The Jam: Ep. 15: Why Do Women Date Jerks? (PeopleJam)

In this Q&A episode, PeopleJam member PareCon80 wants to know why so many women date jerks and if he should stop being nice. Host Bridget McManus gives excellent advice saying it comes down to self-esteem, confidence and knowing who you are. Check out the episode for the full answer and see if you agree with what Bridget has to say.

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Howto & Style

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• advice
• dating
• tips
• jerks
• nice
• guy
• relationships
• romance
• women
• Bridget
• McManus
• Q&A
• TheJam

[holidayabc]

haha bridget is too straight in this show.

BRIDGET! COME BACK! WHERE ARE ALL UR GAY JOKES?

[eASTcOASTiVORY]

@theelement sounds like you have been burned. I am a woman, and I dont want either the nice guy or the bad guy, I just want someone who I have stuff in common with, share the same ideals and enjoy each others company. If I am with someone who knows who they are and is not trying to be someone other then who they are, or trying to fit a certain stereotype then I am going to be happy & if I am happy I am not going to stray and look for pleasure anywhere other then with the guy I am with.

[shinom0ri]

@noobenstein The "nice guys" tend to last longer once you're a couple. Very likely due to his unweavering ability to absolve her of responsibility, and enable her childish behaviour. Dont get me wrong, not all women are "this way", but there is definetly a trend in the western culture.This is not due to women being inheirently evil. It could be a symptom her upbringing, where shes spoiled beyond repair. It could also be due to the enabeling behaviour of the state in divorce court.

[shinom0ri]

@noobenstein If the girl your dating is unwilling to act as a mature adult or be responsible for her actions, than perhaps you're better off without her. As a man with a healthy amount of self respect, you will probably discard her, once this has been revealed. However, what I was talking about was dating, not relationships.

[noobenstein]

@shinom0ri If that is true, then how comes the WORST thing for any relationship with a female, the one thing that destroys a relationship with her, is to ask her to be RESPONSIBLE. That if she's done or said something wrong, to ask her to admit she is wrong and apologise. If you were a dominant strong male, you would expect this from her.

And yet females hate responsibility more than anything else.

All you have is excuses to cover up the truth. That females are evil.

[noobenstein]

This is just excuses. Its really because women are evil. Evil monsters who just look innocent and do their best to look innocent. Once you realise this, everything makes sense.

Women are demon breeders. They ignore kind and peaceful and smart guys and go for serial killers instead because they want to breed more violent criminals to destroy the world. And destroy it while looking innocent because "someone else" (children/husbands) did it, not them.

[shinom0ri]

Why women date jerks? Simple: Evolution. A man who is assertive, and portrays qualites that demonstrate that they will fight for whats theirs, will in a womans mind be a more secure environment for her children to grow up. This is not conscious mind you. If you dont come off initially as someone who is seeking approval or too willing to do for others, you will have a greater chance to spark some attraction.

Thumb it up if you think its true, so others can see it.

[souja17]

im so sick of women giving this bullshit answer. Im sure confidence is attractive, but that doesn't exucse your bad taste in men. Women say they like challenges, wouldn't it be a challenge to turn a unsure guy into to a confident out going guy? To take shy guy and break him out of his shell? I'd say thats better cause he's still a nice guy but with the confidence you like in arrogance.

[AquaMeow101]

@Grayzone Yeah their not just wealthy but their confident guys and kanye is single so....yeah

[AquaMeow101]

KANYE WEST !!!!!