Gender Affirmation - Part One

What are many of those struggling with Same-Gender Attraction really longing for? Why do so many young men ask "Am I gay?" This video is simply an introduction to some ideas regarding Gender-Affirmation and the unmet needs of young men today.

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[StorminMormin91]

Also, I understand that even those who have such strong father son relationships, even in the Church, still maintain such same sex attraction.

A scripture comes to mind: "I do not know the meaning of all things. Nevertheless I know that God loveth His children."

I know that as well, and no matter what, God has made a way for them to recieve eternal life and exaltation. He loves them. And only He adequately understands what they go through. All gay LDS should seek a strong relationship with Him

[ldsteencenter]

I can't think of anyone that would disagree with that.

[Jacksonholenativ]

What a crock of shit!!! They grab you emotionally with the music, etc. I grew into an awareness of my same gender orientation when I was 12 which is typically the time when the heterosexual boys (majority of boys) notice girls. It's natural for me as it's natural for them. My dad was close and always expressed his deep love for me. My dad and I went hunting together. We watched Gunsmoke and Planet of the Apes together. Dad used to scratch my back too. I'm still gay and always will be.

[ldsteencenter]

I mean..."This video isn't about you. It's about other people. You shouldn't feel threatened by it."

[figliodelRe]

and part 2?

[908381stud]

Then what of my lack of attraction/sexual response towards women? ... Believe me (and not to be crass), I've been close with girlfriends who were "willing". But nothing happened because I didn't want it? You must conclude then that many cured homosexuals (if given affection) will become asexual.

[splinterbyrd]

For anyone who holds the view that gay men are gay because they all failed to bond properly with their fathers, this view- fashionable in the 70s- is currently discredited.

[splinterbyrd]

And of course using sex as a substitute for affection is a problem that involves heterosexuals as well, especially in our increasingly atomised society. Casual sex in an alleyway between a boy and a girl on the way home from the pub is felt to be better than no contact at all.

Sexual addiction is another problem that affects all sexualities, increasingly so in modern life. These issues are nothing much to do with sexual orientation.

[splinterbyrd]

If this video is drawing a distinction between attraction to the same gender and attraction to the same sex it's probably valid. Sex with the same gender is doubtless seen by some young men as a second-best alternative to gender bonding which may be more difficult to obtain. However, the two may of course occur in the same person.

[StorminMormin91]

Read "Real Boys" by William Pollack. He goes into the need for 'father-son' male affection and the Boy Code that has been placed on society. He also talks about SSA. A good read.