Eastern Mennonite University's Professor Elaine Zook Barge explains the "snail model" which describes responses to trauma for victims and aggressors, and which points the way toward reconciliation and rehabilitation.
(related article at http://www.america.gov/st/democracy-english/2009/March/20090319115407esnamfua...)
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... the problem ist, that consternation and consession start while taking insight, not outsight. That means a naive position. after
0. STOP
the consternation and the consession offer an inner peace, where there was a run and stress before. Decission is a decission for connecting, what i tried to keep apart.
If there are questions, i like to answer.
creativtec 1 year ago
The spiral line should not be connected to the circle. It needs a clear desicion to step out of the circle of violance and victim. Out there a new way begins wihtout a connection to the old way. Freedom means also to face the unknown possibilities without experiance. That´s frightening.
Steps are:
1. consternation
2. consession (to see reason and to open heart)
3. decission
4. connection
5. select new ways
6. go
this ist shown in the interaction circle gfk-mediation.de
creativtec 1 year ago