Re: Redefining Masculinity for the 21st Century Male pt.2

SMYLZ shares his opinion about 21st century manhood.

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[ctibaga]

I am a believer that we define ourselves based on what we want to be. My problem with some aspects of "masculinity" particularly "black masculinity" is that so many men try to put others down particularly women. If you want to be a man, good for you but don't try to define me.

[iratetruth]

excellent video and the truth.

[iratetruth]

Excellent video.

[qwickset]

The original vlogger makes reference to protecting one's family as a reason that brawn would is used. Increasing one's intellect is not necessarily going to either 1) help you protect your family more in that situation or 2) cause your family not to need to be protected.

I agree with you -- the best chance, in his example -- to protect one's family, is to start with intellect and fall back on brawn...it's seems to be the perfect combination. 100% brains is not going to accomplish the goal.

[starborningreeneyes]

The goal is for me..to be the woman I want to be, practice being that woman..and practice learning to love unconditionally...usually..thi­s takes up all my time, and I rarely focus on what he is or isnt doing wrong...Im busy being the best woman I can be!

[starborningreeneyes]

To the best of my ability..I allow a man to define his masculinity..exclusively.

I take the qualities that I love and focus on them, nuture them and allow him to work on himself where he feels like there should be work.

Relationships are mirrors, used properly they allow us to see ourselves..decide who we want to be and define ourselves.

Men..need I think..to be free to see themselves clearly..whenever possible..without my opinion..unless he asks me, or there is a real concern.

[DX5K]

For example, my best friend and I were arguing about how I'm an outcast and I can't seem to conform to certain society standards, it's not me. I told her that instead of bashing me for not doing those things I don't wanna do (like going to the barber each week, or buying nice clothes and shoes), you should appreciate that I don't do the stuff I REALLY want to do! It takes a lot out of me to not 'breakdown' and go on a aggretion spree, cuz I get tempted at times. Thats why I drink.

[DX5K]

That brings me to another aspect of being a man that I feel was over looked. I have those psychopathological problems you speak of, my dad was murdered when I was 13, and I didn't have him around a lot when he was alive cuz my parents divorced. I can admit that I'm sociopathic, passive aggresive, and bipolar, but I still consider myself to be a decent man because I'm strong enough to handle my mental "quirks" without disrupting the fabric of society.

[foxye3diva3]

I hear you brother. It's a perfectly valid question. I'm looking forward to hearing more about this. I think I'm going to lay back in the cut on this one because...well I'm a woman..LOL. It's good to hear a healthy intelligent exchange between you brothers on it.

[mindset2008]

I will think on it and make a video about it.