 I hope you're well. Welcome back to my channel if you're new here. My name is seppie and today I have two special guests my sister's soul My sister's signer if you watch any of the vlogs or any of my other videos these losers always love to join it I'm sorry before we start. Seppie smells so nice that I can't I know Okay, so guys You know what time it is you have sent in your questions via Instagram if you don't have your Instagram get on there follow me my only My Instagram is purge and bunny. These two Instagrams will be linked down below as well And while you're there, you might as well like comment subscribe on this video Okay, so we're gonna be answering your dilemmas. Wow, this one is very long. Okay Okay, so the first question someone submitted to me yesterday goes how we film the advice video yet And I said no she goes woohoo. I'll cut try and keep it short and sweet How do I politely downgrade a friend to an acquaintance? Oh? Basically, I have a word for this and it's called phase them out It's so weird because this is the second person who's told us this this week, you know, who's so far You can't name names now But yeah, we need to we need to teach you guys how to phase people out So there are times in life where you and your friends close friends Distant friends, whatever. Well, they wouldn't be distant friends Your close friends You guys go in different directions in life and you gotta phase them out, right? You're just no if you're going different directions life phase you out. Yeah But sometimes people bring negative energy into your life and you just and they're just not who they were when you first Were so close. So maybe they're not good friends. Yeah, so just be less available is the first thing So whereas before if you are free you would tell them you're free It's time to say I gotta hang out with my family Someone's coming over. Yeah, blah blah blah. I have to study Yeah, actually, don't say I have to study because people then get weird and then want to distract you from studying I don't want to study, you know, so yeah, just I think phasing them out as being less available And let's still be polite Let's excuse me still be polite because as Saul said in the previous advice video Uh, today's friend is tomorrow's enemy. Today's enemy is tomorrow's friend. Yeah, I like that. Okay. So next question Gosh, you know, I have like a whole screen recorder of questions So be their selfie. They're just I have a screen. No. No. Here it is a two minutes screen recorder questions Okay And I'm scrolling about Okay, we believe Get Saul to date me Okay, so I was wondering how do you balance uni work with having a social life? You could answer that Um, I think the best thing that works for me is first do your uni work. So when you come so Try to do your uni work as early as possible in the day and then be finished by maximum 8 p.m and uh at 8 p.m Onwards no matter what just chill whether it's watching tv whether it's going out with your friends or so on but Try to wake up extra early and do everything beforehand So you get more hours in the day. Yeah, yeah, Saul and Saina. Um, are good at working throughout the year I'm gonna working throughout the year, but I do most of my work towards the last chunk of the year We do that as well. I do that. So I have I like to prepare. I have no choice to do my work throughout the year Because I've got exams from yeah, I have an exam at the end of the year So my I have schedules like having GCSEs or A levels or whatever Basically, I think that you have to wake up extra early and try and get as much done as you can throughout the day And then this way by 8 p.m You've kind of done everything and well not everything but you've covered everything you wanted to cover that day and you can relax But no matter what set a time and be like after this time I'm gonna relax and really don't do nothing because you need a break Okay, so next question How to end a four-year relationship without feeling guilty? No matter what you're gonna feel guilty. I think soul should answer this one Uh, the longer you let it go on the more you waste their time And yours and that's why you should feel guilty and it's not fair. Yeah, it's not fair on them How do I get over a crush? Okay? I do this a lot about once a month so I can help you So it's really easy the first one is uh find a new crush That works well if you can't find a new crush to distract yourself either throw yourself into work, which is what I tend to do Um, you need watching youtube videos is always fun distracting yourself going out with your friends Going to the gym and anything some stuff you can think about them when you do all these things They're all quite social you end up meeting someone and don't go out with your friends and just sit there and talk about your crush Yeah, and it kind of like so true It requires effort for you to stop thinking about them and then it eventually becomes second nature next question Hey girl, how can I stop caring about what other people think of me? I think that if you feel happy with who you are then don't care about what other people think because everyone's always got An opinion on you and everyone's always going to be And unfortunately a lot of times their opinion is not positive. So it doesn't matter just do you I read this sorry to interrupt you. I read this crazy thing the other day and it was like There is not one version of you that exists in this world. So the way you see yourself is different to how your mom sees you The way your dad sees you your friends see you a stranger in the street sees you the waiter who serves you at restaurant sees you There's not one version of you that exists So you're not going to be able to please everyone's version of you So you might as well just be happy in the version of yourself My goal to live by would stop with in life in general is the only people's opinion who matters is Your family's in your own if you could be proud of who you are you've not done you don't do anything where you're like Like I'm such a bad person And that's all that matters. What other people think about you is says more about them than it says about you Do you do you believe in putting things out in the universe or in things happening when you least expect I'm sorry. I'm still laughing about another question. That's just an appropriate to say Um, I believe that whatever you put out there is actually going to come back to you and I really really believe in positive energy and just thinking really positive I mean, it's not easy to do that It's not easy to be positive all the time but you have to try and look at the brighter side of things and You know, if you know something's going to make you sad or stress you out Just try not to think about it and look at the bigger goal and the bigger picture I think you should put things out into the universe And I think you should say what you want and really expect it to happen to you Also, bear in mind things will happen to you when you least expect it because when you put things out into the universe A lot of times you forget What it is that you what is that you said exactly and whilst you're going through a process of it happening It will happen when you least expect but don't be afraid to voice your goals. Say what is you want to achieve and Write it down. Write it down. Write it down. Don't be. Don't be scared of yourself. Basically Yeah, be honest with yourself. Say what it is that you want, you know, you're limitless Okay, next one. Actually, I remember one of my girls if you are the girls who chat to me my dms I have so many combos with with you guys going on boys and girls actually Um, but one of the girls messaged me and she said um a girl Her best friend she had a crush on a guy and then her best friend Um, and him suddenly started hanging out a lot and she asked them what's going on between you guys Is there anything going on? They're like no, no, and then they were like went like we don't like each other like that And as soon as she went away on holiday for two months They started dating and she's like now I need to come back to where I live and how do I uh, like Yeah Phase that friend out. Yeah. Let's go back to the first question. That is not a friend. Okay a friend One of my one of my really close friends Annabelle always says there's so many fish in the sea Why do you have to pick someone else's fish? There's so many fish in the sea. Just you know what she's not a good friend to you That guy is nothing special like he just proved that to you. So, you know phase him out as well Wait, I like this question and says I'm persian and I know for a fact that persians can be shady Should I distance myself from persians? No Don't generalize. It's not just persians like you can't it's just human beings every human being in every country in every culture They've got different sort of people and you can't just generalize and think that it's just persians or it's just There's good and bad. Yeah Yeah, exactly. And I feel like we should as if you guys are persians watching this like as our community like as a community We should try and like support each other and and uh, if there is a shady persian, you know, it's just a one Not every persian is a shady, but yeah, you know, we've got such strong culture beautiful country Let's be proud of who we are Okay. Oh My fiance's ex stalks me on insta daily Should I block or should I let the games begin? Don't block my dad told me this, okay Um, there was someone who I really wanted to follow on instagram my dad goes no don't unfollow her And then he was like she deserves to see how well your life is going if you won't follow her She won't follow you that fiance's ex. Oh, yeah But I didn't it was one of those friends that were faded out Yeah, it was one of those faded out friends, but you guys really should not block anyone Especially the haters let them see how well your life is going. Yeah And there's no game to play Yeah, you've already won so true so people think keep me anonymous. We've kept everyone anonymous. Don't worry guys Someone said what did you get in your gcsc? I got nine a stars and two a's, but I don't think that's that's juicy Of course. Okay. I like this bloke boy. He declined my ig request though. What do I do? He declined your ig request. He's lost. Let's go back to just faith You guys I think it's kind of like getting over your crush one as well. Yeah This is kind of you've got a phase out people who are not worthy of being in your life And I feel like if you guys watch this video put hashtag phase them out On our pictures also, you know, there's there was this weird film. I watched where it was like He's just not that into you. There's a book as well Yeah, I really believe it like if a guy wants you If someone really whether it's a girl or a guy if they really want you no matter what honestly to god Nothing can stop you think about you yourself personally if you really want someone Is there anything that can stop you from going and even approaching them or somehow like making it known that you want them No, and that's vice versa. So if they really want you they'll come after you if they don't Then you'll know they're lost last question Um, I've been talking to this boy for a year now, and he's still very indecisive about being official Get rid of him. No, okay. I don't agree. Do you know no, I say give him an ultimatum No, one entire year. He had 12 months, 52 weeks to make you his He's weighing out his options. He's waiting for something better to come along And he's entertaining you If you're not handling you just in case Yeah, why yeah, you're worth more than that you ask him What is your reason has have you given him an ultimatum if you have a baby give him the ultimatum? Why do you have to give someone an ultimatum? You have to it's not fair. You always give him a chance No, they should want to be with you an ultimatum is not giving him a chance. No, it is It's been No, they should just want to be with you you deserve someone who wants to be with you I would say just give like talk to them tell them what you're thinking because maybe they have no clue that you feel Yeah, this and you know, maybe they think you're happy with everything So so many of my friends so many of them get strung along by guys these days And then as soon as they give the guy the ultimatum, he's like, oh, but I'm not sure thinking you still get away with it She cuts him off Not even a week later We'll be sitting down at shisha or whatever and he's ringing and ringing then the next friend He's texting and texting they all come running back because they think they can tell we call that satan They basically push you so much and then once you reach your limit, you're gone and they're like She's gone. Yeah, but yeah, but wait as soon as you give them attention, they won't want it again Because these this oh, this is how this isn't oh, blah, blah, blah, blah This is how indecisive people are. Yeah, you deserve better than that Yeah, even if you get back together with them, they're gonna break up with you again Or they're gonna put you in that same situation again limbo. No one deserves to be in limbo You need someone who knows what they want and knows they want you because you're special you are and suspicion That is the end of this video. I really hope you guys enjoyed if you did them Please give it a thumbs up so we know to keep on subscribing subscribe subscribe subscribe And we read all your comments, thank you We read your comments read your dms our instagrams are right And just out there. I want to say that we do read the Persian comments as well even though my force is It's so difficult. Yeah, how may you know me? 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