 Before I answer that let me tell you about an argument that I'm having like frequently with one of our head instructors one of one of my best friends and the really head instructor of CR Kian. He's sitting right over there and Kian is by far the greatest instructor I have ever seen. He has performed so magical results out of students that you really can't believe your eyes at times. I come to boot camps I'm like motherfucker what the fuck are we gonna do with this student? It's like a lost case and magically Kian comes in like you know like a knight on a white horse and just saves the day. I mean I just think people lose their virginities on boot camps. People who are like 35 virgins and you think like yeah this is gonna take time and nope one night one night with Kian that's how it works. One of our greatest instructor no doubt and we always have this we frequently have this kind of argument that eventually led me to this speech and that is usually when I coach I tend to try to teach people my kind of game. I try to teach people my kind of game and when Kian sees that he usually stops me he says dude you can't you can't teach out that opener it's not gonna work I said like it works for me I said yeah but you know people are different I said what do you mean? He said well look at you look at them they're different and so we continually have these arguments where I'm like yeah but you see it's if you do it right and he says yeah but you need to be able to do it right but if you can't do it right it's not gonna work and so we always we like we explore this whole thing what is doing certain techniques or certain routines or whatever you want to call it right what does it come down to? Let me tell you about two openers two of my favorite openers at the moment. The one the first is really simple yet genius it goes like this I just approach like let me first tell you about my game my game is aimed towards the tense like I go out in nightclubs that's my favorite thing to do I go out nightclubs and I always aim for the high social status tense have I ever gone home with women of less beauty yeah but it's more of an exception and really it's not what I want I'm never satisfied with that I always go for the 10 and to be told you guys paid a lot of money I don't think you should settle for less either now I'm not saying you should all aim for you know the nightclub 10 but you should definitely always go after what you want don't ever forget that however so my game is pretty much geared towards that hardcore kind of stuff and yet some of the things I do are really simple like for example this opener it goes like this I go up I walk up to women I'm like hi I don't recognize you who are you that's my opener hi I don't recognize you who are you? The second opener is a little bit more advanced I don't know it goes it goes like this I go up to women I say hi I'm sorry this may seem really rude but are you good with compliments she usually says yes and I say I just love your ass and I see it and I take her hand and I turn the spinner slowly around and those two are my favorite openers and it worked pretty much like magic for me I don't know for some of you guys just the thought of using those openers may scare you to death especially when you think that you know I'm used this on tense maybe you think it's really easy I don't know but let me tell you why they work and why they don't work let's take the first opener hi I don't recognize you who are you why does it work if you imagine a really like a really beautiful woman she has high social status everybody knows who she is like she knows everybody who is somebody knows who she is and she should know them when you go up and say hi I don't recognize you who are you and you say that in that kind of tone you're conveying that hi I'm someone and I usually know the hot chicks in this place so who are you that is what you are conveying to put it in a very simple way you're speaking the language of somebody's to put in a very horrible yet correct way the other opener the whole I love your ass is really great because you're a douche bag while at the same time being gentleman see hi I'm sorry this is gonna sound rude are you good with compliments you say I love your ass may I see it and at the same time you're giving a compliment which women actually care about otherwise they would never bother having high heels but let's let's see are everybody gonna be able to pull this off I mean I am not allowed to teach these openers at bootcamps he and he would man he would punch me he's a one fierce motherfucker if I would if I would teach this to the regular student yeah I will get punched in the stomach why and this is the argument we are frequently having there are some requirements needing to be met in order for these to work imagine a guy that stutters who is nervous his hands are sweating every time I approach the woman and he tries to pull that off like he goes up you know he has this the chode walk you know some guys to get some nervous they do the show dance and you go up to a woman he's like hi I don't recognize you who are you get lost usually that's what's going to happen or in some cases the woman may actually be you know polite because she sees nervous and she's like oh no I'm just you know whoever the fuck and they'll have a friendly conversation two minutes and then she'll probably have to go to the bathroom and the same thing goes with other opener same thing is you know it's just gonna backfire for me they work like magic most of the time when I pull them like when I pull them off right but it's hard to pull them off correct that's the thing that's the myth about the community that you can't like if you're if you do a routine like if you continually repeat a routine eventually you're gonna be able to pull it off right but I don't really I don't really believe that I mean even with the basic stuff like negging if you like if you can't hold eye contact or hold up a conversation negging is not going to work you just it's just gonna seem really weird see 90% of your game is not your game it's you I don't care 90% of your game is not your game it's just you let's view with it let's try to distinguish about the 90% with the 10% let's say that game or let's say you're a product see game is just a sales pitch outer game or techniques or whatever it's just a sales pitch you are the product that you're selling that your game is selling you are the product and the woman in this case is the customer and I don't care what any marketing people says when it comes to game just a great sales pitch won't work and if it does you get a lot of refunds if the product sucks and since you know you're probably not gonna do commercials worldwide on TV you're not gonna have such a great market so you in a way you're kind of limited and I mean if you're a guy who you know most of the time you sit at home you're bored out you play Xbox as a distraction and you know once in a while you rent a movie to you know spike things up and then you go out and you know you put on the sales pitch like hi I'm that pretty much you're trying to convey your this cool person have this awesome lifestyle I mean even if you happen to fool anyone with that and you know the whole the rest of you does not shine through even if you pull that off you can be pretty sure that you ended up with either a stupid someone stupid or someone who has no standards so I mean nobody should settle for that so really the problem is the point I'm trying to get across is don't work so much on your sales pitch at least not until you have your product handled until you is someone you can think of like as cool that's that's pretty much what I'm trying to say here I want to talk about being cool becoming a cool person sorry I always mix whatever I drink I like like bitter sweet neutral so the product I mean think about it this way think about your dream like the woman of your dreams right how can you get the woman of your dreams what will be the easiest way to get that woman of your dreams anybody tell me that anybody who wants to like try to answer that yes being herself correct I'm not saying you're wrong absolutely not but that's what I'm trying to say the easiest way to get the woman of your dreams is if you would become or if you already are the woman the man of her dreams that's basically what it is I mean if you're not the kind of man she wants then you're gonna you're always gonna be have to struggling you always it will always be a struggle you will always be a struggle to keep up to keep appearances to keep you know the illusion that you are because basically you know you can't fool anyone I mean we you know we are all individuals we are all in the pursuit of happiness and I mean that's in that in and out of itself is gonna hinder your I mean your game if you're not that kind of guy and at the same time you know it's very subjective that's the thing like you don't get taught in the community it's very subjective like we we get taught that there is this universal thing of like being alpha which it kind of is but there is more than that there are different types of guys they're different kinds of men some women like you know rockers other women they hate rockers they can't stand up like some women can't imagine being with anyone else than this muscle crew character other women they're like man he's disgusting why the fuck is he having eyeliners it's very different it's very subjective and if you want to make it easy for yourself figure out what kind of women do you want and what kind of men do they want and I mean usually there's a match the kind of man you want to be is usually the kind of man she wants and you need to start working towards that have I got in my point across here that game is just a sales pitch and really it's not unnecessary I mean if you combine a great product with a great marketing your game you're gonna do awesome but it's just a 10% you don't need to start working on that if your product is not what you want it to be then you know start there that's my really my point that I'm trying to get across I'm trying to convince you that don't focus so much on the sales pitch I mean I heard that Babbo was here yesterday and he gave you these great openers which are really amazing when you think about them and they are awesome but truth be told I don't see a lot of people in the world being able to pull that off because they don't have the prerequisites to make those openings work I mean you go up to a woman I heard he said something like you are so beautiful I want to fuck you right now it's a really awesome thing I mean if you can pull that off and you can make in a way that woman actually like they consider it which I don't think it's I don't think it's possible I mean we'll try this like kind of similar stuff the only thing is if you don't have the prerequisites for that kind of opening it's never gonna work you're just gonna creep people out and that's my point here you need to work on the product so what is cool what is being cool let's just throw a couple of things out here social skills social connections humor being in great shape having a great fashion sense like having an admirable skills like for example being a musician being able to you know having a motorcycle motorbike all these things you know they make you cool but the truth is truth is I don't need to tell you this truth is you have already heard this I am not the first person to talk about these kind of stuff yet a lot of people I see a lot of students they are more concerned with what opener should I use tonight then are these shoes really good is does my hair look good um does my breath smell man if I got some money for every time we had a student with a bad breath I'd be rich I mean they were more concerned with their opener but they don't give a fuck that whatever they say the woman is gonna be like it's kind of weird when you think about it's pretty much like basic you should everybody should notice I mean I'm not throwing out secret knowledge here it's just really basic stuff that everybody can agree to I'm just trying to really remind you of it and really try for once in a while hammer it in so that you don't let your focus slip away your opener it doesn't really matter that much if you have the prerequisites all openers will most of the time work so one thing like what my speech is really going to be about this is all just introduction I'm just trying to make you listen I'm really like up until now I was just trying to make convince you guys or what needs to be done now I'm gonna focus on how do you go about changing yourself how do you go about becoming cool and it's not gonna be about inner game it's not gonna be about standing front of a mirror and repeat words those things those tools are really awesome I mean they are really good for most I mean a lot of guys have got a lot of things out of them but I will try to like I've tried when I thought about my speech I thought I want to have something that you know if you it's not just beneficial for you it's beneficial for everyone it's beneficial for your life it's beneficial and it's also something that you could see like when I'm gonna tell you these stuff you're gonna I want you guys to realize how yes I can see how this is going to change me and so it's been a really struggle trying to figure out how do you change yourself like if you say I mean this is the thing everybody are different right some of you guys don't even need to listen to this I have a friend among you who I said you know what I'm sorry but you're not gonna get your money worse from my speech because you already have this shit down so I mean everybody's different this doesn't apply to everyone but if you're like say you're on the far end where your social life is deteriorated you're this guy who play Xbox to get distracted you're broke most of the time and most of the time you're bored then this is the stuff you need to hear hopefully this is stuff that's gonna help you change change is painful that's the first thing you need to know change is painful you think approach anxiety is painful no it's not change is painful because you take away your own familiarity you know whatever happens I mean if the whole movie 2012 would be true and you know the world all of a sudden goes down and everything changes at least you know who the fuck you are at least I'm not changing at least this is still this that led like that's the only comfort we have most of the time like I know who I am sort of and when you try to change that it's you get scary you don't recognize yourself anymore you feel like you feel like your feet are trembling that is why it changes so hard because it's really scary I mean to go up to a woman and say hi I think you're beautiful and she says I mean you get a bad rejection that's nothing compared to changing but that does not mean it's impossible and I'm not saying this to scare you guys off I'm just saying this because as I said before I'm all for positive woohoo but really you need to be realistic need to be positively realistic it's painful and get prepared for that and truth be told it's worth it not only for the women not only for the women it's just worth it I mean it's you this is you it's your life you gotta live it the way you won't live it so the four I'm like taken out for what I think four really important things you need to do with your life in order to make a lasting change and they're very simple but you're also very like huge areas that you need to be to be improving constantly and hopefully you can understand why this works and why they're so important are you guys ready for step one or at least the first point you guys ready friends I don't know if there's an English expression for this but there's definitely a Swedish expression that says you become like the person like your peers you become like your peers who you hang out with will eventually influence what you become like and I'm not saying you guys to dump your friends that I would never ever recommend anyone to do that I think it's stupid unless there's a good reasons for it like if you're not really friends and you were just next to each other but no friends are important like really important and especially I mean when I say friends I mean all kind of really all kinds of relationships like getting a mentor for example like getting someone who you know once in a while speaks to you tells you gives you feedback tells you what he how he perceives you that in and out of yourself is just you know it's really valuable and also I mean most of the guys most of the people I have like I won't even say most of the people like all the people I have ever met that are good with women hang with people who are good with women sure they have a couple of friends who you know are more or less bad but you know like you have seen those sitcoms where they are all just regular folks and there's this one guy who always gets laid that doesn't exist those social circles does not usually exist or if they do this guy at least half of the time he hangs out with other guys who are good with women like everybody I have ever met that are good with women have friends who are good with women that just the way he goes because we become as our peers and you should always try to work towards getting people in your life that have achieved the kind of stuff you want to achieve it is super important it is super important you have to be kind of strategical about what kind of people you have in your life I mean some people drag it down some people you I mean a lot of people have friends who they're not actually friends with it's just that you know life threw them in to the same room and they didn't have any other choice I mean most I mean a lot of people have friends they don't even like and in that case you know you need to get you need to realize these stuff and you need to you know do actions towards changing it you understand what I'm saying cool second about friends is female friends female friends are important they are super important have you ever heard about social proof ever heard about pre-selection every time you go out I will come for free I mean if for nothing else if for nothing else every time you will go out you will have free pre-selection free social proof you don't even have to work on it you're going to a club with two chicks and they're good-looking and they like you and they you know they hang with you you've got to handle you don't need to run around getting social proof if for nothing else never mind like all the fashion advice you're gonna get never mind all the you know jealousy they're gonna be able to create with other chicks never mind just the friendship in and out of itself all of these stuff are really beneficial and they add value to your life they add happiness I mean I've always wanted to have little sisters I've always wanted to have sisters always mad at my mom I didn't give any sisters I hate you why didn't you give me sisters I had to give me this fucking brother who's always nagging and then I realized well I have friends I have female friends I treat them like sisters I mean some of them are really like hot but yet people people had so yeah you're banging her right no no sorry to disappoint you I'm the super POA I'm not even banging this chick nope I'm not I mean some people even doubt it they're like yeah fuck you you're banging each other right yeah didn't you go home together last night yes we did share the bed she was half naked so was I we did not sleep why because I tried to treasure it I tried to treasure the relationship I tried to really enjoy it it's beneficial like the relationship in and out of itself is really it's giving do you understand what I'm trying to say here it's giving it's just wonderful and the same thing with all your friends I mean you should enjoy all your friends and you should and if you can't do that that means you shouldn't be friends I really believe that if you can't enjoy your friendship and be friends and again it's no secret knowledge yet you see people all the time they don't do this stuff like I'm not here to give you knowledge you don't have I'm just here to remind you of what you already know and hopefully hammer it in so that you will change these stuff so I will be imprinted in you and before I leave friends there are more stuff I'm trying to get the English word for this you know there are friends you know people you hang out with and then there are acquaintances you know people who you just you know you say hi to that is also very valuable I mean be nice to people be respectful there is one thing in our forum like in the charismatic evolution forum going on there are some guys who have taken this whole alpha thing a little bit too far and they're like no man should be disrespected a real man he never he always breaks rapport he always breaks rapport a real man breaks rapport you know a real man he can be on his own he can be on his own yeah maybe a real man can maybe be on his own maybe he can get a lot of stuff maybe a lot of women gets turned on by that but you know what maybe you'll be on the top it's gonna be fucking lonely hello you're gonna be standing there hi oh there's nobody to high five if for nothing else if you want to be that guy you'll have no one to high five if nothing else I like high five how many people like to high five their friends I love high-fiving man it's awesome but not only that if you're respectful like seriously if you're respectful to people and you appreciate people and you don't try to be you don't try to be like a burden to people instead you try to be this helpful guy it's gonna get it's gonna go back especially when you go out to clubs I mean if you're not this like say bouncers for example if you're not this guy was like man come on come on come on come on man oh and you just always nagging always whining you think they're ever gonna be nice to you no maybe they're not gonna be nice to you the first times but if you're nice to them frequently eventually it's gonna catch on and after three months four months you won't have to stand in line anymore is that not beneficial if you're thinking about having a lifestyle where you go out four times a night four times a week of course same thing bartenders of same thing like when you go when you go down to the grocery store I mean seriously how many people like that is also one of these ridiculous things that everybody knows yet nobody like most people don't ever do this I mean you live in the same house apartment for five years and you don't even know the name of the people who work at the grocery store where you buy your stuff all day every day that is ridiculous really like they don't know you you don't know them that is just ridiculous that it's not beneficial for anyone I mean you're gonna be there for a long time you should get to know them they should get to know you they should like you I mean I remember once we had this project Gothenburg kind of thing and we were so good with the people in our grocery store because when they finished I was like guys come up let's take a zip like most of the time when we went to buy groceries like we went down with like pajamas and stuff and I'm like hi man oh fuck I'm having a headache cool and it became this really intimate relationship and I mean the beneficials of that is you know if like if they have something on sale like if they have a discount or something and there's just one something left and they know you like this stuff like say some sort of meat like chicken if they see that they have chicken breasts and they're starting to get like you know there's not any more of them like there's just two packages left and it's discount and they know you like chicken they're gonna save it up for you I mean you get my point right like it's always beneficial it's always beneficial yet people don't do this they don't take the time to be friendly to people to be respectful and get to know people I mean you don't have to be friends with everybody but at least be good acquaintances so that was friends we have three more things to go through but we're gonna make sure you guys get food in your stomachs it's really important I've heard that it's quite vital it's a prerequisite to living I've heard and so therefore we're gonna take a break alright so we're back from the break and as you may remember before we took the break I was talking about friendship about getting beneficial friendships I talked about for example getting acquainted with people who are beneficial for you I also talked about getting female friends how that will help you and not only that how it's really enjoyable and then I talked about how basically everyone I've ever met who are good with women hang around with other people who are good with women you become as your peers and that is why this is so super important next thing I'm gonna talk about is fashion it's really important to get a sense of fashion why the first reason why is you become like you tend to become like how you are dressed how you dress affects you affects your behavior if you're dressed very sloppy you will feel sloppy if you dress very business-like very straight you know you have a tie up your throat you'll be very professional if you're dressed in a you know very in a party outfit you feel more like partying the way you dress actually affects you that is one of the main reason why it's important to dress up why fashion is really important it affects your behavior it puts you into a stereotype and it's really easy to live up to that stereotype actually it's hard not to live up to that stereotype so if you dress up like you know if you dress up like a chode or whatever you want to call it if you dress up like a normal guy who who shy if your clothing puts you in a stereotype where it seems like you're shy it will be hard not to be shy because you will fall into that stereotype now when we talk about fashion it's really hard because there is such a variety of different styles and different tastes different flavors but generally people they don't like a lot of a lot a lot of guys really handle this easily they have a cool haircut they have awesome shoes their pants look really good and that's awesome that is really good it's really important it's super important but some people they don't even think about it or maybe they do I don't know but they don't seem to be thinking about it and that is why I'm taking this up because you should always review your fashion what is this saying about me what stereotype is it putting me into and is it a stereotype that I want to be put into and is it a stereotype that helps me do you understand the importance of this another thing about fashion is if you you know there are people who can dress up good but they look really normal like like they blend into walls and then you have the you know I just got into community and mystery taught me peacocking and now all of a sudden they look like yeah like a peacock they look like a bird walking bird like their feathers up their butt that is also like it's a it's a extreme in the other end of the spectrum what I am suggest suggesting is you know find the kind of style that you are comfortable with that you feel like it puts me into the stereotype I want to like if you're a rock if you like rock music dress like a cool rocker if you like hip-hop dress like a hip-hopper but put your personal touch to it try to make it original I mean copy and then do your own version of it and the more the more you actually the more time and effort you actually put into you know your clothing the way you dress the way you look your hair the better you will become at it I mean today I hear all the time people saying people especially women they say I'm really good-looking that wasn't always the case I really experimented with myself I really you know try to make the best out of me to really become the best self and in all areas and this fashion and looks things it was one of them and now I feel like I've come to a place where I would feel really comfortable with the way I look and I've come I got into a point where you know it gives me a lot of advantages everybody can do this I don't care what you think about your genes your nose yeah this that's actually a funny thing the first pickup technique I taught myself let me tell you about this today I hear all the time that I'm a really good looking man let me just tell you this to put into perspective when I was 12 years old I was really shy about my nose I had a complex like my nose I was like it's huge it's horrible the first pickup technique I taught myself was we went to these disco takes like they had discos for kids and the way you will go about you know try to hook up with some little girl was you would dance you would come up from behind and you would dance with her and then there was this crucial moment where the women of the girl turned around to see if you were hot and if you were hot enough you could dance and eventually you would kiss right my pickup technique was when that crucial moment came I would be forced to look straightforward they would like I would never allow them to see me from the side because I thought that would be so horrible and I was convinced about this I was like I'm not good looking from you know if you look at me from you know straightforward I look pretty decent but from the side I look horrible I really thought that and today I consider myself a really good-looking guy and there the reason why I'm telling you this is because I know a lot of people don't think they are good-looking a lot of guys walk around it like yeah no man I was born ugly I don't I don't really buy into that I really don't buy into that I remember once I saw I like similar convention like this one and it was what this one guy speaking I remember his name it was he had a really he had a really good speech but I realized something after 40 minutes of him talking I realized wait a minute this guy is actually ugly but I didn't notice it like it took me 40 minutes to notice this guy is actually not like his face is kind of weird like he's not really good-looking but it took me 40 minutes because he had such great style like he was he had really nice pants really nice shoes his jacket was just like amazing and his haircut was awesome it took me 40 minutes to realize if you think about it in like in the sense of jeans he's not that good-looking but nobody will give a fuck because he knows how to dress up so don't shoot yourself down don't feel like now why should I work on my clothing when I'm ugly it's not true it is not true unless like there is something totally wrong with your face there is no point for you to think that you're ugly I have actually a friend half of his face is burned off like literally burned off he was in an accident the other face the other side is quite normal and he's actually quite good-looking he gets late like he women find him attractive because he is comfortable with his burned side he looked like two face you know from Batman he allow he actually looks like two face it's like the first like when you when you see him the first time you see him you think man that is so horrible but then you start to get used to it and you see that he is really comfortable and he has a great sense of fashion great sense of style and I mean you know he doesn't have a lot of hair you know this side is kind of quite burned but the little hair he has you know he he makes something great with it and otherwise like man he becomes normal he becomes really good-looking even though half his face is burned off so this is super important having a great sense of fashion is super important take time watch people watch how other people dress up if you see someone you think oh man that is really nice like that's a really good outfit try to copy it try to make your own version of it don't leave it up to chances this is super important this is the first impression and not only the first impression what other people perceives you as I said this is the most important part how you dress affects your behavior if you dress sloppy you're gonna feel sloppy if you're dressed in a very business-like way you're gonna feel business like the way we dress affects our behavior this is the most important reason for fashion is this clear for you cool I'll jump into my next point the third way to become more cool person is you have to pay your dues you have to pay your dues in life now what do I mean see I told you before that some people they think that I remember one student I have it called ridiculous his life was really boring and he said so he said my life is quite boring I said at my couch most of the time I got come home from work I said my couch or the computer and I watch a movie play a video game I go to sleep he said but I'm not unhappy you just I wanted to be like this I just figured that you know I'll get some game and I have some women in that picture and then I'm good I was like no that's ridiculous you can't get good game and still have this because 90% of your game is not your game it's you if your life is boring and even you think is boring but just like you're not unhappy to change it then you know it's not gonna help you're still going to be boring your sales pitch is only gonna get you so far and not only that some other people like if you're overweight or if you're if you're like slacking or if you're broke if you have issues that are distracting that are you know like a burden in your chest all of this will affect you if you don't handle your life in a good way you're gonna be troublesome you're going to be having worries that's not gonna help you how many people here have seen like material on how to handle your state how many people like how to pump your state how many people have seen how to pump your state like how you do the starfish or how you dance to get into state how you listen to good music do you find those things effective I do those are really good state management tools but the best state management tool or you know whatever you want to call it the best thing I've ever heard the best advice to get in getting to good state has come again from my co-instructor Kian he understands this perfectly he says you know what your state is if you want to have a good state great state on Friday do you know when you start working on that state Monday morning your state on Friday your state management on Friday night starts on Monday morning how do you handle your life when you go to work do you slack or do you do your things when you come home do you clean your house do you cook like a healthy dinner or do you eat pizza all the time do you work out like when Friday comes are you like yes are you proud of yourself are you feeling like man this week has been awful yeah let's get drunk and go out and be distracted your state on Friday nights your state management begins on Monday morning this is paying your dues taking care of your life handling your issues improving your life making it better making something you can be proud of if you're overweight and you're unhappy about it do something about it it's not it's I mean it's it's the important thing is not that you have to look like you know like a statue carved out of stone by Mitchell Michelangelo himself that's not the important part the important part are you proud of who you are if you're not it's gonna be hard to come into anyone else to be you need to pay your dues it's super important if you have something if you have something unresolved in your life you need to solve it are you with me so far lastly oh yeah I can stand up because I have a black shirt cool lastly the last way or really good way to improve to improve your coolness or you know become a better person attract whatever when it comes to women is you need sexual experience and I know this sounds kind of harsh or kind of counterproductive like it feels like catch 22 doesn't it so to get sex I need to already have sex I know it sounds kind of intuitive or like a catch 22 phase but it's actually not see when people think when most guys think of sexual experience they think about not just in the belt how many women have I slept with you know what when I was when I was 18 yeah before I turn 18 I had slept with like I don't know maybe 50 women and I had friends who had only slept with two women they were more sexual experience to me you know why because out of those 50 women most of them was just one I stands while my friends who only slept with two women one maybe was a one I stand the other was a girlfriend they had sex with every day for like two years that is like 700 lace well I had only gotten 50 you see my point it's not the not just in the belt it's gonna be like if you're a virgin say for example you're a virgin then it's gonna be hard but you're gonna have to struggle you're gonna have to struggle to find to get over that threshold but not only that some guys they even had girlfriends but it's still a sexual experience why because they didn't put any time and effort into the sex they just did it as a standard routine you know we're together so we have sex take in take out take in take out they didn't experiment with it for in order for you to be sexual comfortable you need to experience an experiment which is sexuality so try what I'm trying to write what I'm recommending is find a partner it doesn't have to be a girlfriend it doesn't have to be a fuck buddy just someone who is as curious as you are about sex and explore it explore sexuality it doesn't have to be that you need to sleep with 20 women now I'm sexually experienced I've had a lot of where I've had a Chinese I've had a African I've had a Latina that's not sexual experience man that's you know it's just yeah it's a smorgasbord yeah it's not sexual experience it's just you know how different women look naked that's what it is sexual experience is exploring your own sexuality and also the female sexuality or the opposite sex sexuality something and that is what I recommend you guys to do if you're a virgin or if you're a partner less I really urge you to try to find a partner it doesn't have to be the woman of your dreams it doesn't have to be someone you connect 100% what you just have to be someone who share your curiosity about sex and explore it get sexually experienced get comfortable with your sexuality that is what sexual experience is you understand me so so far what I say the four ways to improve yourself is first friends friendship get friends who are beneficial get friends that you know friends who make the best out of you try to find people who who helps you improve second fashion sense review your fashion think about your fashion think about the way you dress think about the way how the way you dress affects you third pay your dues solve like your bullshit get a happy life improve your life don't try to get rid of all the burdens you have in your chest as I said your state on a Friday night starts on a Monday Monday morning and fourth get sexual experience doesn't mean to have sex with a lot of women it only means explore your sexuality and get comfortable with sex you have any questions super clear awesome that means yeah so with the exploring sexuality you're saying you gave like the two examples of like dating a girl or being in some sort of relationship with a girl and having a lot of having sex a lot like many many times over versus like the bajillion same-net lays which is where the category I'm actually in like with you at least you you were in would you also say those like a third option of like exploring new sexual endeavors with girls you meet out that's kind of like an in-between to those two things like there are like there are different kinds of sexual experiences if you focus on only getting one eye stands and that is the only sexual experience you get you don't get sexual you don't get a variety of sexual experience you just get a lot of one kind of sexual experience so yeah I mean sleeping with a lot of women is one kind of sexual experience that you know you should experience if that's you know what you're curious about but there are a lot of things about sexuality that you can explore and the easiest thing is just get one partner and explore the different kinds of sexual experience you can have with one partner it's a really easy way it's a good and it's a beneficial way both for you and the partner I usually say like one thing I've said is I was actually a virgin until I met my first girlfriend because before that I haven't had sex I had just jerked off inside of women because that I mean that's the big difference when you know you get you get really good comfort with a woman you get so comfortable with yourself and you start exploring your own sexuality and it gets into a whole different level and you understand that all the you know same night lays so when I stands you had before that there's really just jerking off inside of women that's the big difference and yeah you're definitely right there are many kinds of experiences but an easy way to go about it I'm sorry yeah lots of fun shit to do I mean be curious I mean bottom line is we don't yeah of course we want to have a partner but it's also sex I mean we love sex we were made to love sex it's big thing in life and it shouldn't be you know the stressful painful kind of like full with competition kind of thing you know it should be a fun experience it should be like a journey does it answer your question anything else you know you obviously a guy that has had a lot of success at age 20 and I guess I just wanted how do you how do you challenge yourself these days one thing I actually have to say people always say that that I'm young and in a way I am as I said it you don't remember you remember what I said about friendship you become as your peers and one thing that has always been good about me is I have friends my own age but the majority of my friends are always older than me I think that is that is one thing that has led me into you know this huge success is this young kid I mean I'm just I am a regular 20 year old but when it comes to this part of my life I'm quite successful and it has to do because you know I hang with I like most of my friends are a lot bit older than me but how I challenge myself I think I thought about that question many times and I remember as a kid I was really I was really obsessed about heroes I had a lot of hero worshipping I think the reason for this was I had like it was very my father and my mother had a very like they had a really fucked up relationship and you know it was like a lot of fights at home and I always thought like I want to get away you know I was I never liked it I never I was never comfortable in my home when I was young I was always scared like what's gonna happen what doors gonna get crashed it wasn't I mean it was it wasn't that bad but you know I was I was scared of kid I was a fragile kid when I was growing up actually and so I turned to hero I turned to spider-man Wolverine Superman Batman James Bond I said like these are my heroes and I started I started think about like how I want to become how I want to become like them and then what happened was I don't remember what age I was but I like the grown-up version of me like how I thought I would be as a grown-up became my biggest hero I didn't like when I was scared like say I would go to sleep and I'd seen a scary movie and I thought you know a vampire is gonna come and kill me I didn't think about like spider-man is watching over me you know I didn't think like yeah Batman is watching over me or whatever I actually thought about myself in a grown-up age and I always held that picture in front of me that ideal picture of who I am and thought that you know I like the promise I gave myself as a kid to become this person and to become this you know my own hero I think I don't know if most people like that but that's how I was and I'm holding on to that picture so I think the reason why I'm quite developed even though I'm just 20 I think because of that actually because I had this I changed my heroes from fictional characters into who I want to become so in a way if you like if you read if you read Anthony Robbins or you know if you read about success they always tell you to have a clear picture like to have a clear go and in that sense I think I started very young I mean I wasn't aware of it but very at the very young age I started up painting a really clear picture of who I want to become and I think that has led me to you know really grow and really not let the world change me but be very aware of what I'm growing into be very conscious about what I develop into I think that is it because I had a this really clear goal of what I want to become at a really young age but I wasn't I wasn't I wasn't aware of it just happened