 This is how the narcissist will remember you. They never took the time to get to know you They never sat down and had a meaningful conversation with you because the truth is they don't actually care about you Who you are as a person does not even matter to them, which is why when they first met you it was all about them in relation It was all about manipulating your emotions Making you feel something different To how you would normally feel and then they deceived you they lied to you and they strung you along Making you believe that they were about something for real But all they did was reflect back to you your own virtues and ideals What you were about so yes, they will remember that about you They will remember what you wanted They will remember that you wanted a future you wanted a real Relationship Not just manipulation and deception. They will remember that you wanted marriage Maybe even children and Other things as well. They will remember that you wanted all of that and not only that But when they see you moving on What they're looking at is The outer shell of who you are They can't see the inside because they lack empathy They lack the ability to share or understand your feelings and experience so yes, all they see is This outer shell of who you are and yes, that may just be your image your reputation it may just be What you look like the things that you like to do It may be your happiness It may be your passion your drive. It may be all of those things But yes As we know That is not really you these things are a part of you But there is something much deeper on the inside And it may be something that you tried to show to them in the beginning Until at some point you realized that it was not relevant there It may have been relevant somewhere else maybe with your family if you're fortunate or Your friends, but it was not relevant With this narcissistic person it was not relevant to them and that is actually the most important part of who we are this heart The soul this inner character that we possess There is nothing more important than that That is what is most meaningful, but no Narcissist no, they don't recognize that in you They don't care about that They don't care about making you feel alive or doing the things that you want them to do They don't care about that at all And instead what they want is to steal the spotlight away from you They want to steal the show So that they can be the star they can be the main character And then you're just constantly looking outwards at them and what they're doing So that you never even see yourself and yes This is the truth and you will know that if you don't already Because with time once you've been with this person long enough you will look back And remember that you once had all of these passions and interests These things that you like to do and all of these qualities and characteristics that you used to have It seems like now they've all been taken away from you you used to be this fun happy Cheerful positive outgoing person That's who you used to be You used to be so full of smiles and laughter and you had so much passion and drive It was like you were ready for anything, but what happened to that? Where did all of that go? Because I know many of you you look at yourselves now And it's like you've become the shell of a person a Lot of you you're experiencing stress anxiety and depression You always feel down You're not practicing self care or self love like you used to You're not doing that anymore And of course we all know the reason why When you get involved with the wrong people The wrong crowds These types of people these narcissists they don't care about who you are They're not going to nurture or encourage that side of you For them it's all about the outer image. It's what you show to the world It's all about just appearing cool But once you've been with them long enough, it's not so cool then When you're sitting at home all alone in your room and you're wondering where your life went You're wondering who the hell you even are and the sad thing is Most people in this world Even after everything you've been through They're going to see you and they're not even going to recognize that change And they're not going to have that empathetic drive and compassion To want to nurture that old side of you again They're not going to want to do that They're not even going to notice it And that is why yes, many of you are very fortunate to find my videos Because As you've probably noticed by now that is exactly What I want to do for you. I want to bring out that side of you again That fun lively playful person Who I believe does still exist inside of you And I do hope that with my videos it helps you to self reflect And to find that fun and enjoyment Inside of you I want to bring that out on the surface And I want everyone to see it I want everyone to encourage and nurture it Sometimes you've just got to take some time to reflect on your inner child Remember that innocence and purity that you had Where you would move through life without judgment You would accept things as they are But that's the problem. That's what this does to us We stop accepting things as they are And instead we give our own meaning or interpretation which is based on our trauma Things that didn't go well for us We begin to respond to everything based on that And of course it doesn't feel good when you do that Which is why yes, we do need to become aware of it And we do need to reconnect to our inner child again Reconnect to that innocence, that purity That curiosity for life Remember when there was a time when you were so fascinated with everything It's like everything uplifted you It made you happy. It made you feel alive But once you've been around a narcissist It just seems to take the fun and joy out of life Now everything is so serious You can't just let go. You can't let your head down And of course we all know the reason why The reason why is because you're around this person Who may seem fun and playful at times with their false character But we already know it's an illusion because they don't care about us They don't care about what we're going through So we still respond to it in a serious manner We can't accept it. We judge it Because we already know it isn't real Even if we wished that it was And that's really it. You need to choose your company wisely The people that you surround yourself with Because most people that you're around They're either going to lift you up Or they're going to bring you down There's probably very few people in this world that you can meet Who are going to be able to maintain Your level of vibration and sense of self They're going to change you in some shape or form with their influence Which is why yes, you do need to choose your company wisely Surround yourself with people who uplift you And maybe if you can't do that right now in person You might be isolated by the narcissist or there may be a smear campaign Even with YouTube, it's really good to watch videos just like this Videos that help you to practice acceptance And the art of letting go When you're watching things like this on YouTube Your brain really doesn't know the difference Of this to an interaction in real life So you're still getting the benefits from watching this It will still aid you, aid you Mentally and emotionally It can still help you to heal Because you are using it to then give permission to yourself to make that change To make those adjustments to where you can then feel better So yes, it's not only the people that you surround yourself with in life It's also the content that you are consuming That has a major impact on you as well It's just everything that you are taking in Everything that you're seeing You're hearing And even the food that you eat The amount of water that you drink each day All of these things are having an effect on you And depending on what you consume That will determine whether it has a positive or negative effect on you Which is why this is so important But yes, after these narcissists have been around you long enough They've drained the lifer of you And there isn't really much for them to remember of you They can erase your identity at a core level To where you won't even remember who you are Because they're always around you, they suffocate you They turn you into something that is not yourself And a lot of times you just become a reflection of them Because they see you as an extension of them But they're projecting everything onto you in the beginning They project everything that they Like and value about their false character But when they begin to devalue you, they project everything That they can't stand about themselves So then that's what you become You walk around with your head down You feel like you're not good enough You feel like no one would even want you But you have to recognize that that is not true There is so much more to you You just need to be around the white people Who nurture that side of you Instead of someone who nurtures the wrong side Everything that you shouldn't want in your life But yes, this is how the narcissists will remember you They will remember the things they got from you Whether it was your time, energy, your money and resources Maybe even the character traits that they stole from you The things that they learned from your intelligence, your imagination The things that influenced them They will remember those things But none of those things have anything to do with who you actually are Because they could never sit in a space with you And just listen to what you had to say To what matter to you To what you valued They could never sit in a space and do that with you So how could they ever know who you actually are? As you can see, yes, I am out here at this park Quite a quiet and peaceful place The sun is just going down in the back Came here in the BMW I've been driving around in this for the past week or two And it is a good car It's got a body kit Sports exhaust So yeah, I'm just out here enjoying life As I do And as I advise you to do as well Because that is really it That is how you find yourself again Is by having that alone time Not being around them 24 hours a day To spend some time to yourself Outside of their influence, authority and control To where you can then think for yourself To where you can then think for yourself About what you think is right About what matters to you And when you start doing that You will begin to feel more like yourself again So as I advise you to do Maybe meditation Going for a walk in the park Exercising Going to the gym Just doing things that mean something to you Things that you are passionate about Things that you were passionate about Before you met the narcissist Because that's just it When you're around them All they will do is consume you And they will consume everything Good about you until you have nothing left Until you're completely drained And then you've got nothing left for yourself And that's just it We need to stop giving so much of ourselves to these people Because it's never going to be enough for them They will continue to drain you again and again Until your energy runs dry That's just what will happen Because they're never satisfied They always want more from you And at some point You just have to draw that line and say Enough is enough I can't give any more I need some time to replenish myself But then maybe tomorrow I can give you a bit more But not today You really just have to do that sometimes If you're still around them And you need to rephrase it in a way Where it seems like it's good for them As though this time away Will be better for them in some way As though it will give you more time to give back to them So that they can more appreciate your time Or their time with you And they'll gain something They'll get more out of it by doing that Because remember, they only care about themselves They don't care about bringing anything to you Or reciprocating that energy back It's all about what they can get from you So, you do have to rephrase it in a way As though it will be good for them When you have some time alone If you rephrase it in that way They will be more willing to listen Because remember, yes, it is all about them And this works for anything Just whenever you want some time to yourself Just make it seem as though it's benefitting them And in a lot of ways it is Because then you can reach out to them Because it is, because then you can recharge And become better and stronger And you'll have more to give back to them Which is what they want anyway But they're not just going to stop They will keep coming for you Trying to bring you down Because they just constantly need They have this void inside of them But that void can never be filled And you will burn out trying to please them But yes, if you wanted to know how they will remember you They won't remember you Not who you actually are Not who you knew yourself to be They won't remember that at all They'll remember the things you have The things they got from you The things that belong to you That they see as though you're running off with Anything that may be of value to them Those types of things they will remember Even your achievements That made them look good too They will remember that And that may be the reason why they come back and hoover you But it will never be who you actually are Or were They're not going to remember that at all Because with time you found that You needed to suppress that side of you As though it just wasn't needed anymore And that's how you should already know That they never cared about you The way that side of you wasn't even needed You never needed to bring that side of you out Because they didn't care about it You were not that significant to them If you were then they would have nurtured And encouraged that side of you They would have wanted to have brought that side of you out If they actually cared about who you actually are But they never did Because they didn't care about that at all And I know it hurts to recognize that You invested all of this time and energy Into something Where it's like you were not even a willing participant You were not even there Which is why by the end of it it's like you don't even know who you are Because we do need people to reflect Who we are back to us We do need people to Kind of validate our existence Especially when we're around a narcissist Because they're constantly denying our existence Especially when you're dealing with flying monkeys And a spear campaign as well Then you've got multiple people or groups Who are all denying your existence And then you're just left by yourself to validate it Which of course can be very difficult It can be very difficult when it's just you And you have no support network Which is why as I said these videos are very important It helps to validate you I'm all about supporting individuality Helping people to find themselves But of course the narcissist Never did that for you And they pushed you in a direction where you felt like You were just becoming a carbon copy of someone else It's like they wanted you to be anyone else Other than yourself Because it was just too much for them to bear the two envious and jealous Which is why they're also very competitive as well They compete with you constantly until you start to feel like you're not good enough Because at the same time they're also beating you down They're constantly punishing you for your authenticity Until you feel like you just have to hide it And instead be someone else just to please them Which is why yes, you do need to be very careful around them And just take the time to nurture that side of you Because as I said, yes, it is still there You can reconnect to your inner child And I'm sure that will be the part of you that you miss Because after all of this seriousness with these narcissists Sometimes you just want to have some fun You just want to have a good time without them When you can experience And I do hope that you will find that If you haven't already As I said, just take some time to meditate Go for a walk in the park Go to the beach Walk around the lake Spend time with friends Support networks if you have one You will start to feel a lot better When you're around people who validate the real you The real you who is capable Who can achieve great things So yes, that is what I hope for all of you We've got 81 live viewers watching now I hope this video has been helpful And if it has, you can give it a thumbs up down below Let me know your thoughts in the comment section as well I read your comments every day Share and subscribe For one-on-one coaching sessions you can book on my 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