 Ladies and gentlemen Tony gaskins here give me one second here In this little situated Wait Here y'all give me a second here Sharon is here to Instagram y'all forgive me Just to let them know around know now want to pop on here As y'all know the show coming on at 9 p.m.. So that's an hour and 13 minutes. So I Get off the end so that if y'all have MTV y'all will be able to watch it Not sure what all happening on there tonight, but looks like they're doing the help note therapists now I didn't know much about that but as As Seeing the session is essentially to me it sounded like life coaching with your eyes closed a lot of the same questions and things that you know Y'all go through in the therapy a Lot of times the same type of questions come up in life coaching Welcome to a new member here. So it's on MTV. I don't know if it streams on YouTube. I don't think so But that'll be at 9 p.m.. Tonight Had step out of my comfort zone You know, it's something different for me first time being on TV like In that in that role I've been on a few other shows, but in other roles but in that particular roles first time and then You know as you get a little older and you grow pay your dues End up possibly getting your own show where you could kind of run some things and really show your full personality and Do things your way? But there's a good good learning experience and then also to be honest with y'all now with that the Those shows they they pretty they pretty real They real a lot of time people be wondering about them shows But like no show they real just right here When no scripting or anything like that like I thought it would be and then also some of the cast You know, they'll keep in touch with you after and still reach out to you. So definitely was some some of the real Connections on the strings on YouTube. Okay, is it live or is it read reruns? Pretty interesting they stream on YouTube. That makes sense though and the day and age that we live in they Day and age we live in Now if you have any questions y'all make sure to hit the hashtag Q so I could see it I called it a Q&A, but Want to pop on here this like my daily video when I'm at practice. I really don't have nothing else to do I could listen to some music probably could do a little bit of work, but this here is work, too I shot a little I shot a course today on how I create my product So y'all gonna really love that and I'm gonna put that course out. It probably be about a hundred dollars but the people who I see who bought the The car the deck of cars gonna get added into the course free So it's like you could pay a hundred dollars or you could pay ten dollars So I posted the link on the On the community page, so you got to go to my go to my account go to community page and then scroll down You'll see the link We'll go from there. All right. Got our first question I see the more I do these the more we're gonna run out of questions So once we run out of questions and we can get a lot of questions and I'm gonna stop popping on here as much How to deal with a man that won't stop coming back I Don't answer his calls or answer my door when he pops up I was fed up with the lack of effort and disrespect voiced my feelings over and over Refuse to hear me Well with that kind of man right there when he pop up, you're gonna have to call the boys Meaning the police You gonna have to call the police Because the thing about it is is you will get into a new relationship and be falling in love and He'll pop up and that'll ruin everything you got going It'll ruin everything you got going So realize that down I've a welcome Course gonna be covering is real simple real straightforward just showing you how I create my products that I be selling My shirts and the deck of cards and all of that How can long distance relationship work I have known him since little. I'm in North Carolina. He's in New York The way alone distance relationship will have to work will have to be daily communication and Monthly in person visits or at least by monthly when you can't do in person and when you communicate It needs to be FaceTime need to FaceTime or do what's out video and You need to be creative So y'all need to put things in place like once a week y'all do a handwritten letter Hopefully he can read and write if not then okay, that's gonna be a little struggle So maybe do a voice note letter But when you long distance you got to be creative. So Y'all set up a system where y'all do surprise gifts You know once a month. He's sending you a little something y'all set a budget. It could be 25 hours Boom you send him something. He's saying you something Got to do it. Somebody dropped the ball. Don't do it. That means the relationship is fizzling out Somebody's not serious. Somebody not into it. Go on about your business Go on about your business long distance is extremely hard to work because The way we are wired as humans. We like physical touch. We like being in person We like, you know Affection and all of those things. So that's what makes long distance very hard. So you got to be very persistent consistent creative and All the way locked in what are your thoughts on being in a relationship with a man who does it Man who does man who Have the same who oh who doesn't Have the same faith or beliefs. I Am a Christian my boyfriend is Vietnamese slash black and strong beliefs in Buddhism I don't believe in that I don't believe in mixing religions just because your religion is your foundation and and You have to build on your foundation. So when you don't have the same foundation It's hard to build and there's core beliefs inside of a religion so When you can't see out of I you got to realize when you mess around and you have a kid He gonna want the kid to be Buddhist you gonna want him to be Christian and y'all gonna be at odds And then the kids gonna be confused So it just it's not wise but Can it work? Yeah, if somebody compromised their religion But if both of y'all are serious about y'all religion, it really ain't gonna really work Thank you. I have a question. I have a LLC. How much eyelash glue should I buy? 50 containers is $130 Dollars should I buy more? Sister what kind of question is not we go here as a relationship question. You're a lash glue About no lash glue that you in the wrong you wouldn't if you show you in the right Chat now Ask glue I do not have a clue What I would say is start with the 50 so hundred and thirty dollars start with your 50 and then go from there Don't start with your 50. God bless you. So it's got a lot of respect for me. Ask me about lash glue I met a guy that's 17 years apart from me. I'm younger He texts sparingly but claims to want to know me should I text him or just wait until he does You need to cut your granddaddy class made off. That's what you need to do You need that that's your daddy class mate You cut your daddy class made off And gone about your business And I'm gonna tell you right here That man don't want to get to know you then the man don't want nothing to do with you But to waste your time all He's doing all that old man is doing with you is tickling his fancy He's stroking his ego. That's all he's doing. I'm gonna tell you that now Because in a man gonna text you sparingly Oh I turned my microphone access Y'all forgive my trying to holla at my wife. She was out front door picking up Packages I got my microphone turned off Didn't get to hop out See if she come back Yeah, cut your daddy class made off Hubby started a business and wants me to support him by working on the business But it's stressing me out because I already work full-time He is not working. I don't know how to stay sane and support him have five kids Wow Well, what you have to do is you got to sit down? And you got to communicate and You got to learn this your husband. So you have to learn how he hears how that ought to be common sense for him, but I just asked My wife, can she help me in my business? Because she did for a while, but then life and all of this, you know with the kids and stuff But then I noticed that if she got to help somebody or she helping the school She work hard. She don't get paid. I say listen. I Got a paycheck for you now. I'm paid Need a little help need a little help now and She jumped right on in there, but what you have to understand about a relationship is communication to a Relationship is like oxygen to life. So what you got to do is You got to get there and you got to say to him you got to say listen Hey, I'm working full-time and We have five kids If I help in this business, I am going to lose my mind I'm gonna lose my mind and You got to tell him that you got to tell him that You got to be straight up with him and if he don't seem to hear you You got to break it down to him say, hey, you know, I really want you to think about this Think about if you work in 40 40 hours And if you got five kids and then you got to do work on top of that Whereas you're not working So you got 40 hours that you could give to your business And honestly, you got another 30 or 40 if you want to put in OT On your business That ought to be common sense, but I think he's trying to ask you to help just because acts of service Maybe his love language So, you know, you could do a little something here and there work, you know Do a little something one day out the week just to make it look like you're doing something and then Fall off in a little bit and he should be all right Tony, I'm Candice 39. There's a man who has upset me have the same I Do not know system. You got to ask a doctor. I do not know because I don't have one of those So I do not know Can't get your medical advice on him What does man have a hard time listening to women? Men have a hard time listening to anybody and everybody they have a hard time listening to men We have a hard time listening to God If any if we listen to anybody we we probably listen to women better than we listen to anybody else So it may be the man have a hard time the man you dealing with have a hard time listening to you Because he don't respect you Interracial dating seems to be the normal now I'm still rooting for black love, but the black man keep painting the narrative of black women to be non-submissive Ah Interracial day Nils picking up it's picking up. I saw a commercial the other day For some type of company and they had the black lady and The white man the black lady. She was a little meat on her bones Probably, you know if let's say she five let's say if she was five six She probably was about 180 To 190 and then the man looked like he was about six four But look they kind of like a computer guy like old software a coding guy So it was a kind of a Interesting-looking couple. Yeah, they weren't like they stepped out of magazine It was a typical type of look of where your race may look down on you for whatever reason So you go outside of your race where you feel accepted and so that's picking up and the non-submissive part I really can't speak to it because I've only been with one woman since the age of 21 and To be honest with you my wife got her own mind She's gonna do her own thing if I'm not making her happy She's gonna be ready to make a move meant not making her happy But if I ain't treating her right she gonna be looking for her she gonna be creating her exit strategy but as far as like no submissive I don't really understand that because I Feel like it's a myth to be honest with you because unless it's just a man But I've never been with a woman who if I asked her to do something she Don't do it So I'm just not really understanding what being meaning by that. I now a lot of women talk tough online It's a lot of women talk tough online But once you get that angle ain't put on her and once she start to fall in love most women become Putty in their man hand They they are at like they mad they don't like them can't stand them But go to the end of the earth form So I really don't understand the non submissive thing I think it's just these single men who not even in a relationship commenting on The bravado and the air in the chest that women speaking with online But in a real relationship I Really don't see to be honest with you when I be out and about and in public I see white women talking to they man like trash and I've been talking all sharp, but see as black man you got to remember black man a Lot of us off our rocker a lot of us come from dysfunction a lot of us come from a few so A black woman really kind of understand that a woman know that and Know that you know things could get ugly fast And so I never really see that what these guys talking about the non submissive Like I Could ask my wife to do anything a baby. Can you ride the? Georgia for me eight hours and pick up this package and she can be like what I Could fly baby ain't got the money Okay. All right. I go I'm gonna stop by and see my friend though because she live up there So I really don't understand what he got talking about and they'll say oh, that's just your wife but Air black woman. I know That's with a man. That's treating her right and doing her right been over backwards form Look how many times grandma bailed out Grandson or her son out of out of jail. Look how many times like women bailing out of man out of So you really think about that thing? Like women been old backwards for a black man So it's just kind of like a little fake narrative people create Red that one. I'd approach that twice X insist on being friends and hanging out not been on my back three years is it ego? Yes, ego and he and if he done had you on your bike before he want to get your bike on your bike But don't deal with it move on about your life now move on about your life not deal with it Move on about your life Y'all had a lot of smile crime faces in here too much. I'll scream and I can't remember what I said that was funny I don't remember telling now I'm Joe which all after that Does it really matter how much a guy calls you like after a while? There's less phone calls, but still calls for text daily and date once a week, okay? Yeah, less phone calls is is normal, but as long as he talking to you every day And he talking to you every day then it matter It matter It matter been dating online for one year and three months He's 25. I'm 31 Consistent plan to come to my country to meet me in September But he doesn't want to address The difference in how we think Says he's busy right now Yeah, that ain't your man That ain't your man hate to tell you that sister That ain't your man for one he 25 He don't know his left shoe from his right shoe Man don't even start to become a man till 25 to He running from tough conversations not a man not relationship ready three You 31 you six years older Technically to a man you're a cougar Even though it ain't that big of an age difference. You still a cougar Fold you are not in the belt. It's intriguing to have a woman in another country cuz You really ain't got no woman because he could do anything he wanted to he could he could be living with another woman and You wouldn't know it He could be sleeping with a different woman Every day and you wouldn't know it Long distance like that, especially you to met online says that ain't real Best one a man running from the tough conversation. Oh Y'all talk about Daddy classmate Good evening. I graduated from the life coach class farewell 21 have a lot of clients that don't be leaving cry I'll navigate them without mentioning Christ. I mean You gotta if they don't believe in Christ and they situations and how I didn't do it Christ So that that should be easy, you know, and you have to And this is the thing you could share a Bible scripture without saying it's from the Bible You could teach a biblical principle without saying it's from the Bible and then when they go and they activate Holy gold at the vein Like the letter said when they go and they do what you said and they come back and say hey when you said this right here That word, where did you get that from you make that up then that's an opportunity to witness on actually that's from the Bible And I know you don't believe in Christ, but I just know it's some sound wisdom in there So I just figured I'll throw it out there really that's in the Bible. What else does the Bible say? That's practical wisdom that I could use in my life. I'm curious. I don't have nothing against it I just didn't know it really work. Should I mean so when you to say when you to earthly Heavenly minded to be in an earthly good Then you can't really witness you got to be able to witness through service and through love first Then when a person know that you care and you're not judgmental and then they see your peace and they see your Consistency and they see everything about you. That's how people get to know Christ not by us preaching at them They get to know him by our actions in our heart. I went on data house and men were a mess Even Christian outs, but I met a guy on hinge who's consistent with cause and we have great combos advice on how to vet him. I Am a single mom in abstinent for four years Well, you met a guy you ain't say how long it is a consistent call There is such a thing a love bombing now So sometimes you can't really take consistent cause to be the end all be all because it could be a man really getting to know you Really getting close to you to see what holds he can get to see what boys you have So the way you handle this when you meet somebody like this online what you want to do is Is you want to talk to him every day and you want to talk to him on FaceTime? Talk to him on FaceTime or what's out video so you could see him to make sure you talking to a man And you talking to who you think you talking to? Then what you want to do is you want to talk for about 10 weeks You may want to talk 10 weeks Before trying to meet in person and then when you meet in person You want to meet in public? If he got a friend that could come let him bring a friend and you bring a friend if y'all ain't got that Then you meet in public like downtown at the bowling alley at the restaurant You drive You drive He drive or y'all get down y'all own it may be best to take a Uber so that way Even if he want to walk you to the car He looking at somebody else tag number not yours And if he walking you or waiting on you to the uber pick you up Then he nine out of ten times cannot follow you no matter how well you think you know him say no I'm gonna take this over because of how we met we met online You know, I just want to take take things slowly if he can't get with that then okay He could he could get left behind So you got to be extra Diligent now people say what's on the same thing after you meet somebody in person. Yeah, you're right So you could take the same precautions But the thing about it is what's different is when you meet somebody in person and a man got the confidence to walk up to you You get to look him in the eyes straight off the real and see his teeth See his shoes see his fingernails See everything bottom right off the real and he walked now He's not already one half of the battle because he was bold enough and confident enough to come and approach you a Man who online? It's so much. He got the Dispel it's so many myths so many red flags. He got to get through to even Show that he real Logan hate Tony hope all as well. What's the best way to meet single women around my age? I'm 27 and I live in Las Vegas and okay, Las Vegas out there with the Right there with the my wife was just out there with my sister For the little usher concert and with my sister I did she wanted my wife to go so I'm wife ain't want to leave a hanging Well, I'll tell you this women everywhere and they don't mind They don't mind where you approach them at So a lot of women going to the gym a lot of women going to the bookstore a lot of women going to Starbucks Lotta women walking around through the mall At the job There's so many single women That's so ready to meet their husband At this point they bought they really bought don't care if you send Morse code If you thought a paper plane Which with your name and email and number and Instagram on it at this point they pretty much bought don't care So on that was one of the other dads Invited me to do a run, but I got on my dunks got on my dunks tonight and you know working He just hop out there and run. I've you got the Like a couple of a long Right to give up the gold So Logan just get out there and I'ma tell you the number one thing Logan It's just confidence just being confident enough. You ain't got to walk over no line Excuse me, man. Make sure you got on some nice shoes. Make sure your nails is cut make sure your face is shaved make sure your teeth brush and You know having to be looking nice. You ain't got to be in no suit or nothing. Excuse me now Just wanted to ask you I saw you from across the way and you're so beautiful I just wanted to know if you were single Just keep it simple. Just keep it simple and it's a yes or no question. She say she say no, okay God bless you. She's still beautiful walk on by your business. You see a woman two feet later Look like she could be your wife walk up to her ask her and just keep shooting your shot like Michael Jordan Until you meet your wife. We need more men today to be Approaching we had answered that question already if y'all just got on here My ex came back into my life, but his words are not lining up with his actions Real quick my ex came back into my life, but his words are not lining up with his action He had to stop him from asking I asked him why he always asking for that, but he don't want to go on dates Gone by your business system cut them all the way off Cut them all the way off cut them all the way off Single for three years now dated a little but nothing serious Now, you know what I might do I might not do no dating out But I might do a little matchmaking site and got number five guys to put on there, though Don't be five men and 500 will Might make me a little matchmaking site The well here go your pictures where you live what you do And what you like and then do the same for the guys and I might start recruiting single men Put it on now and then just do little matches But take too much time Got the tight shit Single for three years now dated a little but nothing serious not necessarily ready to be in a relationship though But I would like to date again should I wait till I'm 100% ready to be in love Not necessarily because you may never be 100% ready. I'm not sure any of us are ever 100% ready So maybe when you allow 70 80% ready, so if you round 70 80 Then that'll be good Because you could meet the man of your dreams and he helped fill up He helped you get that other 20 30% so as long as you not at like under 50 50 percent or less on How ready you are then you'll be good, but you got to have your guidelines No dates inside houses and stuff like that Any way that you could get laid laid down What are your thoughts on dating a man who is in love with you has great communication? Attentiveness, but it's not sure of his purpose and inconsistent with income is there hope for change Yes, there is hope for change there is hope for change but You got to really evaluate the Inconsistent with income doesn't mean he's lazy. It's because he's lazy because he's arrogant and he quit jobs So you got to evaluate that part of his character because he could not make a lot of money and Not know his purpose but have character and be in a place to where he's gonna build from there So you got to understand that right there if you got good character and there's other reasons why he's inconsistent Then that's something different How did God tell me yesterday that no man is waiting till marriage to sleep with a woman when they give it up for free is that too much to ask of a man in this day and age It is a lot to ask of a man But it's not a lot to ask of of the man that is for you a Real man honestly Still may try you But a real man honestly a woman a woman that values her body That knows who she is and where she is and that grows from her past mistakes that has learned from her past mistakes So a lot of times men be like, oh, well, how are you holding out and you got and you got two kids It's like, uh, I learned from my past mistakes. Don't me That's why I got two kids because I done did the wrong thing with the wrong person And that's why I got these kids. I don't learn from that. So what you asking me to do is still be dumb And so sometimes you got to break it down to a man like that and you got to talk to him like that You got to say that a lot of times women beat around the bush with us and it make us not respect you But when you direct with a man, you straight up and you just speak your mind and you say what it is We respect that We'll respect it when you beam around the bush and you ain't speaking your mind My boyfriend was being short with me over text. I told him if you have something Tell just say it He said, okay when I was over your house last I felt the vibe. I didn't feel right about What can that mean? and that mean that He felt something that mean he could have felt you was lying he could have felt you was cheating He could have felt you talking to another guy. He could have felt You you been listening to these videos and you I can a little different So it could be any of that our men that didn't grow up with their mom or dad But trying to have a relationship with them now able to have a healthy relationship with a woman that leads to marriage Anything is possible But that does not mean it is probable But anything is possible Does not mean it is Probable he has a great job as a project manager in multiple streams of income real estate investments He's about six years older. Is he a red flag because he's on hands Yes, he is a red flag because he on line. I'm gonna tell y'all something every man That is on line dating is a red flag Every man that is on line dating is a red flag When I mess around and get me some money I'm finna put these dating apps out of business I'm gonna buy up billboards that say do not trust men on dating apps Because listen listen to me now Y'all listen to me Honestly ask yourself as a woman With all of these single women walking around out here everywhere you go For what reason does a man need a dating app? With all of these women and all of these single women It feel like dog on 50 to 80 percent of women is single What does a man need with a dating app? Men do not need dating apps women need dating apps Men don't need dating apps So it really shouldn't be no men on the dating app itself for men who work like 80 hours a week Which also mean he really ain't got time for no relationship So listen, I don't trust men that's on the dating app because it's two men and women walk around out here How to keep hope alive when meeting guys slash dating six months And they all bag out All have stated that they have fear of taking on a household and failing is this normal for today's time now That could be that could be it don't look like you running them off Don't look like you running them off cuz I don't see if it was you but it don't look like you run them off but now We can't say for sure We can't say for sure It's typically something with the relationship though So it could be you putting too much on them. It could be He don't like your child or your children It could be just a quirk in the personality y'all really don't hit it off like that because if a man is really into a woman and He start to love that woman. That's gonna give him the motivation he needs to Start that family Can a life crisis or just a house fire make a man go ghost was consistent before losing resources Is he too embarrassed to communicate? Yes, that definitely can do it because some man Deal with a problems differently and some man, you know, maybe like a dog when the dog getting ready to die I go all by itself Crawling the corner That's how some men are with the issues They know that they the energy gonna be bad. They may say something that's hurtful or rude and so They'll pull back. Not every man knows how to deal with that Son Tay God bless you God bless you Merit man, I worked with started flirting with me out of nowhere Been going through spiritual warfare heavy these last few weeks having lustful thoughts How do I stay the course? Got a little lust on you, huh? I'm gonna look at you with my good eye Let me see your clothes So you and I think about that old ed plant, huh, I See I see You know, it's good to hear a Woman say that because this why I be trying to tell y'all ladies y'all act like Y'all act like it just be me and that be lustin just be me and that be looking But that right there that is a setup right there from the devil and all that is It's gonna block your blessings because if you think about this man And you willing to you think about maybe talking to him Maybe dealing with him because you don't know if he you know Separated or marriage about to be on the brink. So what have you? You'll deal with him and then it'll cost you a connection with an actual single man. That's that the job So remember that and then also you read what you so So you could lust you could be less than all you want to but you mess around and you deal with that man When you get married same thing gonna happen to you How should I respond to men putting me on such a high pedestal? With calling me perfect men tell me often that they are not good enough for me or don't speak at all just stare It's discouraging Well, y'all like to say that don't you y'all like to say that y'all like to say that but y'all Y'all yeah System They lie to you just that's that's how you got to look at it. You got to look at that they lie to you Because let me tell you something ain't no man finna tell you that if it's true So if he really feel that way, he don't want you to know it He don't want you to know it cuz he don't want you son and him He don't want you looking down on him So it's actually something else in that you know that in that connection that personality and you know that right there Y'all got going on and he don't want to tell you that But if he gone by this business cuz he listen don't know man walk away from the role Roy For no Toyota Ain't no man finna walk away from those roll rough or no Toyota Ain't no man finna walk away from no Lamborghini. No Ferrari for no Buick You see what I'm telling so That's a line that men use when they feel is something that just don't click with y'all When they feel y'all ain't all the way there Then that's what that's the line. They'll use right there They'll say that it's the old. It's me not you It's me not you So so when you hear stuff like that, you can't let it go to your head and you can't let it discourage you either but um Men ain't walk away from prize So it's just it's just you haven't met a man for you When you meet the man for you who ready and he for you It could be you saving yourself You know and so he don't want to tell you oh, it's because you save yourself So he say oh you it's because you perfect I'm not on your level which in the same time it mean you saving yourself and I ain't ready to save myself Both 26 been in relation one and a half years how to get the rain You came finesse a man out no rain and you don't want to finesse him out no rain The way to get the rain is to be the absolute best you could be Be the best person you could be and I'm gonna tell you this right here It's a year and a half. You don't even want to rush no rain with no 26. Yo Your man ain't a man till 25. So to be honest with you at about 28 That's when you need to be worried about that rain with with the way men built today Situation with husband I was fixing the pillow and he was losing it when I moved the pillow. He was hiding something under it saw black Packet said move Maybe CBD gummies. I don't know how bruises now Now this is just you can't be bringing this he'll tell me on the lie now Oh My son get to meet governor the census tomorrow. He doesn't sign a bill that changed the school start times 27 year old White woman get her prison sentence for drug trafficking. So let me send this. Oh, what I'm about to do but one thing we realize is a If those are gummies they don't work they showed on work cuz He got crunk like that right now You definitely since you probably gonna have to sit down with him and talk to him and let him know Like a it ain't nothing in the world worth hiding on that level To where you got to do something like this right here and you might want to get some coaching and also You got to look at this and just let them know like listen anything like this right here ever happen again We done for good and even rat now you got to decide if you want to take you a little break Let's three days seven day fourteen day break Y'all are met in person and we drove separately. We're supposed to have dinner They over the weekend. We've only been talking about three weeks. Okay Well, he ain't take you out. So Should be all right I can't remember your question Only my daughter just had a baby and she's concerned because her husband hasn't touched her for five months But with her last friend and they were at all throughout up until our arm well Tell you what that is Angela Angela he didn't got into he didn't got into the OF To the only fan Or to the pH And when you talk about pH balance on my own hub He didn't got into that and he got that handle that old five finger that old five finger curse And so that's what he doing He take care of self or it could be another one. We don't want to speculate though But he getting that release somewhere. I'm gonna tell you that right now either that or he didn't stumble into ED This function so It's either the ED or It's hands alone So that's one thing she got to realize what she may have to do That's her husband So when it's your husband You could do a little digging When it's your husband you could go through that phone Go through that computer You could do your little digging, but Whatever she fine She got the first keep it to herself and she need to bring it to you y'all need to talk about it But she need to get and have a coaching call and talk about it and see what it is Now at the same time If a man is really highly Sessional He can he may want to be intimate with his woman all throughout the pregnancy and all of that But for for most men pregnancy is not cute The weight that's put on if it's scratch marks It's a beautiful thing. But being that men are visual creatures for a lot of men It's not cute for a lot of men. It's a turnoff that they can't even know they child is being born for A lot of men don't know how to process it like that. They don't see it as that They'll love that child now, but they don't Like the body change and that's a shame It's hurtful It's sad But that does happen. And so sometimes it's also that to where on the other side, maybe six weeks later For something like that That may change which is a sad thing But that's also something that needs to be known and it may need to be addressed Can you explain what goes on a man's mind during the midlife crisis part of life? No, I can't because I have not been there have not been there So I have no clue what that feel like or what that is like really can't say that I've ever known a man or been around a man in a midlife crisis to up close and personal so Really not sure I could only speculate and if I had to speculate then I would say It's fear of Not having lived enough Not having done enough not having had enough not having seen enough because now he is closer to the grave than the birth canal and so I believe the midlife crisis a man starts to operate out of fear and anxiety and a scarcity of time and That's what that's why you see a lot of men in that midlife crisis Want to get them a young woman to feel young again want to get them a fast car to feel young again? Want to do a little different crazy stuff trying to feel young again? Because again he closer to the grave than the birth canal Wow, just having a few minutes ago. What time it is over there? I know he has changed over the past few months. He said he wants to divorce He jokes a lot when he when he says things. I don't know if I should take him seriously Yeah, sister, you need coaching. That's a little too deep for him You need coaching you need coaching Shantae wrote on here a file for divorce from my husband because I found out that he cheated on me with his ex-wife Every now and then she pops up at my job and walks past me with a smirk on her face How to handle this? If she pop on you at the job, do she work there? If not, I'd be calling the police on them What if she worked that in just smile back at her sometimes you got to kill him with kindness You got to smile back out of smile back out of all you had Hey, ask the question. Your question was next. Don't call Google line. Talk about that. We're fraught. No No blessing Freedom blessing. How can women prevent being desperate for marriage this day in age? My mom is freaking out about me at 27 yet. I refuse to be desperate again. I Don't know why your mom are tripping. It's you 27. I mean you got a whole life ahead of you So it's like when I would say a woman who want to be married out to start really being concerned is 46 But before 46 maybe 36 start to kind of get some consultation and get some insight 27 you still a baby You may want to go to the doctor check on, you know, just check on your body Check on your ex see what the doctor say about how long he think you'll be able to, you know, give birth if that's in your story and Other than that, don't rush it Because I'm gonna tell you We are We are hand full Relationships are not easy men are a handful women are hand full 10 years in a relationship living together is a lifetime So You got to realize you want to live if you want this thing to be until death do us part Don't rush it Do not rush it let it happen when it happened and the way it's gonna happen faster or where it's gonna happen when it's supposed to happen Is when you all the way ready when you got them three bees in order What does it mean if someone says I don't have the capacity to love you the way you need? It could mean just that it could mean that he's been hurt. He got cheated on or he got left it could also mean that You close but no cigar meaning that you almost what he looking for But not all the way there. You're not all the way the woman he looking for and instead of saying that He says that So understand that right now Men don't walk away from a woman that he feels is his wife. He will slow her down Hold her down back her down Triple up a man will be a hindrance to you Before he let you go If he feel you his wife When a man tell you He's not ready. He's not the one it really means y'all just are not a fit How can I control my emotions while talking to someone you really like? You don't have to control your emotions. I mean you really like them, but I mean what exactly are you going to do? You said I mean It's like you might laugh a little more you might be a little giddy But that's a good thing that lets the man know that you really like them that the prop the thing is to be real So you might laugh at everything he say that's gonna make them feel good. That's gonna flatter them They're gonna make him like you more Nah, if you want to jump up and down Then you want to control yourself if that's what you want to do But if you just want to smile and laugh and be a little giddy, that's good. That's good Sometimes I'd be wondering what's wrong with my wife. We've been in the room. We'd be talking and She'd be talking I'd be like, man, this woman really love me like this or she just Talking like this. Hey y'all see Jermaine confirm What I said now Why does the X come back in my life? When he's at his lowest and then push me away When asking for communication He just unsure He's just unsure about his life Just unsure about his life, but y'all bringing me everything. Well, just Y'all got me on here like the old wise sage We'll answer the question about the neighbor cutting across lawns So what you want to do here? When the neighbor is crossing the lawn What kind of come on down land what kind of question is this out my scope Come eat person Don't ask me that kind of question Come eat person Neighborhood have a problem Listen to me Listen to me now what you could do involves you I Put no less sign out there Do not walk on grass Just sit it out there for a little bit. See what they do Do not walk on the grass Blanca told you the same thing and then Vince ain't cheap now There's he'll nasty now I'm not that woman doing you like that Don't you like that? Why do you beg to take me out on the date and then after he's off and then after he's off and on? Well, he got on that date and seen her what he need to heal and then met up somebody else Who he trying to see and hear what he need to help That's all it is Just think feelings change Accepted for what it is and move on about your life move on with your life What might explain a 26 year old practice squad player? leading men's Bible study two years in prayer call But terrible in relationships Last only two to four months Well Everybody struggles somewhere, but what that sound like is the type of guy who? He wants to look like the catch He wants to look like a good catch and a good man, and he's more caught up with the image They're actually living it out and a lot of us struggle in that way because I could be terrible in Relationships as well and a lot of times that's the case with men We good out front and we not good behind closed doors, and so He's probably also feeling like God's gift to women So he's very very picky. I remember me nut NFL player Who was 25 and he was a virgin and he was way known as he was wanting to meet his wife And he was so so picky Because he said man. I don't save myself. I am only settling for a 10. I Was like wow, I think he ended up marrying a lawyer Brown skin Naturally pretty lawyer, I think is who he ended up settling down with How can women prevent being desperate for marriage in this day and age we answer that one If you're able to can you make a video about how you navigated the initial stages of starting your businesses and not being discouraged Especially if when you had to leave family and friends behind etc Yeah, I could do that, but it probably be in the blessed business tribe So if you're in the blessed business tribe, you'll be able to see that video If not, you'll have to upgrade from the blessed tribe to the blessed business tribe Unless it just happened to be public You know for everybody, but being that this is not a business page business videos do not Do well and it mess up my it mess up my page So I have to post them for the blessed business tribe. I'll stay encouraged when waiting for your kingdom spouse Especially when you're getting offers that you know Are just counterfeits My exes keep popping up for my future husband Still in my Keep going Don't deal with the exes and the more men you have to meet The more men you gotta meet Get to your husband the better because that lets you know when you finally meet them It was worth the wait What is your take on a single woman dating a man with a child? It's a personal choice for the woman On if that's what you want for your life. Do you want to be a bonus mom? Do you want to have to deal with any kind of issues he may have? with his child's mother Do you want your husband to be the father of your first child and for that to be his first child? So that you know the child get, you know pure and full love So it's a personal choice. It's nothing Deep about it because you know If you asking that question that let me know you not worried about trying to do nothing negative or hurt You know the child the different if you were a single woman with a child you asking about how to deal with men Then it'll be more so about protection Is it a red flag of a man's a history of short relationships one two years? No, cuz that's very normal very normal Very normal. What does a man mean when he says you have what he desires, but you just need one more test That you need to run If a man tell you to your face he testing you That's that's dangerous. That's a red flag though. We that's he gonna treat you like crap Man a net who man who says about you and never tell you he gonna test you We met through a friend and he beg to take me out after the date he's off and on but always asking my friend about me wow Just how something talk about Just how something to talk about We had no moderators in here tonight if they took all of them They must have got mad with me last night. Talk about these men I feel looking I am 24 and working on my three B's Do you have any tips on encouraging yourself when you see people your age achieving achieving? Relationship and financial milestones, but you are not just there yet. You might need to get coaching They might be they might have a mentor They might have a coach and they're not doing it alone. They may have a team of help So you can't ever compare and you also can't really Believe nothing you see So if you don't live with them to see their relationship and if you don't have access to their bank account Believe nothing that you see trust me Trust me trust me It's all a mirage Curse me out when I told him I don't talk to guys who then asked me on a date what to do Gone about your business block his number Go on about your business ain't nothing to do ain't nothing to do God bless it the niche to God bless you welcome To the bless try rose a welcome to the bless try He do videos on marriage is not really I do have some on marriage. I have a marriage series you got to click on my playlist go to marriage series but 70 to 90% of my audience is single So and I got a course for married couples on Tony Gaston's Academy But I really got the more so speak to who out here listening And so every nine day and I probably met ten married people on this channel So I can't really make How limited times I can't really give it to less than one percent of my audience But you can sign up for one-on-one session when you hear me announce that How do you upgrade to the business tribe so when you go to the video Under the lower right hand side, you're gonna say where say see perks You click on see perks if they still got it set up like that You click on see perks. It's gonna bring up Your perks for the bless try but then right up under that you're gonna see it say 999 or 1199 or 1299 Depending on where you looking at it from So you might want to go to Google Go to YouTube on your computer on like the Chrome browser and Sign up from there if you sign up from that out on Apple it's gonna charge you more because Apple take 30% Tony I have been out of a Been out of a six years and have Taking the time to heal and now ready to date How do I answer the question when men ask why my last relationship ended without having them in my business? Just say we weren't a fit. We just weren't meant for each other and we came to a point where we say hey, you know It was nice. It was a nice run, but we're not meant to be and we decided to mutually part ways so You could always answer a question without giving away all your business Tessa God bless you Once take a year to solely focus on my three B's and not date what to say to men when approached You could tell them you should tell them that you are taking So hey, um, I'm taking Because when you say taking It lets a man know That you have representation If a man does not know you have Representation he may try to put hands on you. He may try to stalk you. He may try to do something to you So tell him you take it and technically you are taking you taken by your goals You take him by your dreams. You take him by your work You take him by your focus So you are taking And that's what you got to tell these men today because of the fragile egos so because of the fragile egos You can't do like we would do in the days of old When you could just you know, tell a man That you're not interested and he say, okay, well, God bless you. Hope you meet the one Today because of the fragile egos and because of the grown boy Epidemic you can't really be real With these guys today y'all for giving up here looking for my son See him so understand that right now Son them still practicing. Why don't we see men asking these questions? because Men learning the dark women learning the light Men will sit back and watch and observe and listen So out of the seven hundred people we have on here It could be two hundred men watching this But men we don't show our hand. We wear a poker face. We don't show our hand and All of that It's nine o'clock. Hey, so God bless y'all Trisha would just saying show come in the show is on the show that I'm on It's on on MTV. I don't want to be competing with you know Even though a number seven hundred people on here seven hundred people could be over there on MTV So my little show on and I think I'm on there tonight Doing a little session leading the session now y'all got to remember I'm not a producer this ain't my show I don't write the episodes or nothing like that. I'm just a host I'm just a co-host on there. So don't y'all put nothing on me now God bless y'all Again, it's on MTV So 700 y'all if you got MTV somebody said stream on here on YouTube I don't know if that's true or not, but it may be under YouTube and Couples retreat MTV couples retreat God bless y'all and we'll talk soon