The Ladies of Discipline[from MOMS]

To spank or not to spank...and weirder tales from disciplinarian moms. From the documentary MOMS by Andrew Kolker and Louis Alvarez (at www.cnam.com).

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[camaranina]

Especially looking at the last lady you can see that parents who discipline are not heartless and can realise their mistakes. On the other hand, those who so proudly condemn spanking and favour other methods will fight endlessly just so that they didn't have to admit that their wonderful peaceful methods sometimes failed.

[SBGull88]

I love these ladies! Sometimes I do fear that I'm the only mom of young kids who disciplines properly.

[PurpleShades1]

I think that the lady in red has the right idea. A great way to teach a child a lesson is to reflect their behaviour back onto them. This helps them to see how their actions affect others.

[ladyEulaelie]

@Scyrone

Part 3

When done properly, spanking ur child is not equivalent to a cold, violent outburst or emotional breakdown of sorts where the parent lacks control & empathy. On the contrary!

I see a cultural fence here. I suppose that I could see ur last statement as childish, but I think its just ur reaction to something you don't completely understand. I don't advocate the beating of children; such things upset me. If I perceived spanking as "a beating", my response would mirror urs.

[ladyEulaelie]

@Scyrone

Part 2

You don't believe in spanking kids. Thats ok.  I honestly believe I would be depriving my kids of what they need as children if I adapted the "no spanking ever" method. I believe that If I miss the appropriate time in their lives to spank them, when they need it (which is not every time they need to be disciplined), I will be depriving them. You can disagree. Thats ok. But its up to my conscience to parent they way I feel I'm suppose to parent.

cont...

[ladyEulaelie]

@Scyrone

Part 1

Little kids can not be treated like adults. To think this way is an epic fail on logic.

You are an adult (?), so I will communicate w/ you as if you were an adult. I have no need to be disrespectful.

I think my stance on the issue is a cultural shock for you. Its perfectly ok not to like the discipline style of parents in my culture, but I don't have to do what you do, just b/c you don't completely understand or know why ppl do what they do in my culture.

cont..

[ladyEulaelie]

@Scyrone

Little kids will be little kids; fact of life. We have to meet kids where they are...developmentally. Almost always, they are too immature to reason w/ their senses so we have to tap into their senses in other ways. If that means tappin some tail, some tail will get tapped.

Ppl have more things to be irritated about than little Johnny yanking pony tails in class. However, Irritation should not prompt ppl to discipline their kids; teaching ur kids right from wrong should be.

[ladyEulaelie]

I don't look forward to doing it but I do plan on spanking my kids. No parent who believes in corporal punishment looks forward to spanking their baby boy or baby girl. In my culture & many other cultures this is one of the ways that people disciplines their kids. Spankings worked on me and now that I'm older I look back and laugh about it. I've never heard of anyone who resents their parents b/c they were spanked lol...mercifully beaten yes, but not spanked.

2 ea its own. Much love. =* =)

[Assassi1n]

Who says parents have to grow up? The easy way out is to just throw an adult temper tantrum and scare the kids crapless. The loophole is to just hit them when they irritate you by not doing whatever it is you told them this time or when they make a mistake. They can't do anything about it; it's like a wrestling match between a super-heavyweight and a feather-weight. Why take the effort to think, explain, convince, be patient, demonstrate good example, ect.