Trans Questioning

This week's topic is by Tara. She asked how being trans has effected our social lives, at home, at work, and with friends. Also, do we ever feel obligated to be more out in these settings, particularly around people who aren't aware of trans issues.

This video is sort of a continuation of one I just posted on my personal channel. I tried to answer the question as honestly as possible. Please be nice.

Category:

People & Blogs

Tags:

• trans
• transgender
• trannystar galactica
• julzb525
• stone butch blues
• leslie feinberg

[wordsforthewind]

You *rock* for captioning. Thank you!

Great, intelligent, well-thought-out video.

Best of luck to you!

[JulzB525]

Thank you, I'm flattered. Don't be afraid to take your time and figure yourself out more before feeling like you have to come out to everyone or transition. You may find transitioning is what you want; you may find that it isn't. Either way, you're allowed to wait and find out. Take care and good luck with everything.

[universalxolove]

Omg thanks for posting, i can totally relate. I identify as bigender, and biologically i am a girl, and i often contemplate whether taking male horomones. I'm still trying to figure it out too :) I'm only out with some people but not all, most of my friends just think i'm a lesbian because i dress masculine/feminine and have short hair and like girls... lol Yaa Good luck <3 ps you're beautiful :D

[snipncody]

thats cool i respect that. thanks for posting

[JulzB525]

Thank you for your words of advice. Permanent transition is certainly not anywhere on my radar at the moment, this exploration is too important to rush. You're right, it's amazing the different ways gender can be embodied and expressed once you start paying attention to that sort of stuff. Anyway, take care and let me know if you ever want to talk more about this stuff (or anything else, really).

[JulzB525]

Yeah, I definitely know what you mean. It really does help to see others in the same boat. Listen, if you ever want to talk or anything, feel free to send me a message. This whole not having everything figured out can be kind of scary and lonely sometimes, but there are a lot of us out there. Oh, and I highly recommend Stone Butch Blues. Just remember when you're reading it that there's a happy ending and it's beautiful until the last page (even though it's really sad at parts)

[JulzB525]

Thank you for your comments, by the way, both on my videos here and on my person channel. I send my gratitude and best wishes your way.

[JulzB525]

I support gender-neutral pronouns 100%, but I don't think I want to use exclusively those. Honestly, I sort of enjoy people mixing it up every once in a while and using any pronouns. So in sort, yes, you may use gender-neutral pronouns if you know them. You may also use he and she. Right now, I've decided to not worry about the pronouns so much and just figure myself out. Yesterday was my official "time out" and while I'm still going to do a lot of thinking, I'm not allowed to worry anymore.

[yescandles]

I appreciate the honesty in this video...as well as the intelligence and honor. So often we are all in a hurry to do everything. How wise for us to know in our hearts that there is no rush. Time IS on our side sometimes.

You have a responsibility to yourself....period.

[XYinside]

I'm glad to see more transguys posting that they don't have everything figured out...that they question their transness. Makes me feel less weird...more normal...okay with myself. Thanks for posting. Stonebutch blues is next on my list.