Father and Son

The Pascuals in Napa Valley:
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I have compiled video footage of Ionakana in this five minute home movie. It includes video clips of his birth, halloweens, birthdays, holidays, and other milestones. It is amazing to see his transformation. Perhaps, it is my strong desire to cling on to these memories. I remember once, when he was behaving badly, it was easy for Monette and I to simply go ahead and discipline him. There is definitely a time for discipline which is important in shaping his character. But there is also a time to simply step back, and realize, that he is behaving the way he was supposed to behave as a toddler, a 4 year old, and so on. Then we realized that those times were fleeting. "You know he will never be four again" was what I told Monette during that time when we thought his behavior needed disciplining. The Peter Pan lesson that I remember from the movie "Hook" was that the character Robin Williams played was so engrossed with his work that he himself forgot about his childhood memories, that in fact, he was Peter Pan. I say this because my baby boy Ionakana Kamalani Pascual is growing up so fast that he is no longer a baby. Pretty soon he would no longer be a boy. Now we only have these memories of him as preserved in our minds, in our stories, and of course in film. I truly believe that the richness that we have in life are our most precious memories of our family and friends. It is easy to forget this. I do. Specially when I am tired from work or need to do adult tasks and I will tell Iona "Later". It's tough to remember. But we have to. Right now I tell myself, "He is only a boy once". Ionakana Kamalani will be five years old soon and will be entering kindergarten in August. I see a lot of changes such as his defiance. This is not new and I see it as his autonomy grows and his ability to express himself grow with it. I grew up with a father who was a strict disciplinarian. I am not a disciplinarian by my father's standard. However, it is my role as a parent to mold him and not let him get away with things. One of his after school activities is a martial arts. The biggest value I see in this class is his learning to respect authority from other people and most importantly to listen. I hope it works. Because as the song in the video suggests, the rift between father and son, as the years go by, specially when he is a teen-ager, can possibly get worse. No, I am not trying to prevent that. It will happen. I just hope, that in those times, I can look at this video again, and him as well, and we can look at each other and know that we love one another without complete understanding.

Jonathan O. Pascual
Father and Son sung by Cat Stevens

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[thiagola21]

Beautiful family... very nice video!!!

[No2Quran929]

Why can't white men slow down and publicly show how they feel for their sons, like other cultures. Maybe our sons would be less problematic to society if they did.

[Pathoslocos]

Your last sentence was from A river runs throught it:D, you are a wise man to make such a beautiful movie for your son. I wish I had something like that from my father:) Enjoy being a father you seem like you're good at doing it. Must be comforting to know that to one person you've made all the differance in the world:)

[faridshehadeh]

congratulation for your family man, thanks for the video , I have a son too and I know is the most beautiful thing......good luck and pace and love for you and your family...

[ZapMeBaby]

Im am very impress with this video clip. Good stuff.

Thanks Loko Maika'i (From the heart) Aloha from Arizona

[whereisyoungcat]

wow this is so beautiful and great video

[borchtv]

you are a lucky man^^

[sasukesmyboy]

OMG you are such a loveing father! ^-^ this is such a great movie! again awesome!

[sherrie4God]

i noticed the father was in the hospital is he ok..this is heartbreaking i loved it..great job

[roried]

This father is crazy about his little boy.  A marvelous video......thanks!

[enchantiq]

Beautiful video! Thank you for sharing :-)