Advanced Dementia and controversial feeding difficulties for my Grandma, Christmas 2010:
Controversy- when a spitting reflex and global cognitive processing decline stops Grandma from eating, and how using a CALF TEAT and bottle assists Grandma's safe swallowing, and she is able to feed
Grandma Rose is 90 years old, in high care in a nursing home. Even this week, she loves singing and listening to music and recognises some family, friends, staff and visitors. Grandma joins in our conversations with a slurred word or three, remembers our names and recites poetry. She has advanced dementia, and did have a stroke 6 months ago; although she is otherwise physically healthy. She is able to indicate if she wants to drink, or to say No when she's had enough to drink.
However Grandma has recently not been able to eat, prevented by a worsening spitting reflex whenever a spoon or sipper cup is put to the front of her mouth and lips. We have been told that we should accept palliative care, and that she is choosing not to eat. Our family believe however Grandma still wants to eat, but physically is prevented by this spitting reflex and global cognitive processing decline. So my Father currently is feeding Grandma himself every day at the nursing home.
Controversially- Using a calf teat (as it has a longer length nipple to human bottle teats) and infrequently then using a sipper cup she is able to drink by sucking and swallowing naturally; and my Father is trying to help her to do this . Grandma's treating Doctor had suggested this method of feeding. He explained that to combat the spitting reflex, we could try to illicit the primitive human search, suck and swallow reflexes in synchrony; by:
1) first using honey on a rubber teaspoon or honey smeared on a gloved little finger, and to gently dab this on the corner outside of Grandma's mouth so she will search for the taste;
2) He then suggested stimulating gently the inside of her mouth cheek, to stimulate the sucking reflex; so Grandma relaxes her mouth open
3) Then to place the cow's teet (also covered in honey) towards the back side of her tongue; so she can naturally suck and swallow at her own pace.
This really seems to be working so well at present :).
There seems a minimised risk of aspiration. However, it appears controversial, as there is no current evidence base thus no "best practise" guidelines to follow on Calf teat feeding.
Good on you Dad for caring for our Grandma with such love, for respecting the dignity of a human life, whilst she is actively participating in feeding and interacting with others.
Thankyou to all the staff, family and friends who love and care for our Grandma Rose.
this is the last stage.omg im going to go throught this road very soon with mom.
marynb123 1 month ago
@CassieDynomite No it doesn't...?
Logisticsish 1 month ago
awwwww so sad, but it happens to us all one day.
CassieDynomite 1 month ago
im gonna cry
b5akes41 2 months ago
deep respect
bellaaatje 2 months ago
I've often thought this would work. It is just too bad I could never do this at work. Bless you
nurseebol 3 months ago
euthanesia time
LRR001 5 months ago
my mother has dementia and bless you for loving your mother so much and doing this for her.
goldendoodles1 6 months ago
This is freaking crazy. Let nature take it's course. If that were me I'd want to be made comfortable until I pass naturally.
angelsgurl 7 months ago
No Controversy can I see. Innovation and loving care! Well done folks.
cornfedz 7 months ago