 What's good Joshua Ross back again with another video, so I was thinking about doing something different I wanted to talk about toxic relationships and How to recognize them and how to avoid them the reason why I wanted to talk about this because you know I want this channel to also Be about uplifting and you know and trying to help people out that may be going to going through similar situations that I have been through you know, so Kicking it with Ross is like you know I wanted to be you know all aspects of my life that I want to show on camera But you know some of the personal experiences that I've been through and kind of help you guys out as well You know and so I Have been in some toxic relationships I'm not gonna lie to you when I look back on the situations that I've been in the signs We're always there, you know, and I think that's the first thing about trying to avoid toxic relationships is knowing the signs There are always clear signs when you're getting to know somebody whether it's like, you know, how they you know talk to you How they move when they're around you, you know what what type of activities they do, you know Saying just how they present themselves on social media like those things are science And you have to be able to pay attention to them and kind of just look at them You know, you got to always ask yourself Could I see myself really being with this person long term if you like someone and you you know You've been vibing out with them and you know You want to always ask yourself that type of question because it'll kind of help you understand and figure out How you want to move with that person now here's another thing that can happen Maybe you don't see any toxic traits. Maybe everything's pretty cool And you know, y'all compliment each other real well Getting to a relationship with this individual and then things start to turn south or things start to go a little bit Hey wire when they're upset when that person is upset and that's when you can really nine times out of ten you can tell Someone's toxic traits is when they get upset if someone gets married at you and They they get very disrespectful. They get very rude, you know, those are Red alarms like those are major alarms because you don't want to be with someone and anytime y'all getting to it They get disrespectful and you know what I can be honest and transparent with y'all I've been one of those people, you know, where I've gotten so mad at someone like Really pissed off that I hadn't said some things that wasn't cool You know I'm saying and that's something I'm working on personally myself to be able to control my anger You know way where it's like I can be mad at you But I don't need to say anything to like purposely hurt you You know I'm saying so that's a toxic trait of mine that I'm actually trying to work on cuz you know You don't want to be that type of individual so I can admit that you know saying That's one of the toxic traits. I am trying to work on but if you're dealing with someone And they're constantly belittling belittling you when they're upset and then they backdoor After everything, you know Kind of calms down then they try to butter you up and you know and apologize and it's a repeating cycle That's something that's another red flag. You definitely want to pay attention to that I wouldn't say just Immediately cut ties but address the situation see if it changes and if it doesn't change then it's kind of Kind of got to move on from there also me personally It's language that you use with someone, you know I'm saying so if this person is constantly Cursing at you, you know, you know Especially when they're upset and stuff like that and you know saying things that you know You're not used to hearing from somebody talk to you that way. Hey, man That's a that's a toxic trait you may not like some people are okay with that other people or not So, you know, it all depends personally on how you address things and how comfortable you feel about certain people addressing you You know and when you do see these traits and you've tried to work on You know not try to work on them but try to work with that person and you see that it's not changing The next thing you have to do is be able to walk away from that now dealing with someone that's toxic and They don't know that they're toxic or they don't feel that what they're saying or doing is toxic You got to watch out for them those type of individuals because at the end of the day You can tell them a that wouldn't cool what you're doing. This is not what's up I'm not liking this yada yada yada and they they Count it as you know, are you being sensitive or you know? It's not that big of a deal But as soon as they see you try to pull away like nah, this is not it for me then they try to butter you up Gotta watch out for that the buttering upstage is what I'm calling it. Basically Someone they see you moving around or about to move around So they'll do everything that you kind of been wanting them to do or kind of been wanting them to show they'll show that for that brief period to reel you back in and Then after that they go right back to what they were doing before you don't want that you do not want that that is That's toxicology 101 right there You definitely don't want to be a part of something like that because at the end of the day You're not gonna be happy. It's literally going to be a cycle. They see you trying to move around They'll they'll do right for a little bit and then they'll go right back to their old ways And it's like you don't want to be dealing with that especially if you're trying to build something serious with somebody so Definitely you want to be careful on Those type of situations when talking to someone or getting to know somebody you gotta just peep the signs And even if you don't see the signs right away They will always show themselves and I'm not saying cut everything off But just you know watch how someone moves and if you address something and things don't change You gotta you gotta, you know be able to move you remove yourself in the situation and stay strong There's been plenty of times where I've known the situation was toxic and yet I I Would allow myself to be reeled back in and then be doing the same thing Maybe a couple days later, you know I'm saying like and I want to also, you know kind of put this out there Toxicness they come in cycles, you know saying so when you're dealing with somebody you you'll see the pattern You'll see the pattern someone will try to pull away the other person will try to pull them back Then that's to in in essence That's overall just toxic in itself because that person sees you trying to leave and move around and they're trying to really back in and then The cycle starts over and over again You don't want to be stuck in that loop because it can be it can be stressful. It can be you know in a sense Like detrimental to your health depending on how bad it gets you feel me or it could turn into something even worse You feel me so I just wanted to drop this little little video You know just to kind of help anybody out That's being that's been in a toxic situation or a toxic relationship or or is in one right now, man Any day, you know what you feel like you deserve, you know saying so if you're feeling like you're not getting the bare minimum Or you're not getting the meeting that person's not meeting expectations for you And you feel like you shouldn't be dealing with certain situations or dealing with the issues that you're dealing with and things are not Being addressed communication is pretty much being ignored and nothing is changing Remove yourself as soon as you can it's going to be hard It's going to be difficult especially when you care and love someone But it's going to be better for you in the end and at the end of the day You're in the finder somebody that doesn't bring those type of toxic energy and toxic vibes into your life because I think it's become even though people say it's not cool. It's become sort of like Acceptable nowadays for individuals to have toxic traits and not address them and not try to work on them I think people think it's cute like there's people out there that think being toxic is cute like yeah You know saying yeah, I'll destroy this person's property at the end of the day I know me and this person and we gonna make up and it's not gonna matter. You know I'm saying so That's to me. That's not a good thing. You know saying and we should normalize Being in toxic relationships. We should normalize people addressing their flaws and learning how to grow from them and be better You know I'm saying that's what should be normalized not being toxic because it's not cool But comment down below Let me know if you guys have ever been in a toxic relationship or if you are in one and How are you able to get yourself out of that and how are you able to you know? Overcome that situation comment down below. Let me know I would love to get your thoughts and opinions But I appreciate all the love and support road to 40k appreciate y'all kicking it with me. I see y'all in the next one. Peace