Things To Say Or Do When Someone Experiences A Loss

This is a list of things to say pr dp fpr someone who has experienced a loss. Please feel free to add things to the comments section if you have some ideas as well. The things talked about are of my own opinion and different things will likely be different from person to person.

Category:

Science & Technology

Tags:

• pregnancy loss
• neonatal loss
• stillbirth
• stillborn
• infant loss
• child loss
• miscarriage
• SADS
• SIDS
• life after loss
• grief

[Sexyhexymama]

For feeling sad. I am not gonna say she isnt normal since I believe everyone is normal in their own lil way. She just doesnt take lossing a baby to heart as a lot of us do. I just wish I had my family to lean on when I wanna talk about my sweet baby. I cant even put into words how you must feel since u actually gave birth to both of your sweet baby girls. You are such a strong & beauitful woman & I honestly look up to you. Thank u for these videos telling us about your daughters <3 U r a joy <3

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@Sexyhexymama Ugh, that's just horrible that your family treated your loss like that. I'm sorry that they have hindered your grieving process. Please know that you are completely normal regardless of what anyone else says or thinks. BTW, I love the name you picked for your baby.

[mumof3j]

Going anywhere. That was the biggest thing for me. I wish my family had just been there. It's not always about knowing the right thing to say, just be there. Remember that whether they already have children or not their baby was loved, wanted, hoped for and will be greatly missed so don't say *well at least you have children, be grateful of that* We are! We released a helium balloon with a message to our baby on our due date, it would be nice if someone asked if they could come along next year

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@mumof3j Thanks for your response. I agree that if someone continues to pull away and not open up about their loss that you should continue to remind them that you are there whenever they are ready.

[Adelea88]

What a wonderful video. Thank you so much for sharing :)

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@Adelea88 Thank you.

[TheButttaflygrl383]

You are so right. Thanks for posting this.

[jollyjess6]

You are so right! I reflect from time to time on what was said to me during my loss. My in-laws never include Zane in their list of grandchildren. I always correct them. It may be rude of me but I feel that they do it intentionally and its rude of them. Great suggestions!

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@lauracori That's great that they still mention them. What were their names?

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@alandamandamama I love that you float a candle. That's really nice. I burn candles every now and again for my girls as well.

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@alandamandamama Yes just letting others know that you are there is great. also totally agree with calling later and not just soon after a loss.

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@ReillyAJ Finding the right words for loss or any bad situation can be difficult for most everyone. I find that just being there and not saying anything other than you are there for them can be the most comforting for those in need.

[carlynicoleelliotte]

@lynseyiriz I don't like to hear I'm sorry either. Not like it's a bad thing for people to say but it makes me feel like people feel sorry for me and I don't want people to feel sorry for me. The "God has a reason" doesn';t bother me but I know it does most people who I have ta;led to about it.