- The wisest person I ever met in my life,a third grade dropout.Wisest and dropout in the same sentenceis rather oxymoroniclike jumbo shrimp.(audience laughing)Mhmm.(audience laughing)Like fun run.Ain't nothing fun about it.(audience laughing)Like Microsoft Works, y'all don't hear me.(audience laughing)I used to say I like country musicbut I've lived in Texas so longI love country music now.(audience cheering)Yeah.I hunt, I fish, I have cowboy boots, and cowboy,y'all, I'm a black neck redneck.Do you hear what I'm saying to you?(audience laughing)No longer oxymoronic for me to say country music.And it's not oxymoronic for me to saythird grade and dropout.That third grade dropout,the wisest person I ever met in my lifewho taught me to combine knowledge and wisdomto make an impact,was my father.A simple cook.Wisest man I ever met in my life.Just a simple cook.Left school in the third gradeto help out on the family farmbut just because he left schooldoesn't mean education stopped.Mark Twain once said,"I've never allowed my schooling"to get in the way of my education."My father taught himself how to read,taught himself how to write.Decided in the midst of Jim Crowism,as America was breathing the last gasp of the Civil War,my father decided he was gonna stand and be a man,not a black man,not a brown man, not a white man,but a man.He literally challenged himself to be the best that he couldall the days of his life.I have four degrees,my brother is a judge.We're not the smartest ones in our family.It's a third grade dropout daddy,a third grade dropout daddywho was quoting Michelangelo, saying to us,"Boys, I won't have a problem if you aim high and miss"but I'm gonna have a real issue"if you aim low and hit."A country mother quoting Henry Ford, saying,"If you think you can or if you think you can't,"you're right."I learned that from a third grade drop, simple lessons.Lessons like these."Son, you'd rather be an hour early"than a minute late."We never knew what time it was at my house'cause the clocks were always ahead.My mother said for nearly 30 years,my father left the house at 3:45 in the morning.One day she asked him, "Why, Daddy?"He said, "Maybe one of my boys"will catch me in the act of excellence."I wanna share two things with you.Aristotle said you are what you repeatedly do,therefore excellence ought to be a habit not an act.Don't ever forget that.I know you're tough but always remember to be kind.Always.Don't ever forget that.Never embarrass momma.Mhmm.(audience laughing)Yeah, if momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.If daddy ain't happy, don't nobody care but you know--(audience laughing)I tell you.Next lesson,lesson from a cook over there in the galley.Son, make sure your servant's towelis bigger than your ego.Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity.Y'all might have a relative in mindyou wanna send that to.Let me say it again.(audience laughing)Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity.Pride is the burden of a foolish person.John Wooden coached basketball in UCLA for a livingbut his calling was to impact people.And with all those national championships,guess what he was found doing in the middle of the week?Going into the cupboard,grabbing a broom and sweeping his own gym floor.You wanna make an impact?Find your broom.Every day of your life,you find your broom.You grow your influence that way.That way you're attracting peopleso that you can impact them.Final lesson."Son,"you're gonna do a job,"do it right."I've always been toldhow average I can be.Always been criticized about being averagebut I wanna tell you something.I stand here before you,before all of these peoplenot listening to those wordsbut telling myself every single dayto shoot for the stars,to be the best that I can be.Good enough isn't good enoughif it can be better.And better isn't good enoughif it can be best.Let me close with a very personal storythat I think will bring all this into focus.Wisdom will come to you in the unlikeliest of sources.A lot of times through failure.When you hit rock bottom remember this,while you're struggling,rock bottom can also be a great foundationon which to buildand on which to grow.I'm not worried that you'll be successful.I'm worried that you won't fail from time to time.A person that gets up off the canvas and keeps growing,that's the personthat will continue to grow their influence.Back in the '70s,to help me make this point,let me introduce you to someone.I met the finest woman I'd ever met in my life.Mhmm.(audience laughing)Back in my day, we'd have called her a brick house.(audience laughing)This woman was the finest woman I'd ever seen in my life.There's just one little problem.Back then ladies didn't like big old line men.The Blindside hadn't come out yet.(audience laughing)They liked quarterbacks and running backs.We're at this danceand I find out her name is Trina Williamsfrom Lompoc, Californiaand we were all dancingand we're just excitedand I decide in the middle of dancing with herthat I would ask her for her phone number.She, Trina was the first one,Trina was the only woman in collegewho gave me her real telephone number.(audience laughing)The next day we walked to Baskin and Robbinsice cream parlor.My friends couldn't believe it.This has been 40 years agoand my friends still can't believe it.(audience laughing)We go on a second dateand a third dateand a fourth date.Mhmm.(audience laughing)We drive from Chico to Vallejoso that she could meet my parents.My father meets her.My daddy, my hero, he meets her,pulls me to the side and says, "Is she psycho?"But anyway--(audience laughing)We go together for a year, two years,three years, four yearsby now Trina's a senior in college.I'm still a freshmanbut I'm working some things out.(audience laughing)I'm so glad I graduated in four terms.Nixon, Ford, Carter, Reagan.(audience laughing)So now it's time to propose.So I talked to her girlfriendsand it's California, it's in the '70s.So it has to be outside,have to have a candle and you have to have,some chocolate.Listen, I'm from the hood.I had a bottle of Boone's Farm wine.That's what I had.(audience laughing)She said yes!That was the key.I married the most beautiful womanI'd ever seen in my--'all ever been to a weddingand even before the wedding starts you hear this."How in the world?"(audience laughing)And it was coming from my side of the family!(audience laughing)We get married, we have a few children.Our lives are great.One day Trina finds a lump in her left breast.Breast cancer.Six years after that diagnosis,me and my two little boys walked up to mommy's casketand for two years my heart didn't beat.If it wasn't for my faith in GodI wouldn't be standing here today.If it wasn't for those two little boys,there'd have been no reason for which to go on.I was completely lost.That was rock bottom.You know what sustained me?The wisdom of a third grade dropout.The wisdom of a simple cook.We're at the casket.I'd never seen my dad crybut this time I saw my dad cry.That was his daughter.Trina was his daughternot his daughter-in-law.And I'm right behind my fatherabout to see her for the last time on this earthand my father shared three words with methat changed my life right there at the casket.It would be the last lesson he would ever teach me.He said, "Son,"just stand."You keep standing."You keep standing."No matter how rough the sea, you keep standing."And I'm not talking about just water."You keep standing."No matter what, you don't give up."And as clearly as I'm talking to you today,these were some of her last words to me.She looked me in the eye and she said,"It doesn't matter to me any longer how long I live."What matters to me most"is how I live."I ask you all one question,a question that I was asked all my lifeby a third grade dropout."How you livin'?"How you livin'?"Everyday ask yourself that question.How you livin'?Here's, here's what a cook would suggestyou to live, this way.That you would not judge,that you would show up early,that you'd be kind,that you'd make sure that that servant's towelis huge and used,that if you're gonna do something,you do it the right way.That cook would tell you this,that it's never wrong to do the right thing,that how you do anythingis how you do everything.And in that way you will grow your influenceto make an impact.In that way you will honor all thosewho have gone before you,who have invested in you.Look in those unlikeliest places for wisdom.Enhance your life every day by seeking that wisdomand asking yourself every night,"How am I living?"May God richly bless you all.Thank you for having me.(audience cheering and applauding)(uplifting music)