Marriage and Men

Jesus is the only perfect man to ever live. Because most men fail to look to Him as our example, there exists 2 extremes in men: chauvinism and cowardice. Pastor Mark Driscoll preaches to men about being real men who love God and serve their family well in this sermon from Trial.

After addressing women last week, this week Pastor Mark preached specifically to men.
1.Your father: Adam (Genesis 1 3)
Marriage is a covenant (Prov. 2:16; Mal. 2:14).
Men are the covenant head, responsible for their wife and family (Gen. 2:18; 5:2; 1 Cor. 11:2 16, 14:33 34; Eph. 5:21 33; Col. 3:18; Titus 2:3 5; 1 Pet. 3:1).
Adam and Eve both sinned, both are at fault, and both are cursed, but God held Adam responsible (Gen. 3:9).
Marriage is cursed (Gen. 3:16). Work is cursed (Gen. 3:17 19). Jesus is the only hope (Gen. 3:15).
2.Your Manhood
Like Adam, the sins of men fall into two general categories: sins of commission (doing what youre not supposed to do) and sins of omission (not doing what youre supposed to do). This leads chauvinistic or cowardly tendencies:
Chauvinism
No Sissy Stuff Sam: whatever women do, do the opposite
Success and Status Stewart: masculinity = material success
Giveem Hell Hank: angry and abusive
Im the Boss Bob: domineering and controlling; in authority, not under authority
Cowardice
Little Boy Larry: never grew up, disorganized, lives with his mother, etc.
Sturdy Oak Owen: absolutely dependable but emotionally absent
Hyper-Spiritual Henry: Hides behind religious behavior and God talk. Talks at you but not to you.
*Good Time Gary: *irresponsible life of the party
h3. 3. Your Savior: Jesus Christ (the Last Adam, 1 Cor. 15:45)
Ephesians 5:25 calls men to love their wives as Christ loves the Church. Men are not ready to be good husbands until they are a part of the Church and understand how Christ loves the Church by taking responsibility for her and sacrificing himself for her.
The essence of true masculinity is taking responsibility.
4.Your Wife
Understand that a wifes fears (1 Pet. 3:6) are legitimate; men dominate the lives of women and children, for good or for evil. Honor your wife:
Honor her maritally. Take a wife honorably. Establish right priorities, and be a one woman man—absolutely faithful to your wife.
Honor her physically. Be strong for your wife, not against her. Be protective of her and present with her.
Honor her emotionally. Be emotionally present and intimate. Take her on dates.
Honor her verbally. Speak honorably to her. Speak honorably of her, when she is present and absent.
Honor her financially. Provide for the financial needs of your family, organize your budget, and be generous towards your wife.
Honor her practically. Consider her needs and how you can serve her.
Honor her parentally. Be Pastor Dad by shepherding your children (praying with them, teaching them about Jesus, reading the Bible with them, etc.).
Honor her spiritually. You initiate and lead prayer, Bible, chats, church attendance, etc. Take responsibility for your church.
What happens when you fail to honor your wife? God ignores you (1 Pet. 3:7). Repent.
Further Study:
Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood, by Wayne Grudem and John Piper
God, Marriage, and the Family, by Andreas Kostenberger
New Men, Soft Patriarchs: How Christianity Shapes Fathers and Husbands, by W. Bradford Wilcox

This clip is taken from the sermon "Trial: Marriage and Men ," preached by Pastor Mark Driscoll at the Mars Hill Church Ballard campus in Seattle, Washington, on March 22, 2009. It is the 9th sermon in our sermon series, "Trial: 8 Witnesses from 1 & 2 Peter."

To watch the full sermon, visit: http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial/marriage-and-men

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[luckygerl52]

If you have a problem with this sermon you probably have a guilty conscience. IJS

[AsILayPlaying319]

@naduha2012 If the bible had a beep for every time Jesus called the pharisees "Hypocrites", "Fools", "Vipers" and "Wolves" i would have an extremely blanked out new testament scripture. This society has embraced relativism and now there are no men to stand up to the abusive pigs taking over our culture. It would be worthwhile to stand with courage in the sight of blatant evil.

[Karamelkissiz23]

Wow...this was powerful. I'm convicted, and I'm not even a man. God bless this ministry!

[KateinaKing]

Wow. That was quite the message.

[NikkiGioTube]

The issue here is that people always play the blame game. Find yourself in a sermon and focus in what YOU need to change. If you're single, be smart, consider what you've heard before you make a mistake.  If you're married, again focus on what YOU need to change and pray for God to change the rest.

[Leisonly]

Is it just me or does he curse in the end of the cermon???

[JPROFETA]

quem quer este video legendado em portugues da um joinha , quem sabe alguem nos ajuda!

[lucy9359]

@SoldierOfChrist110 that's up to you to think but if God decides other wise then you'll trun another page in life so just remember that we were all formed in the lower parts of this earth we all have a carnal nature subject to vanity to futility to temptations and trials...if your gifted for that so be it, go with it yet you are to see each person as hidden in Christ and walk in love toward them...not one of us can do it with out total sell out to the spirit of the living!

[SoldierOfChrist110]

@lucy9359 I'm not married, and the way women are today I don't ever want to be married. Many women feel the same way as I do. Some people are just meant to be single. The apostle Paul remained single.

[lucy9359]

@SoldierOfChrist110 it seemed off topic to you I know but it wasn't if you have a christian wife who doesn't respect you then do your part plus pray for her...you can't include in your iq woman in the world mon ami!

[SoldierOfChrist110]

@lucy9359 It's good that you got saved and changed your life but you seem to be going off topic. My point is that there are some women who will never respect a man or treat him proper no matter how much of a gentleman he is. This is my point.

[lucy9359]

@lucy9359 that was the woman I use to be I have stripped at one point on camera spent a great deal of my time drunk or stoned on pot...I was a party girl and I know why I was....I had a perfect body and looked like all get out and no one had ever valued me for anything other than that in my life...I definately slept around before I got saved but after I gave my life to the Lord I was messed up angry and my husband just kept loving and treasuring me till he brought me out end of story!