What's Your Listening Level?

How well do you listen when you're in a conversation? Communication expert Dr. Bill Lampton describes Stephen Covey's five listening levels, and challenges you to accept the highest level. http://www.commlampton.com/store/index.htm

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• listening
• conversation
• communication
• dialogue

[ModdingNation1]

I'm probably selective, I have a hard time listening especially to a topic I know alot about.

[doclampton]

@ModdingNation1 Yes, that's one of the big communication challenges we have. Thx for responding.

[juneride]

I do all of them depending on the situation:

If I want to get rid of someone, I openly IGNORE what the person says. ( some idiots don't notice and keep talking)

If I'm with a woman I've just met and I like her, then I listen EMPATHICALLY. I try to show her that I'm a good listener and she can trust me and tell me anything. It works wonders.

[doclampton]

I agree that whatever level we use "works wonders." You're right on target when you say some people won't get the hint when you ignore them. I have written articles about dealing with these motor mouths. One reason empathic listening works like magic is that so few are used to receiving it. They want to be with genuine listeners--again and again.

[moviedude22]

Ignoring

Pretending

Selective

Attentive

Empathic Listening (feelings: the meanings between the words)

I'm somewhere between selective and pretending,

[doclampton]

Congratulations on candidly identifying your listening level. That makes it possible for you to move toward achieving empathic listening. . .which your conversational partners will welcome wholeheartedly.

[Trill104]

I mean use selective to change the subject

[Trill104]

This was a interesting video....Now I know what types of listeners are out there and what characteristics to look for to classify them hahaha

[Trill104]

I've developed all of these listening techniques while growing up. At my best, I am a Empathic, but I only use that when I'm talking to someone I care about or if that person cares about what he/she is speaking on. Being a good listener also depends on how articulate the person speaking is....Trust me, it's hard to follow convo's when a person doesn't know what they're talking about(I use pretending then to keep them confident, or selective to make sense of it myself.) I use attentive at work.