Trans disclosure? We can get into that

I wouldn't have said this if I didn't think it was defensible.

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[felipesegund0]

This is brilliant. It's absolutely spot-on. The analogy I'd draw (almost identical to yours) is with an Ashkenazi Jew in Weimar Germany. Does she have an obligation to disclose her religion in a viciously anti-Semitic environment just so anti-Semites can avoid accidentally sleeping with a Jew? Hell no. And neither do post-op trans women have any obligation to disclose their past.

[aretamarie]

The bigotry in the comments kind of proves the point even more than your video. It's a knee jerk reaction for most, it looks like. I totally would not disclose my previous gender if I was a post op trans prior to having sex. Sure, in the natural course of my relationship, I would, just like I disclosed to my husband that I have a crazy family, that I may not be able to have children, that I watch bad horror movies. It's just not something you have to disclose right away.

[idunnoproductionzz]

If you are going to have sex with them, you have a right to know if they are trans or not.

[BFDMurg]

AND EVEN MORE IMPORTANTLY, if someone gets with someone and doesn't know they are trans, then later discovers that they are, the trans will be the one a hell of a lot more dissapointed and will have shot themselves in the foot from not saying something in the first place (as if being transgender isn't shooting yourself in the foot as it is... )

[BFDMurg]

@janeyanna but quite a lot of the time are very biased and one-sided which makes the whole thing a lot less likely to be taken on board by someone who doesn't.

[BFDMurg]

You should stick to religion, you at no point take into account alcohol, which makes you go with people that are downright disgusting. Which kind of explains why we need telling.

[riddleman65]

What is it

[MzBUZZKILINGTON]

@kmzstube No we didn't you fucking ignorant moron. I guess your going to say something stupid ignorant like I had a choice to transition. Yes. either live as hellish life or a less hellish one. Yippie! People also have a choice to be intolerant or tolerant. It's funny how people react to being with a transperson only when they are told about there past. Just choose not to get angry. That's what I'm going to tell people from now on:)

[blickblocks]

@kmzstube If we chose to be trans YOU chose to be cis (not trans). Is that so?

[blickblocks]

@GDOBSSOR Yeah hurt feelings if they're transphobic bigots.

[GDOBSSOR]

And as for asking a potential partner: Do you honestly expect me to ask a potential partner if they are trans? Most people would think it was some kind of joke. I believe that if you are trans and you want a serious relationship (beyond going out and having a ball), it is your responsibility to tell me - I wouldn't be able to trust you otherwise. I wouldn't run away if you told me, but then again, I probably wouldn't have been worth it anyway if I did.

[GDOBSSOR]

It's true: Nobody is being exposed to any horrible diseases, nobody is being dragged into some horrible act. But, there is great potential for some hurt feelings if the partner somehow finds out later. If you want to be in a long term relationship with someone, why wouldn't you tell them you're trans? I wouldn't have a problem with my partner being trans, but I certainly wouldn't be able to trust them if they didn't tell me such a thing.