I'm I'm turning it around only because While there might be the occasional Situation where a man might lose respect for a woman What does it really say about your relationship if you had sex on the first date now? I'm here to say I'm not Here to judge or anything and I'm not going to even remotely suggest that having sex on the first date is a dealbreaker Or killer to a relationship Let me talk about dealbreakers for a second dealbreakers are what are dealbreakers for you? And I don't think that's a dealbreaker for a guy In other words most men aren't going to say up. She's not the one But I do want to give you some advice when it comes to having sex with a man And I want you to follow an acronym I've created over the years that might help you And then let's revisit this about when's the right time to have sex with a guy? Okay? So the acronym is called cares C A R E S okay Hope you could figure that out with the squiggle cares. Okay, C A R E S And there's nothing coming on the screen to tell you this. Okay. What does care stand for the C? stands for comfortable My recommendation when it comes to having sex with anyone is don't have sex unless you feel comfortable So in other words if you feel pressured if you're caught up in the moment and you don't feel comfortable Maybe you've had a little bit too much to drink Maybe, you know alcohol is you know affecting your judgment or whatnot ask yourself Do you really feel comfortable? having sex with someone That pot is most likely a stranger in your life. Okay, and then we'll delve into that in a second So the C stands for comfortable the A stands for aware Be aware of the consequences in other words if you have a propensity to attach to someone Very quickly especially in other words you bond with someone incredibly quickly when you have sex Then be aware of the consequences because there's always the possibility that that relate might be just a one-night thing for you Or maybe one or two nights and it moves on so be aware of the consequences because men can have sex with women and Not bond and attach in the same way now we we can bond with a woman So I'm going to say it's not that it's impossible But we men have a propensity to Want to spread our seed and not get attached to someone whereas a woman oftentimes the minute she is intimate with a man chemicals like Oxytocin are released in the brain that cause you to bond with someone so I'd be highly aware of the Consequences, okay So the R and this is really important This is where time might be a factor in the dating process is the R stands for learn his Real intentions his real intentions like what's his real intentions in relationship now? I'm here to say if if you're and by the way, I'm not here to judge again sex, right? I'm here to say if sex is is not important to you from the perspective of a committed relationship That's okay, too But my invitation for you is learn his real intentions and it takes time to learn someone's real intentions In fact someone once told me it takes a hundred hours of face-to-face time Just to get to just to get past the first layer of getting to know another human being in other words Spending time together doing shared activities hobbies mutual interest spending time with family and friends It takes a bit of time to get to know someone and to get to know their real intentions because oftentimes men can say all the right things But they don't really mean it so it requires in fact That's what I do in my coaching program when when clients hire me I have this thing called improve your GPS which stands for improve your guy picking system and My whole role is helping you vet guys at a much deeper level Then you can on the surface level because the fact is ladies you weren't trained at this you weren't taught this We grew up with that fantasy that if you have chemistry with someone everything is going to magically work out And we know that that's not the case chemistry doesn't lead to relationship success Okay, so it takes time to learn their real intentions the e I did or e stands for exclusivity Now that's a big word So let me share with you why I believe this Um, I'm the type of person that if I'm intimate with someone I don't want to be intimate with multiple people in other words I'm just afraid of getting cooties. Okay. I'm old-school. I think that way but to me once you begin an Intimate relationship with someone a sexual relationship then it should be from a physical standpoint monogamous Exclusive in other words, you're not you there's an understanding that you're not going to be sleeping with other people So I think it's really important to discuss If there's going to be an ongoing sexual relationship, is this a monogamous one? Is this exclusive one? And I don't mean an exclusive Relationship I mean when it comes to sex is this monogamous if we're going to have regular sex with one another And again in my coaching program I actually go into a little bit more detail about how to uncover that when you're talking to a guy How can you determine if he really wants to be exclusive or is he just in it for a one-night stand? Okay, the s So we're talked about care c a r e s s stands for safety. I Think it's rather important in a world where Communicable diseases and such especially now what's going on the world I think it's important to really be in a place of both emotional safety and Physical safety physical safety is not catching a disease and then emotional safety because you can get very attached I mean many women attach when they have sex together So a level of safety both on a physical level does this person feel safe to me on a physical level? but also do they feel safe to me on an emotional level and So when you feel safe on emotional level, you're more apt or you're more likely to have a deeper Relationship and you can build the roots to a long-term and successful relationship so my short little Example of when is the right time to have sex with a guy follow my cares methodology See a r e s comfortable aware of the consequences Learn his real intentions be exclusive and be safe. Okay, those five little things to remember Alright, I hope you found value in this video. I'd like to hear your thoughts Please post a comment below if this resonated with you if you have something to say you have something to share Please, you know post a comment. Also, I've got some great content listed below. I've got my book I've gotten a great VIP program called midlife love mastery And certainly I'd love it if you could share this video with your friends tell them all about my channel on YouTube I'd be so so grateful Okay, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do giving you a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug if I have your consent Thank you. Oh Wishing you a wonderful day. Thanks so much. Bye. Bye now