 Listen, it's the message right here black boy. Tell me how you really feel Cuz I just want to build with you black girl. Tell me how you really feel. I Want to keep it real with you. I want to live better eat better. I want to love better sleep better Yeah, I want to feel so aligned Our men intimidated by women who make more money than them bro dudes. I mean I'm in I Would say this I would say this Guys this my what I think I think guys who don't have this stuff together are intimidated by a woman like that I think a guy who has this stuff together. It's not necessarily intimidated by that but he might not want to deal with her on that level just because of sometimes sometimes when Again, we're not speaking in absolutes But I just from stuff that I've seen firsthand sometimes when Well time out to my let's talk about what kind of money we talk about when you say more money than him What what level of money we talk about? We tell my specific range we talk about because I mean he can make 35 she made 36 I don't know if that's a big difference. You know what I mean like I don't know what it's like because I feel like for me as a teacher I made more money than some guys that I built with but I don't make a lot So I think I think a fear I think a fear is this and guys No man wants to hear this in an argument. I made more money than you No, no man wants to hear that because men We're judged based upon our ability to provide And protect That's what we're judged based upon our output is what we're judged based upon that is I mean we play We play sports, right? We always look at who got the best stats who's producing the most I mean touchdown that you got this year. How many points per game you average? Lebron Jordan who what you we're always looking at those type of things Because that is what we're conditioned to believe a lot of our value comes from so When because that's what we believe our value comes from a lot of us When a woman makes more than you I'm not saying it's a bad thing But no man again wants to be demoralized in an argument and hear that some men might because like some Some controlling men might say that in an argument, but I think majority men who are Who understand what it is that never comes up in our argument unless he just control of or abuse verbally abusive or something like that Well, he just dangles and like I made more money you They probably say something else that I hurt your feelings, but that but Hearing that from a woman to a man like you like to hang like now you coming for my man And I don't think no man wants to deal with that. What is a good man? Oh That's a good question So There are five things there are five key things That I think that and this is just my personal belief because I don't want to turn into something but a Good man For me is number one somebody who walks with God I personally believe that that a Man when you talk about submission and things like that like a woman You can't just submit to a man who was lost himself So in order for a woman to submit to a man he has to submit to God that's what I believe I'm born Number two, he has to work He has to have some ambition some goals and he has to be moving in it Because if you if she's gonna help you what she gonna help you with You don't got nothing for her to help you with now. She's gonna help herself now. You met number three, I think a man should be somebody that Brings out the best in everything that he touches Like He brings out the best of his friends. He brings out the best in his family. He encourages them He brings out the best in his peers not somebody that Comes around and then there's just a big negative ball of Energy that just makes everybody just like a great cloud like a man a man should be somebody that Brings out the best in everything that he does A man should protect a man should protect like And I don't mean be abusive to a woman like if you look at men and women by nature men have a Bigger stature typically than women and I don't think that's by happenstance It's to protect but not to be abusive to a woman but to protect her and protect the family protect her spiritually mentally emotionally and lastly the fifth thing I think a man has to be able to teach like Whatever it is that He is When I say that he spent time with God and things like that whatever it is that he's Taken in he has to be able to also share that information and he has to be able to cover and Yeah, so those are those are five things that I think that a man should be able to do that's a that's a good man because if you look that's when they say It was only after that then it said then God said it's not good for man to be alone Once those five things were acquired, but if that man don't got that ladies leave that man alone It's good for him to be alone Appreciate your answer So who's a black man you admire and why a Black man that I admire is my dad Not a sound cheesy or anything like that, but that's the man I spent the most time around growing up and I watch him Take care of the family and I watch him be resilient And I watch him be a stand-up guy. I think that's something that I admire a lot is that you know There have been things like I work in the automotive industry and my dad Is a quality engineer. He's worked in the automotive industry and I Don't know if you know anything about the automotive industry in the south But it's a very small-knit group and the more and more you start going up Going up in the ranks. Everybody knows each other no matter what company you work for Everybody it's just a little circle or cycle like this. So everybody knows everybody and so a lot of people remember my dad before he retired and They see my last name and they know I'm attached to him because the last name and everybody even though I know that I Get promotions and things like that based off of my hard work and things like that But I think it also helps that I'm attached to what I see is a good name that my dad created and everybody that that sees me they're like, oh You're such and such son. I'm gonna say the name of you such and such son And I like yeah, like man. I love your dad. He's amazing. He's this so feels good Being attached to something like that. Like you don't want to be somebody that when your dad's name is brought up You know, you don't want that, you know, and that's that's what I want to be like That's what I want to be like like I Want my future son and daughters when they go somewhere what what my daughter still got my last name to Be recognized. Oh, that's your dad Man, he's amazing. He's dope Yeah, come on. Come on over. So I like that Does your dad uphold the five keys of a good man that you do six way? I Ain't gonna say which ones I think he does majority of them Do you uphold the five keys of a good man that you do six way? I? Think I do. I think I could be stronger. I put it this way. I Think I have all I think I have all five but The levels You know, like I'm describing that I ain't gonna go in details which ones, but I feel like certain ones I can be Excel better in and that's on me Appreciate your honesty Shell what kind of daughter are you trying to raise do you want to raise? Man kind of daughter. Do I want number one? I want my daughter be fine as hell No, I want the problem now. I do want her to be pretty though, but I can't help that I can't help that but so whatever she was like. I'm a lover regardless But I want to raise the daughter I want to raise a daughter that I Want to teach her how to be treated by a man. I want her to when she gets into the dating scene I'm already thinking about her in the dating scene Which is crazy, but I have to think about that because it starts now and I want her to understand What a man should do and what to expect from a man, but I also want her to watch my interactions with Her mom and everything I want her to know How a man and a woman should speak to each other how they should love each other so She can witness that firsthand and so She can see it, you know, we talked about communication and getting children really exude the whole When we talk about 70% of communication is what you see Prime example a lot of times what they see they start Outputting they start thinking certain things are okay or not. Okay before you even say anything to them and and so I want her to I want her to Maintain her independence In case Things go sideways in life But I want her to also be humble enough to understand that if you get married when you get married that Sometimes you're gonna have to take a step back a little bit and you can't just be rah rah rah rah Because any any man worth having it's not gonna appreciate that I'm glad you said that my next question was Are you going to raise your daughter prepared to survive or prepared to love? Damn, that's a very good question because now I'm in a peculiar predicament I think Hmm we will start off with Showing her how to survive because she don't need to know how to love yet show her how to survive and Then when the time comes You know be able to explain to her Okay, this is what this is but you You got to dial it back. So I'm still do that but Understand that you know whatever got kind of if you want a certain kind of guy Like you first of all she gonna have to assess what she wants out of life number one when she gets to that age If she just wants to be single her whole life. I'm a teacher how to survive That's it. You would just want to be seeing your life. You sure okay go on survive it but If she realizes and she's like, you know, I Want to have a family one day. I want to be married didn't you had you have to also teach them I'll have to teach her how to how to love and not just survive