People Don't Fall Out of Love

People may fall out of repentance, but they don't fall out of love. God tells us we can love our enemies. How? Because love doesn't begin with or emanate from us—God is love. Even when we're not feeling particularly friendly toward our spouse, we can still love them with the love that God gives. Don't say you've fallen out of love. Don't say you're unwilling to work on your friendship with your spouse.

This clip is excerpted from the sermon "Friend with Benefits," part 2 of Mars Hill Church's Real Marriage sermon series, based off the book of the same name by Pastor Mark and Grace Driscoll. It was preached by Pastor Mark at Mars Hill Downtown Bellevue and released on January 22.

Watch the full sermon here: http://marshill.com/media/real-marriage/friend-with-benefits
For more on the Real Marriage book, campaign, and tour, visit:
http://pastormark.tv/campaigns/real-marriage

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[brocky]

Commitment. That's what young men need to know these days rather than "trying" a relationship through trial and error. Bad habits from dating carry on into marriage as well. The ring doesn't tie the knot but it's our commitment. Thank you for emphasizing commitment to friendship at the end Pastor Mark.

[sjbutterfie]

@Grandmastu Really? If you don't want to watch these videos don't. If you don't believe don't disrespect people who do. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all.

[wwjd4u3]

An Objective kind of Love which is based on Facts, based on one's efforts or actions intended to attain or accomplish a certain goal; With a strict adherence to facts or details. It is also based on a strict observance of promises, loyalty, Love being patient and kind, not jealous, not brag that your better than the other person, not proud, not rude, not selfish, and does not easily get upset with others.

[wwjd4u3]

These feelings gave been known actually tend to fade after knowing a person for so long according to scientific tests. This is because people get to know one another and become comfortable with one another. Usually it fades due to sexual interaction over time. These chemicals cannot fully be trusted,and people who put the utmost trust in feelings (chemicals) find themselves heart broken, breaking up with their significent other or divorced if they were married.

[wwjd4u3]

A Subjective kind of Love, which is attached to one's own idea of the other person or to what can be gained or obtained from the other, or to expect the other person to live up to your expectations. It's based on feelings which are in reality chemicals inside the brain: which are really a certain TEMPORARY biochemical combination of pheromones and hormones.

[andStack]

@SeedsOfHatred

I learned this a couple of years later. When I was 17 I met a girl who I didn't think I would love because I had a set of rules for who I loved. It had to be a certain kind of girl. This girl I met, took that rule book and chucked it out the window and I loved her very very much right up until the end of our relationship.

That said, with my first girlfriend, I do think I was mistaken about love.

[SeedsOfHatred]

@andStack Love is not in the compatibility. Love is not how similar you are to someone. Love is a feeling that takes you against your will and without logic or reason. Love is inexplicable in it's nature.

Love is also incredibly blind. It blinds you to the dangers of being with certain people. You can't be mistaken about love - you feel what you feel - but you can be mistaken about where that love should take you.

[paulnguyen6324]

@andStack That is what a lot of people are trying to get at. Disney and chick flicks have distorted the minds of an entire generation to believe that Love is easy. To like is easy, people throw that around for free. To love, at least defined by the catholic faith, is to love like God: selfless and ever-lasting.

[IdaSputum]

great work Mark Driscoll

[andStack]

@paulnguyen6324 Well at the time I thought it was love. In retrospect, it was not love but there wasn't really any way for me to know that at the time.

[paulnguyen6324]

@andStack Was that Love or like?

[Smiilez03]

@andStack You're right about that. There's nothing wrong with recognizing that a mistake was made and something needs to be done. It would be incredibly foolish and wrong if you and your old gf continued to date each other and go into a marriage. That would be a disaster! Of course it's possible to fall out of love, it's just a lot harder to figure out what to do when you;re a Christian couple and you believe divorce is wrong.