Relationship Baggage 101 [part 1]

Every time you end up dating in a relationship with someone that postpones the beginning of the relationship with your actual life partner. It is being proven in my life, each time I give out a piece of my soul like it's 50 cents a pound.

Here are some examples of why I believe the quote above is true:

A. Each time you begin a new relationship, if you can get past inhibitions that it's going to end badly like the past one did, you have to start from pure scratch. Likes, dislikes, pet peeves, annoyances, etc. All of these things and many more leave you doing what? Exactly... thinking about the good of the old relationship. This makes you start thinking about your "ex" in particular and how even though your relationship turned sour right before your eyes you didn't have to deal with the awkward, new relationship smell. In your "new" relationship you may even begin talking to your ex- mate again, reminiscing, thinking about old wine in new wineskins. Before you know it your whole relationship is now thrown off for you cannot mix the old with the new.

Mark 2:22 clearly states, "And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined. No, he pours new wine into new wineskins." You never got closure with that person, you never got clarity from God as to why you probably were not supposed to be with that person anyway, and you never got the clearance from God to begin a new relationship anyway. If this doesn't help anyone else, it is surely convicting me.

B. Next step, the ending of your "new" relationship. As the soft, violin music begins to play and you let tears fall down your face you ponder as to why your perfect relationship is now another one down the drain.
Refer to example A, please and thank you.
So you're trying to heal your own wounds actually believing that it's working, but someone else very wise once told me that we mistake God's deliverance for our own willpower. I believe the true test comes when the rubber meets the road. You'll see if you're really free or if that hurt was just lying dormant. This, my good people, is what they mean when they say baggage. These emotional handicaps get overlooked when you see children out of wedlock, bad credit scores, low income paying jobs, etc. Why not get the baggage taken care of that's so prevalent and easy to get rid of?
1 Corinthians 10:23 states, "You say, I am allowed to do anything—but not everything is good for you. You say, I am allowed to do anything—but not everything is beneficial." You CAN do what you want, you're an adult, but it would behoove you to get it taken care of if you wish to be married successfully in the eyes of God.

If this didn't help anyone but me, it was certainly a release and reality check for me.
I've got some repenting, apologizing, and work to do.
Pray for me. =)

I'm getting too old to still being going through the same cycles in relationships when I don't have to.

So with that being said...if you are asking, verbally or subliminally...

NO you can not have my heart.
NO you can not have my time.
NO I do not want to hear another empty pick up line........

Dont be concerned for your own good but for the good of others. [1st Corinthians 10:24]
I do this for you. Do NOT shoot the messenger because I will shoot back.

With Love,

-Beloved

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[MsYo2u]

How old are you? You are very wise for your age. Continue to listen to the counsel of the wise. And most definitely keep your hand in God's hand. As I listened to you, it was obvious that you were being used by God. He has a great work for you to do. I look forward to more from you. God Bless!

[Woo88]

@MsYo2u

22. Thank you for the encouragement.

[iAmV247365]

I agree. I think people jump into relationships so fast and they don't give themselves time to heal from their past one. That's why they bring the old into the new. I use to do it all the time and I realized that I had a build up of damage and baggage. It ruined my last relationship completely (engagement). After that, I spent more time by myself and was just friends with people. Recently, what would've been the start of a new relationship ended. Now I have to take time and heal. Good vid

[Woo88]

Thank you very much

-B

[Beautifulpoet12]

You my friend are so beautiful you stay strong.

[Woo88]

Thank you very much!!

-B

[mrsexehall]

I see that You have quoted the bible. Very Good!!!! See if you can find video " NO MORE SHEETS!" It's a TD Jakes singles conference. This helped me years ago to become the wife He wanted & patience to wait for him.

[BlueIndigo009]

Love your message!

[skata11]

im sorry to be honest i wa slooking more at you then your message very pretty eyes..that being said i agree with you..may you be blessed always!

[Woo88]

Thank you very much & I'll pray & see what God would have me to say about that subject. -Beloved