"THE SCALES OF LOVE! WHERE DO YOU RATE??!"

Shanda discusses the balance or unbalance of love in a relationship!

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[yoruba21]

My boyfriend is definitely more emotionally invested than I am. I believe it has something to do with our upbringing. My family does not show emotion often, but we know we all love each other without saying it. Because my boyfriend is the opposite it is difficult for me to verbally express feelings for him to him. He definitely wears his heart on sleeve. Sometimes I feel like I'm too hard on him so I'll apologize for my ways. I'm trying to find a balance. Gurl I can't stop looking at the ring!

[sansvirgin]

I feel like in my relationships I have always been the "weaker" one because I try my best to please my partner and many times it ends in the person taking advantage because they don't care as much and it hurts my feelings. The sad part is what usually ends up happening is they do something to hurt me and I don't feel the same way or trust them the same way and they want things to go back to the way they used to be...and I just don't feel the same way anymore. They ruined it.

[Candaco2000]

Hey Shanda!!! I feel like I have more emotions in my relationship but he shows it soon differently. He does, like you said, loves having a position of power. He throws it up in my face everyday, and he feels like cause he is the man, he has the last say so on everything. He does not respect a woman's thoughts and feelings. Maybe one day. ####depressed somewhat

[678mayhem]

wow iv just stumbled across your channel your a breath of fresh air on here! Am defo subbing

[HappilyNappy000]

Hello! Im honestly confused about my scale.I say I love you, i like to kiss and hug etc. He's not very touchy. I always feel like if someone were to look at us from the outside it would seem as tho, I love him more than he loves me. THe funny thing is I always get comments about how its so clear that he's madly in love with you or your man only has eyes for you. So I guess bottom line is we both love each other but we express it differently, but i truly believe that we love eeach other equally.

[MsSLYFACE]

Greetings, I liked the topic and clicked on to watch, I'm a new Subbie now, but to voice my opinion, I've been Married 14 years and as someone else commented, My husband wasn't raised to show affection, but I on the other hand by My Father was brought up to be very affectionate, Say I Love You etc, I taught my husband to do those things, I didn't force him to do it, it just came naturally, he's very laid back, but people alway's say I can tell he Loves you or he only has eyes for you. All Good!

[1BlkBarbie1]

This ain't got nothing to do with the topic but when I first clicked on your video you looked like Whitney Houston!!!!

[bossin88]

You're beautiful & you speak so well. I subbed. Can't wait to see more from you Shanda! :)

[regisnyder]

Hey, Shandra! I'm not currently involved but this issue is very interesting. In my past, I would say I did love the most in my relationships. Did my type of loving tip the scales in his favor or mine? Neither. Love is not about keeping count but realizing there will be times u give or take more than your partner. When u love smart it requires a lot of humility and appreciation for the union.

[msflossy83]

Interesting question! Can love be balanced? How? How when so often weight is predetermined for each participant before even stepping onto the scale. Perhaps, it's more about changing the perception of what a participant's weight should be. Then again, the one willing to do so is probably the most invested thereby perpetuating the endless cycle. Lady Justice, please remove the blindfold so we can see how to balance the scales!

[Dlovely516]

I don't want to have to focus so much on who's loving more or whatever but I want us to be aware of the temperature of things. It may be a time to intervene and make some "adjustments" so the other person can be aware of your needs and concerns. Our needs change as life does. I don't want to start off in any relationship where its not mutual that this scale, this US, is important and that although it may tip, but that we are both there to make the necessary changes to keep it "balanced".

[jamminc07g]

To have balance, you must know what you need in order to have balance. Sometimes you need 10% and your love one 90% and vice vera, its knowing the balance.