 What I say is a rule of thumb. Most people spend more time walking the dog or watering plants than they do on their relationship. So if you want to have a healthy relationship, make sure that every day you spend at least 15 minutes giving each other your full attention. And it's probably not best to do it when you come home for work or when you've been working. Give to yourself first and when you're in a better frame of mind then make sure that you give each other attention. And it can be anything. It can be a smile. It can be a neck rub. It can be just asking how is your day? Whatever the other person feels would give them the sense that you're paying attention. Do that. Ask each other what would make you feel that I'm giving you my full focus. And then do it.