How can couples stop yelling at each other? When does the fighting with your girlfriend, boyfriend, wife etc end? The swearing and arguments... so much of it is destructive and has no positive outcome, so how do you get rid of it? We're all tired of fighting before the fighting even begins, so what can we do to fix our relationships?
Well, ask yourself why doesn't everyone go 100MPH on the freeway? Why doesn't everyone just take what they want from stores without paying? Because there are clear consequences.
In a relationship, what is the real consequence for yelling or cussing when you know the person is going to stay with you? You shouldn't just accept it and be unhappy forever. This is all part of why I made up The Marks System.
You establish with your significant other what you don't want them to do anymore (because it hurts your feelings) and they do the same for you.
If you're both honest about the marks system you'll find yourself yelling less, cussing less and generally being unpleasant less.
This system introduces real/instant consequences for being mean to your significant other. It improves your future with your significant other and of course it's free.
No catch, no buts, just a free, easy way to fix things in your relationship. Hope it all works out for you!
Thanks to Nadine & Lainey for being in this video.