Dissed Out of Mind, Ostracised

DISSING, DISSONANCE, SPLITS, DIVIDES
- How do you cope?

Dissing has become a part of life, whether that means discounting someone, disrespecting, discrediting, disregarding, dismissing; or being rude or unsupportive

It is a way of Scapegoating. You know the saying 'You are either for us or against us'? Groups often exclude someone - anyone - to suit the majority, as if they feel better to leave someone out in the cold.

What happens in Dissing?

People who diss, single someone out to be attacked or cut off, disregarded. discounted, dismissed. A fairly new word for an age-old phenomenon.

It's horrid and stressful being the butt end of people's bad feelings.

And it divides people up up For or Against - or whatever the rules of the particular Game are.

People don't think or behave rationally or kindly, for fear of what could happen to them if they go against the group, or simply if they support you.

It happens fast! Try to stick it out and bide your time.

Often the group's attention turns to someone else.
See what you can manage without that group.

It's not your fault if it happens, or if you cannot handle it alone.

This is a natural phenomenon whipped up by someone's needs or deliberate intent - neither of them is easy to handle.

It's very hard when an individual, perhaps a friend or a family member, turns against you. It feels like the whole wide World!

Find out what you can and see what you learn. Read or watch movies. Wait, see what Doc means.

If later in life you meet other strange behaviours, your experience may shed light on it.

We are all a mixture of needs and wishes which don't quite gel. Splitting or dividing happens in and around us. All too easily we get drawn into other people's mishaps.

Doc says just do the best you can, take solace in what is on these pages - and don't fan the flames.

It helps to see the dynamic for what it is, see if there's a reason, and if you can do anything about it for the time being.

This is why it is good to have an ally, a 'friend in court' to see some of it from your point of view. You don't need a specialist, just someone to back you up and give emotional support.

Perhaps now you know why groups serve that purpose for the members. And how cults play on people's need to belong, not feel excluded, and feel a sense of meaning and place. Those are natural needs and they can be exploited, for money - or just for kicks.

Remember that some people may genuinely believe in what they are telling you.

From 'Doc Matrix' page on Dissing: http://www.docmatrix.me.uk

Links for help and further information: Tansal Abuse & Rights http://www.tansal.org.uk

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