 I'd rather you be authentically messy with me about your life and your trauma than try to wait till you've got it tidied up before you tell me anything. And I think we want to celebrate the fact that we're all a work in progress. We are all doing the best that we can. And right now, the way that you are authentic may not be attractive, maybe a bit messy, it may be clumsy, it may be awkward, but it's authentic. Authentic doesn't mean it's perfect and balanced and beautiful. It means it's real.